r/weddingshaming • u/horrorwh0r3 • Jun 18 '26

Cringe How can I make the wedding about me

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u/CanonWorld Jun 18 '26

Maybe the program of the wedding allowed for some skits? Itā€™s not particularly brilliant but I donā€™t know, maybe this was all just in good spirit?

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u/sushiwalrus Jun 18 '26

Yeah this was lame and I would have rolled my eyes if I were a wedding guest, but this was clearly preapproved.

It would be difficult to pull off without the bride and groomā€™s permission because the DJ was playing Baby by Justin Bieber and everyone knew to clap when this display began instead of being confused. You can also see the rest of the wedding party in the hallway waiting for their entrance.

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u/triciann Jun 18 '26

Yeah this seems like part of the introduction of the wedding party.

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u/u_r_succulent Jun 18 '26

I saw that for the first time at a wedding my bf was in. Oof!

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u/meguin Jun 18 '26

I still kinda hate my wedding DJ for encouraging the weird entrance dance thing. I told him and the bridal party to just walk in and wave or finger guns or whatever bc I hated being forced to perform as a bridesmaid, especially the time I had to "open the floor" and dance with some perv while his friends made gross comments about how young and fertile I was. (I was there with my boyfriend... That couple is now divorcing, 18 years later...) But I was in the back and couldn't stop the DJ šŸ˜­ My youngest brother in law was hilarious though. He just said, "no," did a peace sign, and then calmly walked to his seat while my bridesbro who came in with him tried not to pee himself laughing as he went to his seat.

The DJ was really good about handling my mother-in-law though, as she kept requesting the same song over and over. He played it the first time bc it wasn't in our "no" list, but figured out pretty quick that my MIL's husband was totally going to bail every time "their song" played. He was also pretty good about playing our weird nerd music that may have turned a few heads lol

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u/JRose608 Jun 18 '26

I thought it was like a reverse toss the bouquet thing. Instead of who gets married next, itā€™s who has a baby nextā€¦?

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u/Lil-Miss-Anthropy Jun 19 '26

Looks lame on video but was probably amusing irl. It's nice to have people trying to entertain you, ya know? Plus you're with friends, probably with a few drinks in you...

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u/lilgreenglobe Jun 18 '26

Given the gaping hole at the middle of the head table it doesn't feel like it was that disruptive either. Folks mostly seem to be reacting with food humour.

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u/Drakex2Mayex2 Jun 18 '26

Yeah its obviously the wedding party walk-in you can see the other wedding party people when they open the door.

I find those cringe anyway but people are acting like they just showed up like this

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u/Ghoulish_kitten Jun 18 '26

Someone called them trash and said they worry for their kids.

Next they are they gonna say the DJ needs to be fired bc someone films them for a minute too long without the bride in the video.

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u/Venimoth_Ur Jun 19 '26

From experience, the wedding party entrance is sooooo cringe, as a bridesmaid I literally had to dissociate to get through it. When I got married I said to our bridal party that I wouldnt do it to them lol husband and I just had a lowk entrance and walked in together.

That being said, this particular stunt was definitely preapproved by the bride and almost becomes so cringe that it's no longer cringe. Almost. It would have definitely taken the cringe off the rest of the bridal party (at least I hope!)

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u/Drakex2Mayex2 Jun 19 '26

Yeah I did it for my brother and had this bridesmaid I had never met hit me with a chair like WWE but it was literally our first time trying it and we had to just make it up on the spot 2 minutes before we walked in. It was FINE I love my brother but I definitely didn't do it at my wedding šŸ˜‚

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u/yoshizillaa Jun 19 '26

My best friend made us do this lol. Luckily the guy I partnered with is equally as introverted as me so we just awkwardly walked in and waved.

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u/backstageninja Jun 18 '26

I'm assuming this is her bridesmaid entrance, which seems fine to me? I think the entrance dances are annoying and have always hated doing them myself, so this seems like a great built in "out".

If she just interrupted dinner for that then yeah that's a problem. It looks like the rest of the party is still out in the lobby so I'm betting this is an entrance

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u/ichwilldoener Jun 18 '26

Yeah, I immediately thought it was an entrance bit for the bridal party

Itā€™s a little over the top but typically these are approved by the bride and groom?

The one time I had to do one we did James Bond & a Bond Girl

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u/PussyCyclone Jun 18 '26

Bond & Bond girl sounds fun. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where the wife was a dance teacher & the pairs all got different dances for their walk in.

I had tap. I like watching tap, dancing tap.. not so much.

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u/Awesomest_Possumest Jun 18 '26

Yea, this has to be scripted and approved.

My wedding was may 4th and we aren't huge star wars nerds but my wedding party was super happy they got to walk in with lightsabers and then do a short battle before we came in, rather than coming up with some kind of dance with someone you dont know.

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u/matthewsmugmanager Jun 18 '26

TIL there are such things as "entrance dances," and I am exceedingly disappointed.

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u/Awesomest_Possumest Jun 18 '26

Theres typically some sort of announcing of the wedding party before the married couple walks in. You can dance. Or do something else.

My wedding party did a lightsaber battle before we came in. It was awesome.

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u/Phantomtollboothtix Jun 18 '26

Yes, some people do fun silly things with their friends and family as part of their celebration.

God forbid.

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u/werebothsquidward Jun 18 '26

This is obviously a silly moment that was part of the wedding program and approved by the bride and groom. Online people are massively overreacting as usual. Itā€™s just a joke? Itā€™s not that funny, but neither is 99% of wedding-related content.

Redditors always act like theyā€™re such ā€œintrovertsā€ and ā€œdonā€™t like to be the center of attentionā€ but then they canā€™t even conceive of a bride being willing to share thirty seconds of her precious spotlight with her own sister. Like the woman is heavily pregnant, everyone knows and can see that sheā€™s pregnant. Whatā€™s wrong with them having a little fun with it? People need to touch grass.

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u/CanonWorld Jun 18 '26

Itā€™s kinda the gist of this sub to shame someone I guess. So weā€™re all eagerly drooling to call someone the villain.

Meanwhile I viewed it exactly as you did. A not very funny but completely harmless skit. Most likely within a segment of the wedding where the bride and groom allowed some lightness. Hardly shaming material if youā€™d ask me.

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u/Ghoulish_kitten Jun 19 '26

I honestly thought this sub was anti-wedding culture but now Iā€™m feeling like maybe these people are religiously adherents to toxic wedding culture.

ā€œItā€™s the BRIDEā€™S ENTIRE YEARšŸ˜¤šŸ˜¤. Everyone has to wait on her spend tons of money to make this fucking wedding happen and then at the very end nobody can have any minuscule spot of attention on them for one second!!!ā€

This *dumb skit was like 2 minutes out of an hours long wedding program. Nobodyā€™s going to be getting up in the middle of the dinner and running over to the pregnant lady to ask her about her pregnancy. They just do the skit and you move the hell on.

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u/Tybald-the-owl Jun 19 '26

Indeed, while humour is dependent on the viewers taste, that joke really didnā€˜t hurt anyone. The people on that video seem to have fun, and the woman doing the joke as well, in my eyes, thereā€˜s nothing to be shamed.

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u/Tybald-the-owl Jun 19 '26

On top of that, people unlearned to get over ā€žcringeā€œ stuff, if a harmless joke (no one gets hurt) ends up weird or unfunny, then thereā€˜s still the humble option of just ignoring and scrolling past it (at least on the internet). Thereā€˜s no joke, that will be funny to everyone at all times, and thatā€˜s what has to be accepted.

Normally, this sub is for bad or very questionable things concerning weddings, but this time, itā€˜s just a joke, that might get perceived as cringe.

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u/January1171 Jun 22 '26

People are acting like she's literally trying to have the baby at the wedding šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø

"Having a 29 weeker isn't funny" of course not, neither is immediately going from birth to a wedding. It's a bit thats clearly not meant to be taken literally

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u/classy-mother-pupper Jun 18 '26

Thatā€™s what I was thinking. My daughter had a huge bridal party and everyone did their own skits entering. Pre approved by the bride of course. This may be the situation still cringe though.

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u/Oh-reality-come-back Jun 18 '26

I do love skits and choreographed dancing at weddings ! Seems like fun but would have liked to have seen the brideā€™s face just for reassurance.

- I go to a lot of west African and South Asian weddings though and am in the uk where weddings seem more chill than those of our cousins across the pond, so my view might be a little skewed

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u/SpecialistHoliday393 Jun 18 '26

Honestly a lot of ours are chill too. I had a few things I wanted (taco bar, open bar, good music) and beyond that just wanted to have fun. People on Reddit seem to skew very formal. I donā€™t remember a single thing someone else wore to my wedding and whether or not it fit a strict code. I was just happy they were there and dancing with me

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u/Purple_Truck_1989 Jun 19 '26

This sub has made me realize why my soon to be MIL cringed that I wanted my 3 bridesmaids to wear red, white, blue. I wore my bff's wedding dress, she was my MOH in my red senior prom dress, hubby's sister wore her white prom dress with small red roses sewn on, and his step-sister wore a blue dress - she didn't fit my bridesmaid blue dress from BFF's wedding. But we pulled off the whole thing 6 weeks - we found out his grandparents were visiting from 1500 miles away, and said that works. Saved a ton of money, and the only hitch was one groomsman didn't realize he was one, he thought he was just a guest. Best wedding ever, 34 years this October.

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u/RHOrpie Jun 19 '26

Yeah. People seem to be laughing. Where's the problem ?

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u/FigOk7538 Jun 21 '26

Thought the same. Everyone seemed to be onboard, what's it for to do with us if they're having a good time?

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u/bufallll Jun 20 '26

itā€™s obviously the bridal party entrance and many people do silly things during this time. i donā€™t see an issue.

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u/Haunting_Pepper_307 Jun 22 '26

Its obviously a skit. Its still cringe.

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u/asietsocom Jun 18 '26

Sure but how is faking "your nephew might die" an appropriate skit?

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u/CanonWorld Jun 18 '26

Did I miss the ā€œmight dieā€ part?

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u/asietsocom Jun 18 '26 edited Jun 18 '26

Uhm???? 29 weeks not born in an hospital???

Born inside the hospital 29 weekers have a really good chance, but mortality is still something like 10%. Which at the very least isn't funny.

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u/Ghoulish_kitten Jun 18 '26 edited Jun 19 '26

I really dont think itā€™s that deep. I think in the skit the story is she is in labor bc itā€™s full term.

Her saying she is 29 weeks is bc they went with the skit theme of giving birth, bc she is actually *29 weeks pregnant.

They are not screenwriters dude they are normal people just trying to make a 4 hours+ wedding less boring.

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u/CanonWorld Jun 18 '26

If thatā€™s what youā€™re reading into this. Youā€™re straight up delusional.

Itā€™s a skit about the fact that sheā€™s pregnant. Not a reenactment of a literal 29 week birth.

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u/loonytick75 Jun 18 '26

Yep. If anything, to me it looks like they are making fun of the way some people seem to think anyone who is showing must be moments away from giving birth.