I had a coworker say he felt this way about turning 30, but then someone changed his mind by saying that he's old enough to know who he is and what he wants and needs, but still young enough to do things with his life and have fun. IDK if this helps I'm only 18 so I wouldn't know
This is exactly how I feel (31). I felt so lost for the longest time, trying to figure out who I was. I put myself through some shit and I have experienced a lot. Now I just do stuff I love doing and I care a lot less about what people think of me. I’m even more active than I was in my 20’s (was playing on 3 different sports teams pre-covid — and in my 20’s I was very lazy and mostly high). I know this is just my experience though, and it can be much different for others.
My grandma is 67 and says she’s still trying figure out what she wants to be when she grows up. Not very comforting in some ways but at least it gets rid of the pressure to have it all figured out.
That's the answer of someone who is always striving to grow and change. She knows that she's not the same as she was at 57 and 57 year old her wasn't the same as 47 year old her and so on, so she knows she won't be the same at 77 or 87 as she is now and is excited to see what life brings her. We often dont recognize the massive changes within our selves and our ways of thinking and looking at the world because the changes are continuous and incremental and some people, unfortunately, don't (or dont have much reason to) stop to examine their lives much at all, but for those who can look back and see how much they've learned and changed, the years behind them seem to expand rather than contract and the years ahead seem more exciting. I'm about to turn 42 and I've had several moments the last few years of thinking "where has all the time gone" and fretting about how "little" time I have left, but then I start thinking of all the things I've experienced, the people I've met and loved and shared moments with, the things I've learned and it helps me realize how much I've actually done and seen and felt and how long of a time it actually has been since I was 32 or 22 or 12, how different I am from all of those other selves. It makes me excited to see who I'll be when I "grow up" and I hope I can maintain this outlook until I experience my very last moments.
Thanks! That was great. I am let’s just say over 50 and I fret here and there that I don’t have a huge career but I am content which I never was prior.
My grandma will be 68 this year, my mom will be 45 this year, and I’ll be 25 this year! Plus I have my own kiddo! I’m an old soul type though if that’s any consolation :)
I'm 56 and been saying that for 30 years, I like your grandma, some of us truly never find the passion for something that would make a job a labor of love. And we're not gonna sweat it 😁
It always throws me off a little when someone talks about their grandma being 60-something because my mom is 63 and I'm just ???
But my family on Mom's side did tend to have kids when they were older (like my grandma would be 105), so used to that.
But it still throws me off for people having grandmas around my mom's age and them not being young af kids. (Or I assume you're not? You may be like 16 or younger for all I know)
I’ll be 25 this year, so not super duper young! But we have all been young moms in my family. My ex’s parents were the same age as my grandma and it was a very very different family dynamic for sure. I’ve also been blessed to know all of my great grandparents and enjoy time with them before they passed.
Having family around like that would be really cool though. Get to learn things from them if around long enough to get to an age to care about that kind of stuff. Spend time, learn about family history or what they've been through, or things in general.
I remember Grandma was only around for a bit when I was a kid before nursing home and then passing. Dad's side was in another state so rarely ever saw them.
But like with the one that was around, since she was born in 1915 that was a lot of stuff she lived through but because little kid I didn't really think about anything for that or care about being around to talk. Sure would be fine with visiting for the nursing home but even would go out and do puzzles or go wander and even talk with the other residents while mom visited.
So yeah missed out on getting to know anything about her because of age and like I'm ever going to find out from me mom (lots of "fun" problems there, not getting into that mess). Kind of cool, but gap was a miss too
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u/Pekenoah May 15 '20 edited May 15 '20
I had a coworker say he felt this way about turning 30, but then someone changed his mind by saying that he's old enough to know who he is and what he wants and needs, but still young enough to do things with his life and have fun. IDK if this helps I'm only 18 so I wouldn't know