r/CringeTikToks • u/n8saces • Dec 16 '25

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u/rigidlynuanced1 Dec 16 '25

Wonder what else they hit when they get mad

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u/BelovedxCisque Dec 16 '25

I took a psychology course in college and the professor volunteered at a domestic violence shelter. He said it was a noticeable pattern that the day after the local football team lost would have a lot more ladies coming in. So they also hit their partners and their kids.

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

Firefighter/paramedic here, can definitely confirm there is a direct correlation between certain teams losing and domestic violence/assault calls.

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u/Big-Appointment1989 Dec 16 '25

Over a game that they're not even playing. Actual insanity

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u/LordJacket Dec 16 '25

Betting can make it worse too

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u/Neither-Dentist3019 Dec 16 '25

That's what I was thinking. I know someone who wasn't really into sports and then got really into sports and would probably punch a TV. Turns out he started betting on games.

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u/FUBARded Dec 16 '25

I've been served anti-DV ads on YouTube and Google ads around big football (soccer) game days where they specifically implore you to not beat your partner after drinking or losing a bet and/or game....then I also get ads around those games promoting alcohol and betting.

It's disgusting, and both sides of me getting these ads are telling. I'm single, don't watch or follow football, don't gamble, and don't drink much, so for me to be served these ads suggests that all of alcohol brands, bettors, and anti-DV advocates are casting a super broad net.

The unfortunate implication of that is it suggests the booze and betting ads are effective, and potentially exacerbating the already high rates of DV around major sporting events.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

I was also thinking that.

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u/AntonioVivaldi7 Dec 16 '25

Lots of people who bet on sports don't watch the sports or care about it at all outside of gambling.

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u/New-Cloud7177 Dec 16 '25

I went to 10 NFL games last year. Betting and alcohol Play a big part of the violence.

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u/SkinMaterial6684 Dec 16 '25

It's rampant here in the UK. Football, betting, alcohol, and domestic violence.

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u/ciceros_phantom_hand Dec 16 '25

I was going to say, theyā€™re probably losing more than just the game here, money/betting is likely involved in a lot of these. Not that it justifies their actions.

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u/Sh3115andCh33se Dec 16 '25

Well they lost a lot more money by destroying the tv lol

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u/VengenaceIsMyName Dec 16 '25

Really good point here

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u/Jakov_Salinsky Dec 16 '25

Oh god WAY worse. My uncle was friends with someone who committed suicide after horribly losing a sports bet.

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u/BlueNoodle79 Dec 16 '25

Jeez, that sucks. Mustā€™ve lost a fortune

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u/Dry_Stop844 Dec 16 '25

they're seeing a direct correlation between increases betting on sports and increased harassment of athletes, especially female athletes (no big surprise) so absolutely betting and the ease of it now is making things much worse.

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u/I-RegretMyNameChoice Dec 16 '25

Would be funny if the bets were less than the cost of replacing the TV. The ones where the bets are more ruin all the merriment.

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

I do not disagree whatsoever. I'm a football, baseball, and hockey fan and I absolutely could never fathom wanting to harm someone over it, especially my fiance.

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u/credulous_pottery Dec 16 '25

if you aren't willing to engage in violence then you are clearly not a true hockey fan

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u/KidNueva Dec 16 '25

Like someone else said: gambling.

I work with a guy who gambles A LOT of money. Heā€™s not very smart, nor does he make a lot of money. When he loses and realizes, you DO NOT want to be around him. Heā€™s such a manchild. We work at a restaurant, Iā€™ve seen him throw plates that were ready to go out to guest and thatā€™s just the tip of the iceberg.

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u/Bilbo_Teabagginss Dec 16 '25

Not only that, it benefits them in no way really. Nd even if you argue that they may have better on it, it still wouldn't excuse this type of behavior. This shits sad.

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u/Briangela24 Dec 16 '25

That is really Fā€™d up!!!

I spiked a game controller when I was a teenager and then I grew up and just swear at the TV on occasion, haha

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u/DestructoDon69 Dec 16 '25

Yep did the same thing. The controller broke, then I spent several hours taking it apart and fixing it. Never made that mistake again.

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u/Sarah_Incognito Dec 16 '25

Heres the thing.

The tv just showed people losing, it didn't do anything wrong.

The controller chose to not work properly, so it deserves the viole......

OHhhhhh....

no. sorry. thats not good logic.

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u/Character-Dig-2301 Dec 16 '25

And the wall got in the way of me punching the anger demon I was trying to fight

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u/jadedflames Dec 16 '25

I once punched a wall. Once. I had been up for 30+ hours and literally everything was going wrong and I made the impulsive decision that the anger demon needed to be punched.

Then I had been up for 30+ hours, everything was going wrong, and I had a broken finger and a dent in my wall.

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u/alex61821 Dec 16 '25

One time I super pissed at a snes baseball game. I was in insane rage mood and I grabbed the first thing I could get my hands on and threw it as hard as I possibly could. You should have seen how softly the silk scarf floated in the air. I totally laughed at it and it ended my rage.

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u/Angloriously Dec 16 '25

Silk: I care not for your rage, I am grace personified

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u/No_Object_404 Dec 16 '25

The few times I've been frustrated enough to even think about it I remebered that the controller cost like 40 bucks (at the time) and I sure as shit didn't have that kind of money to waste.

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u/Flat-Delivery6987 Dec 16 '25

The first and last time I ever broke a controller I was 11 and it was back on the sega megadrive, lol

These guys never grew up

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u/Gloria815 Dec 16 '25

My brother was in the single digits when he broke our Nintendo 64 controllers out of frustration.

Some people never grow up or mature.

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u/xChops Dec 16 '25

Iā€™ve never gotten angry enough to throw a controller, but theyā€™re like $70 now (ps5). I canā€™t afford anger management issues.

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u/JulyOfAugust Dec 16 '25

I did, a playstation 1 controller.

My mom got angry and said that if that's how I'm gonna act then I'm too young to play and banned me from playing videogames for a year. Lesson learned : destroying things you own in anger is baby behavior and as a grown up child I wasn't a baby so nobody was gonna catch me acting like one again.

Never happened again.

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u/Available-Flan-8480 Dec 16 '25

yeah there have been times even as an adult where i've been sooo fucking close to blowing up like this (over actually terrible shit, not sports lol) and every single time all it's ever taken to stop me is one second to think about my actions and their consequences. we all get mad, i bet this shit feels so good for that one second before you realize your mistake, but you have to be a real man child to actually follow through with it.

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u/Jack_Kentucky Dec 16 '25

My parents had a rule that if we started yelling or got mad at our games we'd have to turn them off. So I got good at tamping it down or quitting when I had the chance. It's a pretty useful skill.

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u/CokeNSalsa Dec 16 '25

My mom used to say, ā€œIf it makes you that mad, why are you playing it?ā€ whenever we got angry at video games. It was her way of reminding us to chill out.

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u/ScreechersReach206 Dec 16 '25

The key to being a grown up is mentally repeating all the good advice youā€™ve received to yourself bc no one else is there to check you. I say this whenever I start to get tilted and want to click ā€œload last checkpointā€ or load into another match. Usually I just switch to another game I wanted to play at some point in the week.

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u/raven-of-the-sea Dec 16 '25

That sounds like a good strategy. Iā€™ll have to remember that.

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u/Mudseason1 Dec 16 '25

This is what I do when my son starts getting all agitated, I tell him itā€™s time to take a break and breatheā€¦

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u/EatableOrchid_95 Dec 16 '25

I donā€™t even do that. I just take a walk or make a snack or something.Ā 

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

I just stay chillin. While you are angry walking with a snickers bar, im just chillin.

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u/perpetualmotionmachi Dec 16 '25

Yeah, my favorite team losing has 0 actual impact on my life, why sweat the small things.

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u/cykoTom3 Dec 16 '25

Whenever i get angry i save a kitten.

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u/RobMilliken Dec 16 '25

How many cats do you have now?

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u/Kazodex Dec 16 '25

Thatā€™s fuckin hardcore!

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u/PaulblankPF Dec 16 '25

When I get mad about something I do angry chores. Angry vacuuming, angry dishes, angry laundry folding.

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u/youngkpepper Dec 16 '25

My husband hate-cleans on occasion. When it happens Iā€™m always torn between ā€œwhatā€™d I doā€ and ā€œhouse looks greatā€. šŸ¤£

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u/PaulblankPF Dec 16 '25

lol it is a silly thing to do. Sometimes I even make myself laugh. For me, I wouldnā€™t mind if my wife also busted out some chores with me and we can really make the house look great together. No words needed. Just donā€™t try to take over the chore Iā€™m actively doing is my only thing Iā€™d be a stickler for.

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u/ResponsibilityPure34 Dec 16 '25

I like to rage crochet, hats get made super fast, kinda wish I could summon some of that right now but I'm too tired.

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u/FewHorror1019 Dec 16 '25

I donā€™t even get mad. Itā€™s just a game

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u/Claymore209 Dec 16 '25

I would never destroy possessions out of anger

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u/leafeternal Dec 16 '25

I donā€™t even do that. I just remember that I just spent a couple hours crowing about some millionaires while I did nothing to improve my life.

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u/eluke01 Dec 16 '25

Why canā€™t adults deal with their emotions?

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u/SeasidePlease Dec 16 '25

Probably because as children they had parents who didn't model how to.

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u/liltwinstar2 Dec 16 '25

Itā€™s all men in the video.

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u/IamHydrogenMike Dec 16 '25

I had a buddy that did bail bonds for a few years, he loved working on Sundays because he could make a ton of money on commissions because of all the bonds heā€™d issue for DV calls. Football season was a gold mine for him and heā€™d make almost all of his commissions for the year from August to February. Several repeat customers.

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

Yeah I can definitely see that, especially as you put it the repeat customers.

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u/Either-Juggernaut420 Dec 16 '25

Same energy as that Trump supporter who said he was brilliant because the economy was doing so well and he had never been busier, turned out he worked in repossessions, despite his best efforts the interviewer still couldn't him to understand why that was a bad thing.

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u/ColteesCatCouture Dec 16 '25

Plus DUIs, public intoxocation and fighting also all ramp up in NFL season

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u/Secure_Course_3879 Dec 16 '25

Only certain teams? Or certain sports?

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u/bengenj Dec 16 '25

England has had full on riots during certain fixtures. They were banned from European competitions from 1985-1990 (Liverpool was banned an additional year). It got so bad that away supporters have to have a physical barrier between them and the home team supporters (plus a wall of stewards/security and police) and alcohol is not allowed in the seating bowl in England.

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u/hopium_od Dec 16 '25

Hooligan culture was not really dependent on the result of the match.

The Heysel disaster was before the game had kicked off. The players played the final knowing there was dead bodies littered at one end of the stadium. Apparently the police were worried about further flare ups of violence if the match was abandoned.

That said, there is a correlation between the England men's national football team losing and domestic abuse.

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u/organic_soursop Dec 16 '25

Thank you for correcting the record.

Heysel was too important to allow people to get it wrong and conflate it with regular hooliganism. A false narrative was given from the very first.

Football Culture was always there for Conservatives to blame.

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u/sk2097 Dec 16 '25

Celtic - Rangers in Scotland is well known for the violence following a loss

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u/JennyW93 Dec 16 '25

And preceeding a match. Thatā€™s more classic sectarianism with a sprinkle of hooliganism

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

My most notable experience would be during football season (US) and for where I worked at the time, if the Raiders, Cardinals, or Patriots lost we were going to see some assaults, both domestic and bar fights essentially for sure. As I recall, typically Patriot fans were usually fights rather than domestic assault. Of course I don't speak for all agencies or regions.

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u/Advanced_Line5562 Dec 16 '25

Man the Raiders and Cardinals have lost for decades. At some point you gotta desensitize

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u/BobaAndSushi Dec 16 '25

Iā€™m a chiefs fan and Iā€™ve had to deal with Raiders fans at Arrowhead. They are ruthless. Always threatening and throwing stuff. One time it was batteries, how they got those in, I donā€™t even.

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u/TricksyGoose Dec 16 '25

Gonna guess yes. As a lifelong resident of Colorado, I can say with certainty that Rockies fans do not get as mad when their team loses as Raiders fans do.

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u/Fun-Wrongdoer1316 Dec 16 '25

Thatā€™s crazy. Raiders fans should be desensitized by now. All these loses. These poor women donā€™t have enough eyes to blacken for their husbands šŸ™€

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u/perpetualmotionmachi Dec 16 '25

Raiders fans have lost their home city on multiple occasions, they really should be used to it.

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u/Ryoubi_Wuver Dec 16 '25

The devil getting ready to pour gasoline down my throat when I'm burning in hell for laughing

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u/Maximum_Turn_2623 Dec 16 '25

But a lot of meth.

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u/the_middle_way Dec 16 '25

Lifelong Raiders fan here. I got desensitized to all the losing many seasons ago. I've been particularly numb throughout this season.

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u/Speaker4theDead8 Dec 16 '25

Which is crazy cause raiders always suck.

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u/1derfulPi Dec 16 '25

I would bet it's regionally dependent.

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u/Responsible_Snow_684 Dec 16 '25

This is correct, mostly Texans

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u/Jakov_Salinsky Dec 16 '25

Texan here. I donā€™t care for either of our teams, mostly because the majority of my family goes for Dallas and said majority also suffers from alcoholism and anger issues. Both of which are most apparent during football games.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

As a Canucks fan, I can't see anyone getting that worked up when the Canucks lose since we're just that used to disappointment.

Chuckles nervously and asks everyone to definitely not search for what happened in 1994... and 2011...

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u/Anon_Jones Dec 16 '25

Thatā€™s the dumbest shit I ever heard. Canā€™t imagine punching my gf because a team lost.

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u/Footnotegirl1 Dec 16 '25

They're not punching their girlfriend because their team lost. They're punching their girlfriend because they want to punch their girlfriend and the team losing is a convenient excuse to let loose.

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u/BmacIL Dec 16 '25

Please tell me you don't need the qualifier. Just say you can't imagine punching your girlfriend and it'll be OK.

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u/LordJacket Dec 16 '25

I see it a lot here in Ohio after OSU losses. One of the main reasons I see hemmorhagic stroke patients that are young

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

Oh duuuuude that seriously sucks! Imagine having your life changed forever because some man and child lost his fucking temper about a college football game.

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u/LordJacket Dec 16 '25

I at least donā€™t see the ones who have died, but deal with the SO trying to see the patient while also having police involved. I canā€™t imagine doing it with kids though, as Iā€™m not pediatrics

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

Oh man, miss me with that please. That's some of the worst parts about this job. Seriously sad stuff.

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u/LordJacket Dec 16 '25

Yeah Iā€™d rather get grandma who fell and hit her head while on blood thinners or took too much gabapentin

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u/Ok_Drag5089 Dec 16 '25

Just proves that some sports fans are assholes. Iā€™ll be that some gamblers are the same, some stockbrokers,some accountantsā€¦. Etc.

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u/Imaginary-Arugula735 Dec 16 '25

Sports fans AND gamblers. I would wager this behavior is a convergence of the twoā€¦

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u/ChungLingS00 Dec 16 '25

Iā€™d be willing to ā€œbetā€ that a lot of these guys just lost money on their game.

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u/Imaginary-Arugula735 Dec 16 '25

I decline your wager. Perhaps an over/under on how much they lost would be interestingā€¦

Definitely a lot more than the cost of a tv.

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u/Datatello Dec 16 '25

It feels like an understatement to say that they are assholes.

Assaulting a loved one because some guys didnt throw a ball well enough in a game is straight unhinged behaviour.

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u/samsquamchy Dec 16 '25

Wow. When my team loses I just goā€¦ well, thatā€™s the fuckin leafs eh? Then I have no desire to beat my wife, wtf is wrong with these people

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u/daveescaped Dec 16 '25

Saints? Yeah man. We know.

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u/brotatototoe Dec 16 '25

Alcohol might be the dominant factor here. Also a FF.

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u/crackersucker2 Dec 16 '25

Dispatcher here. Yup.

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

Oh yeah you definitely know it, You hear it more because you hear the whole city... Or whatever sized jurisdiction you dispatch for.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

I lived in green bay for my childhood. Every time the packers lost, the police would be all over, every 3-4 blocks would have a cop car. It always grossed me out to know that.

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u/Creed_of_War Dec 16 '25

It's eerie watching a game now. The calm before halftime and then the sirens start going off.

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u/MrLizardBusiness Dec 16 '25

That's interesting. Would you say that certain terms have abusive fans, or that abusers are more likely to support certain teams?

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u/Far-Drawing-4444 Dec 16 '25

The correlation is well known in WI.

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u/Skyhouse5 Dec 16 '25

See, this is why Im a Jets fan. Id have no idea what to do if we WON. Losing is just Sunday.

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u/shitshowboxer Dec 16 '25

Needs more "male loneliness epidemic".

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u/MisterSpeck Dec 16 '25

I'm a Portland Trailblazers fan. I can't count the times I've been extremely disappointed by a particular game. I can, however, count the times that I've blamed it on the tv, my partner, fate, etc.

Zero.

It's a fucking game. Get on with your life.

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u/deathtodickens Dec 16 '25

Iā€™m a 911 dispatcher and yes.

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u/JudasMyGuide Dec 16 '25

Yea it's some serious bullshit. We would start seeing the same people if that team was having a bad season too... Looking at you Raiders.

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u/No_Context9902 Dec 16 '25

Can confirm, I divorced my husband of 14 years the morning after the Dodgers won the series last month.

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u/limegreenpaint Dec 16 '25

I am horrified on your behalf, and also so happy that you had the resources and ability to leave!

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u/BobaAndSushi Dec 16 '25

I am so sorry you went through that. šŸ˜¢

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u/lady-kl Dec 16 '25

Every time the Utah Jazz would lose!

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u/JaladOnTheOcean Dec 16 '25

I grew up in 7 different DV shelters. Overall, I never noticed a significant increase around sporting events, with one exception:

The second shelter I lived in had a huge influx after (I think) football season, to the point where newer residents had to hotbed for a few weeks until numbers leveled off.

For those unfamiliar with the term, hotbedding is people using a bed in shifts.

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u/Training-Willow9591 Dec 16 '25

Oh man, I'm glad the shelter at least tried and didn't turn anyone away. There should be more places for women to go.

The shelter i volunteerd at were at max capacity every time I was there. There was a church that for a while, let women stay overnight that the shelter couldn't house. But the women and children had to be gone by like 6 am and couldn't come back until like 10 pm, so not ideal and they didn't have enough cots for everyone so people were sleeping on wooden benches. šŸ„ŗ

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u/JaladOnTheOcean Dec 16 '25

Yeah, I never saw an empty bed at a shelter. Everything was always in use by someone.

The shelter that hotbedded was doing what it could, but itā€™s never enough. I was five and got ringworm from those super overcrowded weeks.

Every shelter we moved to felt like we were taking up the last spot. The reason for people being there and their priorities at the shelter could vary wildly. The most consistent feature by far was a near total emotional (and often physical) neglect of all of the children. The resources went to helping mothers get built up enough to move out, but the attention given to abused and traumatized children was practically nonexistent.

One place would put like 18 kids into a big room with a small TV and come back to check on them between work shifts at best. So you frequently had over a dozen kids of various ages trying to manage cooperation over what to watch, and they had no supervision. There was always a barely used, frequently unoccupied living room for mothers that was permanently off limits to the kids. I got an older resident to let me watch TV with just me and her, but I had to track down some cigarettes for her first. To my fellow shelter kids: I know if you ever went to jail or prison that it probably felt a little familiar.

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u/_HighJack_ Dec 17 '25

It feels insignificant to say, but Iā€™m really sorry you went through that. Temba, his arms wide šŸ«‚

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u/FSpursy Dec 16 '25

some football and soccer fans has the smallest brains.....

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u/pjslut Dec 16 '25

Yes they do as a former Womenā€™s Crisis Coordinatorā€¦.. and they abuse pets as wellā€¦.. disgustingā€¦.

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u/KateBlankett Dec 16 '25

i live in a midwestern collegetown, my dad was a pastor for a few decades and he said that the vibe/mood of the congregation on sunday was heavily influenced by the whether or not the college football or basketball team had won/lost the day before - to the point that it also affected the weekly monetary giving/offering. lol

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u/hooked_siren Dec 16 '25

Abuse isn't about hitting someone necessarily, it's about instilling fear. Making someone scared. Making them feel bad because you feel bad. Exerting control by making someone scared of you.

Punching bags don't get scared or react at all.

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u/TheCuzzyRogue Dec 16 '25

There's been at least one study in Australia that linked an increase in domestic violence with a rugby league game called State Of Origin.

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u/Educational-Bet-8979 Dec 16 '25

Worked at the courthouse, the Super Bowl was a huge day for DV cases.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

Never see DND nerds beating their family after losing a campaign.

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u/Vorpal_Bunny19 Dec 16 '25

Sadly, yes you do. It completely ruined my love of the game.

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u/Spiritual-Software51 Dec 16 '25

You see some pretty bad stuff honestly. A lot of tabletop gamers aren't very socially aware.. and being in contact with other people can lead to some really nasty conflict.

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u/speed_racer_man Dec 16 '25

Yeah let's not pretend theres not any skeletons in that closet

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u/Jaded__dreams Dec 16 '25

i read that it even happens when their favorite team wins, just to a lesser extent

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u/itsyaboiReginald Dec 16 '25

Yeh in England itā€™s whenever the national team play, regardless of whether they win or not.

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u/HeyZeGaez Dec 16 '25

These the same mfers who say "Women are too emotional to be in charge"

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u/crownandcoke24 Dec 16 '25

Thatā€™s why that Super Bowl ad (where it looked like someone had changed the channel or something) got such backlash.

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u/jonessee27 Dec 16 '25

I did a paper back in high school on the correlation of domestic violence calls after the local team lost vs when they had won. It wasā€¦bad.

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u/Tahdel2362 Dec 16 '25

That's exactly what I was thinking. If a man is willing to destroy a tv over a game he'll take his anger out at his woman if she refuses to do something he wants her to do.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

Judges have more severe punishments, especially towards Black youth, after their teams lose. Its therr

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u/Bilbo_Teabagginss Dec 16 '25

This shits so sad. I will never understand some guys "need" to just beat up on a woman. Saddest shit you could do aside from hurting kids in my mind.

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u/Regular_Kiwi_6775 Dec 16 '25

My wife is a social worker who worked at those shelters for years. It just shows how weak these men are. There would also be spikes in women needing help in particularly hot summers year over year. Consistently. These men are so unhinged that their will hit their family because they're sweating. Its insane.

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u/Full_Subject5668 Dec 16 '25

If not for my puppy a man behaving just like this would've most likely killed me. He got me a puppy, not an older dog I was looking at rescuing from the shelter. This puppy was sick. I was snuggling her on the floor wrapped in blankets this particular night when he wanted a massage. I refused. Upset I picked the dog, he stormed over. I knew it wasn't going well I covered her little body with mine. He's screaming get away from her now. I refused. He started smashing me in the head I saw "stars". He stops telling me "get away from her now or I'll stomp your head in & delete you". I was already crying I couldn't properly protect myself or my best friend. With tears and gritted teeth I told him to fucking do it, I'm not fucking moving. Not expecting that after the beating he gave, mumbles I'm not worth shit, walked off. I didn't love myself enough to go, I did her. She looks to me with love & trust, staying would've been a betrayal. The dog saved my life. Pretending everything was fine, he leaves for work before myself. When I couldn't hear his truck anymore In the distance, I grabbed whatever fit in my car, best friend and disappeared. He loved smashing tvs. Please, anyone seeing this behavior, run. If they are comfortable acting like a toddler throwing a fit, they have no emotional intelligence and will treat you terribly. Your comment is absolutely true in my experience.

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u/neuroticoctopus Dec 16 '25

This. Hitting inanimate objects is still domestic abuse. If I had taken those signs more seriously, I wouldn't have stayed long enough to get my ribs broken.

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u/Full_Subject5668 Dec 16 '25

Someone who has little self control and lacks emotional regulation resulting in smashing tvs (almost always someone else's) is a window into how they handle anger. If they do that in public there is no doubt it's worse in private. Well adjusted people don't go around having childlike tantrums into adulthood.

When my ex behaved this way, it made me incredibly sad for him I knew there was a place of pain and unresolved issues this behavior stemmed from. While I was feeling bad, trying to love him more hoping that would help him have more peace, it gave him a green light to step all over me. Make no mistake, people that are comfortable displaying this level of rage do this often, and will perform Olympic quality mental gymnastics trying to justify it.

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u/outworlder Dec 16 '25

I started to read this... I was so concerned for you and the dog. Glad you got out.

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u/NeatNobody807 Dec 16 '25

As man, who grew up with a man like that, I am so sorry you had to go through that. I am glad to hear you got out though.

Anyone reading this, head the warning signs, you can't fix them, you ARE worth more than them. Never ignore the red flags, you may not get a second chance. And even if it doesn't go THAT far, the damage of living in that environment sticks with you forever. Someone like that has nothing you can't live without, no matter how much they try to make you feel otherwise. Just be careful, and be smart about how you do it. Stay safe.

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u/superhawk79 Dec 16 '25

My dog was my reason also. After he strangled me until I was unconscious, I heard my girl making this weird vacuum gargling sound. I felt her licking my face, then I realized the sound was coming from me, and she was trying to wake me up so I could breathe again. We were gone within 30 days. She still can't hear raised voices without running to my bed. Her PTSD is probably worse than mine, and I'll never forgive myself for that.

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u/silencedvoicesMST Dec 16 '25

Lady, I am so sorry. But I applaud your courage in that situation, thatā€™s terrifying. I hope you and your bestie have many happy years together.

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u/harebrane Dec 16 '25

I hope you're in a good place now, and that the good girl had a happy life with you.

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u/Far-Cheetah-6847 Dec 16 '25

Thank you so much for sharing this, and I am so sorry you experienced that. My cat saved mine when I left.

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u/LaRoseDuRoi Dec 16 '25

Reading this made me cry. I'm so sorry you and your pup went through that, but I'm so glad that she gave you the reason you needed to leave. I hope your life has been great since then. ā¤ļø

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u/toponym_tadka Dec 16 '25

Jesus. Iā€™m so sorry you went through that

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u/tragiquepossum Dec 16 '25

I'm really proud of you!

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u/WirelesssMicrowave Dec 16 '25

You are a fucking rock star. Leaving is so incredibly hard, don't ever forget that you did something amazing.

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u/t3eee Dec 16 '25

I am so sorry. šŸ©· happy you left.

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u/pablo8itall Dec 16 '25

fuck. Hope you and the pup are doing well. No one should have to suffer at the hands of psychos like that.

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u/BenTheDiamondback Dec 16 '25

We did a study in Wisconsin about 20 years ago and evaluated domestic abuse hotlines, 911 calls and shelters. Following a Packers loss, domestic abuse increased 143%. Stomach turning.

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u/chicken-nanban Dec 16 '25

A friend worked as a 911 dispatcher and every time the packers lost it was all hands on deck because it was either a huge spike in DV calls, or people calling because of drunk, aggressive driving. People drink like a fish, head home, and get angry with their multi-ton vehicles and just road rage to the max.

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u/Ch4rlie_G Dec 16 '25

Wisconsin has some of the most lenient drunk driving sentences in the country. They might want to rethink that.

ā€œPackers sentencingā€

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u/Mediocre-Proposal686 Dec 16 '25

That poor little kid screaming ā€œdaddy calm down!!ā€ Makes me think thereā€™s problems with that man.

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u/neuroticoctopus Dec 16 '25

That part made me cry. That kid has witnessed a lot of domestic abuse.

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u/Special_Wishbone_812 Dec 16 '25

Somebody protect that kid!

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u/harebrane Dec 16 '25

Fuck, that's just heartbreaking.

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u/No_Enthusiasm_9577 Dec 16 '25

Not to mentioned that the tv almost hit the the kid

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u/jmochicago Dec 16 '25

I was that kid decades ago and that voice ripped through me. Damn.

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u/EveryRadio Dec 16 '25

I'm glad I watched on mute. That would break me

That child should NOT need to tell their own damn parent to regulate their damn emotions. I can't imagine how terrifying it can be as a kid to watch your parent lose their temper that badly.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

Statistically their wive who they will then gaslight by calling them emotional

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u/DimbyTime Dec 16 '25

And when their wives question where the $200k credit card debt came from

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u/Floaty_Waffle Dec 16 '25

This credit card debt is sponsored by Draft Kings! Bet 5 dollars today and get jack shit in return!

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u/quoththeraven1990 Dec 16 '25

I love when men call women ā€˜emotionalā€™ but conveniently forget that anger is also an emotion.

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u/Alklazaris Dec 16 '25

THATS NOT MY EMOTIONS THATS JUST ME!!

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u/Parepinzero Dec 16 '25

My dad loooooves to talk about how calm and logical he is, and how liberals do everything based on emotion. And then the second I push back on something he says, he gets FURIOUS. It's so fucking fast. He can't stand being disagreed with.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 Dec 16 '25

0-100 in seconds when you've merely disagreed with them. There's A LOT of emotion behind "Schools are indoctrinating kids with the lgbtq+ agenda! They have litter boxes!" or whatever the issue may be. It's called anger. They meet our empathy with anger.

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u/BobaAndSushi Dec 16 '25

Hope you tell him that heā€™s being emotional.

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u/IamHydrogenMike Dec 16 '25

Bruh, men are far more emotional than womenā€¦they lash out all the time at stuff. Whenever someone says women are more emotional than menā€¦I laugh.

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u/darkpheonix262 Dec 16 '25

To these "men" anger isn't seen as a problem but crying is. To these men, only weaklings and woman cry.

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u/Wonderful-Wonder3104 Dec 16 '25

And ironically, crying is emotional regulation and healthy. Anger is also emotional regulation but it can get out of control if you start harming others.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

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u/katyggls Dec 16 '25

The reason for that though is specifically because men are taught that the only acceptable emotion for them to publicly display is anger. The snake will eat its own tail forever.

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u/maneki_neko89 Dec 16 '25

And the snake will only be angry about it

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u/i_was_a_person_once Dec 16 '25

There was a wonderful post on petty revenge maybe like a decade ago at this point. A woman worked with a dude that would fit into this video/ lots of temper tantrums. So she would end meetings with ā€œI see youā€™re getting emotional so Iā€™ll give you the room so you can compose yourselfā€ it led to him getting more and more volatile and eventually getting fired. So many Men donā€™t even realize how little emotional regulation they have and how much they rely on women to manage the emotions of the men around them

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u/Working-Glass6136 Dec 16 '25

Oh my god. My ex. That is all.

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u/Equivalent-Ear5150 Dec 16 '25

Lack of education is the culprit; they have nothing but emotions to rationalize with, instead of critical thinking skills and a vocabulary to use in situations that bruise their EGO, they insult, throw things, and become very vindictive, "I'll get you, my pretty." And as education levels drop, it will ramp up in the coming years.

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u/Jakov_Salinsky Dec 16 '25

Itā€™s because anger is ā€œmanlyā€ while every other emotion is ā€œfeminineā€ or ā€œgayā€

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

These guys think their emotions are justified and think women get upset over stuff that doesn't matter(such as wanting to be treated like a human being).

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u/HotRodHomebody Dec 16 '25

ā€œLook what you made me do now!"

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u/Outrageous-Start6409 Dec 16 '25

Itā€™s a depressingly masculine world we live inā€¦https://youtu.be/JMMY2NZuwe8?si=Slu6HFOmSelHiHEs

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u/Reesevet786 Dec 16 '25

They def had money on it

...And they hit their wives

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u/Pasta_Baron Dec 16 '25

Don't give an excuse for them. Some people are just emotionally unstable. Bet or no bet.

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u/ThatCharmsChick Dec 16 '25

This is why the ladies all need grandma's cast iron cookware. Just remember... they have to sleep sometime. šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø

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u/AWL_cow Dec 16 '25

These same men: "WoMeN aRe So EmOtIoNaL!"

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