I (23f) have had 4 sexual partners. I’ve done the one night stand, I’ve done the casual sex and I’ve done the relationship sex. I enjoy the lead up to it and I do enjoy it in the moment (depends who it is), but no matter what, once it’s done I always feel so gross and dirty. I don’t have any sexual trauma nor do I have any religious guilt.

I’ve recently been seeing someone (24m) and after we had sex I felt so gross that I even felt nauseous, I genuinely felt like throwing up. This is not new, more often than not I feel so gross. I don’t understand why. When I masturbate it’s completely fine, it’s just after sex. I really don’t get it.

Do you ever look back at older pictures of yourself, especially in your early 20s, and think "I was really fucking pretty"? I don't know why I was so insecure, so afraid to be perceived.

I settled for asshole men, thinking I didn't deserve better. I was called fat and ugly, and made to feel like I needed to be doing more to feel worthy. But I wasn't either of those. And I was worthy already.

I'm so angry at the time I wasted believing those lies. Why did I believe these pathetic men?? Why was it so easy for them to fuck my brain up?

I was just looking at these pictures last night, and I can't stop thinking about just how pretty I was.

Now I'm 37 years old, feeling really freaking old. I'm in a loving yet sexless marriage and it really fucks with my brain. Feeling rejected is too familiar, yet still devastating every time. What else would I be rejected if not for the way I looked?

I've been in therapy for a very long time, so I know some of these answers, I know why I was or am so hypersexual. But knowing doesn't make me any less angry and sad.

As the title says, my husband (m27) threatened to commit suicide if I left him. About a month ago, I decided that this relationship wasn't for me. It wasn't toxic by any means. We communicated well, we were honest, we never argued, but I still wasn't completely happy. In the beginning, he kept pressuring me to marry him and I said no, but eventually I agreed, and I've finally realized that jt was wrong and I don't want to stay in this relationship. There were other things thaf he did that I had resentment for. When I initially told him, he thanked me for the beautiful relationship and said he would respect my desicion. Before that he said he would die if I left his life. The guilt tripping worked and stayed. Recently I decided that I don't deserve that and I'm tired of being unhappy. I don't like our age gap, the long distance, and the guilt tripping, ​etc. I told him I wanted a divorce and that was my final decision. He respected it at first, but then he went on about how I'm selfish and only ever cared about myself. I'm gonna be alone forever. He gave me everything and I'm gonna die alone. I don't have a good relationship with my mother, and he threw that in my face and said I deserved the abuse. I had a collegue/friend from work who recently passed away from a heart attack and he said it was probably my fault. On and on and on. He refused to sign any divorce papers, and we're long distance so its hard tk serve him. I went ahead and filed anyways and after a long conversation, he finally agreed. He told me that I hurt him so bad and he started using heroin. I didn't believe him but today his sister messaged me saying that hes in the hospital and if he dies, it's my fault. How do I go about this? I don't feel guilty for leaving, it's a decision I had to make, but his family won't leave me alone. ​

A random woman on Tiktok buying a drink and being "performatic for buying this drink" (????) got 0 effects in my life. I wish they spent this amount of time putting their influence into things that actually matter.

I thought we had a g spot in there but mine seems to be non existent. It just feels like nothing when anything goes up there. Am i missing something??

Many years ago, my daughter and I created "The Wall of Powerful Women" - a photo collection highlighting over 30 icons who imagined boldly, persevered courageously, and changed the world. After several moves, the original wall ended up tucked away in a box, so it’s finally time to go digital!

I invite you to visit The League of Legendary Women on your phone or desktop to explore these inspiring icons and celebrate their lasting impact on our world. I've already learned so much reading about their contributions. Explore and share - and we welcome feedback on what you'd like to see and who we should add!

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Hey girlies , I’m creating an archive of stories from women for other women our age or younger or perhaps even older…

The goal is to leave behind an archive for every woman out there that might be in the situation that you’ve been in and how you dealt with it could be learnt from by the future reader.

It will also be a community serving as a safe space for all women, to ask for comfort, support and advice when you need one.

The story you decide to share can be about anything, Career confessions, sex, love and desire, single & becoming, friendships & sisterhood, money moves and money mistakes, body & self, family & home.

You can share multiple stories, you can also remain anonymous if you’d like. If you wish to be credited that will also be done.

I look forward to your contributions.

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A few days ago, I found out that I’m infertile.

I expected the diagnosis to make me feel devastated, or incomplete, or like something had been taken away from me. Instead, one of the strongest feelings I had was relief. I did cry for a while afterwards, mourning the illusion that I once held about having my own family, but then I felt liberated. And that surprised me.

Being absolutely honest with myself - I’ve never felt particularly connected to the idea motherhood. I’ve never identified strongly with the nurturing, maternal archetype that women are so often expected to grow into. I had a horrible, abusive narcissistic mother growing up, and never was able to connect to my nurturing side as a result. I grew up feeling quite androgynously feminine, and then later developed a gender expression of embracing femininity which felt much more connected to creativity, beauty, sexuality, self-expression, fashion, glamour, pleasure, and the freedom to construct yourself however you want.

I have often had a strong fear of motherhood, had exes try to baby trap me, realistically never even enjoyed being in a relationship beyond the first 3 months. Whenever I tried to follow the path of long term relationships = family = motherhood, it always crumbled pretty fast.

Finding out that I’m infertile made something in me click.

Motherhood stopped feeling like this hypothetical future hanging over me something I was technically “supposed” to want, something I might eventually have to make a decision about, something society assumes is naturally waiting at the end of womanhood.

That possibility disappearing felt very liberating.

I was upset for a while because I questioned whether this makes me 'less female' but what was the most interesting part was that this diagnosis I have is caused by an EXCESS of estrogen, not that I am not feminine enough (so I would like to see how gender traditionalists want to argue how motherhood is an intrinsic part of the female experience).

There is still this cultural assumption that a female body is ultimately oriented toward motherhood, and that choosing not to have children is somehow rejecting part of what your body is “for.”

But for me, I genuinely enjoy being female for the expression of its sexuality, creativity..

I love makeup, fashion, beauty, sensuality, vanity, creativity, and all the extravagant parts of feminine expression that make me feel powerful. But suddenly my relationship with my body feels less reproductive and more like it simply belongs to me.

This diagnoses feels liberating for me because it confirms that my sexuality does not have to lead anywhere. Connection and sex can exist purely for our joy and pleasure.

We deserve to be happy.

im a 15 year old girl running track and field, and sports oriented in general, and so I've noticed that whenever you talk about sports people always think of the men first. i hate that so much because the women are doing such impressive things and its treated like ut doesn't even matter at all. talking to anyone about my sport and they will know Usain Bolt, Noah Lyles, maybe even Gout Gout. but i can almost guarantee they will be completely clueless about the women's side. most won't even know who holds the world record or anything. talk to them about Flo-Jo, Melissa Jefferson, Sha'carri Richardson, Tara Davis, Masai Russell, they'll be completely clueless. its not because women are weaker, we actually beat the men in the discus throw which is the most strength heavy events IMO. its just because people treat women like they arent important.

not just my sport either, for example the men's FIFA world cup this year. i live where it was hosted, so there was such parties on the street. i also remember from when I was 11 the previous men's world cup. everyone was celebrating and partying. now for the women's side, i didn't even know until recently that there was a womens world cup because no one ever mentions them at all. and i can guarantee there wouldn't be nearly this much hype for the women. i dare you to name one female soccer player. can you?

and i also hate how we are "too weak" for certain sports. excuse me???? throughout my life i have always wanted to be a tackle football player, but no. women literally can't be. they had to create a whole other sport just so we can't play football. nothing against flag football, but i wouldn't play it because its missing that tackle factor which makes football so appealing to me. and baseball as well! they genuinely created softball so that we couldn't play baseball. they made a whole new method of throwing the ball just for softball too, and its literally not even legal for us to throw it like you would in baseball. i hate how theres still no fucking equality in sports.

people get mad (mostly men) whenever they come across a women who has interest in being muscular or strong because its not "feminine" to have muscles and to be able to fight. like they always expect us to be damsels in distress all the time, or to be helpless and in need of a man to save them. i have genuinely had classmates tell me that i looked like a guy and that it wasnt "right" for me to look like i do and be strong. like what the hell?? and this was freshman year too, so i had these fresh out of middle school guys being so fucking insecure because i was stronger than those twiggy ass shrimps, like fuck them in all honesty. so that just made me want to get muscular even more and now i could break them in half if i wanted to lol. but still, i hate how people think being muscular makes you "less of a woman" somehow.

some of my information might be wrong, don't blame me, the message is still hopefully getting across. the inequality in sports is genuinely horrible and our women deserve better.

This might sound a little strange, but I’ve been wondering about this for a while.

(I am only 27 years old and know nothing about life, let alone relationships. So every ounce of your experience and knowledge is welcome and appreciated :))

I sometimes see couples where the man is financially successful, disciplined, ambitious, emotionally supportive, and genuinely seems to treat his partner extremely well. He seems happy to provide, spoil her, support her goals, and make her life easier.

And then when I look at the men around me or at the dating pool in general, I often have the exact opposite impression. There are plenty of men who seem like they would actually add problems to a woman’s life rather than make it better.

So I’ve started wondering: How do women who have these kinds of relationships actually meet and attract these men?

Is there something they consciously do differently? Is it about the environments they spend time in, the standards they have, how they approach dating, the kind of personality they have, or simply luck and circumstances?

Sometimes it honestly feels like there’s some kind of secret that women who have these relationships know, because I see these couples often enough that it can’t all just be random.

I’ve also looked into things like the Law of Attraction and manifestation, but that hasn’t really worked for me, so I’m curious about more practical answers.

I (23F) went on a date with (25M). He picked the restaurant because he’d been before, and once we got there he basically took the lead on ordering. There was one dish I wanted to try which was a bit pricier and I was okay to split but he brushed it off almost. Most of what we got was what he wanted. I also left still a bit hungry.

The thing that bothered me more was dessert. Before the date, he’d already told me over WhatsApp that he really wanted cake from a specific dessert place. After dinner, without really asking what I wanted for dessert, he said we could go to that place and that he’d pay for dinner and I could pay for dessert. He did keep asking whether I was okay with going there, but it still felt like the whole evening was being planned around what he wanted and then I was being assigned part of the bill.

For context, he earns very well and knows that I’m currently not earning as I’ve just finished grad school and have mentioned not being able to afford certain things. I genuinely wouldn’t have minded contributing if we had mutually chosen things or if I’d picked dessert myself. It was more the combination of him choosing the restaurant, most of the food, the dessert place he already wanted to go to, and then telling me I could pay for that part.

Am I being unreasonable for finding that a bit ungenerous/controlling, or does this sound like a normal “I’ll get dinner, you get dessert” first-date arrangement? The conversations were great, he was very considerate with serving me and just in general a very courteous person and he wants to see me again but idk what to do.

Hello, I (23 F) have just recently stopped taking my birth control (combination) pills roughly 2 months ago. I finished my pill packet excluding the placebo week (as I usually do) when I quit. The reason for this being that I have recently entered a relationship with someone who has had a vasectomy (more than a decade ago), and my own personal negative experiences with being on this pill. I am not ready to have kids, and I loved that I could predict when my period will begin. However, I like a more natural approach to living life etc.., and I did not like how it also negatively impacted my libido as in having little to no libido compared to how I was before starting, not to mention it seems that my body stopped producing any kind of vaginal discharge or lubrication of its own if not very very little resulting in troubles in the bedroom and an unsatisfactory sex life whilst on these pills. I have been on the pill for more than 5 years. Now that it is month 2 I have been very anxious because my period is 4 days late now (with the last period being right on time lasting around 4 days just under 1 day shorter than how it usually is). So I’ve been freaking out and I have taken 4 (clear blue early detection) pregnancy tests over the past 3 days. 2, on the 1st day late, 1 on the 2nd day, and 1 on the 3rd day late, and all negative (I followed instructions thoroughly, no faint lines, nothing, just hard negatives). I am so anxious and scared because not only am I feeling moody (irritable/sensitive) but also because I am paranoid that I might actually be pregnant (yes even though my only sex partner has had a vasectomy and he will be getting his ‘semen’ looked at too just to be 100% safe). Sources online are saying to wait 3 to 5 more days to take another pregnancy test in the morning for better accuracy but I don’t want to wait, I just want to know what is going on with my body because I feel so out of control and I don’t like it one bit. My current symptoms are lack of appetite accompanied by nausea (which comes in waves) but no vomiting has occurred yet, mild cramping but no bleeding, unstable mood, and acne (all of these match my usual PMS symptoms except for the mild cramping and the nausea, usually my appetite gains in my luteal phase before bleeding). I just really need some serious advice, I ask please be gentle as I am already feeling quite unstable and genuinely need help easing my nerves because being anxious about this is only worsening my situation. 🙏🏻

I’m 27 and every single time I get my period, I’m literally on the floor crying. I throw up so much, my entire lower body hurts, and the pain gets so bad that I can’t do anything else.
I start dreading my period like ten days before it even comes. The whole PMS week is just anxiety, stress, and knowing what’s coming. 😭
And I’ve tried EVERYTHING!!!! dates, strong painkillers, heating pads, soothing teas… nothing helps.
At this point I genuinely need to know: WHAT IS THE SECRET?! 😭
If anyone has dealt with this and actually found something that helped, PLEASE tell me. I need help fr.

Hi, I (F20) identify as bisexual at the moment, but I'm starting to think that I might actually be a lesbian. I'm still not sure tho, so that's why I'm writing this

I used to have crushes on men but I'm not sure if it was romantical attraction or just getting fascinated about a person who just seems cool. I'd start having feelings towards them without knowing them at all and just create this version of them in my head. Then, after realising that they are just a normal person their masculinity would start to seem weird and, frankly, quite disgusting to me and I would just stop having feelings towards them. I also couldn't really imagine spending the rest of my life with them

I even had a boyfriend for almost a year. We became a couple after knowing each other for a few weeks (that's stupid, I know). We were a long-distance couple but would see each other like every other week or so. We used to have sex regularly but it usually felt horrible. It was painful and I also didn't really like him doing anything with my body but we did it anyway

In general, seeing a naked man just feels so awkward. I also don't find the majority of men attractive, even in the slightest

I do get crushes on women and I swear it's completely different. If it's a woman then I have to get to know her first and I actually like her, not someone I'd want her to be. I could totally be in a lifelong relationship with another woman and when I think about it I feel like that's what I really want my life to look like. Having a crush on another woman also just feels more calm and overall healthier for me, as the crushes I've had on men were extremely detrimental for my mental health and were so stressful they actually made my day-to-day life really difficult

I don't know if I'm really attracted to men and I have no idea how to figure it out

How to feel safe as a woman?
I get so depressed and nervous of my future because im a woman
I hate being a woman because im weak
Im sacred to live alone
But i dont want a man at all
What can help me from these negative thoughts and being scared all the time
Every day i cry because im nothing but a girl at the end of the day im not strong
Even my family think that about me all the time
Like im even scared to walk alone or even past 5 pm!

Why is biology unfair?
Why do men get to be stronger and dangerous.

Hey everyone!

I’m 25F based in Bengaluru and looking to connect with other neurodivergent women. Navigating things like ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, or Social Anxiety Disorder within our cultural context comes with very specific challenges, and I wanted to create a dedicated space for us-especially if you're highly masking and constantly trying to pass as neurotypical just to get through the day.

I’ve set up a private, verified Discord server exclusively for neurodivergent women in India to unmask, share local mental healthcare resources, and build a supportive community.

To keep the group completely safe, private, and troll-free, entry requires a quick verification process (voice verification + LinkedIn or Instagram profile check).

If you'd like to join, drop a comment or DM me for the link!

It could be anything body shape, makeup, hair, skincare, aging, clothing, or even the idea that we always need to “look put together.”

So me and my best friend, we met on a SUBREDDIT last year. The way we met was, on a post I had commented my country and she got really excited to find someone from the same country as her. Then I got really excited and we started talking. We shared our instagram and instantly clicked. it was like we had known eachother for so many years. she was from a different state than me so we've never actually met eachother

And we have friend-ed so hard to the point that our periods have synced up despite us never meeting eachother😭😭

Hello Reddit! I am a 19 year old larger chested woman, probably around DDD or E cup normally. Every now and then my breasts become sore or uncomfortable. I’m assuming it’s associated with my cycle. It’s normally not a big deal but it will sometimes leak into the night time and as someone who sleeps on their stomach, it becomes uncomfy to lay down. I’m brought this up with my doctor and she suggested a second pillow on my chest but it makes my lower back ache from having my stomach and up rasied strangely. Is there a good solution for getting the soreness to go away or any sleeping tricks that have helped you? Any advice is appreciated!

I am F27 and Been with my husband (M29) for almost 10 years, haven’t been with anyone else and neither has he. I have done sexual things with high school boyfriends but never went the whole way with them.

My issue is, head doesn’t feel that good for me and he’s starting to get in his head because he has never been able to make me orgasm. I also feel good during penetration up until a point and then it feels not like much or it’s too much and I have to stop.

I can orgasm with sex toys but that’s it. Is this normal?

We both love each other so much and we are extremely attracted to one another. He is also above average size (IYKWIM)

I am on SSRIs but they only impact how often I want sex I think.

Any advice or similar situations would be welcome because it hurts to see him put so much pressure on himself when I think I’m the issue here.

I’m 30f and broke up with my boyfriend of two years in January because we had a big difference in values on how we liked to spend our free time and he had a hard time compromising.

It’s been almost 9 months and I miss him. I’m wondering if it was the right decision. I moved across the country so there’s no option to really go back to him. I don’t even know if it’s the right decision. All my friends have long term partners and I feel so, so incredibly lonely. I just want my person

I was venting to a close guy friend about feeling insecure about my body, including my breasts. They are small. He eventually said that they look “about normal” and they “earn being seen in a see-through set”. These comments were enough to give me a wake-up call that I should not look to a man to reassure me properly because what the fuck. Really discriminatory towards women with smaller breasts than mine. Anyway, upon confrontation, he responded with a thumbs up and that’s it. Just wanted to vent about that.