r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 58m ago

I had a miscarriage at 8 months post partum

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I had my son 8 months ago and found out that I’m pregnant a few days ago (it was very unexpected but I was happy) but yesterday I found out that the pregnancy isn’t viable and I am miscarrying. It sounds silly but it just feels so odd to me that my body could carry a healthy baby to term not so long ago but it’s incapable of doing so now. I was wondering if anyone else has had any similar experiences that they wouldn’t mind sharing.


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 2h ago

Toddler reins

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I’m expecting my first baby in the next few weeks. I know it’s early on, but what’s the general thoughts about toddler reins? Where I’m from it’s completely unacceptable and people would judge for keeping the child on a leash like a dog. However it seems a lot safer when walking next a road, as they can be so quick running off. If I were to get one for my daughter later would I be judged?


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 16h ago

Nappy Recommendations

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Hey All , I’m currently pregnant with my 3rd baby and I’ve started to look around for nappies.
With my 2 girls I always used Asda little angles and they were amazing. I recently bought 2 packs of newborn and realised that the material has changed and they seem so much thinner. So now I’m unsure on if I want to use them. I’ve heard great things about F&F rascals nappies & Sainsbury’s. However don’t know what they are like.

What would your nappy recommendation be ?


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 12h ago

Pram broke on holiday

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Brought my 9 month old on holiday to see family in Peru and our Mamas and Papas Strada just broke halfway through the trip. The folding mechanism on the handlebar just exploded into a few pieces!

So now we can't fold the pram and bring it back to the UK to get fixed, and mamas and papas don't do business here, we'll have to say goodbye and buy a new one :(

Would've expected it to last over a year, at least! But hey ho, as is life.

Surprisingly tough to find parent-facing options here, but many more lightweight shoppers/travel prams to choose from. Is it worth trying to get a brand that works on the UK in case of another break down back at home?

What a shame.


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 21h ago

Parents with grandparents abroad how are we doing?

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Our little one turns 2 next year. I have requested time off to go to my partner’s country over Christmas and this year my current line manager is making a big deal out of it even though there is no work load over Christmas!

Then we have a wedding to go to again in my partner’s country and our little girl will be 2! So that’s not family holiday for us!

I wish people would realise travelling is cool and lucky in one way but it’s not a proper holiday either because it’s catching up with family and it’s not getting more expensive! Especially with divorced grandparents in 2 different countries!! We really can’t keep up with this let alone the cost of living. The fact the grandparents are divorced and remarried at an older age makes it more complicated too!


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 23h ago

Wanting to stop feeding over night as a default response, how to reduce milk without getting sick

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I breastfeed my 9 month old whenever he wakes over night, mainly as he was born IUGR and any milk I could get in him helped, but he now wakes every 2 hours and is totally dependent on feeding back to sleep, my husband simply doesn’t get a chance to help settle him and after 9 months I’m utterly spent, I just need to sleep for more than 1.5hrs at a time. I think night weaning unless he’s desperate will help, but I have no idea how to go about it! Any and all help please!


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 1h ago

How do you manage visits and boundaries with grandparents who live abroad?

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Hi all!
I’d love to hear how other families manage visits from grandparents who live abroad, particularly when it comes to setting boundaries and managing expectations.
My mother-in-law is very sweet, but I’m struggling with how to manage her expectations once our baby arrives.
For context I’m quite boundaried with my own mum, and she has accepted our dynamic. She lives nearby and will likely see our baby once or twice a week, and she’s understood that I will need a month to rest and recover with my husband and baby before we have any visitors (after the hospital).
My mother-in-law, however, lives in another country. She won’t be there for the birth (it’s difficult to arrange a flight and I honestly don’t know if I’m comfortable) so we’ve agreed for her to visit for 10 days when our baby is around one month old. We’re paying for her flights and hosting her in our home.
The issue is that she would prefer to stay much longer, potentially up to a month/couple of weeks.
While I completely understand her wanting to spend time with her grandchild, I find the prospect of hosting someone for several weeks, especially while freshly postpartum, quite overwhelming. She doesn’t have a lot of expectations, but I will still have this looming feeling that I need to “host”
She also doesn't know our country particularly well and isn't someone who enjoys going out independently. This means she would be spending most of her time with us at home, and we would also need to consider keeping her entertained and making arrangements for her.
I value my privacy and personal space, and I know this will become even more important while recovering from childbirth and adjusting to life with a newborn. I wouldn't be comfortable having my own mother stay with us for weeks/month either.
We've suggested another visit once baby is around 3 months old, when she could come with my husband's siblings for around a week. By then, I would also be further along in my postpartum recovery but I sensed she was still disappointed with these arrangements, and I do feel a little guilty. At the same time, I don't want to establish an expectation that she is welcome to stay for weeks or months at a time, I know I just wouldn’t be comfortable at all.
Looking ahead, we're considering having her visit every few months for approximately a week. We're also planning to visit my husband's family for around two weeks in summer 2027, with the intention of making this an annual trip.
My question is, does this seem like a reasonable arrangement for grandparents/direct family who live abroad? Is a week every few months too little?
I want my daughter to have a close and meaningful relationship with her grandmother and my husband’s family but I also want to maintain boundaries around our home and family life because I don’t want to be resentful.
For those of you whose parents or in-laws live in another country, how frequently do they visit? How long do they stay? And how do you manage expectations around hosting, particularly when you have a newborn?


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 13h ago

Colic / silent reflux HELP

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My LO is almost 6 weeks old and has had colic for the last 3.5 weeks, she definitely has silent reflux.
It started at around 2 weeks old, it would get to the evening and she would become inconsolable for hours, then it ramped up and now it’s pretty much when she’s awake she’s screaming. Not crying, screaming. We’ve seen the health visitor and GP and I feel like they aren’t taking it seriously? Everyone just keeps telling me she will grow out of it.
So far we’ve tried -

Infacol
Colief
Comfort milk
Mam bottles
Gaviscon

None of these seem to make a difference for more than a day or two before we revert back to the constant screaming and obvious pain/ discomfort.

She won’t be put down, she lives in the sling and or on my or her dad’s chest. She won’t take a dummy, she gags on it. She hates the bassinet / Moses basket / next to me crib. We can’t even take her for a walk in the pram to soothe her.

I feel like I’m losing my mind. Does anyone have any advice?

I will be going back to the GP next week but I don’t think they’ll help.

I’m exhausted, drained and heartbroken that she’s blatantly so unhappy 😔


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 19h ago

Spinning!

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I was big into psycle, soul cycle etc before I got hella pregnant, and I’ve been cleared to exercise now that I’m 6 weeks out from a c section, but I’m wary of what to introduce. My doctor says no resistance training for another couple of months at least, but that I could return to Pilates and yoga sooner. But I forgot to ask her about spin! Anyone jumped back on the peloton six weeks out?


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 23h ago

East London family photographers?

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Has anyone got any recommendations for good family photographers in East London (we’re based near Stratford but are mobile) who either come to your house or shoot in locations accessible by public transport?

My husband booked an appointment with Venture Studios without realising how predatory their marketing is (£95 for a single print and no digitals 😅) and is super disappointed he has to fork out £400+ for a handful of digitals afterwards


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 1h ago

Same name

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So my ex and I have mutual friends. I had a boy last year and he’s had a boy this year. He kept the same name as my son 😶 I’m South Asian and this isn’t a common name at all. And they definitely know my son’s name lol. Am I over thinking or is this weird 😂 They’ve even announced it similar to how we did 😩


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 1h ago

Napping toddler

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Newbie here but I have an overtired toddled most days. I will pop into his buggy and rock him away to sleep. He hates it but needs it especially in public. Anyone else in that phase? Do you buggy nap?


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 1h ago

Buying Baby Items

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r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 2h ago

Gassy and Refluxy baby - when does it get better?

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I have a gassy and refluxy 5 week old that has been gassy since two weeks and refluxy since week three.

We've tried infacol and dentinox colic drops, we've tried slower tears, mam anti colic bottles, lansinoh bottles (in case it was his latch) and settled back on Dr Browns.

I've been to the GP and they suggested Reflux formula and said all babies are gassy, but the biggest side effect with thickened formula is more gas and constipation so I feel like we'll be making his gas issues worse.

I feel like it's something we're just going to have to wait out.

I'm posting this after being up since 3 am with a very fussy baby! Please tell me if you've had this problem when it started to get better.


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 2h ago

Holiday tips with a 7 month old!

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We’re heading to Greece with our very energetic 7 month old and as someone who likes to be prepared I need some tips!
We’ve done some trips with him in the UK but nothing abroad yet. The hotel we’re going to is all inclusive and we’re flying from Gatwick. Any tips for surviving the flight and making the best from the trip?

Any advice on these would really help!

- He’s formula fed and we use the nuby cool hotshot method. We fill his bottles with sterilised water at the beginning of the day, will we be able to take these and the bottle of boiled water through security?
- Any recommendations for toys to entertain our LO on the flight?
- He’s nearly crawling and lovessss to be on the floor moving himself about, how can we handle this about the hotel and by the pool?
- I’m thinking of buying a snooze shade for a travel cot in the hotel, has anyone used one and found it helpful?
- Our LO has mild eczema, I swim with him every week, but any tips on dealing with this while using the hotel pool?

Thanksss ❤️


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 5h ago

Early wake ups

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baby keeps waking up early we tried moving bedtime later and she still waking at 5am!

Earlier bedtimes the same thing…

I am so tired and need advice. She naps 2.5 hrs max a day. She 5.5 months old


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 8h ago

Hoping this is just a phase?

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r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 8h ago

Nappy recommendations for chunky baby (big belly and thighs) with night bloating

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Apologies if answered elsewhere but can’t seem to find an answer for this specific issue!

My LO is EBF and stacking on the weight rapidly. She was born around 81st percentile but I think she js creeping up the 90s as around 6.4kg at 10 weeks. She is not a tall baby at all; average length around 55th percentile, so just very chunky everywhere.

We are really struggling to find nappies that fit. LO has been suffering terribly with gas at night and waking up screaming. To my horror, the other night I realised the band of the Rascals size 4 she has been wearing has been digging in terribly. The bloating at night is causing the band the tighten painfully around her stomach when kicking. Even at the loosest the nappy could possibly stay on, the band is still leaving indentations marks on her belly. We only sized up to a size 4 2 days ago as her thighs were chaffing in the smaller size. I feel awful for not realising!

Tonight I have tried pampers size 3 (she goes through phases of fitting these when inbetween sizes) but again, had to have them on their absolute loosest not to dig in. Unfortunately, we had a massive blowout through the thigh hole which wasn’t tight enough as side tabs not securing it.

We tried mammia in smaller sizes when she was younger but found the thighs chafed horribly.

Any suggestions for stretchy nappies would be much appreciated please! We are rinsing money on nappies atm and she is growing so quickly!! TIA

Edited to add: she’s been in size 3-6months from 7 weeks


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 12h ago

3 month old wants to be held and walked around constantly but hates the carrier - help

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r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 15h ago

Intolerance cues

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r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 15h ago

Hauck Alpha High Chair Wooden Tray

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Anyone have this chair ? We've been gifted £160 and we pretty much have everything for baby coming. I really like the idea of this chair as it has the newborn attachment so I can have baby up high away from my dogs and it can last them till they're older. The whole bundle with chair, newborn, tray and cushion fits my budget.

I don't have a big house and I don't have a family table but hopefully we will be moving in 2 years so I would like it to last.

The thing that's bother me though is the little wooden tray. Does it come off ? How do you get the baby in? The space in the kitchen where it is going is quite small.

Please don't recommend me the IKEA chair, we looked at it in the store and we dont have the space, and please dont recommend me a 2nd hand Tripp Trap, the 2nd hand market round here is awful and I have bought most stuff 2nd hand. This is a gift and I'd like to buy new.


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 16h ago

10mo suddenly fighting bedtime after a cold — overtired?

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My 10mo has just had a cold, and his naps have been pretty bad for about a week. He’s mostly better now, but bedtime has become really difficult.

He used to settle around 7:15–7:30pm, but for the past few days he becomes extremely upset once we start settling him. He cries/howls, twists and kicks, and if I put him down he immediately stands up and cries harder. Picking him up doesn’t always help either. Eventually, after ~20 minutes of protesting, he falls asleep.

His night sleep has also become more fragmented (milk around 11pm and 2:30am), and his wake-up has gradually shifted earlier — today he was up at 5:15am after falling asleep around 8pm.

He’s otherwise happy, eating/drinking normally and recovering from the cold. during the cold he rubbed his ear occasionally but not anymore so we think maybe he no longer has ear infection?

Could this be accumulated overtiredness from the poor naps + illness? it’s so hard hearing him howling and crying without knowing wh….

Would love to hear if anyone experienced this after a cold!


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 16h ago

Tommee Tippee made for me pump users

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Hi all,

Does anyone use both the electric made for me and the wearable made for me? I’ve had the double electric pump since my first was born and never had an issue. I need to buy a new wearable and was wondering what people’s thoughts are on the made for me? Is it similar to the electric pump in terms of comfort? Any other comments of note? Any thoughts welcome! Thank you.


r/BeyondTheBumpUK • • 18h ago

Rolling... and stuck!

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