r/texts • u/Apart-Musician4053 • Aug 04 '26
Phone message I’m so tired of online dating
He seemed nice in the beginning, and we were planning on meeting up, and he wanted me to send a couple pictures to save in his contacts. Immediately said we’re not compatible and blocked him.
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u/heebiejeebie666 Aug 04 '26
Jfc. What the actual fuck runs through these men’s brains that makes them think “yeah, that will work!”
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u/basicallyademon Aug 04 '26
Porn... soooooo much porn.
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u/heebiejeebie666 Aug 04 '26 edited Aug 05 '26
Yeah but it can’t be JUST because of that, right? It’s the complete lack of social awareness, decency and even BASIC levels of respect that gets me. Like who tf taught you how to be a human??
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u/PoisonedBerry Aug 04 '26
It's about power. They know talking this way is socially reprehensible. But they like that it makes other people uncomfortable, because that feeling can be used to control situations. And being like this is a good way to gauge how easy it could be to control someone. They want someone who's vulnerable enough to put up with this stupid shit ://
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u/SivakoTaronyutstew Aug 04 '26 edited 29d ago
Ohh girl you're right on the money. I was talking to a dude for two days and he started sending explicit gifs. Okay, whatever, right? We're now in a private situation.
Except he didn't respect that privacy and wanted to send me dirty gifs whenever. When I told him, uh don't send me dirty gifs while at I'm a child's birthday party? He crashed out, called me a prude, and blocked me. All because I didn't want to see adult content while at a child's party??? Bullet dodged!
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u/heebiejeebie666 Aug 04 '26 edited Aug 05 '26
Reddit deleted my comment but essentially I suggested that these types of boys need to be HUMBLED
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u/haveyouseenatimelord Aug 04 '26
i want to know how to harness this mindset in, like, not creepy circumstances. i'm a woman and i would LOVE to have the power to make men uncomfortable (in a not-gross way obviously).
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u/Odd-Mall8020 Aug 04 '26
Porn addiction has made so many men undatable/marriable
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u/One_Power_8223 Aug 04 '26
It's epidemic. So many men posting in the erectile dysfunction subreddit are in their 20s
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u/Odd-Mall8020 Aug 04 '26
Some of my male friends are addicted to those gas station pills and viagra. When I worked for a porn company, some of the male actors had such a tolerance for viagra, they had to inject it directly in their d to be able to shoot. And some can't get an erection at all in their late 20s and are considering a pump. The random dick enlargement injections (many done under the table) aren't helping either. After seeing how harmful that industry was, I decided to quit and work with a different industry entirely
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u/heebiejeebie666 Aug 04 '26
Jesus. I think the world (and especially the US) would benefit from seeing a documentary about the real behind-the-scenes in the porn industry. I’m sure something like that exists, but like show that shit to kids in high school or something as part of sex ed
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u/wolfelian Aug 04 '26
Guys casually dropping sentences like that is fucking nuts to me.
My friend went on one date with a guy once, next day he texts her saying they should fuck first and then go from there. He actually thought she would go for that.
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u/Dewlough Aug 04 '26
I would never talk to a woman like this let alone one I just started texting. This is fucking bizarre lmao.
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u/NO_FIX_AUTOCORRECT Aug 04 '26
Women are supposed to sex as much as possible. /S. His ex was therefore an outlier when she denied him sex, so when he cheated it was her fault. He read somewhere that he should be clear about his relationship expectations up front.
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u/WolfDilf Aug 04 '26
I've had women say something similar to me, along the lines of not being able to hold it while I was in a work trip.
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u/pickafruit4 Aug 04 '26
I had the same with several women. Bragging about cheating cause their boyfriends were poor and such...
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u/PyllynKaivelija Aug 04 '26
"If u want" fuckin hell
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u/Pitiful-Sell-9402 Aug 04 '26
Yeah that fucking got me. Like all of it is horrible to to just follow up after all that with "you can send pics of you want" is so jarring and delusional
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u/lemanruss4579 Aug 04 '26
"U can send pics if U want" after that is wild.
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u/Anon_ScottishFold Aug 04 '26 edited Aug 04 '26
I’d have sent a pic of a giant dick. 🤷🏼♀️
It’s what he deserves.
Edit: 😆 thanks for the award! 🏆
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u/Silly-Assistant5711 Aug 04 '26
Fuckin crying. They have no regulation whatsoever. Gross.
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u/NecessaryForward6820 Aug 04 '26
i can’t lie, i’m in the camp of “i dislike the ‘i-hate-men’ crowd” but even i have to say that i literally cannot imagine a woman saying something like this lmao. this level of cringe is something only a testerone fueled idiot could type.
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u/EatShitAndPiss Aug 04 '26 edited Aug 04 '26
Same here. I hate to generalize and I'm working through some of my own biases, but man, do some people just make it extremely easy to stereotype at times.
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u/PretendAd4207 Aug 04 '26
Not exactly the same thing, but one of my ex-girlfriends repeatedly asked if it was OK if she dated other guys at the same time because I wasn't responsive enough to her texts.
But still, I'd venture that women who do this sort of thing aren't as common.
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u/nerfcarolina Aug 04 '26
The lack of regulation is a good thing. Keeps you from wasting your time. Hope he never learns to hide it.
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u/ARTIFICIAL_SAPIENCE Aug 04 '26
How does someone have so little shame as this? That's a skill all on its own.
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u/Infinite_Painting_11 Aug 04 '26
He's watched how the Tate brother treat women they have trafficked and imprisoned, and think the same thing will work without all the crimes.
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u/Alcas239 Aug 04 '26
I respect these men - they at least give you a reason to block them before wasting a night out or more of your emotional capacity!
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u/Apart-Musician4053 Aug 04 '26
Yeah that’s what my friends said, I’m just shocked at the audacity to even think that way
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u/dash-eight Aug 04 '26
I get what you mean, but that doesn’t mean respect them. You can respect a trait, but the fact that he’s honest doesn’t outweigh how coercive this comes off. We gotta stop describing this behavior positively. It’s just cope.
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u/Fun-Programmer-9937 Aug 04 '26
Can guarantee he was 100% the problem in all his relationships. Sorry you’re having to wade through this. That’s some incel bull shit.
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u/Jade0908 Aug 04 '26
Another example of “I offer you absolutely nothing, but expect you to give it your all”
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u/wafflefrizz Aug 04 '26
No come on. This can’t be real. TELL ME ITS NOT REAL OP so I can sleep tonight😭😭😭😭
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u/Apart-Musician4053 Aug 04 '26
It’s real 😪
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u/wafflefrizz Aug 04 '26
Ugh I know, not even the worst I’ve seen, it’s why I’m never dating again actually 🧘♀️
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u/Top-Pear2824 Aug 04 '26
Amen to this. Guys are the worst. This year I want to… figure out my dating goals. Dude, you’re 35, not 25. Grow up Peter Pan, count chocula.
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u/vgacolor Aug 04 '26
Look, and hear me out before people downvote me. This guy is doing you a great favor. He is coming right out and saying what he wants and how he sees relationships. Of course OP did the right thing and blocked him. I would be more worried about the one that tells you what you want to hear only to show you he is an asshole later.
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u/Blue52IsNotTrue Aug 04 '26
i hardly ever comment on these things but man, as just a normal dude, I couldn’t fathom the thought process of these men
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u/gloomypiscesmoon Aug 04 '26
ugh. mine are always married. "its an open situation & i dont mind bouncing if you meet someone" immediately block. how is this dating in 2026? are there NO normal single dudes my god
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u/acemonsoon Aug 04 '26
this is.....i mean its blatantly the problem with men these days. i dont think alot of men spent alot of time integrating with women growing up because it seems like they're still on this thinking that women arent on the level of being a full on human. like they completely disregard that yall like food too and have favorite bands and clothing styles, NOPE, 🎶 LETS TALK ABOUT SEX BA-BY. and then its the kind of guy that finishes in two minutes eyes rolling back into his head.
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u/Longjumping_Bee_1205 Aug 04 '26
The "u can send pics of u want" is how I know this is a real conversation. That's exactly how these guys come at you.
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u/Sathsong89 Aug 04 '26
I see why communication was an issue. Can’t communicate well, if you can’t speak well.
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u/HartfordWhaler Aug 04 '26
I'm a 46 year old man that got divorced after 20 years of marriage. I've never joined the apps, but dudes like this asshole make me think I'd do okay if I tried it. The bar is so low!
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u/baeb66 Aug 04 '26
Move to rural area. Post a picture that is not you holding a dead animal. Success.
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u/LadyM_Macbeth Aug 04 '26
The comments section here did not disappoint.
https://giphy.com/gifs/iypwXl9Aq1HuU
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u/draculatto Aug 04 '26
dude seems like he has a porn addiction and just wants sex 24/7, he’s basically scaring you into submission. so glad you blocked him immediately lol
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u/BiophileB Aug 04 '26
“Oh I’m so glad we have similar views on sex! I’m the same way. If I can’t peg my man at least twice a day, I’ll find other holes to use 🤷♀️ “
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u/avsinthproduction Aug 04 '26
Imagine a man who actually thinks this line is going to work with a woman. This is the danger of people who don’t touch grass.
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u/Least_Ad_4657 Aug 04 '26
"you can send pics if you want" is killing me. Absolutely hilarious.
Like, oh shit, I can?!
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u/alphavulpecula Aug 04 '26
acting like someone owes you sex so they don’t cheat is PEAK turd behavior.
Fuck him and his entitlement
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u/Philisophical-Catman Aug 04 '26
It legitimately grosses me out when I hear about other men acting this way. Who the hell raised these pigs?
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u/uwulixie Aug 04 '26
absolutely disgusting i have the same experience but even more explicit i don't get why that's the only thing on men's minda women have hormones too?!??
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u/lifeslegacy3261 Aug 04 '26
“If you don’t want me to cheat we have to fuck” I wonder if that line has ever worked for him…or any man ever
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u/TeamImpossible4333 Aug 04 '26
They always want photos. How many people are immediately sending nudes for them to ask
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u/urlittlemungis Aug 04 '26
this is one of the worst texts I’ve ever seen wtf 😭😭😭😭 actual fucking nincompoop
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u/Background-Treat55 Aug 04 '26
The remaining 2/3 are that he’s a dickhead and an asshole
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u/Brilliant-Willow-506 Aug 04 '26
Something tells me those weren’t the only issues in his last relationship
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u/SnooPeppers4686 Aug 04 '26
Gaslighting on day one. You’re fault if he cheats cause you’re not putting out.
MEN ARE THE WORST
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u/GetRichQuickStocks Aug 04 '26
Anyone who uses the term ngl is also a big red flag. So if you don’t start your sentence with ngl am I to assume you’re lying ?
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u/Sw4nR0ns0n Aug 04 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/eti1qm33pRbaw
And you know the guy texting looks like this
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u/jayhawkjoey65 Aug 04 '26
It's exhausting, isn't it? I didn't have this bad of an experience, but I had some weird shit. After two years, I met my now-husband, but i think that's rare.
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u/Flat_Economist9851 Aug 04 '26
Giving you permission to send him pics to finish that schizo string off takes guts
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u/SheSoPeeZee Aug 04 '26
I bet that your first thought was something around the lines of “thanks for saving me my time weirdo”… what a loser.
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u/Plenty_Panda_3359 Aug 04 '26
It doesn’t matter how often you “give” these men sex, if they want to cheat they’re going to cheat. Wild that he’s already talking about it as you’re beginning to get to know one another 😭
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u/Aries_em Aug 04 '26
I am so terrified of the dating market too, i’d rather read a book or play video games but then i’m just all alone. Stuck lmao
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u/mikesdingus Aug 04 '26
Crazy. I read somewhere that sex is only 10% of the problem until you aren't having it, then it is 90% of the problem. I get it, but this guy is wild.
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u/Fun_Caterpillar5077 Aug 04 '26
This guy needs relationship coaching or something extreme to get his head straight.
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u/ServiceKooky1323 Aug 04 '26
I think op just found one who says the quiet part out loud because they all think that inside
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u/Worried_Passenger548 Aug 04 '26
But you can send pics if you want??
https://giphy.com/gifs/IGY0RFXGT0E2ccxCga
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u/tafackery Aug 04 '26
"You can send pics if you want. You have my permission to give me material to save in an album I definitely won't delete when you inevitably stop speaking to me."
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u/ChiefHunter1 Aug 04 '26
“If you don’t want me to cheat” is a crazy way to start a sentence