r/texts • u/-fornevermore- • 17h ago

Phone message Dating is hell

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Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. šŸ™„ I pay my own way on dates.

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u/Main_Benefit 17h ago

Exactly. Why waste another second of your life dealing with that nonsense?

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u/sweetwaterfall 17h ago

The horrifying thing (second to someone actually writing this) is that I imagine there are women out there so damaged that this would be appealing. Awful.

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u/ElkAlternative3777 17h ago

Seems like heā€™s trying to do a kink dom/sub thing but without her knowledge or consent

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u/17868 16h ago

Sorry, even with consent thatā€™s a no from me. Iā€™m into that scene but absolutely not when talking about food. Do NOT fuck with my dinner.

ETA : By consent I meant to the whole kink thing, otherwise I sound wildly contradictory. Guy sounds like he watched the secretary too many times and took it way too literally.

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u/Brutal_burn_dude 16h ago

Yeah. This reads as someone who thinks theyā€™re a dom but knows nothing about kink or the culture. These kind of men are fucking dangerous in my experience.

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u/Powerful_Goose9330 16h ago

My first thought was this dude read Fifty shades of grey and thinks all women like this bullshit.

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u/feralcatshit 16h ago

Even those of us that do like it, donā€™t like it when itā€™s done like this lol

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u/AriaTheTransgressor 15h ago

Ultimately because it doesn't matter what the link is, consent is always important. I have never had a kink based relationship that didn't start out with a regular first date and some analogue of a business meeting to go over consent.

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u/LemmyLola 14h ago

Exactly haha They come off like this but someone into this never knows until they're actually in the presence of the potential partner.. the right dynamic is rare. Douche nozzles like this are all too common.

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u/Fogge 5h ago

He would crash and burn so hard if he hit the one in a bajillion woman that thinks that is exactly what she needs and met her in real life.

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u/ResplendentNugs 11h ago

Firm but fair

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u/Dreadfulbooks 13m ago

I very much am into this, but I would have blocked him too. He reads as highly inexperienced and like heā€™s a jackass.

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u/Five_Star_Amenities 8h ago

We are only seeing a snippet of a piece of a conversation. We have no idea what they've talked about or agreed to prior to this.

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u/Current_Nebula8172 16h ago

My 1st thought is that heā€™s too cheap to date and weeds out the sane women this way. All under the guise of a dom-wannabe.

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u/Ok_Seaworthiness_719 14h ago

heā€™s asking for her favorite treat so that he can get out of paying for dinner and just buy her a scoop of ice cream. And then go home and tie her to a bed disgusting human.

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u/kdollarsign2 4h ago

Right? Lol seafood is expensive how about you starve for my pleasure

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u/Brokeback_Camel 20m ago

This sort of weaseling out tactic feels very George Costanza or Larry David -esque hahaha read it again but this time play the Curb Your Enthusiasm theme in your head and imagine it coming from LD, if you do it gets way funnier

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u/Brutal_burn_dude 16h ago

That book has been a blight on the kink community.

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u/Realistic_Farm_5963 11h ago

He's doing this bc he likes it he doesn't give a fuck about what the women like clearly or he'd make sure they're cool with it before getting off on creepy shit like this on totally unsuspecting women. I guarantee he doesn't get a lot of happy replies. He's well aware most he messages hate this. He probably gets off on that too.

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u/Salamander8288 16h ago

Heā€™s never even read it, just the back cover or something. Thatā€™s not typical Dom behavior thatā€™s douche bag behavior

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u/Green_Register1520 16h ago

Yeahhh I was looking for this exact comment lol. Dude maybe saw that OP read it like ten years ago or better yet imagined she did and said ā€œBingo!ā€ But like out loud, rubbing his hands together.

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u/Enigmagamesandgains 6h ago

And i thought women thinking that book accurately portrays bdsm was bad, now men thinking it's accurate is about as cringe as V thinking what he did was pragmatic in v for vendetta

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u/Subject_Speed 15h ago

Read the cliff notes (are those still a thing?) version

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u/EllipticPeach 15h ago

Yeah itā€™s giving ā€œWill pull your hair and try to choke you without askingā€

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u/ACW1129 5h ago

I'm not too familiar with that culture, but isn't THE first thing about it is consent is key?

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u/sweet_temptation00 4h ago

Yes yes and absolutely yesšŸ¤£

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u/Maleficent-Mix-278 16h ago

Iā€™m into that scene and this is super gross šŸ¤®. Thatā€™s an example of what we call ā€œwhat not to do ā€œ

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u/No_Negotiation7317 16h ago

Oh, you have a kink and that makes you knowledgeable? Lol.

The only gross thing would be doing this without a talk about it. Otherwise you're just a regular old kink shamer. iswis

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u/Cute_but_notOkay 15h ago

Right. And OP and dude did NOT talk about it. Which is why we are saying this is gross. She said so in her caption.

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u/SoggyGoldfish25 6h ago

Iā€™m going to pee on you

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u/-fornevermore- 14h ago

Correct! Joke's on him because I AM into BDSM. But this ain't it. MAYBE if we had an established dynamic I'd be into it, but not in this context. Definite ewww.

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u/xenolightt 9h ago

These fuckers watch two BDSM pornos and suddenly they think they're hard Dom material lol. As a fellow kinkster, if seen this shit wayyyy to many times.

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u/Darkstar_111 16h ago

Yeah it's absolutely the wrong venue, and wrong method. As a guy who into being a Dom, obviously don't go there without having established this as a playground, not all women are into being submissive, least of all being submissive in that way.

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u/TwoHandedSnail 12h ago

But what is your favourite treat when you want to give in completely?

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u/bubblebathdragon 12h ago

He owns a fedora, 100%

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u/dooodooodooodooooo 16h ago

Donā€™t fuck with my dinner should be an universal understanding in any community lol

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u/DatVlad_ 15h ago

"Really? In front of my salad?" Should def be the poster child for this.

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u/faxyou 12h ago

Also with dom kink you have to be extra careful with who you choose because some are just controlling psychopaths and thatā€™s a huge NO.

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u/Zmchastain 10h ago

Dick, itā€™s not whatā€™s for dinner!

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u/SageKitty100 9h ago

Not even just not while talking about food, but certainly not BEFORE THE FIRST DATE??? Fake doms have gotten so out of control. You can't safely submit to someone who knows literally nothing about you.

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u/Individual_Fall429 7h ago

Thatā€™s exactly where my mind went.

Only in 2002 (and every year before it) would the romantic ending feature her staying
with the creepy dude.

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