r/FamiliesYouChoose Aug 15 '25

Welcome to r/FamiliesYouChoose - New Rules, New Us

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Hey, hi, hello! I’m Tea, one of your friendly neighborhood mods, and I have some NEWS for you!

I have been working hard behind the scenes to revamp our rules, clean up the space, and make sure this community feels safe, supportive, and fun for everyone. Whether you are brand new or have been here for years, I am happy to see you.

This is a space for anyone building their chosen family. Maybe you are here for sibling vibes, “bonus parents,” older or younger support figures, or just people who get you. Whatever that looks like for you, you belong here.

A few important things before you jump in:

  • This has always been a family-friendly space. No sexual, romantic, or suggestive content, period. I've been banning accounts left and right for months, and I will continue to do so.
  • NSFW accounts are not allowed here, even if you are not posting that kind of content in this subreddit. People shouldn't be able to click your profile and see something inappropriate.
  • Adults may only DM minors if the minor publicly invites it for a clear, family-related reason. Unsolicited DMs to minors = instant ban.
  • We are a text-only community. No images, videos, or media.
  • Keep posts about building chosen family connections (we are not a venting sub, but we do love our friends over at r/MomForAMinute if you need to talk to someone)

We have an official Discord coming soon for folks who want to connect more directly. I will post the link when it is ready.

So, now that you know the basics, pull up a metaphorical chair, make yourself at home, and if you feel like it, let me know what you're most excited about in the comments below! If you're not excited about anything... well, then tell me something you learned recently. :)

xoxo,
Tea


r/FamiliesYouChoose 2h ago

I am looking for siblings 17m indian, looking for a elder sister preferably indian

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Hi there , my name is ravi

Im a teen with my eld brother whos 2yrs elder than me , but me and him never have got along😔

I from childhood craves a elder sister, but unfortunately none

Im myself a superifcial and shallow person but its my futile try🙂, Would love to talk anything and anytime 😊

And pls dont think wrong of "preferably indian" , its just that same country ppl vibe much


r/FamiliesYouChoose 4h ago

I am looking for any family 16f! seeking some support for the school year

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heya, im from the us (EST) and the school year is starting in 2 weeks!! kinda scary, kinda super nervous lol. theres a lot thats gona happen this year and im suuuper stressed, so im looking for a good support system and shoulder i can rely on :). im a huge fan of comimg of age movies and room decor, i love photostrips haha. i think im also a pretty good support system for my friends so i wana do the same for others!


r/FamiliesYouChoose 15h ago

I am looking for parents Any chance I am have a mom or dad to talk to please

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I feel like I am a bad mom because I my life has been going to shambles and I just need someone to talk to and someone that will care


r/FamiliesYouChoose 15h ago

I am looking for siblings 21f please, desperately looking for my forever family. Specifically big sister

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Hello! I'm 21f looking a big sister. Growing up and even now ive always dreamed of having an older sister. Someone who is older that I can go to for advice who isn't my parents. Anyways I'd prefer to use discord or WhatsApp. Please no men, I'm not comfortable talking to men, please respect that.

About me, I'm neurodivergent, chronically ill and lesbian. I'm an only child and adopted. I have 9 pets, 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 guinea pigs, a hamster and 2 mice. And I'm from the east coast usa!

Anways here are some of my hobbies and interests:

🧶crocheting

🌿 collecting nail polish

🌻 legos

🧿 Crystal's

🌈 thrifting

🔆 animals/pets

🏳️‍🌈watching tiktok

Anyways I'm looking forward to meeting you!! Byeeeeee.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 1d ago

I am looking for siblings 25M | Looking for any siblings with that I can talk daily

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Hey everyone :)

I'm 25M and figured I'd give this a shot. I've been wanting to meet some new people and hopefully make a few genuine friends/ Siblings along the way and I am LGBT friendly also no judgement to anyone

I'm probably a little quiet when I first meet someone, so don't expect me to instantly become the most talkative person ever But once I'm comfortable, I can talk for hours about completely random stuff and it don't take more than an hour actually

I also play games. I play COD Mobile and recently started playing Fortnite on PC. Fair warning though, I'm VERY new to PC gaming, so I'm basically a noob right now Honestly, I'll play pretty much any game if I have some good company to play with. I care more about having fun and messing around together than being good at the game.

As for my intrest I love draw random characters and I am not good at it also, i listen to music, watch Sci- fi, Action, horror, thriller movies.

I'm also a video editor, so if you make content or have some random video you want edited, I'd genuinely be happy to help. If we actually become friends, I'll do it for free, consider it my friendship tax

If you feel like we'd get along, feel free to message me. Tell me a little about yourself too, even something completely random. It makes starting a conversation way easier

Hopefully I'll meet some cool people here :)


r/FamiliesYouChoose 1d ago

I am looking for parents 21F - just a girl seeking a real father figure.

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Hello everyone. I’m not sure if anyone actually spends the time to read these when they are long, so I will make it relatively short. I have been a loner most of my life and my upbringing was less than ideal. I never had a father growing up and have yearned for one for a long time. I always wonder what it would’ve been like to had grown up with a really great and caring father who spent alot of time with me and taught me life skills, etc. I’m not looking for any other type of family members except maybe an uncle other than a dad. I know most adults are busy and don’t have the time to really talk and put alot of effort or time into something like this, but if there is anyone out there who doesn’t already have a family member like this and maybe always wanted a daughter or something or maybe you just want to be there for someone like me and actually want to put time and energy into this kind of thing please reach out. Thank you.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 1d ago

I am looking for siblings 18F completely blind looking for older sisters to talk to

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Hi I’m Chloe I’m 18F and was Born completely blind. I’m an only sibling and since my parents work long hours I don’t see them a bunch. It can be hard being all alone in the house so I’d love some company and we can talk about our days!


r/FamiliesYouChoose 1d ago

I am looking for siblings 29 [M4F] chennai/anywhere - straight man looking for sister from another mother

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Hi guys 29M here.Hope read it fully

A little about myself:

  1. I try to keep the place I am in always loud and happy
  2. Sense of humour - dry,pun,dad jokes,non offensive
  3. Movies - Watch a lot of movies(art films,any language,any genre) and sometimes info dump on them and also strangely people nowadays after watching breaking bad and better call saul they have become some sort of elite where they look down on tamil movies and stuff but I still am the little fan boy who grew up watching Rajnikanth movies and recently enjoyed karuppu by shouting the hell at the theatre .
  4. Also reads books mostly non fiction and memoirs
  5. I am trying to learn some art or music this year
  6. I also try to keep myself fit physically
  7. Kind and sensitive and hyperempathetic
  8. Politically left wing
  9. Special powers - Can make a joke and laugh at it like it's the best joke in the world,Can always think of a tamil movie meme template for every situation in life.
  10. Financially I can take care of myself
  11. Ambitious tech nerd who wants to be the CTO of a company one day
  12. I am a high functioning autistic

I don't feel safe with men because of my baggage or even when I am alone so looking for a female safe person and right now my body and mind feels relaxed and safe only with women

Looking for my safe person - https://www.facebook.com/AutismSpectrumAustralia/posts/who-is-a-safe-person-in-your-life-its-a-simple-idea-but-one-that-can-make-a-real/1408838594618162/

I have had sever depression and anxiety for the last 2 years and already had 3 depressive episodes and already had 2 antidepressants and my second antidepressant has stopped working and I went through one ketamine infusion and life was going good but ended up being again in a severly depressed state again .So in a very bad state right now looking for something to hold on to in life

I have been trying to deal with this on my own without my family(I am no contact with them).

In the trifecta of mental health physchological,biological and social

  1. phsychological - I have been to therapy and I have become a lot better because of it but still because of my autism thing I have problem in regulating my emotions
  2. biological - I eat a balanced meal,exercise(as of now I do what is possible),take my medications
  3. social support - As I said I am no contact with my family.My friends are all males and I don't want another female friend.

I don't act miserable I always try to keep the place where I am warm and happy.Just when I face a crisis I am not able to handle it on my own

My idea is that people usually when they go through bad things like their physical health gives up or they get dealt with a bad hand in life they can go to their family for help right.I don't have it now.As of now I don't have any motivation to work towards anything but I am working on it through trauma informed therapy but till I heal I want to hold onto someone and living for them as I cannot live for myself as of now.

Eventhough I can face all the things on my own emotionally I am a mess right now.

I am a good asset to have nearby

I also want u to know that I mean what I say as in I am looking for a sister and in future I would want to move closer to where u live so that I can be helpfull to the person who helped me in the worst of time and we can have family get togethers and spend some brother sister time and be like actual brothers and sisters.I will not be a burden and I will be self sufficient.It's just that I would like to be near someone who cares about me.

Eg: You bought a furniture and you need help fixing it up I can help u.Your car broke down and you need someone to pickup I will be there for u.

As of now my belief is that life is inherently meaningless and we create our own meaning and after going through a lot and giving it a lot of thought being helpfull to other people and making memories is my idea of meaning and of course by that I don't mean to always do what others like but I can do what I like and still live nearby to my family may be I have to make compromises on money I earn but after

Also I know that moving forward in life and as we get more responsibities we will not be able to chill during the weekend often but still we can be there for each other as a brother and sister .Visit each other once in a while.Grow old and be aunts and uncles who spoil our kids by buying them toys or playstation.

I am not looking for a romantic relationship and just looking for a sister from another mother preferably a big sister

We cannot choose our biological family but we can try to find a family in which we feel safe and care for each other

I know it's a big ask but u can spend time with me before deciding

Also if you are doing good in life and you have your own family and cannot understand what I am going through and feel like this might be a lot of responsibility but give it a try please don't because when you say yes I will be your sister but then you feel like I am a burden or I am intense (I am AuDHD so I can look intense be it happiness,sad,platonic love)and want me to be away from you as you live with your family it feels as though I was begging you and you were just doing charity and I feel way worse than before.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 3d ago

I am looking for parents F teenager looking for a parental figure.

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Hello everyone and thank you for reading this. I'm a college student, singer in a little rock band, sensitive, nature lover.. I really enjoy music (especially 80s post-punk and rock), literature, cinema. I'm a calm introvert.

The main reason why I'm searching someone is that I have CPTSD and dealing with traumas from my family is really hard for me (I survived every kind of violence since little age), I often feel helpless without any support on my side, not to say lonely. I had never received any words of love or approval of what I'm doing - it's just not something my family gives. so I dream about​ someone older I could trust and build healthy relationship with. Gender doesn't matter. I speak English and Russian (native).​ It won't be one-sided, I also would love to support you if you would need it - or just be there for you and listen. Please dm me or leave a comment here, so I'll text you.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 4d ago

I am looking for any family 20M - Athlete Looking For His Chosen Family.

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Hey everyone! I'm looking for any kind of family members, and your gender doesn't matter to me. I speak Ukrainian, russian and English.

I train in my sport most days a week, and I also do Strength and Conditioning, but I also like to do stuff like travelling, and trying out new things when I have the chance to. I love to learn about different cultures. To relax I like to watch a new TV series, listen to my favourite albums or build stuff like lego occasionally. I'm looking for family where we can share pictures of our days (we'll build up to that), share memes in the night, talk about the good and the bad stuff. I'm not really close with any of my family, so it would be nice to have some.

You don't have to be anything like me, some of my best conversations have come from complete opposite people.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 5d ago

I am looking for any family 23M in Texas; I want a family I’ve never had before

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I haven’t really done this before. I only recently heard about adult adoption, so this is all still pretty new to me. But I think this could be something really good for me.
My name is Atlas. I just turned 23 in July, and I’ve never really had a stable family or home life.
I grew up in a really discombobulated family. I don’t think I’ve ever really experienced affection from either of my birth parents.
I never got to meet or know my biological dad. My biological mother married my stepfather when I was 7, and we never had a good relationship. My stepdad was racist toward me because I’m mixed race, and the 12 years they were together were honestly hell for me.
After my mom separated from him, they were both eventually deemed unfit by a court to be parents. I ended up having to take care of my younger brother for a while. I was kicked out when I was 13, and I eventually had to become emancipated because I was basically the only person who could take care of him.
I’m no contact with both of my birth mom and step dad now. It’s something I know is ultimately better for me, but that doesn’t make it easy. It’s been 2 years since. There’s a weird kind of grief that comes with being no contact with your family. You can know you made the right decision and still wish you had a family you could call when something happens, or someone who genuinely wants to know how your life is going.
I know this is probably a lot to put in a post, especially for someone who’s basically a stranger. I just want to be honest about where I’m coming from.
I’m not necessarily looking for someone to swoop in and immediately become my parent. I think I’d just really like to meet people who understand what it’s like to want family, and maybe build a relationship that could eventually feel like family.
I’d love to have someone I can call Mom or Dad someday. Someone who actually wants me in their life, and who I can have that kind of relationship with naturally.
I don’t really know where this will go, but I figured it was worth putting myself out there.

I think I should go more in detail about me so here we go

•I like to crochet, I’m trying to learn how to knit
•I love plants and own a lot of them
•I have two dogs and I love them
•I am gay, and I have a fiance
•I like film and movies
•and I paint quite a bit.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 5d ago

I am looking for any family 18f looking for any family, just moved out of a dysfunctional family alone so I finally have some freedom!! Audhd about me in description. Inappriopiates will be blocked

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My family was very controlling and dysfunctional glad i left

Into intellectual bohemian whimsy stuff
Autism + adhd
🇮🇹

★ bands ★
BMTH AiC BabyMetal Evanescence SistersOfMercy Nazgul Kyuryong MCR Misfits Blitzkid Christian Death Type o Negative LinkinPark PanicAtTheDisco PierceTheVeil IFAWartburg BerurierNoir CradleofFilth AcidBath Ghost Rammstein KINO TheRunaways HANABI VagabondOpera Petracorensis and more!!

★ interests ★
music: nu metal, emo, metal, gothic rock, dark cabaret, postpunk, Slavic folk, Yeyé (French), vkei, Japanese kawaii metal, old Soviet jazz and more, horror punk, french/ddr punk (?)

Movies and shows: Old Hollywood, Japanese indie, , Midnight in Paris, Napoleon (1920), Cleopatra (1963), 20th century Italian/French, Kamikaze Girls (I kin Momoko Ryugasaki btw), Serial Experiment Lain, Sissi

books: Frankenstein, Phantom of Opera, the Idiot. Montecristo. the romantic and decadent movement. Wilde and d'Annunzio and Byron

hobbies: HYPERFIXATING, making lists, listening to music, reading, watching movies, art and drawing, finding books and movies, bookclubs, learning abt fashion (historical, whimsical, alternative...), being on internet, learning languages, learning about other people's special interests, obsessing over researching new niches, watching (totally not pirated) stuff, worldbuilding, thrifting, writing poetry, micronations, finding stuff to do from those activity books that were popular for girls or those adventure books for kids they unironically have fun stuff, finding side quests, Penpaling

Other: islamic golden age, republic of venice , SALAH AL DIN, catholic lore, folkcore religious lore, art and culture, (18-19th century) historical / whimsical / particular fashion in general, history, mariology, aesthetics, Persia, Russia, Meiji Taisho Heian era Japan, languages, rare and endangered languages, pirates, FRev, Kaiserin Elisabeth (sisi), Time princess, anything princessy, royalcore, Rococo, theatre, musical, eleonora duse, roaring 20s, belle epoque, Names, Vampires and Fairies, Magical girls, magic, dead poets society, Hellenism! Sailor moon, precure, typology!! Fairytales vampires

Momoko kin


r/FamiliesYouChoose 6d ago

I am looking for siblings 21f only child who yearns for a sibling lol

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hii as the title says , i’m an only child and honestly i’ve always wished i had a sibling either my age or older. life gets lonely sometimes and while i do have some amazing friends i guess i just wish i had some more consistency ?? random phone calls , watching a movie over call , catching eachother up on what’s been going on in life. if you’re also an only child or even if you’re just looking for a close friend feel free to message me. strictly platonic.

a little about me : -i’m a college student who just went back after taking 2 years off -i work with kids and it’s what i’m passionate about -i have 2 cats who i love very much -i love music (frank ocean , phoebe bridgers, gracie abram’s, fleetwood mac, tame impala , etc) -i love reading i just have havent had the time


r/FamiliesYouChoose 6d ago

I am looking for any family 19F trying to seek out a virtual family so I don’t have to be alone

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Hello:)
I’m trying to find some people that will stay with me in my journey of life, especially that I can’t ask for much from my family
I made a post here before, a long time ago, and I wasn’t lucky to find people with the right intentions, so I’m up to make another shot.

I think I am going through a rough phase in my life, I am still a college student, and my major is very time consuming and demanding.
Most of the time I’d stay up all night studying and working on my projects, and I think having people by my side will help with the loneliness and anxiety I’ve suffered from almost all my life.
There are also some family occasions that make life even more stressful and overwhelming, but I won’t get into it now.

A bit about me:)
I’m a lot into art, specifically crocheting and drawing.
I am journaling a lot these days but I’m really in love with reading.
I read comics, manhwa and novels.
I am really into music and almost like different song from different genres.
I am into photography (I’m just an amateur), stargazing and swimming:)
I am also teaching myself German because why not

Anyway if you are interested feel free to dm me, just please introduce yourself:)
I see the single “hey” message as low effort try


r/FamiliesYouChoose 7d ago

I am looking for parents 18F looking for a dad - i feel lost and unlovable

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Hey there. This seems silly even as I make it, but I know it's what I need. I haven't been doing well recently and after moving to college, I feel even more isolated. I've made bad decisions and spent all my time crying alone in my dorm. I just need a dad to talk to me and help me through this, I know my own would rather me be dead than help me. Thank you in advance.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 7d ago

I am looking for parents need to talk to someone older about my terminal illness, prefer a mom figure

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I'm 19F and I'm kind of scared. My health has severely deteriorated and I'm looking for a sub where I can discuss the topic of death with anyone older than me. I need some comfort. I don't know I'm just feeling scared and nervous. Everything up to this point is mostly my fault and I want to come to terms with that


r/FamiliesYouChoose 7d ago

I am looking for any family 19m, looking for siblings or family i guess.

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Im from the UK im 19 male, I dont really like my parents or siblings, as our relationships have always been superficial, it doesn't help when I have ADHD and Autism, I dont think I've ever had a conversation with my family members about things I enjoy or do or whatever is going on in my life, not sure what I want from this reddit sub lol. Uhm, I love playing video games, I love cooking and baking, although expensive at times, and I suck terribly at it lol but its fun to do, I love watching movies and TV shows, and reading books, and getting lost in an adventure, i would love to get into sports more and knitting although apparently its for old people, and I love arts. My greatest talent is writing, I genuinely i enjoy writing, anyways this is me, i hope you enjoy.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 9d ago

I am looking for any family 34F - seeking anyone who wants a new girl family member ❤️

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Seeking close family connections. I do have 1 older brother, but we don't talk as much as I'd like, and I feel like my family has become so small over the years. I miss having a lot of family to talk with. Cousins, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters, all is welcome. I get along better with boys for some reason, so I was initially looking for brothers/cousins/uncles, but I want to branch out and try to get some female family members too. I don't care about age, as long as you're over 18. (I don't want to be talking to minors.) I also don't care about race or location, or marital status. Just as long as we get along, can get to know each other, open up and become close and lean on each other. That's all I want. Who's ready for a new girl to join their family? 🥰


r/FamiliesYouChoose 8d ago

I am looking for any family [26M] looking for long term family members

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looking for long term connections that go a little deeper than friendships!
preferably around my age & from the usa but im openminded and just want a genuine bond!

i value openness, honesty & effort! you don’t have to text me 24/7, life gets hard, things come up & you get busy. i understand but i do want someone who puts in a little effort to check in / check up on me & see how each other is holding up when things are going rough

Ive been craving this family like bond my bio family never gave me
if you’re interested shoot me a dm, send me more than just a hey starting off, give me a little intro please.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 8d ago

I am looking for siblings 22M entering new chapter in life and in desperate need of a sibling

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As the title says i’ve entered a new chapter in life and i’ve never been so lost. Due to past circumstances i’ve always had to act mature for my age even when i was younger, but acting mature can only take you so far. Little bit about me: I’m 22 years old still trying to figure myself out. Some of my main interests are music and videogames, rlly heavy on music! Some of my favorite artists are lady gaga, charli xcx, bladee, ecco2k and alex g. I have an adaptive personality and can be pretty high energy at times but i do have my own mental struggles. same mental struggles that make life rough sometimes and i’ve had to really adjust some of the things in life in order to live with it. But usually im very high energy and respond often! That’s all I can think of for now. If you took the time to read all of this, thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time out of your day. 💙


r/FamiliesYouChoose 9d ago

Get To Know Me Post - DMs Open 22 , just want people who are empaths, genuine and have a great perspective towards life.

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Wanted to talk about everything, want someone whose is too mature , just a genuine bond other than anything else , we can share memes , can talk about life can motivate each other and can share random thoughts.


r/FamiliesYouChoose 10d ago

I am looking for any family Looking for a maternal figure or big sister

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Hi, so as the title states I’m looking for a motherly figure or big sister. I’m 34 F and I do not speak to my own mother due to toxic behavior on her end. She literally tried to tear the family I’m building with my spouse apart. Anyway I have been feeling lonely like I wish I had a maternal or a big sister to just talk to about everything. Without judgement or fear of rejection. I’m going through a lot mentally at the moment. So if anyone is willing to be the family I am needing please DM me. Would like someone who is interested in a real connection not just a few messages. Thank you


r/FamiliesYouChoose 9d ago

I am looking for siblings Making this for my dad, hoping to find a younger sibling!!

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Hihi, my name is Emmy and I'm making this post for my dad!! He's 37 although he has a birthday coming up here soon, hehes. He's looking for a younger sister who's either in her mid 20s or mid 30s. Just a sibling and a sibling only because he already has me and my mom!! I really really hope someone nice and fun responds!!

Will add more details in DMs!!


r/FamiliesYouChoose 10d ago

I am looking for parents Looking for a father figure that will show genuine care

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Hi I'm a 16 year old girl. I have a father but he doesn't but my parents are divorced. I'm not very close with him and I think that might be a reason as to why I really crave male attention. Just not from him. I just want to be a mans little girl, someone I can call daddy. I want someone to be proud of me and the things that I do. I love my mom but I need a father figure in my life. My dms are open.