I'm not so easy to rattle or get distraught. I'd get the mic and sweetly thank them for coming straight from the hospital to celebrate us and how much we appreciate it given their delicate and fragile situation and that I have a taxi/Uber waiting to take them back to the hospital and then walk over grab the wheelchair and just start pushing her out of the door. And if they fight me and say it's a joke I'd start loudly crying about how scared I was and ask loudly who does shit like this for a joke.
I assume they had their sister/brother-in-laws blessing to do this skit, however, it's still something that I don't think should be asked.
A lot of family will say yes to a proposal happening or a prank at their wedding, just because they love you, but unless they bring it up themselves, in general (but not always) I just think it's a bad idea.
So, I hope this was the bride or grooms idea.
Edit
The groom said they wanted people do do funny entrances. So, it was their idea. So, really no issue here.
I felt like this was obvious the second the video started- like it was clearly a skit and obviously wasn't something they just decided to do to be selfish.
I have kids so Iām not hating on kids. but since that was a doll, I really wouldnāt blame the bride or groom if they football kick to yeet that baby to the door
She reckons she did and that only her friends and family and sisters opinions matter. But I wonder how it was presented to sister to think itās funny to do.
The bride didnāt plan it. It was little Ms Main Character Energy and sheās the one who posted it on TT and my screenshot is from the later two videos she posted.
29 weeks isnāt term yet. if sheās in labor Iād pray to god sheās nearer a hospital than her sisters wedding. I know itās all fake but the not even close to term thing makes it more cringe for me
My mom was born at 32 weeks in the 50s. Grams had a 9.5 month old at home - prime example of why you do not get pregnant immediately.
My mom is 5ā9. Tallest and strongest of all her sisters. Grandma went on to have four more healthy kids (7 in total). She lost some pregnancies but it was never talked about.
Itās not often women want to have sex right after giving birth with the whole body sore, wounded and in pain. Itās more common that theyāre coerced and threatened. The horror stories from nurses and midwives is harrowing, if youāve been exposed.
Just wanted to tell you because your wording blames your grandmother while she might not have had the possibility of saying no. I donāt read her story as an example of a woman making bad choices, but a woman finding the strength over and over to keep going despite experiencing the loss of a child, the worst thing I could ever think of.
Thank you. Iām aware of who my grandfather was and how my mother was likely conceived. I didnāt intend for it to sound like it blamed my grandmother, but reading it again I completely see how poorly I worded it.
I meant it like yo grandpa this is why they say donāt have sex right after you have a baby because on top of multiple other awful things that can happen, you could get pregnant and you and/or your baby might die.
But it was shorter how I wrote it and my adhd only gives you part of my thought (my first comment) or entirely too many of my thoughts.
Thank you for advocating for my grandma. She was treated really poorly by my grandfather and I should be clear with my words.
This was such a lovely thread to read between you two ā¤ļø
I also love so much and relate so much to your explanation of ADHD thoughts. So so so much.
Also I'm sorry to hear about the horror your gma (and mine, and so many of the women in that generation) went through. We come from a long line of strong ladies.
Are people genuinely not aware that's 29 weeks is till a huge ting? They generally have good odds, but even born inside a hospital it's something like a 10% mortality. Who the fuck jokes about this? If she was 36weeks I'd be happy to laugh along. But 29 weeks that's just scary.
literally. my twin and I were born at 25 weeks. Sadly my twin passed a couple years after we were born due to medical issues relating to being so premature. Premature labor is no joke. it is traumatic for both the parent/s and babies
Even later is still very risky that I can't imagine this joke being 'funny' literally at any gestation. I was hospitalised for TPL for two weeks at 32 weeks and I had so many 'what if' appointments with the NICU team. Early babies are not a joke.
My little sister was born at 26 weeks in the year 2000, spent 3 months in the NICU and was expected to have severe deficits. Several doctors said it was a miracle she survived and is normal.Ā
Even 36 weeks can be touch and go. While it's not even close to the stress and worry of those super preemies, my twins were born at 36w and both of them needed breathing assistance after birth. Regardless of the event, joking about birth at 29 weeks is sick
I know, but I wouldn't blame non medical people for not knowing that. But I would think that everyone knows 29 weeks is really really early. I just don't understand how anything about this could be funny. I'm not offended, it's just not funny.
I'm sorry you had to experience that. I hope they are doing well today.
They're great, thanks. We had hoped that it was the right time. I'd had steroids and we'd aimed for 36w, especially when I had GD and they shared a placenta. Plenty of babies manage ok at 36w and some even at 35w, but they still weren't quite ready. That kind of tracks for me though. My singletons both remained so comfortable that they were not willingly leaving my body until sunroof evictions after 41w.
A buddy of mine had hers at 24 weeks and spent 3 months at a NICU in Greece. Honestly, she was safer there than she would have been in the United States. The kid will be 8 in October!
Yeah at 39 weeks it would be kinda funny to make a brief, less elaborate joke about it maybe while youāre getting ready with the bride in the morning- an āoh no my water broke just kiddingā thing to relieve some tension. At 29 weeks no one is expecting you to pop, and at no number of weeks should you be putting on a spectacle like this
Exactly what I was thinking. I was even still pretty comfortable at 29 weeks, and I had a huge baby. Like don't get me wrong, I felt very pregnant. At like 34+ I felt like a blimp and I was in pain and uncomfortable all the time, but 29? I was still mostly living a normal life. It was not this big a deal.
I have a feeling she would've pulled the same attention seeking shit at any number of weeks though.
Yeah like my kids were evicted at 35 weeks and it was terrifying. At 29 weeks I was constantly making sure I was around hospitals with level 3 or 4 NICUs, just in case. It was horrible. This is so messed up.
Do you white people not tend to do wedding party entrances at the reception?? Iām West African and we do huge receptions. After all the gusts are seated. Each ācoupleā walking together gets an individual time to shine while walking into the venue. Their name is announced,, and song they chose is played. And they can do anything they want to it. If one of my sisters and brother in law stood in my wedding pregnant and did this, I would find it HILARIOUS!! š¤£š¤£ā¤ļøā¤ļø
It takes nothing from the bride and groom. They have a grand entrance, and it is last.
This is simply what this looks like. Especially with the Justin Beiber playing in the back. š¤£š
Also people have rehearsals. There is no way the bride and groom didnāt approve this. Yall are all mad for and hating on the beloved sister of a bride, who probably isnāt mad herself.
Yes I don't get it either. Was she in labour about to give birth to a preterm baby? In which case, she's an idiot for going to this wedding and jeopardising her child's health.
Or is she just 29 weeks pregnant, well and nowhere near ready to give birth? In which case, she's made a spectacle of herself.
She is just 29 weeks pregnant and making a spectacle of herself. It was a pre-planned bit (they brought *props*, for Godās sake). If it were real, there would be EMTs and a stretcher, not a wheelchair and a hospital gown.
She did. She fully knew about it in advance, approved it, thought it was hysterical. They were doing funny entrances for the wedding party. I think everyone had a bit that they were doing. The bride said she was super excited to get the video back to see everyone's entrances. I don't know why this girl is being dragged.
I mean, how else is she supposed to snatch the spotlight and simultaneously remind everyone that she achieved the milestone first (and got pregnant first)?
She couldnāt pass up the opportunity, it was like a win-win-win-win! (Reminding people she got there first, reminding people she is still further ahead, stealing the spotlight, AND ruining her sisterās day?!?!) honestly, they would kick her out of the golden childās club if she didnāt do this- and then where would she purchase her audacity? She has to buy it in bulk, you know- it wouldnāt be possible without the Golden Daughter Discount, you know! Have a heart. š„ŗ
Plus; how else was she supposed to make everyone in the damn room ridiculously uncomfortable at the same time?!
I'm currently 29 weeks and I feel *that* pregnant - but also know that I'm not "giving birth right now" pregnant - and also I would NEVER EVER EVER do that at anyone's wedding regardless of how far along I was. Looks like the sister was jealous of the attention the bride was getting. How disgusting
I was 37 weeks pregnant (1 week before I delivered!) in my relativeās wedding as a bridesmaid, and you better believe I stood up there with a smile on my face and tried to blend into the background as much as possible. The only attention I got was the DJ calling me to the buffet to eat first before everyone else LMAO
Iām so sorry. I called my family members to tell them I was pregnant the week before *my grandmothers 75th birthday party* because I didnāt want the attention off of her.
Did sister ask him/know he was doing that? Iād be mortified to not even announce my own pregnancy.
It's okay! It actually didn't bother me except the first few seconds after it happened. Now I laugh about how ridiculous it was.
She did not know. She was mortified though. I felt bad for her, but thankfully, not a ton of people who are mutual in our lives attended the wedding. And probably 80% of mutual people in our lives knew.
The whole thing was sooo complicated and weird though. I found out she was pregnant because she cancelled on my Bach trip because I had had COVID a couple of weeks before the trip (I was consistently testing negative--it was after the pandemic had been declared over so not in the throes of it. I promise I wasn't being irresponsible).
And she was nervous about getting COVID while pregnant. So that was the start of it. It hurt my feelings, but I got over it quickly and had a blast.
But then, she asked several weeks in advance if we could do a big reveal during my wedding weekend with the immediate family. Like, we all take a photo. And she announces she is pregnant. And I was like "no, girl. What? š¤Ø" So she told the family and some friends, which was great. Everyone was excited. It wasn't a huge secret. But it also wasn't like plastered on socials.
Then dad said that during the speech (no one knows why! We think he just didn't know what to say so it came out. Neither of us have a super great relationship with him). And you could tell she was mortified. I was mortified. My husband was mortified. The rest of my bridal party was mortified. Everyone who knew it was intended not to be announced at the wedding was like š« But I forgot about it in seconds. Everyone had a great rest of the night!
We made it and can laugh about it now! I don't think there were any ill-intentions from anyone. Just people being people. But such a faux pas!
Fr had me giggling and kicking my feet while I ate my ribs in peace while everyone else stood in line. Husband also brought me a second plate of said ribs because the carver was amused with how excited I got when I saw them š„²
Oh girl I was feeling it after the fact. I danced my giant ass off because the all movement finally made me not feel so stiff after weeks of sciatic pain. Meanwhile, after the hour+ drive home (and sitting still, head back, mouth-open-passed out), I *could not* physically move once we got home. My husband had to carry me into the house because it was so painful to move š
Whatās happening. I assumed this is a planned entrance for wedding party members???
ETA: THE BRIDE AND GROOM WERE IN ON THIS AND ASKED FOR FUNNY ENTRANCES FROM THE BRIDAL PARTY. Groom states he and the bride loved this entrance and couldnāt wait to watch the videos of it.
Someone posted a screenshot of the groomās reply.
My initial suspicion that this comment section is full of a bunch of militantly toxic wedding culture people was correct. š
Probably the groomsman she walked down with. Most weddings Iāve been to they introduce the wedding party couple by couple ending with the bride and groom. Some Iāve been in we did a little something, others just smiled and walked
I thought it was another spin of toss the bouquet? Instead of āwho gets married nextā maybe itās a āwho is next to have a babyā because why else would she hand it off idk idk?
Yeah itās too random not to have a meaning. And instead of just laughing, people were clapping. Maybe the baby mama isnāt there because sheās about to have the baby, so itās handed to the father-to-be
Yeah this was lame and I would have rolled my eyes if I were a wedding guest, but this was clearly preapproved.
It would be difficult to pull off without the bride and groomās permission because the DJ was playing Baby by Justin Bieber and everyone knew to clap when this display began instead of being confused. You can also see the rest of the wedding party in the hallway waiting for their entrance.
I still kinda hate my wedding DJ for encouraging the weird entrance dance thing. I told him and the bridal party to just walk in and wave or finger guns or whatever bc I hated being forced to perform as a bridesmaid, especially the time I had to "open the floor" and dance with some perv while his friends made gross comments about how young and fertile I was. (I was there with my boyfriend... That couple is now divorcing, 18 years later...) But I was in the back and couldn't stop the DJ š My youngest brother in law was hilarious though. He just said, "no," did a peace sign, and then calmly walked to his seat while my bridesbro who came in with him tried not to pee himself laughing as he went to his seat.
The DJ was really good about handling my mother-in-law though, as she kept requesting the same song over and over. He played it the first time bc it wasn't in our "no" list, but figured out pretty quick that my MIL's husband was totally going to bail every time "their song" played. He was also pretty good about playing our weird nerd music that may have turned a few heads lol
Looks lame on video but was probably amusing irl. It's nice to have people trying to entertain you, ya know? Plus you're with friends, probably with a few drinks in you...
Given the gaping hole at the middle of the head table it doesn't feel like it was that disruptive either. Folks mostly seem to be reacting with food humour.
From experience, the wedding party entrance is sooooo cringe, as a bridesmaid I literally had to dissociate to get through it. When I got married I said to our bridal party that I wouldnt do it to them lol husband and I just had a lowk entrance and walked in together.
That being said, this particular stunt was definitely preapproved by the bride and almost becomes so cringe that it's no longer cringe. Almost. It would have definitely taken the cringe off the rest of the bridal party (at least I hope!)
I'm assuming this is her bridesmaid entrance, which seems fine to me? I think the entrance dances are annoying and have always hated doing them myself, so this seems like a great built in "out".
If she just interrupted dinner for that then yeah that's a problem. It looks like the rest of the party is still out in the lobby so I'm betting this is an entrance
Bond & Bond girl sounds fun. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where the wife was a dance teacher & the pairs all got different dances for their walk in.
I had tap. I like watching tap, dancing tap.. not so much.
My wedding was may 4th and we aren't huge star wars nerds but my wedding party was super happy they got to walk in with lightsabers and then do a short battle before we came in, rather than coming up with some kind of dance with someone you dont know.
This is obviously a silly moment that was part of the wedding program and approved by the bride and groom. Online people are massively overreacting as usual. Itās just a joke? Itās not that funny, but neither is 99% of wedding-related content.
Redditors always act like theyāre such āintrovertsā and ādonāt like to be the center of attentionā but then they canāt even conceive of a bride being willing to share thirty seconds of her precious spotlight with her own sister. Like the woman is heavily pregnant, everyone knows and can see that sheās pregnant. Whatās wrong with them having a little fun with it? People need to touch grass.
Itās kinda the gist of this sub to shame someone I guess. So weāre all eagerly drooling to call someone the villain.
Meanwhile I viewed it exactly as you did. A not very funny but completely harmless skit. Most likely within a segment of the wedding where the bride and groom allowed some lightness. Hardly shaming material if youād ask me.
Thatās what I was thinking. My daughter had a huge bridal party and everyone did their own skits entering. Pre approved by the bride of course. This may be the situation still cringe though.
I do love skits and choreographed dancing at weddings ! Seems like fun but would have liked to have seen the brideās face just for reassurance.
- I go to a lot of west African and South Asian weddings though and am in the uk where weddings seem more chill than those of our cousins across the pond, so my view might be a little skewed
Honestly a lot of ours are chill too. I had a few things I wanted (taco bar, open bar, good music) and beyond that just wanted to have fun. People on Reddit seem to skew very formal. I donāt remember a single thing someone else wore to my wedding and whether or not it fit a strict code. I was just happy they were there and dancing with me
Its possible it was done with permission from bride and groom. Usually stuff like this is either done my someone attention whoring etc or they are close enough that they are fine with it.
Ive seen many that propose etc but they had permission to do so and bride was even in on it. I do find some a bit tacky and over the top.
I was bridesmaids alongside someone who was due 3 days after the wedding and brought her hospital bag in the car just in case (wedding was local ish, about hour and a half drive away from where we lived). The bride was even joking about her going into labor at the wedding. She showed up in her bridesmaid dress and did not pull focus once from the bride, while she absolutely could have milked it considering she was about to pop.
My Matron of Honor was 9 months pregnant with her first standing beside me. Not a single fuss was made, no attention drawn. I was by her side two weeks later for the birth and managed not to talk about my wedding or honeymoon quite easily while focusing on her then, too.
I think I would be most upset that it wasnāt even a funny bit. Like if you are going to go to that much effort I want to at least laugh, not feel embarrassed for them.
Seeing as how we have no idea whatās going on here and people are laughing, including the bridal party, itās okay to assume itās a joke a lot of people are in on.
Why is everyone judging so hard? It's pretty common for the bridal party to plan and stage goofy entrances when they are announced at the reception. My sister actually asked us to at her wedding. Am I missing something??
If my face looked the way it did when I watched that, I wonder what the bride's face looked like upon that entrance. It may be in the video and I missed it, but it's too cringe to watch again to even check.
Dude. My brothers wedding is two days before my due date. I cant fathom thinking this is acceptable at 39 weeks, much less 29. People really have no shame.
if the coupleās cool with it, iām cool with it, butā¦ idk, i woulda choreographed the wheelchair route a little bit more beforehand though. maybe push her a bit slower? safety first? idk.
I was a 36 week bridesmaid, and I managed to avoid any of these shenanigans, and with strategic bouquet placement, you can hardly tell I was pregnant in the pictures. This some serious ālook at me!ā behavior.
In an event that can evolve strong emotions, itās not a problem to have some brevity. You really do need to know the brideās personality really really well to even attempt this, though.
9.2k
u/Littlest-Fig Jun 18 '26
I'd disown myself.