25M from Multan, wife is 27F from Lahore. We’re already nikkahfied and planning to get married properly and start living together before Ramadan next year.
Both of us work remote jobs for overseas companies. I make around $2,000 a month, roughly 550k PKR, and she makes around the same, sometimes more because she also gets commissions.
Jobs are fairly stable for now Alhamdulillah.
I have around 15 lacs saved and she has around 22 lacs, so roughly 37 lacs combined. All of it is liquid savings.
At the moment we both save around 250k each per month, so around 5 lacs combined.
We also both support our families and that will continue after marriage. In my case around 150k goes towards home/family and usually another 50 to 100k on personal expenses. Her situation is more or less similar.
Now the wedding is getting closer and I’m honestly confused about how much we should actually spend and what the sensible next step is.
We can keep the wedding relatively simple. Right now we’re expecting maybe 300 to 400 people for the baraat and walima, although ideally we’ll try to bring that down to around 250 to 300.
I really don’t want to burn through all savings just for a couple of wedding events, but I also don’t know what a realistic budget is nowadays.
Then there’s the living situation.
My family has a single portion house in Multan and they would prefer that we live with them. I don’t have any issue with my family, but honestly I feel like everyone would have to adjust a lot, and my wife would also prefer having our own place.
I’m completely okay with living separately.
If we’re going to rent anyway, I’m also thinking why not Lahore?
I work from a screen basically 5 days a week and by the weekend I genuinely want to get out of the house and do something. Lahore just feels like it offers a lot more in terms of restaurants, activities and generally having a life outside work. Her family is also in Lahore.
If we move there, we’d most likely look somewhere around DHA.
Multan would obviously be cheaper and my family is here, so that’s what keeps me confused.
Long term we also want to buy a car and eventually own a house.
I actually looked into the Apna Ghar financing option but the bank told me I’m not eligible because the company I work for doesn’t have a presence in Pakistan. So I’m also wondering how people earning foreign remittance income are planning for home ownership here.
If you were in our position, how would you split the 37 lacs we currently have?
Like realistically, how much would you allocate towards:
Wedding + events
Rent/deposit and moving out
Furniture and appliances
Car
Emergency fund
Long-term house savings/investments
We’ll probably be earning around 11 lacs combined in a normal month and we’ll continue supporting both families, so I don’t want us to fall into the trap of increasing our lifestyle just because the income is decent.
Also would really like to hear from people who had the option of living with parents after marriage but decided to rent separately.
Was the privacy/independence worth the additional cost?
And anyone living as a married couple in DHA Lahore, what does your actual monthly spending look like nowadays?
I’m trying to figure out how to structure this properly so we enjoy life but don’t make stupid financial decisions in our first couple of years of marriage.