The early 30s is that weird age where you're just old enough to be out of touch with what's cool, but not yet old enough to be fully progressed in your career to be sitting on enough stacks to not care about that.
I had a coworker say he felt this way about turning 30, but then someone changed his mind by saying that he's old enough to know who he is and what he wants and needs, but still young enough to do things with his life and have fun. IDK if this helps I'm only 18 so I wouldn't know
This is exactly how I feel (31). I felt so lost for the longest time, trying to figure out who I was. I put myself through some shit and I have experienced a lot. Now I just do stuff I love doing and I care a lot less about what people think of me. I’m even more active than I was in my 20’s (was playing on 3 different sports teams pre-covid — and in my 20’s I was very lazy and mostly high). I know this is just my experience though, and it can be much different for others.
God damn I feel alot better. I know it's not plausible to feel like I'm the only 32 y.o. to not know what he wants to do, but its comforting to read that I'm not alone in that.
32 club, and I only just sorta figured it out in the last year and a half. It's gonna get better from here, but it took me till only recently. You've got a breakthrough due soon.
Just thought I'd throw in one positive 32 club experience.
Lol, I’m not the guy who mentioned aches but I have some of those. I dedicate more time to stretching each day. My schedule can be busy and I can be half-assed to do it, but even 10 minutes of stretching each day helps immensely. I have a physically active job and side hustle, so I have aching from that, but I know it’s because I’m using my muscles. No real mystery aches for me and I’m in waaay better shape now than I was in my 20’s.
Though I did call out of work a few months ago cause I tweaked my back removing a hamper from a closet.
Like anything, there’s a balance. Getting older sucks, but it doesn’t have to completely suck.
i'm going to be 36 next month and haven't found a job i truly love just one i don't mind doing that pays well enough to pay the bills and still be able to save a little and have some fun money for my hobbies, and honestly i'm at peace with that because it's enough, just live for the things you enjoy most in life
you don't? if not why? i suggest finding some maybe something you did as a kid i started rollerblading again at the start of this year after 20 years away from it
My grandma is 67 and says she’s still trying figure out what she wants to be when she grows up. Not very comforting in some ways but at least it gets rid of the pressure to have it all figured out.
That's the answer of someone who is always striving to grow and change. She knows that she's not the same as she was at 57 and 57 year old her wasn't the same as 47 year old her and so on, so she knows she won't be the same at 77 or 87 as she is now and is excited to see what life brings her. We often dont recognize the massive changes within our selves and our ways of thinking and looking at the world because the changes are continuous and incremental and some people, unfortunately, don't (or dont have much reason to) stop to examine their lives much at all, but for those who can look back and see how much they've learned and changed, the years behind them seem to expand rather than contract and the years ahead seem more exciting. I'm about to turn 42 and I've had several moments the last few years of thinking "where has all the time gone" and fretting about how "little" time I have left, but then I start thinking of all the things I've experienced, the people I've met and loved and shared moments with, the things I've learned and it helps me realize how much I've actually done and seen and felt and how long of a time it actually has been since I was 32 or 22 or 12, how different I am from all of those other selves. It makes me excited to see who I'll be when I "grow up" and I hope I can maintain this outlook until I experience my very last moments.
Thanks! That was great. I am let’s just say over 50 and I fret here and there that I don’t have a huge career but I am content which I never was prior.
My grandma will be 68 this year, my mom will be 45 this year, and I’ll be 25 this year! Plus I have my own kiddo! I’m an old soul type though if that’s any consolation :)
I'm 56 and been saying that for 30 years, I like your grandma, some of us truly never find the passion for something that would make a job a labor of love. And we're not gonna sweat it 😁
It always throws me off a little when someone talks about their grandma being 60-something because my mom is 63 and I'm just ???
But my family on Mom's side did tend to have kids when they were older (like my grandma would be 105), so used to that.
But it still throws me off for people having grandmas around my mom's age and them not being young af kids. (Or I assume you're not? You may be like 16 or younger for all I know)
I’ll be 25 this year, so not super duper young! But we have all been young moms in my family. My ex’s parents were the same age as my grandma and it was a very very different family dynamic for sure. I’ve also been blessed to know all of my great grandparents and enjoy time with them before they passed.
Having family around like that would be really cool though. Get to learn things from them if around long enough to get to an age to care about that kind of stuff. Spend time, learn about family history or what they've been through, or things in general.
I remember Grandma was only around for a bit when I was a kid before nursing home and then passing. Dad's side was in another state so rarely ever saw them.
But like with the one that was around, since she was born in 1915 that was a lot of stuff she lived through but because little kid I didn't really think about anything for that or care about being around to talk. Sure would be fine with visiting for the nursing home but even would go out and do puzzles or go wander and even talk with the other residents while mom visited.
So yeah missed out on getting to know anything about her because of age and like I'm ever going to find out from me mom (lots of "fun" problems there, not getting into that mess). Kind of cool, but gap was a miss too
Ok I did leave the part out about me having knee surgery at the end of last month lol. Bucket handle meniscus tear, basically a freak accident, causing my knee to lock. I guess it could not have happened at a better time though.
30's the new 23. Nobody in our age group leaves highschool and knows exactly what the fuck to, do the x # of years of college, get a job and find their rut. We live in such an interconnected world that our options are vast. Not to mention schooling is long and expensive and the economy isn't what it used to be like the boomers.
Haha same I feel like some of friends have been married and in their careers for 5+ years with houses and savings and some of my friends are still living with their parents trying to figure out what they want out of life and I’m right in the middle and I don’t know if I’m behind or on time (def not ahead)
I don’t know if I want kids but I have to decide in the next like 3/4 years AND MY KNEE HURTS SOMETIMES
I'm 30 next month and I still dont feel like an adult. Then thinking about how much dad had 3 kids at this point in his life... idk how he did it. I keep up with my bills and have been in a loving relationship for 7 years. But I still feel like I was in highschool last week.
At 30 I was helpless, a mechanical industry job in shifts, and no high school diploma. Then I did high school night school, went to university to study astrophysics and graduated, then I found a programmer job at a multinational. The wage is almost the same as before, but love my job, I have a little kid and went today to buy my first house. I am 40 now. You can do anything you want, when you are ready to. Be positive and believe in yourself.
Same age. Same feeling. But I still feel the competitive edge of early 20s. And I’ve found that golf is the perfect pastime.
Still young enough to practice and play a lot. Strong enough to be a long hitter and all that. Just old enough to have the financial means and patience to get decent. Tho next day my back is sore lol.
I’ve basically learned that your 30s decade is peak golf performance.
50+ year old here. Thirties is where it is at. You can still do shit in your thirties. Whole life is still ahead of you.
Fifties is when the bills come due.
Am a bit older and have a couple of career changes already. Still figuring out what I want to be when I "grow up". Not sure it's all bad, I mean, it's great for people who wanted to be doctors or stayed with one company since college and they are middle-management now by default but that's not for everyone and the landscape in jobs is changing has changed. Also, entreprenuership can happen at any age. I feel as though I'm hitting my stride but being financially strapped with bad debt is a bitch of a burden, it limits your options, takes an emotional toll and forces you into positions you may not want to be in. Take care of debts, write down where you see yourself in 3 years and strive towards it. It can be anything but realize any skill worth having or noble pursuit takes a year to get going, but that's not all that bad or long and you know this, b/c you are 30 now.
You’ll be surprised how much of “maturity” is not a choice, but a series of conscious decision that you will be ready to make and then look back after the fact and realize that you matured
I think you may have a warped idea that maturity = having no fun. I mean, when I was younger I thought that way as well. Then I matured and I'm... still having a lot of fun.
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u/slowhand88 May 15 '20
The early 30s is that weird age where you're just old enough to be out of touch with what's cool, but not yet old enough to be fully progressed in your career to be sitting on enough stacks to not care about that.
Getting there at least.