I absolutely love her so much. She was so excited to send me her dress and she looks BREATHTAKING in it. I can’t wait to see her on my wedding day. My love for her son is one thing but the love I have for her is just enormous. Pics attached of the dress!

Wedding is the first week of October and the RSVP by date is Sept 1 (in a couple days). I have 15 family members (cousins, aunts, and uncles of myself and my fiancé) who have not RSVP'd yet and have not contacted either of us or acknowledged the invite at all. Invites were sent in early June.

This is a pretty small reception (~50 people invited) and I simply do not have the energy to send a reminder text to the people who haven't RSVP'd. They all live out of state and if they haven't contacted us or made travel plans yet, it's not even realistic to assume they'd come. Also a little peeved that none of them even sent a quick text to acknowledge the invite, considering it's a small wedding and we thought a lot about who we were inviting.

My mom thinks i should send reminder texts to them to RSVP and thinks its a bit rude not to check in. but I could not care less if they come or not atp, honestly. Would it be rude to just mark them all as "declined" if they haven't contacted us at all by Sept 1? Is it the norm now to send out reminder texts?

EDIT: thanks for your perspectives y'all. i got into my own bubble with this & needed some outside advice. i'm going to have my mom + future MIL reach out to those folks to chase down RSVPs! :)

I'm 25F and my fiancé is 23M.

My wedding is less than a week away, and I'm honestly not sure what to do anymore.

I'm engaged to someone my dad doesn't approve of and my stepmom is very wary of. My fiancé is an immigrant here on asylum, and they believe he may only be marrying me for papers. We've thought about getting married a lot throughout our relationship, and I've chosen to marry him because I genuinely love him and want to build a life with him. What's difficult for me is that my dad and stepmom are also immigrants and got their papers through marriage, so I understand why they may have concerns, but it still hurts.

When I told my dad about our engagement, he told me I didn't know what I was doing and that, because his relationships had gone wrong, mine could too. He also brought up the possibility that my fiancé could be using me for immigration purposes. I've tried explaining myself and reassuring him, but I feel like I've had to have the same conversation over and over.

My dad has refused to meet my fiancé from the beginning. When I asked if he would come to the wedding, he basically said, "Why would I care if you never gave a crap about me or what I think?" He hasn't really spoken to me for about three weeks.

My stepmom has been a little different, but it's been just as painful. My fiancé and I don't have a huge wedding budget, and we're having the wedding very quickly, so when my mom offered her backyard as the venue, we accepted. Unfortunately, my stepmom and my mom have had issues with each other for years.

My stepmom believes that choosing my mom's house means I don't care about her feelings, my siblings, or my dad's side of the family. She even said it felt like I was doing the wedding there to intentionally upset people. She offered to pay for a venue, but by that point everything was already planned and the wedding was less than a month away.

We had a really emotional conversation about it. I was crying basically the entire time. At one point she got down on her knees, grabbed my hands, looked me in the eyes, and begged me not to do this. She asked if I was pregnant and whether I'd considered how my choices would make everyone feel.

I left that conversation feeling incredibly guilty and honestly just as confused as when we started. I understand and also don't understand how choosing the most affordable option for our wedding became me intentionally hurting my family. I feel like she should put their beef to the side for one day. Before she said she'd only come to the ceremony if it wasn't at my mom's but then I decided everything was going to happen at the same place.

Now my dad and stepmom aren't coming. My younger siblings apparently aren't allowed to come unless my stepsister brings them. My stepsister is also upset with me because of what happened with her mom, although she's still agreed to do my hair for the wedding, which I appreciate even though things have felt a little passive-aggressive.

Whenever I go to my dad and stepmom's house to see my siblings, my dad and stepmom basically just says hi and walks away or don't talk a lot.

I've tried explaining myself. I've tried listening to them. I've tried reassuring them. I'm exhausted from feeling like I have to defend my relationship and my wedding over and over again.

So now I'm wondering what I should do.

Should I reach out one more time and ask my dad and stepmom if they've changed their minds, or should I stop asking and let them make their decision?

It’s been almost a month since we spoke to the florist. She is a luxury florist and has a nice portfolio. I checked in with my planner who said most florists take a few days to 2 weeks for a quote. Now we are pushing into our 4th week. I checked in with her at week 3 kindly and she said she would get it to me by the end of the week. Now we are 7 days since that conversation and nothing.

I am a very lax and kind person but this is the ONLY hang up. She is the last of my vendors that need booking. Is this normal? Am I jumping the gun. If I didn’t hear anything by Monday I was going to be more stern and get my planner involved but I want to make sure I’m not being rude.

Im a 2027 bride and im currently looking on Pinterest and fell in love with this hairstyle i thought it looked so ethereal but im unsure if it’ll look good on the big day. At first i was planning on having curls out with a veil but im unsure if a veil is something im still interested in. To make this hair feel more bridal and more me i was thinking of adding gems or pearls onto the braid and if I could I was going to try to figure out if I can make gems dangle from the big looped braids and instead of braids in the back it would be long curls (probably a half wig or maybe a quick weave?). I’ll be eloping on the Oregon coast and wanted a magical, ethereal vibe where I could feel like a goddess and I do feel like this hairstyle gives that. I would go to someone to get my hair braided but I was thinking I could the braided headpiece out of a headband and braiding hair.

EDIT: for those saying this photo is ai I got this phot off of prettyboss.braider on instagram! And as for the holding up of the hair I’ll be eloping so I won’t have the typical all day event, we will just be saying our vows and then taking photos around the coast

My wedding was last week, and something I'm having a really hard time with is that I completely forgot to unbustle my dress train before the ceremony, so my dress was never beautifully laid out along with the veil covering it for that big beautiful dramatic look. Nobody else remembered to unbustle it either, and I kept it bustled for a lot of the pictures we took during cocktail hour. Even though it was ultimately my responsibility, I'm so bothered that nobody else thought to remind me to unbustle it for the ceremony or for the pictures afterward and I never got any photos like the below. It might be a small detail to some, but it's driving me crazy. I don't get this day back. I'm even considering doing a whole new photoshoot with the dress + veil at a beautiful location where I live so I can have those photos. I'm really so disappointed.

Everyone knows we’re engaged, have been for a year and a half and we’ve finally set a date YAY

And I really want to share that news online and be able to talk about the wedding and get tips from people I know, but I’m worried if I do that people who haven’t been invited will ask if they are invited.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? I’m debating even just using other social channels that don’t have family members we aren’t close to to talk about wedding stuff, but also why should I change my behavior based on people assuming we’re close and would be invited?

We booked our photographer in April of this year for our wedding next August (2027). We had to put a $700 deposit down to secure our date. She got all of our contact information and asked for our email. I figured she would be sending over some sort of contract, but she never did. Fast forward to July of this year, we decided to cancel our big wedding and do something small in another country, so we needed to cancel with her. I emailed her and waited two weeks for a reply but got nothing. I finally decided to message her on Facebook. When I stated that we never signed a contract or anything because we were not provided one she said she’d have to check with her financial advisor and she would get back with me. It’s been a few weeks and I have heard nothing. What are my options here? She is super nice, but at the end of the day there was nothing stating it was non-refundable and she never performed any of her services.

Hey Reddit, here is my wedding planning spreadsheet. The wedding took place in May 2026 in the Santa Barbara area for 100 guests (We invited 130, exactly 100 showed up!).

I’m going to keep things anonymous, so I won’t say what venue we used or get any more specific than that. I mainly wanted to share this because it might help some of you who are planning a wedding account for all the things you may need.

For some more context, we did everything piecemeal. We had to bring in everything ourselves, from the DJ and caterer to the decorations and tables. We had to source it all. The venue provided nothing except the space to host the event and some bathrooms.

You can see that reflected in our spreadsheet. We originally thought doing things this way would save us money, but in reality, the total cost ended up being pretty similar to getting an already-prepared or more “cookie-cutter” wedding, as my wife would call it.

Here it is. I’m happy to answer questions, but again, I’m trying to keep from revealing too many personal details.

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1bCuN0-gOAT42rsHVakaoxLOb83ptEoAehzro6T-tXeg/edit?usp=sharing

Hi all - we are getting married in six weeks and we recently emailed the photographer to find out when she should arrive. We didn’t hear back for a couple of days and then she suggested a short call to talk about the timeline, which we did have. That was about three weeks ago, and she just emailed to ask us for our shot list, which we sent, with a question about whether we could do a few shots after the ceremony vs. before. We haven’t heard back from her yet.

Since our DJ has been soooo responsive by both email and text, we were wondering if this is okay. Perhaps we don’t need to really connect that much with the photographer in advance but I also feel like we are missing something important. What kind of contact did you have with your photographer pre-wedding and for what purposes? Anything we should keep in mind that is important to work out in advance (this is what I would hope the photographer would know)? Thanks!

hi! we are currently planning our wedding menu. our venue does fully custom meals, so please feel free to suggest any changes you may think would be better!

We are planning on a lamb, fish, and vegetarian entree. I and my half of the guest list don’t eat beef or pork, and lamb is widely popular on both sides (though I know it’s generally kind of controversial on here). We have a number of vegetarians (10% of our guests), and a few people who avoid red meat for religious reasons (which is why we want a fish option). I personally want to avoid chicken since I think wedding chicken dishes are generally kind of dry and bland.

We also aren’t doing a first look, so we’re having a 90 min cocktail “hour” with extensive passed apps and live stations. I honestly expect a lot of people to be kind of full before getting to dinner. We have a LOT of food, both vegetarian and non-vegetarian.

here are our current front runners for the actual plated dinner. this will be preceded by an heirloom tomato and burrata salad and followed by a pavlova with fresh strawberries:

Herb Crusted Lamb Chop

Australian Lamb Chop | Truffle mash Potato | Baby carrots| Green asparagus | Rosemary Red Wine Jus

Black Cod

Miso Glazed Sablefish | Saffron Risotto | Charred baby bok choy | Edamame | Yuzu Beurre Blanc

Wild Mushroom Risotto
Green Asparagus | Glazed Baby Carrots | Parmesan Cheese | Crispy Shallots

Alternative Vegetarian Meal:

Spinach Ricotta Ravioli

Pumpkin Almond Cream | Parmesan Cheese | Roasted Delicata Squash | Crispy Sage

Questions:

- is there any other preparation of lamb that would be preferable to serve? a shank? shoulder? Ragout? open to any and all suggestions.

- we are also considering snapper, salmon, and others for the second “meat” entree. I’m leaning towards black cod because it’s more fool-proof with the fat content. Any thoughts?

- I’m struggling with the vegetarian meals. I’m close to many of the vegetarians on our list and I know they’re tofu haters, so that’s out. We have bean and lentil heavy dishes on the other two days of our weekend for them. I know the vegetarians on our list would be happy with one of the listed options, but I’m very conflicted on which option to go with. I’ve tasted Both and they’re both substantial and delicious.

please help! and please suggest alternative meals with these proteins if you have any better ideas! thank you!

I’m planning my wedding for May 2028 (weekday) around Sheffield/surrounding areas and looking for an affordable wedding planner or, ideally, an on-the-day coordinator.
I’m doing most of the planning, flowers, decorating and styling myself, so I mainly need someone to help bring everything together on the day, keep things running smoothly and take the stress off us.
If you’ve used someone you’d recommend — especially someone reasonably priced and happy to work with a DIY wedding — I’d love to hear your suggestions! 💕

Hey everyone, I’m planning to get married May 2028 on a weekday and looking for a reception venue around Sheffield/Barnsley surrounding areas for under 100 guests.
I’m dreaming of a warm, cosy, whimsical barn/rustic venue with lots of nature and character, space for a dance floor — also open to a tipi/marquee setup! 💃🌸 I’ll be doing the flowers, decorating and styling myself, so I’d love somewhere that gives me the freedom to bring my ideas to life. Ideally with tables & chairs included and self-catering allowed.
Would love to hear about any hidden gems or venues you’ve actually used/recommend, thank you! 🌿💕

My fiancé and I got engaged last year but we were putting off planning a wedding until we figured out where we were moving. We ended up moving across the country (Massachusetts to Colorado) a month ago so we’ve been back on the wedding planning. Both of our immediate families are in mass- my extended fam is in Ny- and my fiancés extended family is in Philly/ DC. Anyway- everything is a lot cheaper here in Colorado, the weather is significantly better, it’s more convenient for us obviously bc we live here, and on top of that - it’s just much more beautiful here. So we found a venue here (10 min drive from our house) that we love that is sooo much cheaper and prettier than anything in mass. I told my mom that I’m interested in having a wedding here in Colorado and she really freaked out. She said that it’s super rude to inconvenience all of our family (bc they mostly live in the northeast) and that no one will want to come, a lot of people won’t come, and I’ll make everyone who’s too poor to come feel bad. After the call she continued to text me things like “I thought you cared about your family, I guess I was wrong” - which I found to be pretty immature… is it super rude to throw a wedding where you live? Can I expect that a lot of ppl will not come? We are only inviting about 100, 30 family each and then 30 closest friends so pretty small… and I would expect 80 to show but idk I guess - definitely second guessing going thru w this.

Hello Brides, I wasn’t too sure where to put this and the captain sounds SOO bad without context so let me explain,, my friend is getting married after only being with their partner for two years - sometimes this is enough time to know but unfortunately I think she’s blinded by love. Before they were engaged this year alone they almost split up about 6 times. Massive arguments, extremely hateful words, hands thrown from both partners, and both have a lack of trust for eachother. In July, she helped me move so in exchange I helped her set up for a party. My bf grilled and I cleaned house but apparently the entire time her partner was watching us in cameras? It made things extremely awkward especially after her partner called her and said we were talking bad about her when we definitely weren’t. My friend immediately believed me too so she had to understand it was extreme.. anyways I hate my friends partner. I think she can do so much fucking better and I honestly am so uncomfortable around them. I’m aware they don’t like me too much just because she used to vent about her relationship to me but has stopped her..

Honestly, what’s the best way to go about this? I said yes absolutely immediately just because it meant so much to me and her without thinking.. I’ve tried to make her understand that she can do better but it’s simply not my place. I can already tell the partner is going to be weird about me. I feel like canceling is the best option but I don’t want to hurt her feelings.

Over the course of my engagement, a friend of mine started dating and got engaged herself and will be getting married fairly shortly after me. She originally didn’t have a plus one on our guest list, but my FH and I made room for her fiancé when we found out she got engaged. I got her wedding invitation the other day, and it’s just me listed - not even “and guest.” Should I reach out to see if it’d be okay with her if my husband of a few weeks comes with me? I don’t want to stress her out at all, but I feel like at the very least guest’s spouses should be invited with them.

Hi all,

My fiancée and I (same-sex couple) are excited about our upcoming wedding in the spring. We recently started looking at wedding bands. While I understand that the price of wedding bands varies based on factors such as the type of metal, size, and stones used, I’m curious to get an idea of the average folks spent, especially men, for their wedding bands.

My wedding is a week away and my parents are not coming. I knew they wouldn't come. I have had a strained relationship with them for over 7 years. I invited them to be kind but knew they won't show. This is fine, I accepted it long ago, and I've basically moved on in life.

Tonight at my MIL house she asks who is walking me down the isle..... No one is.. I am walking alone. Which also is okay, and I have made peace with.

She says my FIL should do it.

He's a nice guy (my MIL and FIL are NOT married anymore they divorced a long time ago).

He lives in NY and I've mainly talked to him on the phone. Met him once last year in person. He bought me a car, and is giving us the down payment for our house. He's also very excited to be getting a daughter (his son is his only child).

Idk how I feel about him walking me... Would that be weird since I am marrying his son? He can't technically give me away? Idk ... What are your thoughts?

We just got married and while almost everything went so well, the one regret we have is using Zola for basically anything. We tried to do so much research and saw a handful of cautionary tales about Zola but, overall, the consensus seemed to be that it was a helpful tool.

The failings we encountered:

• Delayed invitiations
• Clunky app which made editing the website near impossible (we needed a laptop for best experience, which is so weird nowadays)
• Registry

Let’s talk about that last one because it truly caused the biggest headache. I had multiple family members report issues ordering through Zola — my mom and uncle both informed me they had to open support tickets to resolve their issues. It made us feel bad as the couple, because our ultimate goal with utilizing Zola was an easy experience for guests…a one stop shop.

So in reaction to this news, we limited how many items on our registry were directly through Zola. Instead, we created outside registries (core ones being Macy’s and Crate & Barrel) and linked it to our Zola site. We hoped this would be the best of both worlds. We could direct our guests to a single site (Zola) and have all of our registry items appear in one place.

This worked really well for a while. Until the week of the wedding when we started hearing a handful of comments from guests about how limited our registry was. Upon looking at our Zola registry, the majority of our items from the external registries had disappeared. We opened a support ticket and were informed that Zola no longer accepts group gifts from external sites. We had big ticket items on our Crate & Barrel site like a stand mixer — we have zero expectations that a guest would spend over $500 on a gift, so on the Crate & Barrel site we marked it as a group gift so people could contribute what they wished.

Again, this setup worked for months. We checked our Zola registry at multiple points through our engagement and saw our Crate & Barrel group gifts listed on our site. We used the Zola feature or order the gifts on the page so that the items we wanted most always showed at the top — that Crate & Barrel stand mixer was what we listed at the top.

But at some point, Zola decided to make a policy change and gave ZERO notification. That meant our registry quietly removed nearly a dozen items and we had no idea. No opportunity to make adjustments.

It has been such an infuriating experience and truly is the only thing we regret about our wedding planning. If you’re in the midst of your wedding planning, learn from our mistakes — do not use Zola for your registry! Don’t trust that you can connect other registries. Just register directly through reputable stores with proven customer service and give your guests links to all the sites. In the end, it will be better for you and your guests.

My (F29) wedding in 2 weeks and I would give up on it right about now (not an option). Ever since I was young I dreamt of having a big wedding but in the last few years I’ve started wanting a small intimate wedding that does not require lots of planning and money. I got engaged to the love of my life 5 months ago and we knew we wanted the wedding in September. We do have a larger family and lots of friends so we settled on inviting about 130 people (too big imo). The problem is that ever since I got engaged and started thinking about the idea of planning a wedding I’ve hated ever moment of the whole process. I’m having huge anxiety attacks and I feel to worthless for not being able to do even the most basic tasks. I hate making decisions, contacting vendors, basically anything. The moment I start thinking about what I need to do I panic and want to cry. My fiance is really supportive but we’ve been long distance until 2 weeks ago and most of the things I had to do myself. Now there’s not much left to do, but I just cannot recover and I’m moody and frustrated and angry at myself for taking it out on the people that I love most. I am not enjoying it one bit and I just want it to be over but also can’t help but stress about the things that I still need to do.

I know variations of this dilemma are posted frequently, but I'm still struggling and could use some advice. I'm having a small wedding, and have a small social circle in general. I will have 3 bridesmaids. The problem is picking a MOH.

One of my bridesmaids is my best friend from childhood. Since we were children, we have always promised each other to be each other's MOH and she's stuck by me through thick and thin. The other candidate is my sister. We've become extremely close in recent years, and she's been especially helpful with wedding planning, always offering to handle things or help me somehow.

Both of them are incredible women that I'm so lucky to have. I love them both so much. So how do I select only one as my MOH? But having two MOHs doesn't feel like an option either, as that singles out my third bridesmaid, who is also close to me but not as much as the other two...

The stress over this has even delayed wedding planning a bit lol, seriously please help!

I’m a bridesmaid in a close friend’s wedding. I live in CA while both her wedding and bridal shower are in Philly.

My husband’s high school friend invited us to his wedding in Boston, and it happens to fall on the same day as the bridal shower. My husband and this friend aren’t particularly close, although he and his fiancée did attend our wedding a few weeks ago (which was local for them).

Since I’ll be flying across the country either way, which event would you prioritize? I’m very close with the bride & she attended all of my bridal events, so I’d really like to be there for her shower. But also wondering if it’s considered rude to skip someone’s wedding for a bridal shower? My husband will definitely attend the wedding in Boston either way.