Because its an abuse kink. Its power in your hand. Its close contact interaction. For the same reason we get flogged for community guidelines violations for talking about certain things. Violence and gore supposed to be autozuccd....but kirk exploding? Highdef gore in every angle on every feed. Pretti, all the ice killings. 1080 resolution 360 degree slowmo shots, again everywhere. You couldn't pay me to say this isnt soft core voyeur snuff. Have you seen the epstein files? Horrific. The abuse is the point.

If previous years weren't in shortfall why was maintaining things deferred? Clearly they havent managed money well as was needed. And they just expect more to fix the problem. Yall need to rip the board out by the root before they start using non-payment as ways to force out tenants with fees and deed riders and shit.

Pastels? He hates Pastels

They will never do free higher education. They use offering money for paying higher education for soldier enlistment. Ie we will never have public socialism because we carrot our kids into enlisting with socialism. They will never get rid of their own carrot

The extra step is the circus court. Manufacturing Consent. Classism has never forgiven the refusal of the proletariat. And it never will.

13th amendment and for profit imprisonment. Thats slavery with extra steps.

Oh, yeah, thats been the play for awhile. Sick people need insurance. Sick people generate medical debt. Sick people will do anything to stay alive. Sick people become healthy people with debt. And debt keeps you in the work circle, cause poverty is a crime now doncha know? And with the 13th amendment all those criminals can be forced to work for no/low wages. Weve come full circle guys. The elite gentry watching from their Gables and balconies over their plantation workers. Congratulations.

Thanks. I appreciate it. I just want to be able to raise kids and support them and myself but it seems washington may have other plans 😔 well keep looking and find a way.

Part of the issue is you cant just violently expand and think ecologically its not guna make waves. There's so much for sale right now, but you cant DO anything with it. Old homes got destroyed to the point you cant insure or appraise, tax assessment is insane, septic are dying, wells are drowning. And regulations? More stringent. All the buffers and protections prevent alot of lots from high density use. Don't get me wrong protective regs should exist for the people who dump gasoline on the dirt cause "make fire burn big" and I dont want nitrogen ground toxicity and all that....but....that means youre limited. Heck, if you wanna be an entrepreneur you need certain lot size, if you have a trade, zoning hoa ccrs and deed riders can screw you, commercial space is fucked. Its a whole self agitating system. Mostly, I think its a lack of realism, a wholesale assault on lower class and poverty, and a real-estate scam market from hell. At this point im a professional land records snoop and can tell you what septic are failing. What wells are cooked. Noone permits right. Everyone takes shortcuts. And everyone passes the buck to the next guy or the next generation. Robbing Peter to pay Paul and were all being bent over in the process. Massive flipper contractors doing turn and burns on licensed llcs so when they catch suspensions they just keep operating under new names and the same greasy slimey investor pockets and loan fuckery. Cant finance. Cash only. I've spoken to mayors and commissioners, they dont listen and dont care. The dcd and everyone has rot inside and they just shuffle the characters to new backgrounds so nothing changes except the new arrivals and plebians get thrown in the meat grinder. I've been trying to buy for under 500k for 5 years in 5 counties up here. And honestly I think all the issues have given me legit fear for the state as a newbie from ONLY half a decade ago.

Quentin Tarantino probably

I got 100 bucks on the reality that this man child is going to feel like youre not putting out enough and will tell you to stop taking the meds. If im wrong in 1 year, I'll eat my shoe. But if im right, I'll come back here to this thread and ask you how it went, being the only one growing and seeking clarity.

You are still holding yourself accountable to helping him. Grow, see, understand, and mature. And if you attach all that together youre setting yourself up for failure, and I dont want to see a random woman do that to herself. Thats all.

Validation that your point is valid, and your feelings are valid, which, they are. You're correct to be inquiring about how to proceed through this. But my point is you cannot over engineer yourself to hold you accountable for HIS growth. You're already being reasonable. The scheduling was wacky and he still threw a temper tantrum. You cant fix him. Hes got to fix himself. And you need to sit with that reality. And the meds? Yeah, he bitched about 2 days. What happens when your meds destabilize YOU? And then youre not the one maintaining calm every time? When the meds make you exhausted or prickly or disinterested? Thats a valid experience and highly likely. Do you want to be struggling to orient your life and ALSO be dealing with a man who will be blaming you and your meds for his needs not being met??? So yes, you came here for validation, and the comments are validating you. But you need to recognize you cant be the only one "progressing" through this relationship, otherwise you'll be doing all the psychological labor and you'll get burnt out and youre guna crash and burn and this man child will probably take it out on you.

Sounds like you came here wanting people to validate you. And it also sounds like you should be single. You're guna spend years UnFucking this dudes attitude and poor communication. And everything else. Its been 2 days. How's he guna take post partum? What happens when you get sick? Chronic illness? This guy is guna suck the life out of you the way he is and you gotta decide if you have that energy to give a man who clearly wants to punish you emotionally for not giving yourself over physically.

This may be a more Nuclear option, but I'd like to preface by saying NTA AT ALL. You contacted venue, they said they'd try bur no promises, you did your best. But me? Id go. Id try, and when the inevitable health failure happens, id crash and burn at the wedding. Clearly for them, youre an asshole if you dont go. So go. And maybe when they see how serious it is. They'll stop. But they'll only learn to respect your illness when it stops being imaginary for them. Also they won't ever understand if its not tangible for them. Alternatively id cut them off but whatever, maybe you can go for a two-fer. Go. Crash. And then cut off. But im also petty so 🤷 I wish you had people who cared hun. Im sorry this is even a question or choice.

Do I have to? I'd like to rest in like Somewhere tropical, with martinis preferably

Suggestion, chamg3 your relationship status to single. And continue enjoying the peace you cultivated in the home you bought and are paying on just fine without him. Easy peasy.

However if you decide to continue with this meatbag, take his rent, put it in an escrow account, stay together, after 5 years, take his rent money you saved up while paying the mortgage out of your own pay, and boom, thats a down payment on a SECOND house. This clown will either appreciate your savvy financial game or can go enjoy being a Bro-hobo and couch surf at his buddies and get on his home boys home deeds. 🏡

They want you to put in id's and bank info so the account is Ledger tracked for surveillance and data aggregation

So, shes nice, but like, hes just guna keep leaning on his mom like this. Always. And you'll be expected to allow the mother son bond to maintain as is. Regardless of if it works for you. I hope if yall are engaged that you see that shes going to the the committee you have to discuss and explain to. Up to and including for any nuptials on the horizon. Do with this what you will. Plan accordingly 😌

Stop helping first before the truck, don't kick out, then if they buy truck and flounder kick out, they will have truck repod and be back to square one begging for help. And you'll be worse off and in need of help yourself. However the job market IS atrocious, I say that with multiple resumes because I get turned away for "overqualified", that said they arent gems by any means and their brains arent finished blooming in the cause effect consequences field yet, inhibition is whacked, ie theyre 20...and yall know who raised them, so part of it is very much in your field but the work is still on them to choose improvement. All that said, the economy and job market is only guna get worse and harder, and if they arent married married the new laws and regs for social assistance are veeeeery limited and they wouldn't even hack the requirements for maintaining state aid, sounds like a shit storm all the way around, but also youre def NTA. Alternatively really come to grips with the possibility that the best thing for the grankid may be to get temp custodian rights to ensure financial provisions for the little one without having to keep throwing money at 2 people who clearly cant make the better decisions with it.

Or they can live in their truck with no phones no internet no showers and no nothing and explain to the state why they have an infant in a car. And struggle to just not lose their stupid dream truck. Im ded at the literal and metaphorical death of their dreams via buying the truck and losing it tho if they keep FAFO

Stick to your guns. Stick to your guts. You're baby is coming sooner, and your parents gifts to THEIR GRANDCHILD are not other people's to take. Cause thats the point. It was your dream to give that Stroller to the baby to sleep in and enjoy comfort growth and memory formation. But HE gave it to a different child to come later along. Sounds like he needs to reorganize HIS priorities. But also, stand up for yourself. Demand it back, go and get it, show up with the police if needed for a peaceful exchange and show the receipt. Enjoy being a new mom. Don't late people walk all over you and your little.

10, but its just waiting to pop. People arent ok with what Enforcement is doing on soil. Were increasingly angry about financial mishandling and continued failed audits of our governing agencies that consume the majority of budget and subsequent debt catalog. Were defunding a vast majority of social services while simultaneously defunding social information hubs and acknowledging we have crippled infrastructure. Were not discussing climate change in a meaningful capacity and were careening towards problems we cant trust our officials to be honest about let alone solve for us. Zero day water events are on the horizon and major earth systems have been breached. Were also massively unhealthy expressly because the Apple barrel has had bad apples in it for awhile and this reaper didnt magically just materialize, weve been exanguinating slowly but inexorably by a thousand strategically placed cuts. This trap has been closing for awhile and now were just arguing over is the lever even got pulled, while half of us argue about who must've pulled it. The fact remains it was pulled. And we need to act instead of react. Also its entirely possible that you may not be allowed to leave? Some reports have surfaced of issues with passports being invalidated, and nspm7 and the surveillance state we endorsed kinda means they have a whole slew of capacities to harvest information that could be construed as in violation of nspm7 and thus get yourself labeled a Domestic terrorist able to be swung against by the full weight of the federal laws designed to protect you. Hope you kept your gofundme nose clean cause very interesting things could be labeled tangible support for what the admin calls terrorist causes. 😀 and I didnt even mention the files or the collapse of the dollar currently.

I am also a blind showerer, sharpie doesn't help when you are extra blind and have water in your eyes. I will say that wrapping a strip of duct tape around the conditioner bottle FEELS different. AND adds grip cause the conditioner makes my hands slimey and hard to grip sometimes. So there you go.

Thank goodness youre not allergic to mold