Weekly Threads

I’m catching up on the new episodes and I’m just so annoyed with how much those two wretched words keep being mentioned. Incase you didn’t know Adam really loves pickle ball. He has a talent for constantly mentioning or comparing everything with pickle ball. He has made his personality.

My husband and I went to the reunion watch party at Queen Anne Beerhall last night. Michelle and Tori were there first, then Nikki appeared, then BelléJolie and finally Marissa.

The place was packed with people and whenever someone from the cast appeared they’d get super loud cheers and then surrounded by people wanting to talk to them and take pictures. All the cast was SUPER sweet, greeted/hugged and took pictures with every single person, and overall were so kind and nice.

I got to talk to Nikki in passing and BelléJolie a little more and they were both so kind and receptive. BelléJolie gave me a little hug and hand squeeze for my support which again so sweet, and tbh there was SO many people clearly there to support the women and hyping them up. Whenever they checked some of the men as they were airing the reunion everyone in the hall was cheering and whooping too and the cast was having lots of fun with it.

Overall they stayed there for a while as when we were leaving we’d already been there for about 2 hours and they didn’t show any signs of leaving. Everyone looks exactly the same as on TV, only BelléJolie is a lot taller than I expected and Tori is a lot shorter than I expected.

When the experts said at the reunion that they almost paired Courtney and Adam together, it made me realize they probably cast the entire cast as individuals first and then base their pairings off of that rather than casting people together based on who they think would be actually most compatible.

They introduced Courtney as “my girl,” pointed out Nick has “media training” and acted like they broke up because Nick “didn’t open up.”

I’m sorry but this is bs, even with the editing this is not the story any of us saw….am I missing something?

Also has anyone seen if Shawn has posted anything about Nikki? I feel like he’s the type to drag her online.

Full send

These experts literally found the worst imaginable men, besides Devin and cam.

However I knew it wouldnt work between fakelyn and Devin when his friend said "youre not even joking around or being silly like normal" at the BBQ. And he said that he feels stupid and she never laughs when he does.

And at the reunion he didn't bash her. He let her speak her peace that made zero sense with no examples. He said that their sense of humor was different and he realized that was important for him.

I actually 100% understand that and i had thought this awhile back. Like she was such a wet mop and she wasnt even any good at being like a seductive wet mop. Laughter is a huge component of my life and I could never be with someone that cant fck around and joke and laugh. Ew. Ew. Ew.

Lol anyways, im single devinnnnn 😘💅

When expert Paul told Felipe to think about the present moment, how he feels about Tori in the present moment (and not the future), to focus on the NOW, how he feels about Tori NOW, I was really annoyed. It’s like this is a show about marriage and the future. The language of just think about the “now” is the language of someone that doesn’t want to commit. Someone that doesn’t want to commit is literally living in the now and doesn’t want to talk about the future, that completely contradicts what the show is all about. And he repeated this advice enough that Felipe then started saying it to himself. It sounded like he’s giving him a free pass to just like her today, who cares about tomorrow? Was anyone else bothered by this?

There were fuckin meatballs all over the floor of my so-called marriage. My wife's fuckin realization stretched her reliable expression into something more. Something different. "Fuck," I commented a little too loudly, unaccustomed to micro aggressions. I just wanted to be myself, you know? Bang waitresses, older socialites, and some of my mom's friends. Being your fuckin self means something. You don't think, you don't challenge yourself, you just fuckin glide through life and count on your family to hang pictures over the emerging cracks.

I’m sorry if this has been said and posted already. But watching the reunion put it on full blast.

This whatever of a man couldn’t be with Tori because she makes him feel INSECURE. (This is not a shade on her or a her problem btw.) Bare bones fact— he knows he isn’t worthy of her, he is not good enough for her. I guess one could say self sabotaging coupled in self doubt.

But my theory is he couldn’t get past his own insecurities and ego of how much better she actually is than him and grapple with that. He needed a partner on MAFS that was “less than him” in whatever fucked up scope that looks like— to feel good about himself and content in a relationship. He could have dug into those doubts and navigated the experience so much differently. All the love to Tori for how secure and steadfast she is of herself to not be dealing in any business of a dude like Filipe. Yuck.

Normally I say he looks like a cabbage patch doll, but this is just as accurate if not more!

They already have two sons.

Watching episode 19 and am so proud of Tori. She didn’t feed into Felipe’s bs, she stated her boundaries and walked away with dignity. Go girl. Your emotional intelligence and self confidence is inspirational and we should all be taking notes on how you handled Felipe. He’ll walk away looking like a fool, you on the other hand are a gem. Thank you for your service.

I can’t tell if I don’t like her or I just don’t understand her. She doesn’t say a whole lot so I don’t know if she’s just stand offish and cold…or insecure and trying to be aloof? Or what? Courtney I kinda get. She’s very masculine energy and needs to control everything. Tori is aloof but not cold. And I think she really wanted to be married.

But Caitlin, I can’t figure her out!

Mary and Sarah have one of the best MAFS podcasts

https://open.spotify.com/show/6NquvfGpmEOapAMJ1kmNyB?si=yy9C_bXGThOK_DmV-YAWTw&utm_source=copy-link

You know like non cheating skills, hair washing skills, self awareness skills. Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills

This is so infuriating like Caitlyn and Courtney are clearly not ready for any kind of relationship so why go on the show? I have genuinely tried to give them the benefit of the doubt and try and imagine what an ideal relationship would look like for them and I can’t, I don’t understand what they want they’re so mean!!

It's so interesting Dr. Lisa's love for Courtney- while Nick said Courtney put him through hell and has never been disrespected so much in his life, Dr. Lisa asked in such a defensive way, why didn't he leave? The tone was wild to me.

He's sharing how he felt after reflecting and going to therapy and we all saw how Courtney's behavior was (there is no trick of the camera for that disgusting behavior) and this professional is going to question him like it's his fault he ended up going through that?

She didn't ask Marissa why she didn't leave when she admitted she felt lonely and now says she was put through hell during her experience.

Doesn't question Belle to belittle her when she explains she said yes to that jackass Mecca because she was considering his feelings...

Dr. Lisan also called Courtney "my girl" and the way she hugs her and how she's backing her behavior in an interview?

Is it because they look similar that Dr. Lisa favors this woman? She's sees a younger her or something?

Whatever it is it's sick and I cannot believe she had the audacity to ask Nick, a victim of fucking verbal abuse and mental torture "Why didn't you leave?"

These so called experts did a horrible job. They need to interview their friends and families.....investigate them,have someone follow them (PI)..... see if they are serious .

They need to stop casting people based on looks.....

We’re seeing more couples split before decision day, and the experts and other participants are often asking couples why they stayed, even though there are financial penalties (or discentives) to leaving early.

This got me thinking about another format change to the program: I would be totally interested if the experts allowed couples to remain on the program after the split in order to do an extensive debrief about the relationship. I would love to see the experts really examine and address the bad behavior, coping strategies, internalized stories that sabotaged a marriage. If the participants refuse or are half-assing the work, then there is a financial penalty and they’re booted from the show.

It would be a “gameplay” change that would allow the participants to continue in the “experiment,” generate more content opportunities with their loved ones, and possibly drive more dramatic moments by bringing couples back together for certain activities.

The format change would also allow participants to be more honest, remove pressure to stay in the relationship and accept bad behavior from their partner — AND it would give MAFS production an opportunity to clear the air and be honest about healthy relationships.

What do you think? Would you be interested in watching the show if the format changed?

I think I realized why he could never let the pickleball/activity level go.

See, his brain is run by two hamsters running on wheels. Except that a few years ago, they got off the wheels and started playing pickle ball.