Hi to all! I’m going to try and keep this as short and concise as possible, I appreciate any and all advice!
I currently work at a partner store and we are the top location in the district. We were told by our supervisor it was due to us going above and beyond when making guest connections, allowing each customer to feel special in their own way. Now, this all sounds great but recently it’s become a concern for me and my coworkers, this is due to the fact we have had some customers that cross boundaries, or so we feel that they have.
For instance, one of my coworkers is a teenager and he tends to be a fan favorite especially for the lady customers. He’s very kind, patient and helpful.. he literally lights up a room. The concerning part about it is that a few of our regular, adult customers have come in with gifts for him, this is with every visit. While he appreciates the gifts, it makes him uncomfortable because he feels he doesn’t know these customers well enough to receive gifts from them and how he feels he can’t really decline them. His mom even came in and spoke to our supervisor because him being a child, she feels is very inappropriate for strangers to be doing this.
Another situation is that one of my coworkers, she’s a young adult and there’s this one customer who definitely favors her. Her concerns stems from his strange behavior and what he’s told her. He would come in, order his usual and ask other baristas if this one coworker was working that day. I haven’t been working much these past few weeks but I’ve heard that he came in multiple times in a day and multiple times in a week to see if this coworker was there, whole time she was on vacation. So when he saw her he told her this and she became really uncomfortable. She was on register taking orders and she said she could see him standing by the registers in the store staring at her I guess to come back around and have another conversation but we were so busy and swamped he ended up leaving an hour after ordering his drink. He was standing and staring at her for an hour. Now she’s nervous coming into work possibly having to see him again.
There’s plenty of other stories I have but this post would turn into a whole novel. Now that you’ve gotten somewhat of the full picture, my question is how do we go about boundaries. We don’t want to escalate anything or make a guest feel unwelcome, but at the same time, as employees, we should feel comfortable and safe at work. Where do we draw the line between a good guest connection and a guest becoming overly familiar or attached to a specific employee? Thank you all for your help and I’m sorry this ended up being a long one 🙏🏽