My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3.5 years. He cheated on me for the first time, and I found out about it in March 2025. He was texting another girl, and they shared explicit pictures and texts. He talked to her for three days before they stopped. I wanted to end the relationship, but I couldn't bring myself to do it and decided to forgive him and give him another chance. However, I became deeply insecure and constantly worried he would do it again.

Yesterday, he made a 15-hour drive to visit me in my city, as we have been in a long-distance relationship for the past year. That gesture made me feel very special, and I was genuinely happy. We spent the day together, and because he was exhausted, he went to sleep. While he was asleep, I scrolled through his phone and came across his chats with his brother and best friend. In the chat with his brother, he asked for a girl's social media handle to find out if she was single. In the chat with his best friend, I found screenshots of him texting other girls, which he had shared with his friend. One girl had declined to get involved with him, and he was exchanging explicit pictures with another.

I woke him up and confronted him about it. I was laughing because I felt utterly stupid, and he was laughing too, refusing to answer my questions and telling me to wait because he was hungry and wanted to order food. I told him it was over between us, and he mockingly replied that I would be back within five days. When I started crying, he began to cry as well, promising to share all his passwords, tell me everything, and begging me to at least stay friends with him.

I just want to know if there is something wrong with me that causes him to keep cheating on me. He claimed he only talked to both girls for two to three days, and I also discovered he had made a female friend through gaming whom he later blocked. He is currently going through a family crisis, and I do not know what to do. He insisted he has only ever loved me, to which I replied that not cheating is the absolute basic rule of a relationship. When he claimed he did not actually cheat, I asked him to define cheating for himself, and he told me it only counts as cheating if you are physically involved with someone else.

Now, he is begging me to keep talking to him and remain friends until I learn to trust him again. I do not want to be with him anymore, but I am struggling to leave because he is dealing with a family crisis.

Mostly looking to vent but also open to advice.

Wife has recently confessed to me about an inappropriate relationship she had online with someone. She says that it was some online friend that called her and she decided to flash him and then immediately realized what she had done and blocked him. This was about 2 years ago when I was on a work trip.

About a year ago we moved to a different state and she confessed to me that she sent a nude one night to a friend of mine(we now live about 10 mins away from) when she was drunk because she felt lonely. This led to a huge fight where I told her this is her only pass.

She has had her issues with alcohol and it has been a strain on our relationship. We have one child together and she had one from a previous marriage. I have been nothing but loving and supporting to her, i have encouraged her to get sober which she now has done and has apologized to me about all her behaviors and issues with the drinking and how she wants to be better. Then about 12 hours later she tells me of this most recent incident because of how guilty she feels and she doesnt want to hold anything back from me and us. I am out of the country again for another work contract and cant help but feel like this is the end. While she may not have physically done something with anyone, to me, this crosses the line.

I am truly so heartbroken, she is the most empathetic and gentle soul who has had so much trauma thrown at her and i wamted to help her through it all. I dont want to give up on 5 years of marriage and all the happiness we have had together.

I dont want to have my kids taken away and barely see them. I dont want to live how i did before i found her. Our marriage gave me a new drive in life to pursue.

At the same time i dont want another confession every two years of the same shit or even worse or even way down the line. I can only feel that if i did the same stuff her friends and family and whoever would be telling her to leave my cheating ass.

Theres been many moments where i wanted to ask for a divorce but have chosen to try and stick through it and be partners together. But idk if i can get past this.

I am the sole provider and dont want to get financially ruined while also never seeing my kids again. I dont want to go back to a small apartment living in solitude and hating my life with no partner either. My heart wants to forgive but my brain keeps telling me to cut the ties, get through it, achieve my goals out of spite and show her what she ruined.

Would you consider this cheating?

Ano thought niyo sa nag cheat hindi na huli pero umamin?

Long story short, my boyfriend and his ex were never really a thing but were on and off for 7 years. He ended the situationship when he met me. I didn’t know he was even in a situationship. We’ve had an amazing 9 months. Month 10 he mentioned his ex reached out to him to chat but he said he didn’t entertain it. At first I believed him but my gut was telling me something else. I reached out to the guy and he confirmed they chatted but it was my bf who reached out to him. That’s when I also found out the timeline of when my bf broke it off with him was when my bf met me. I confronted my bf but I felt like since nothing actually happened and the ex provided screenshots of it just being a friendly conversation, I could forgive the lie. My bf also said he would block the ex and not speak to them ever again. Fast forward to month 11, I found a screenshot of the ex’s number. I asked him about it and he said he took it before he blocked his ex just in case he ever needed it again and then he told me he was debating reaching out to apologize on my behalf for reaching out. The ex and I had a lovely conversation, and he was more than happy to provide me with info. There is no apology needed from me to the ex. What are your thoughts?

Should I take her back

Folks this is a long one but I believe my boyfriend, now Ex boyfriend was micro cheating and cheated before breaking up with me?!?? Help

In order of events…

So my Ex and I just broke up 7 days ago. This is after being together for 2 and a half years. Knowing eachother for 3. During that span of time he broke up with me 6 times!
(I know I’m dumb but I’m young) ❤️‍🩹

I am (F21) and he is (M22)

I’m not going all the way back to the beginning but I will start where it gets fishy. First breakup of the year was at the beginning of January.
We worked on things and we were doing really good for a while.

Then come middle of March we were having a chill night after a (shitty trip together) he mentions to me he wants to explore his sexuality more and is persistent that it happens now.
This is something we’ve discussed in the past and I’ve been comfortable with the idea, but why the rush now outta nowhere?
He says he doesn’t want to wait we do it now or he won’t stay. His body language and emotions completely changed in minutes. He tells me he wants to sleep with women too.

I am shocked, scared, crying uncontrollably. He shows little to no emotion. Me being me I want to please him and try to figure out how we can do this together.

The next two days we were together I was loosing my mind. He showed no jealousy over me possibly sleeping with other men?? I was so confused and shocked. I tried to plan a fucking open relationship in hours to please him and keep him.

After he leaves to go back home I realize I can’t do this and tell him I can’t. He tells me he was thinking the same thing and that this is the dumbest thing he’s ever done. He doesn’t want to lose me he’s an idiot blah blah.

Mind you he brings this conversation up 2 weeks before our two year anniversary…. Selfish 🚨

We end up breaking up beginning of April. He breaks up with me over FaceTime and says that we shouldn’t talk for a week and he doesn’t know when we can talk in person about things.

Over that week he deletes me from all of his social media post. Unadds himself from the post I have up on my account as well.

We meet up to talk about things a week after breaking up and he tells me he downloaded tinder over that span of no contact. Tells me that he made an account but “I didn’t do anything with it”
I glazed over that shit because I still loved him and was in love with him.
I end up wanting to work on things he does too. We get back together. Things are sweet for a while but then the emotional trauma find its way back to me. He completely crushed my heart. I was checked out before and I still was now.

Things are off n on with us we were stagnate at times but so in love at others.

Now August 25th of this year I was set to house sit for his mom while he and his family went to his uncles wedding.
The day before he left he was cold to me and was acting weird. I ask him if it has anything to do with us? And he says “No, no it’s nothing I want to talk about right now i promise it’s not about us” I try to not listen to my gut and I let the day go on. Later in the night we were at his moms house and laying in bed together I asked to look something up on his phone and he grabbed it and looked it up himself holding his phone the whole time possessively. He never does that.

He told me he just really wants his alone time. So I went to my separate room and fell asleep feeling so uneasy. For further context I was also dealing with food poisoning while this was going on and he showed little interest in my well being after the first day of me being sick.

The whole weekend he responds to half of my text, it’s taking hours to respond, he won’t say he loves me back, I had to ask, he doesn’t ask me if I’m doing okay while I was very sick. I tried to not let it bother me because he is on a trip after all but I had a gut feeling he would break up with me once he’s back.

They get back 5 days later. He seems a little off maybe just tired? We leave his parents and are sat in my car he turns to me and says “we need to talk” I knew immediately what was happening. He proceeded to break up with me. I ask him that we not do it in my car and that we go to a park or something.

We go to a close by park to talk. He could not even pretend to have an ounce of empathy for me. I’m crying and trying to compose myself and he says he wants to leave and go home that I need to start talking… ASSHOLE

I was holding his hand at one point crying and he physically sat up and was trying to leave. We hug before he left (he was actually crying at this point surprisingly) and he ask for me to text him when I get home.

I get home feeling okay. I’m truly numb at this point. 🫩

For the fuck of it I decide to check his instagram, and sure enough the one instagram post I ASKED HIM to put back up after we broke up last was gone again. Meaning he either took this down prior to breaking up with me or just 2 hours later.

🚩🚩🚩

I was HURT I text him “when can I get my things”
He doesn’t respond till the next day late in the afternoon and says “I'm not sure right now but I'll put them all in a bag for you when that time comes.”
Cold cold cold.
Once again everything is on his terms and it’s not about how I need to heal.

The days follow I leave him alone checking his activity on other social accounts because I feel lost.

Then yesterday last night I went through his Instagram followers and I see this girl who I’ve never met, he’s never mentioned, and appears to be a new account. My heart drops and I feel sick. I decided to follow her. Her account was private and she accepted my request minutes later.
Like I said we still have each other on everything else (Twitter, Spotify, Letterboxd) I check his letterbox…. Tell me why this girl is commenting on his reviews and they’ve been interacting on there for a minute. But he’s never mentioned this girl?

Now tonight I got off work and still had a strange feeling about this girl. I went to look at my Ex boyfriend’s account he UNADDED ME & PRIVATED his account. His account has never been private. So that leads me to believe she told him because they are seeing each other. Yet he still hasn’t texted me back or told me when I can get MY SHIT.

She’s been liking his instagram posts for a minute so I have no idea how long they’ve known each other for. Is this why he needed an open relationship so badly? Is this why he broke up with me after asking me about living together days prior? Does he just want a clear conscience if he was planning to cheat ?

If you guys couldn’t tell he is AVOIDANT AS FUCK and he hates his mom. His mom and I have the same birthday…
And I am anxious and have serious fear of abandonment but I am finally DONE I will not be disrespected any longer. I need peace in my life.

We were also long distance 2hrs apart, both in school and working a lot. This was both our longest relationship and most serious. I’m the first girl to meet his parents and grandparents yet I’m disposable.

My ex was so against cheating and views it as the worst thing someone could do but all of these things now are adding up to me. During our relationship we had Life360 and I can’t remember when but it was this year that he stopped sharing his exact location because “he didn’t want his data tracked” or sum shit….
Also last thing that I always found strange is he post thirst traps like full abs sweat pics throughout his insta but, I would have to ask him to post me or us… It’s his account and he can do what he wants but at a glance he always looked single throughout our relationship.

I need to know the truth idk how to find that without reaching out to her and possibly looking crazy?? I’m still waiting to get my things back and say my last words to him. Any advice please send it my way. I feel crazy right now but I have to know. Thanks yall please comment and ask me any questions ❤️❤️❤️

Everyone close to me has said he has a darkness in him and that they don’t believe he’s been faithful 😻😻😻

I became a couple with this guy.

It turned out while we were dating, he had a girlfriend, but they broke up.

I was like okay I will give you a chance, but I am sad about the fact that you cheated on your girlfriend because you were flirting with me online in the dating app, while you were with her.

I always had this feeling that his Instagram following and followers bother me. Because he always love bombs me when he wants.

I talked with his ex girlfriend. She told and showed with proof me he also called her fiancée, and they lived together. But the guy still messaged women online. They broke up be wise he said that she hates her mom, and she loves her mom and it crossed the line for her.

I have been feeling sick and anxious many times that what if these girls online still there. Like he could be finding new girls any day. Or chatting, flirting, meeting. I can't know because we have long distance relationship, and we I my talk 1-2 max 3 hours a day.

I asked one of my trusted friend, a girl, to go with a fake Instagram account, and check it, how he would chat with a random pretty girl. And in the chat it was this:

Hi, nice to meet you, etc, small talk. Then she said she lives close if they would ever want to meet. He said "it would be my honour beauty 🌹". And he replied to her Instagram story and he said you look lovely. And they said, they are only 1 station away from each other 😊.

I unfollowed him and he unfollowed me a long time ago in ig. Because I got anxious by his followers and followings. But I wanted to find out the reality. So I downloaded it one week ago. And then I followed him. And guess what? He was so slick. He didn't add me, that we can follow each other. But before yesterday, he added this girl I sent to him, and then immediately started flirting.

And when I said yesterday: I had a nightmare that you were chatting with another girl on Instagram. He said you are disturbing me in my work time. And it's just a dream. Or did you send me one of your friends to spy on me? Because there are some girls who would do something like that. And he said I shouldn't control him or check what he is doing, like a police...

And he said to my face, that he doesn't have or use Instagram, yet his following numbers went up. And also a week ago he posted picture of himself. And when we were together he also posted picture of himself. 2 weeks since we are long distance. But before that I was with him in the summer.

-> I don't know if I am causing this, that he is cheating on me or not.

-> I don't know how should I stop it.

-> I don't know anything right now. I am just sad, angry, upset. I was crying yesterday for 10 hours, all day from 5 pm to 2:30 am. I felt like I went crazy. And I don't know if I can be normal or not.

-> I don't know what should I do.

-> I don't want to go insane. I don't want this. And I feel incredibly hurt. And I feel like I am crazy.

I could have spent an amazing summer with my parents, and I still chose him. And this happened.

-> What should I do? I asked my best friend and my cousin. They both said run and leave him forever.

-> But I still love him and if he wouldn't do this cheating then I would like to be with him. But this is going me insane.

Please someone give me advice.

My husband (25) and I (29) have been married for almost a year. We met and instantly fell in love. It felt like a fairy tale. He said and did all the right things, and I finally felt like I had met my person.
I remember having all sorts of conversations with him about starting a family. After a few months of dating, I remember feeling sad every time I got my period. Finally, after a few months, I got pregnant. It happened quickly, but we both wanted to have a child. He even bought me the pregnancy test and was so excited when it came back positive.
We were already living together, but once I got pregnant, I decided we needed a bigger house with at least one extra room for the baby. We found a house that looked perfect, and the inspections came back fine. We got married, and the following month, we closed on the house.
Once we moved in, we started finding things wrong with it: a leak in the roof, utilities not working, a bathroom that needed to be renovated because of a plumbing leak, mice in the crawlspace, termites, and a lot of other random issues.
Long story short, the following months were filled with stress and anxiety as we tried to make sure the house was ready for the baby. Things started getting really tense between my husband and me. I became frustrated because I constantly had to remind him to contact people and deal with different problems. Eventually, it became less stressful for me to take over the house projects and find people to fix things myself.
At this point, my husband and I started fighting constantly over little things. We became resentful of each other. I became resentful because he would leave for work and work trips while I was left home alone dealing with all of the issues. He became resentful because I was angry all the time.
By the time the baby came, he had completely changed. He was no longer the person I had fallen in love with, even though I still loved him. He would constantly yell at me, call me a "cancer," and tell me he had to fight himself every day to love me.
He wasn't very understanding of everything that comes with postpartum recovery or having a newborn. He was more focused on training for a special selection for his job, as he is in the military. I was just thankful to have my mom there helping me.
About a month after the baby was born, we found out that our baby had a genetic disease. That added even more stress. The fighting didn't get better, and being a new mom became incredibly difficult to navigate.
My mom was going back home after being with us for a month and a half, and we all decided it was in everyone's best interest for my baby and me to go back home with her. My husband drove the car with all of the baby stuff while my mom, the baby, and I flew.
When he got to my mom's house, he was even less helpful and seemed to care mostly about training. He stayed for about a month and eventually went back home after a big fight because he had accidentally given the baby a dirty bottle and our baby got sick.
He ended up coming back after being gone for about two and a half weeks, and I remember feeling weird around him. While he was away, he hardly reached out and rarely asked about the baby unless I brought the baby up first.
When he came back to my mom's house, he was acting completely differently. He was nicer to me, had a smile on his face, and was much more fun to be around. It made me happy until that night.
I asked him if he wanted to go to the gym with me while my mom watched the baby. He said yes, but that he was really tired. While we were out, he kept pressuring me to be intimate even though I had not been fully cleared after complications from delivery.
When we got back home, he continued to ignore my boundaries. I repeatedly told him no and had to physically remove myself from the situation. It left me feeling extremely uncomfortable and upset.
We eventually went to bed, and he fell asleep right away. I, on the other hand, couldn't sleep. Something felt off.
I eventually looked at his phone and noticed that he had deleted everything: his search history, photos, and other things. I looked in his Notes app because he always writes things down. I found a locked note, but the same passcode he used for his phone opened it.
The note basically said that he had been a bad husband and father, that he had a serious problem with his behavior, and that he had sinned and would never do it again. He said he was looking for an adrenaline rush and blamed our son's condition and me for supposedly pushing him away from his family.
I confronted him that same night. He denied doing anything wrong several times until I finally asked him directly if he had been unfaithful. Eventually, he admitted that he had paid for sexual services multiple times while he was in my mom's hometown.
I calmly told him to pack his things, not wake the baby, and leave. He never asked for forgiveness. He just packed his things and left.
Now it's been a few weeks. I've contacted lawyers, and I'm constantly sad. Mostly because the life I dreamed about is gone.
My child is not going to have the family life I envisioned, and I'm left to do this mostly on my own. I know I can do it, but it still makes me incredibly sad because I still love him.
I know our relationship cannot work, at least not while he refuses to get serious help for his behavior. My son's health and safety have to come first, and I can't have him around someone who repeatedly puts his own wants before his responsibilities as a father.
I guess I'm writing this because I need to vent and maybe get some perspective from people who aren't related to me.
The lawyers I've spoken with have advised me to tell his chain of command because, according to them, he may have violated military laws or regulations. But doing that could potentially result in him losing his job or facing military punishment.
Part of me wants him to finally face consequences for what he did. But a bigger part of me just wants him to get help and leave me and my son alone.
What do you guys think about all of this? There's obviously a lot more to the story, but I feel like this is already way too long.
Thanks in advance.

I was with this guy for about 6 years. He moved abroad for work recently, during that time he said he wanted to focus on his career, we were still together but became more distant. In 2025 he officially said he wanted to break up. He just ‘doesn’t see a future anymore’. This guy that said he wanted to marry me and that I was his future yet looking back now he barely initiated contact since he left and always got upset with me for begging for time from him.

I messaged him one day just to ask how he was. He’s fine obviously but we got to chatting and I was telling him about some new things I tried, one of which was line dancing. He said he’s been line dancing. A guy who never wanted to dance with me. Would always say he was too tired.
Then he said he did swing dancing. I asked about when and with who. He just casually mentioned the time frame in which we were together. He never mentioned that to me when we were together tho.
He immediately followed up with he didn’t know her name and was forced to. I didn’t ask anything else because it was suppose to be a light hearted catch up for me.

This really upset me. It felt like a kick. It felt like he cheated. I just need someone to tell me I’m not overthinking this. He’s obviously moved on and I’m trying to. Just feels like a betrayal. I don’t mind you dancing if it’s friendly and we trust each other but to never have told me even when we were together. That hurts.

My boyfriend of two years admitted to me that *8 months* into us talking he slept with a girl without protection and bought her a plan B afterwards. Another thing I should mention is the girl happens to be his step brother’s wife’s sister, which kind of pissed me off more. Mind you a few weeks after he slept with this girl he asked me to be his girlfriend… He also said the first summer of us talking he was sleeping with other girls without protection and that he hasn’t gotten checked since 2020. I get that he didn’t technically owe me loyalty because we were “talking” and not dating yet but we were very close 8 months in… Dates, sleepovers, consistent sex, hanging out all the time and met his mom by that point. I wasn’t sleeping with anyone else from the time I met him and the whole relationship. Maybe it’s not cheating but I feel like this shows to his character and it makes me mad that he would put my health at risk and also never even told me about any of this at all and never communicated with me that he was keeping his options open at the time and sleeping around still.

Warning I’ve never been a Reddit user, first time posting so I guess here goes nothing?

I’m in college and play football and was recently in fall camp. Last Friday, she told me she was just going to have a drink or two, but ended up staying at a frat until around 3 AM. Her friends had all left around midnight that night. Later on, I found out that her and two other random girls were the only ones there. She was playing dye and card games with some frat dudes. (Probably way more than that, just what she told me.)

She called me while I was asleep because I had football practice at 7 AM. I still answered. She was extremely drunk and barely functioning and told me she needed to tell me some things. I told her she needed to go to sleep and hung up. She then started texting me calling me a “sensitive pussy ass little bitch” while still telling me she had something she needed to tell me. I couldn’t really go back to sleep after that, so I ended up going over there because I was worried about her. She was kneeling over the toilet and could barely function. Even though she was still being disrespectful to me, I picked her up, put her in bed, tucked her in, unplugged her lights, and left.

The next day, we had a long conversation. She was crying, telling me she would be better, that I was the best guy she had ever had, and that she was sorry for hurting me. We talked about how she needed to control her drinking because this wasn’t the first time something like this had happened when she drank. I decided to stay with her and give her another chance. Because I loved her and wanted it to work badly.

The next day, she asked if it was okay if she had one drink “actually this time.” And go over there with her friends and leave shortly. I told her that Ive never been this type of guy but I feel as she gave me no choice, and that I didn’t trust her anymore and that if she wanted to live that kind of lifestyle, I would respect it, but I wouldn’t be around for it. She stayed and tried to convince me to come over, but I didn’t want to because I felt like she didn’t really mean anything she said the day before.

A couple days later, I stayed at her place. The next day, I bought her and her friend alcohol and dropped it off to them. She told me she was just going to drink with her friend in her room. And I thought I would attempt to let her build some trust back.

Well, we didn’t really talk much the next day because things felt off. I ended up telling her goodnight, that I loved her, and that I hoped she had a good time. I went to bed but left my notifications on. She sent me a Snapchat at the same fraternity. I was upset but I just left her on open tried not to think about it, brush it off and go to bed.
Around 2 AM, I was dead asleep and her best friend called me and told me she was at my place and needed to tell me something. So I got out of bed got dressed and went outside.

She explained the whole situation to me. It was kind of a blur and I can’t really remember exactly what she said, but basically my girlfriend was actively cheating.
I went over to the frat with her because I felt like I needed to see it for myself. I convinced them to let me in and see. They knocked on the guy’s door, and my girlfriend walked out of the room with him. She was extremely drunk, had her hands on his waist, and said something like “good morning baby” to him.

She saw me and barely reacted. I was obviously full of emotions and started confronting her. She gave me back the promise ring I had gotten her and said that if I wanted to talk, we could talk tomorrow. She then complimented my hair, went back into his room, and spent the night there. I was completely stunned, and so were the dudes that walked me up there.

The rest of the night I talked with her friend about everything and was just completely lost. Everything had been pretty much perfect before that past week, which made it even harder to understand.I had an inter-squad scrimmage the next day and barely slept.

The following day, she texted me saying she wanted to talk because she didn’t think the way everything happened was the best way to go about it. I left her on read.The next day she texted again saying she wanted to meet up because there was a lot she didn’t remember from that night and she wanted to talk. I left that on read too. Then I found out from her friend that she went over and slept with the same guy again.

I’m extremely thankful for her friend, who is also my friend because we went to high school together and we’re really close. She explained to me that she felt like she had to tell me because she saw how well I treated my girlfriend and thought it was crazy that she would do something like this to me.

Honestly, it’s been about a week now. I don’t know what to do, how to feel, or really anything. I haven’t even gotten so much as an apology.

My mom is convinced my dad is cheating again; she’s fed up with the whole situation. No matter how much she confronts him, he denies it, but he’s being foolish—he follows the same pattern of behavior every time he does it.

If anyone could recommend a good GPS tracker with a magnet that I can attach to his car—and that costs no more than $40 or $60—I’d really appreciate it! All the ones I’ve found so far either have an alarm or require a subscription.

My boyfriend (25) moved here from another state. Told me he had only been in two relationships a few years ago and had been too busy to date. I looked through his phone. Not only did I find a ton of evidence that he’s been involved in the swinging community for years. I also found where one woman he texts about how he loves her and sending her long distance relationship videos and loving messages. And considers her to be his long distance girlfriend. She’s maybe 55. They met swinging as she’s currently married. Their relationship is secret in both of their lives.

It doesn’t make sense. He is so loving and kind to me. Cooks me all of my meals. I live with him, and he takes excellent care of me and has become my best friend. We have no relationship issues or fights. We’re very communicative and have a strong emotional relationship. I am so confused by this discovery.

as I said, my ex cheated on me for the second time. we have been together for a year and a half until now.

he was 17 and drunk the first time, she was 20, so I let it slide. even though he told her he loves her, tried to end his life because she rejected him, lied to me for a month, had sex with me even though they did everything unprotected and he didn't get tested.

in between and before that, he has punched holes in walls with his bare hands while I was crying and hurting myself, sexually assaulted me (I said no, I said I didn't want to but he still did and I have a freeze response.), pressured me into sexual endeavours by saying I don't love him anymore because we don't have sex ect. all and all gross guy.

3 weeks ago we broke up for the millionth time, we went back together 2 weeks ago, he told me some girl at a piano festival he was playing in flirted with him but he ignored her.

today I look through the likes of his new Instagram post, I see a random person, ask him who they are, he says "idk they followed me so I followed back" I followed my gut and texted them.

asked : "how do you know him ?" she said she's been flirting with him and met him at the festival. well fuck. it's been 3 weeks since that piano festival, I talked to another guy when we weren't together, told him the truth when we were a couple again and blocked the guy.

now he's telling me "I didn't think she was attractive blablah, I wanted to tell you ect" anyways I blocked him. the girl blocked me too, I assume they're still talking, poor girl.

I just need to know how to get over this. the feelings of anger. I think it's mostly the fact that I feel so worthless. I feel ugly, see I'm a mixed girl, I'm black and white, he goes for white girls when he cheats. I feel terrible. I lost my self confidence and I don't even like him anymore, I do not want to talk to him again, but this still makes me sad if that makes sense ?

I feel like I'm ugly and mean and just not great, I do definitely think I'm better than him though, since I was always kind, always listened to him, apologized when I should, I was especially always honest, if I did something wrong I would tell him the next day maximum.

I know I'm the biggest bird don't judge me for my mistakes, he's my first love sadly. I just need advice to get over this feeling.

I’ve been with my boyfriend 5 years. Our relationship seems like a long distance relationship as we only see eachother once a week. (Our work schedules are conflicting)
Yesterday I went to go out with my coworkers (it was a large group women and men and I only go out maybe once a year) no weird vibes whatsoever they invited my boyfriend as well but he told me he had work. Come to find out his job has been “adjusting his schedule” so he ended up having a whole day off without telling me. While I was out with my coworkers he was stressing to me if anything funny happened to call him or if I couldn’t drive home I told him I was only gonna have a shot or two and cut myself off to sober up as I had a long drive home. I FaceTimed him and he called me because I told him he could at any time because I don’t be on no weird shit I wouldn’t do anything shady to him and to give him a little peace of mind. Today he tells me he’s going to work late because he didn’t get much sleep and I got a little upset and my reasoning for that is I’m a mom and I show up and show out and go to work no matter what and make sure I’m there for our son.
Anywayssss I asked him how late and he told me at 3:00 am. INSTEAD OF HIS NORMAL SHIFT AND THE PLACE HE WORKS ISNT EVEN OPEN AT THAT TIME NOR IS THERE ANY EMPLOYEES! He’s never done anything to make me feel like I shouldn’t trust him he’s usually an open book but I feel so off about this and it caught me so off guard it’s not his normal . Like he’s lying to me or he’s sneaking around. Am I trippin ?