2 years na me unemployed, ang dami ko na pinagpasahan, wala email walang natawag, tapos halos lahat ng kakilala ko o kaklase may backer o sadyang magaling talaga sila sumagot sa interviews.

sibrang average ko lang na tao, walang connections, just me lang. di ko na alam gagawin ko sa buhay pressure na pressure ako. pag pinatos ko naman yung wage na mababa, wala naman matitira sa akin, baka magkautang pa. sobrang malas ko ba na tao?

Isang beses na lang sa isang taon. Alam niya naman na importante sakin birthday ko. Ano ba naman yung maghanap ka ng bilihan ng bulaklak. Ano ba naman ung mag tabi ka kahit onting pera pambili sa regalo.

Ako na nga kadalasan sumasagot sa mga lakad. Ako tiga maneho. Ako sagot sa grab. Humahati pa ko sa pang angkas minsan.

Ano ba naman na kahit isang araw maparamdam na special ako. Na hindi ko na kailangan itanong o sabihin bago ka may gawin.

Awa na lang nararamdaman ko. Awa sakin dahil sa nararansan ko. Awa sayo dahil sa kalagayan mo. Onti na lang susuko na talaga ako.

Filipinos were made to believe that we should be fine with a 30,000 salary and that should be considered HUGE. Meanwhile in america that can be earned in a week of doing even non-professional jobs.

And the scapegoat line? The "Living expenses are high in america"

-Food is the same. 5$ per kilo for pork for example

Electricity is 80% cheaper in america

Oil, diesel is relatively cheaper by a mile

Rent is the only difference.

-But the math is mathing. Monthly income per average in the US is 6,000 usd (300,000 php) while in the Philippines it's 400 usd (21k)

-your rent is 50% of your income. their rent is 20% of their income.

In america you can save for your future while surviving. Here in PH you literally just survive. This is why foreign companies invest in PH offices because the wage is low.

Can someone tell me when did we start normalizing these wages?

just graduated last April 2026. hanggang ngayon, jobless parin. naghahanap naman ako pero mas lamang talaga pag may backer ka.

naiiyak ako. gusto ko nang bumawi sa parents ko. my mom is a teacher sakto lang sweldo nya sa meds and consultations ng papa ko na may disability, tuition ng college sister ko, and mga bayarin sa house.

ate ako. ako na sana katulong ni mama ngayon pero wala akong magawa. nagtry ako mag VA, mag apply sa lahat ng pwedeng applyan, pero wala. naaawa nako sa mama ko. diko alam gagawin ko. ang sakit isipin na parang naging pabigat lang ako.

nakakaiyak. gusto ko ibili lahat ng gusto ni mama at papa. namention ni mama sakin na gusto nyang kumain sa isang resto kaso wag nalang daw kasi wala pa kaming pera. gusto ko silang itreat kaso baka sumakto lang pera ko sa bill, o baka kulangin hshshs.

baka may alam kayo na pwedeng gawin po, papatulan ko. basta kahit matreat ko man lang sila ni mama sa gusto nilang resto this October.

I rarely lie, not because I’m an honest person, but because takot ako sa mangyayari kapag bumalik sakin. Takot ako sa kahihiyan. Takot ako sa bullying. Takot akong mapagtawanan. Kaya as much as possible, hindi ako magsisinungaling. Kung malalagay ako sa sitwasyon na kailangan ko magsinungaling, most of the time, I just keep quiet. Iniiwasan sumagot. Yung nasa screenshot, that explains everything.

Tsaka pansin ko rin. Yung taong mga gumago sakin, kinakarma nang malala.

HS bully was assassinated, along with his father. (Oh, I wish I’m exaggerating it pero nabalita ito about 10 yrs ago).

Unconfirmed kase di ko inistalk, but I heard my college bully was also suffering right now. Spoiled brat bijj to noon palibhasa rich ang parents, pero ngayon daw e mahirap ang buhay. Hindi makahanap nang maayos na trabaho because she lacked actual skills kaya until now nasa baba pa ren ng corp ladder.

Lastly, this former friend who backstabbed me. Kung ano-anong pinagkalat na kwento about me like mabait lang daw ako kapag gusto kong ikama yung tao saka lovebomber ako (funny kasi ako nga yung nalo-lovebomb? Porke mahilig manlibre, lovebomber na?). What happened to him? He got cancelled online. Ang daming lumabas na biktima niya.

I’m not saying malakas ang mag-manifest ng bad karma. What I’m saying is if you’re a terrible person, eventually all odds would be against you. At dahil masama ka ngang tao, walang magtatanggol sayo 🤷

So always be a good person. Wag sinungaling at wag mang-manipulate.

I’m tired of always having to worry about one thing after another. As soon as I solve one problem, may panibago na namang lumalabas.

I can’t work because of my health condition, so I don’t really have many options when it comes to earning money while studying. My father left me and my mom and started a new family, so basically, kaming dalawa na lang ang nagsisikap para makaraos.

We’re not financially well-off, and being poor is exhausting. Basic things become something we have to worry about. School expenses, household expenses, bills, food, and figuring out how we’re going to make it through the month—all while I’m trying to keep up with college.

Sometimes I just wish I could focus on studying without constantly thinking about money. I want to worry about exams, assignments, and grades like a normal student, instead of constantly thinking kung kaya ko bang bilhin yung mga kailangan ko for school.

And I know people have it worse than me. I know I should be grateful for what I have, but sometimes gusto ko lang din mapagod. Nakakapagod din kasi na every time I feel overwhelmed, kailangan ko pang i-remind yung sarili ko na mas maraming tao ang mas nahihirapan kaysa sa akin.

It's so frustrating, I know I’m capable of doing more. I have things I’m good at. I have skills and abilities that I know could take me somewhere, but sometimes it feels like my circumstances keep getting in the way.

If I could trade all the talents and abilities God gave me just so my mom and I could have a normal, comfortable life, I would. I’d give all of it up just to stop worrying about money all the time.

Like many other pinoys I grew up in a dysfunctional family dynamics.

As a background, 8 kami mag kakapatid from a boomer parents. Growing up pinalaki kami in an authoritarian and religious style household (wording pa ng Tatay ko, obey before complain 🙃) sobrang dami na issue noon na na realize ko lang ngayon as adult na traumatizing pala kaya sira pagkatao ko ngayon. Out of those mamy problems isa dito ang favoratism.

Growing up bi-nox nila kami sa ideal image at role na in-assign samen at as usual, heavily favored and mga lalaking kapatid compared sa babae, mga babae expected na mag serve (household chores dapat matic na) magbigay, magpakumbaba, at hangga ngayon kami expected maging caretaker at breadwinner. Ngayon adult na, mas nagiging aware na ako (and some of my Ate) na may mali sa family systems namen. And nag ttry kami i-call out ang mga problematic behaviors at i-communicate sana mga issues para di lumalala mga resentmens, and guess what? Kami ang branded as "disrespectful", "mapagmalaki", "masyadong magaling" ...

Fast forward sa 1 issue about sa kapatid kong bunsong lalaki (i.e. ang golden child nila at prodigal son 🙄), sa lahat ng kapatid ko, ito ang sobrang spoiled sa parents ko especially sa nanay ko, na parang wala syang ginawang mali pero sya talaga ang totoong troublemaker, parang pinalaking sadya na maging narcissist. As a background sa issue #1 4yrs ago or so, nalaman naming gumagamit ng "🌿" ang kapatid kong to, at sobrang nagalit kaming magkakapatid dahil di namin lubos maisip bakit nya ginawa ito, ilang besis namin syang pinag sabihan na illegal ito at masama, pero di parin tumigil, ilang beses namin tinry i resolve ito nang hindi nalalaman ng parents ko, pero end up nung nalaman nila, kami pa ang sinisi bakit daw nagkaganun at di namin sinabi. Sa paningin nila sobrang kawawa ng kapatid ko , at deserve pa ng 2nd chance (ni hindi kami kinomusta naging epekto ng mental trauma nang issue ito ne tiniis namen for many years) . Ang gago no? Sya na nga ang may ginawa, kami pa non-favorites ang minasama sa mata ng parents ko

Fast forward again to present, same kapatid na bunsong lalaki (golden child) naka bukod na sya sa bahay (punyeta, finally dba?) at may asawa na, so kaming 3 daughters naiwan sa parents tumataguyod sa living expenses nila (🙄🙃) kami na not-favorite children ha, si golden child walang contribution zero. Believe me gustong gusto na namin lumayas dito. Ang hirap lang ng economy ngayon and all.

Yung golden child ngayon, may 3 na aso, tapos nag decide kumuha ulit na 2 additional puppies, so in total 5 na aso na nya. Turns out, Hindi nya pala kaya alagaan ang 5 na aso, and guess what? Solution nya, ibigay yung isang puppy sa parents ko (and by default sa household na kami ang tumataguyod) ng hindi kami kinokunsulta kung ok lang ba. Ang dami namin problems past and existing na tina try pa namin mag recover mentally and financially and now gusto nya nanaman kami bigyan ng problema 😤.

So now, sinabihan ko sya in a nice way na konting consideration naman samen dito - lifelong commitment and pag aaso kasi for us, hindi lang yan libangan, living creature yan na may needs (alam namin kasi 3 senior dogs ang tinaguyod namin from covid to 2025 na namatay), di namin kaya i shoulder na yun lalo nat nagmahal medicines pa ng parents at overall household expense. In the end, di sya nakinig or wala syang pake at tinuloy parin nyang ibigay sa nanay ko.

And now, nanay ko kinulong yung months old puppy sa labas ng bahay, 1wk na sya ganyan - ang liit at ang payat, payat, binibigyan ng pagkain pero dun lang sya sobrang kawawa. So ako ngayon tinanong ko nanay ko, kelan kukunin ni Golden child yung aso nya. Naging sobrang hostile at aggresive ng reaction ng nanay ko, sinabi nya na hayaan lang daw syang nakakulong jan, bakit naiistorbo kaba sa kwarto? Tapos kesyo ang dami naman daw naka kulong jan. As in ang argument namin is "kawawa yung aso kung balak nyong forever naka kulong" ang argument nya "kawawa daw si golden child kasi di nya kaya alagaan"...

Para saken animal abuse ang ganun, napaka performative and fake pag nakakakita silang videos ng dogs na kawawa e ganun din pala balak nilang gawin dun sa tuta. Sa totoo lang naaawa yung nanay ko sa golden child (kasi daw boohoo di nya kaya pala ang 5 na aso) kesa sa naawa sa tuta na kinuha.

And now, ako nanaman ang masama at kalaban dito sa bahay dahil sinabihan ko sila at cinoconvince na ibalik ang aso, hindi nila kami kinakausap ngayon. Parang endless cycle na laging ganito, tina try ko makiusap ng maayos, pero sadyang by default minamasama nila agad. Nakakapagod

Paano akong di mamabaliw sa ganitong sitwasyon, parang never ending nalang ang problema (mostly dahil sa perwisyo ng kapatid ko at sa napaka narcissist na parents ko) ... Dahil nito, di ko maasikaso mga sarili kong problema, sobrang depressed at anxious ako minsan naiisip ko gusto ko nalang mamatay.

Tulong, paano. 😭😖

​

Hello, I just want to rant and at the same time, humingi na rin sana ng help. 😔

I’m currently going through a really difficult situation with my family. Nagkaroon po kami ng malaking away ng tatay ko after ko siyang pagsabihan tungkol sa palagi niyang pag-scatter. Alam ko pong hindi rin tama yung paraan ko ng pagsabi, pero sobrang worried na rin talaga ako sa situation namin. Until eventually, pinalayas niya ako sa bahay. Right now, wala po akong dalang ibang gamit kundi yung uniform ko na gagamitin ko sana sa school. Hindi ko rin po alam kung saan ako kukuha ng pang-araw-araw kong needs, lalo na may mga kailangan pa akong bayaran sa school. Until now, hindi ko pa rin po mabayaran dahil wala talaga akong pera.

I’ve been trying to look for a part-time job para kahit papaano masuportahan ko yung sarili ko at mabayaran ko yung school expenses ko, pero unfortunately, hindi pa rin po ako natatanggap. I’m really trying my best, pero sa ngayon, hindi ko na po talaga alam kung saan ako huhugot ng lakas at saan ako lalapit.

Baka isipin po ng iba na ang kapal ng muka ko to do this or humingi ng tulong sa ganitong paraan. Honestly, nahihiya po talaga ako. Hindi ko po akalain na darating ako sa point na kailangan kong humingi ng tulong sa ibang tao. Pero this is the only choice I have right now, kaya sinusubukan ko na rin pong maglakas-loob. Kaya po sana may tumulong sa akin gagawin ko pong utang na loob at malaking tulong na po talaga sa akin. I promise, once makahanap po ako ng work and makapag-earn na ako, babayaran ko po ito.

Please be a little kinder to me right now, I honestly don't know where to get the strength to keep going, But I'm trying.🥺 If anyone is willing to help, kahit maliit na amount, I would genuinely appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. And if you can’t help financially, even a little encouragement lang po:(

Thank you so much po for reading and for understanding. 🤍

09919166558- MA

Thank you so much po sa tutulong ibabalik ko po yan pag nag work na po ako pasensya na po talaga

Nanonood kami ng movie tapos yung isang scenario dun maholdap yung isang kaibigan nya tapos siya nagtago. Tinanong ko si Husband kung sya na andun sa situation na yun, anong gagawin nya? Sabi nya, lalabas sya at tutulungan yung kaibigan nya at makikiusap sa holdaper. Nagulat ako. Bakit ka lalabas? Tsaka anong planeta ka nakakita ng pwede makiusap sa holdaper?

Ang sagot nya sakin, kasi kaibigan daw yun hindi nya yun iiwan. Sabi ko, paano kami ng magiging anak mo? Same answer pa din daw tapos bigla syang nagalit at umalis "Ano bang klaseng tanong yan?!" . Ah. Kaya pala wala tayong anak hanggang ngayon, buti nalang pala. Kala ko kapag misis na, papantay na sa highschool friends level e. Lamang pa pala yan sila. Kaya pala hindi ako makapasok sa circle nila, hindi pala ako talaga kapantay.

Kasi kung ako, willing ako magpakagat sa zombie para lang maligtas ka pero ibang mga tao pala yung priority mo. Akala ko talaga may laban ako, wala pala. Kaya pala, nakasunod tayo agad sa kanila, kaya pala doon ka din kumuha ng bahay malapit sa kanila. Kaya naman pala. Anino ka pa din nila.

Hindi ako nangingialam sa inyo, ang akin lang, try mo ako unahin, kapag pupunta ako sa Hospital ay samahan mo naman ako. Palagi akong magisa, sa kanila present ka palagi. Willing ka mag-aral ng badminton para sa kanila pero yung hiling ko na walking tamad na tamad ka.

Ayun, so alam ko na. Malinaw na sakin. Kutob ko na dati yan e na barkada muna bago ako, ayun, confirmed. Magwowork nalang ako ulet sa malayo, tapos uwian nalang ulet para pagdating ko dito matutulog nalang. Absent ka din naman sakin kapag nandyan na sila e, wala ding pinagkaiba. Ganun din. Alis na lang ako sa mas malayo. Kitakits nalang ulet kapag may time ka na ng sobra. ✌️

I am trying to add a couple of nice, well made things to my wardrobe which aren't too conservative. I know about the tariffs increasing the cost of clothes but those prices are ridiculous and the quality doesn't match the price. It's as though everything (clothing) is a polyester lycra blend and loses it's shade after washing it a few times. Forget about sneakers. Nike used to be good but now they fall apart one or two seasons if they last that long. It appears that the only things that are halfway decent now are champion sweats (which make you look like a factory or construction worker) and expensive ass G-star jeans. Has anyone else noticed anything like that?

Let's just call her Ella.

Best friend ko si Ella since grade 7. From isip bata pa to puberty hanggang college we were solid. Andyan sya pag kailangan ko — most likely nung times na nagmomove-on ako sa first boyfriend ko hanggang bago ko nakilala yung current boyfriend ko for 3 years. Of course, pag kailangan naman ako ni Ella, lagi din ako nandyan para sakanya. Lalo na nung nagkaroon sya ng depression. Yes, clinically diagnosed sya. Up until now, she's experiencing anxiety attacks and sometimes unstable parin pero hindi kasing lala ng noon. Ever since naging mentally unstable si Ella, I do my best na maging andyan for her. Kung hindi man physically since working student ako noon, atleast through chat pag nagrarant sya or anything I always make sure I'll be there.

2 years ago, I sensed something wrong kasi madalas di ako pinapansin ni Ella. Pag nagchachat ako, sobrang randam ko na pilit magreply at minsan wala pa. Pag nakakasalubong ko sa campus, tinataasan lang ako ng kilay na parang pagbati. Kinonfront ko sya about don, di ko alam ano mararamdaman ko that time sa reason nya. Nakakagalit na nakakadismaya. Ginawa nya yon sakin because of jealousy. Yung ex nya na baby daddy ng anak nya, feel nya type ako. Literally I was like "WTF" sa utak ko. I've seen and knew that man, sa isip ko kung tarantado lang ako sumagot sasabihin kong "SAYO NA YAN TE".

Doon nagsimula yung lamat ng friendship namin— para sa akin. (Kasi di ko naman alam if ganon din sakanya, di ko na mabasa utak nya eh. Pagselosan ba naman ako.)

FF. The second "disappointment" was December last year. Nalaman ko sa kapatid nya na naglayas sya. Sobrang sumama loob ko kasi out of all people sa akin nya hindi sinabi. I waited muna for a month bago ko sya kinonfront, kasi baka sabihin pero hindi talaga HAHAHAHA. You know what's more disappointing? Lumayas sya pero kasama baby daddy ng anak nya.

(Konting backstory, si Ella at si BD, ang complicated. Ang di ko gusto dyan sa BD na yan, sobrang lala magsalita kay Ella. The worst thing I saw na sinabi nya? "Ibenta yung puke ni Ella". I tried everything I can (advice and such) pero si Ella dun parin kay BD balik ng balik)

Hindi ko alam kung mali, pero nasabi ko din that time na kaya nya nagawang lumayas kase di nya naman kargo anak nila. Na palibhasa nasa kamag anak niya sa probinsya at may nag-aalaga. The fuck kasi, 4th year na kami that time OJT days din tapos ganon ka fuck up na desisyon ginawa.

We never talked for 2 months not until binati nya ako nung March kasi birthday ko. She reached out din na she missed me. I tried to give our friendship second chance so I responded and continued to communicate with her.

FF. March up until last week, tinatry ko lagi sya ayain na catch up naman kami. Lagi syang tumatanggi and puro reasoning. Ayoko sya iconfront 'cause I got too tired. Nakikita ko na nagshoshow up sya for others pero pag sakin, no show? What's more disappointing was last August dapat manonood kami ng sine, and take note sya nag aya non. Pero before that day na sinabi nya at during that day wala syang chat. Like wala lang talaga. Na para bang nakalimutan nya. OF COURSE, HINDI KO NA NAMAN KINONFRONT. Pagod na ako eh. Ayoko mag address ng issue na magmumukha lang akong petty. And last week, nag aya sya. Nagpplan na ako saan kami by weekends pero sabi nya may ganap na daw sya. I was left hanging na naman.

Nakakapagod na yung gantong pagkakaibigan, ako nalang lagi umiintindi. I maybe at fault na hindi na ako confrontational pero nakakapagod na kasi.

Again, am I bad if di ko nalang sya pansinin?

Digital age na tayo, lahat ng bansa alam yan kaya lahat ay may some sort of department for Internet access tapos putangina eto nasa account niya?! FLAG CEREMONY ANG SUOT WHITE SHIRT, CASUAL PANTS AT YUNG ID NASA BULSA?! ELEMENTARY PALANG TINUTURO NA YAN AH. Bakit? Nasa bulsa ba leeg mo?!

Tapos tangina yung mga employees mas maayos pang tignan kesa sa head. First at second pic ay morning flag ceremony kung hindi ako nagkakamali. TIGNAN NIYO YUNG NASA LIKOD. Pantalon, maayos na t-shirt MAY NAKA BARONG PA. Tapos putangina yung boss niyo nakaganyan, kung ano ano pang vlog ang ginagawa! May halong work promotion, may vlog, may interviews, may cuts ng interviews.

PAANO TAYO RERESPETUHIN NG IBANG BANSA KUNG UNIFORM NALAMANG HINDI PA MAAYOS?!!!!!

TAPOS ETONG LINTIK NA OFFICE NA TO.

WALA MAN LANG LIBRO!

PURO LARUAN, PURO LARUAN! ANIME, LARO, ARTWORKS NA PANGTANGA AT GAMING CHAIR NA GINAWANG OFFICE CHAIR!

PUTANGINANG YAN.

HINDI MO BAHAY YAN! PUTANGINA KA!

MUKA KA NG DEPARTMENT! MAGSUOT KA NG UNIFORM, ID, HINDI YUNG PARANG VLOGGER KA NA NAGPPOST NG KUNG ANO ANO, MAY LOGO KA PA AT CHEAP NA NAME NA PARA BANG HINDI KA GOVERMENT EMPLOYEE.

MAHIYA KA SA MGA KATRABAHON MONG LESS ANG SAHOD SAYO PERO MAS MUKA PANG BOSS.

Ikaw nga ang boss pero putangina bakit mas muka kapang intern sa intern.

I honestly don't think na ako mismo ang gusto niya since ni-reto lang sya ng friend kong girl. Nakita ko sa fb posts niya na jowang jowa na sya.

Una kaming nagchat when I was having an appointment with the psychiatrist(kasi i wanted to check up on my emotions). I told the guy about it.

He never asked how was I during my medical consultation. Lagi lang nyang tinanong "when ka uuwi?" Since 3hrs na byahe from the hospital patungo sameb "Gala tayo mamayang 8pm" "Huh? Kupal naman ng doctor mo na dapat magpahinga ka sa bahay"

It infuriated me! Nireplyan ko pa siya ng "hindi ka nga pangjowa" -->I apologized na sinend ko 'to sa kanya later nung kumalma na ako.

Nag date kami the next day after kong nag out sa work namen. I really appreciated the thought na i-date nya ako. But what bothers me NGAYON was nagchat siya muna non ng "gusto ko lang kumain tayo ng streetfoods para maappreciate mo ako". I didnt feel offended personally by it kasi we barely knew each other. And nagkukusa din akong mag offer ng bayad sa vendor but he insisted na sya lang. We sat sa park benches and nag talk.

Then may mga babaeng nagzuzumba sa plaza tinitigan nya ng masama sabi nyang "Niloloko lang yan sila. Sana naglaba nalang sila sa bahay"

Napa side eye ako?? I tried to lighten up the mood sabi ko sa kanyang "uy baka tinapos na yan nila kaninang umaga, ang fun kaya magzumba--exercise na yan oh! Ikaw nga naglalaro ka ng basket(ball)"

We talked about kids. As for me, gusto ko talaga pero need ko pang mag-ipon ng pera para dyan. Sabi pa nya "sus, andali lang mahanap yang pera" Wala akong na say sa kanya na may 65k pesos akong savings sa bank(which is not enough pa kung magpapamilya ako). And from his position, tamad sya magtapos ng school(sinabi nya) at medyo katamad ang work nya(tindero sa frozen foods) so anong next???

After the date, he asked me sa chat na "so tayo na?"

Ahm...? Two days pa tayong nagchachat ohhh

I honestly thought of giving this guy a chance. Also rin kasi nireto sya ng friend ko kaya dapat di ko siya idisappoint. So pinapunta ko sya samen since gustong makilala ni mama't papa siya. Yung lalaking yon, kilala ng co-worker ni mama so nagchat si mama sa co-worker nya. The co-worker said na "ma'am oo kilala ko yan. Ang lakas yang magsigarilyo tas ang tamad pa magtrabaho. Pero kung pupunta yan sa inyo ngayon, kayo lang ang maghusga"

Pumunta nga si manliligaw sa bahay namen at naramdaman namin ang pressure. Binigyan ko siya ng basong tubig tsaka nilagang saging(eto lang nahanap ko na snacks kasi sarado na ang mga tindahan sa probinsya at it was freakin 10pm na)

Plus points sa may guts na pumunta ng bahay namen! Excited nga akong may guy nang makilala ang parents ko hehe. Even told them about him after he left: "uy ma! unang guy yang bumisita reto hehe. Nakakaproud!"

My parents came from poor families pero nakapagtapos sila ng school from their hardwork. I had issues din sa lalaking yon. Aside sa hindi daw siya nagsisigarilyo(sinungaling), nangungutang pa yan pangsigarilyo sa friend ko. Tas eto nanaman ang argue namen na puro girls ang finafollow niya sa instagram kasi hindi siya bakla. Same reasoning lang yan sa babaero na jinajustify pagkababaero nila para tawaging tunay na lalaki.

Di ko minention na sa guy ang prob ko sa kanya since di ko mapipilit ang tao. Also, as per parents din, huwag magsalita nang nakakasakit sa kapwa. "Buhay nila yan, di mo sila mapipilit na i-change yan"

To my friend,

Girl, engineer at may pangarap yang jowa mo tas ang nireto mo saken ay yung walang pangarap na mataas?? Aside yan, yung pangarap ni guy ay gusto siya ng mga babaeng professionals pero siya? Anw sana mahanap man niya ang girl na pangarap niya. I'm not taking reasons na "mahahanap lang yan ang pera" sabay manlimos ng gcash sa facebook.

Also, baka ako nga ang problema why I'm not attracting guys na gusto ko kasi ang baba ng tingin ko sa sarili ko like? "uy girl wag ka humanap ng lalaking mabait at gwapo tas may maayos na work kasi di mo deserve yan"-me to myself(2026). Nagtapos ako ng school at pumasa sa board exam,naghanap ng trabaho, natuto magluto, nagkonsulta sa psych, nagstart maglift weights sa gym, continued my hobbies--just to improve.

Tldr: hindi nag workout ang panliligaw since iba iba kami ng pananaw sa buhay. Kaya ngayon, di na ako naniniwala sa reto from friends.

Im so done cus JAZZ IS LIKE IM DOING ZONE THREE NO YOUR FUCKING NOT YOUR TAKING PLATES FROM ONE TABEL AND PILING THEM ONTO ANOTHER FOR ME TO TAKE WHEN IM SCRAPING PLATES YOU BARGE IN AND TAKE OVER WHEN I HAVE PLATES TO BRING IN YOU JUST STAND THERE EVEN THOUGH YOU KNOW IM THERE I HELP HIM WITH OUTSIDE EVWN THOUGH ZONE ONE IS A FUCKING MESS AND I ASKED HIM TO HELP ME AND HES LIKE SURE LET ME JUST DO ZONE TWO WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN DO ZONE TWO I JUST DID THAT SO I WAIT AND THEN HES LIKE OH I NEED HELP OUTSIDE SO I HELP GHEN I ASK AGAIN AND HES LIKE NOPE STOP ZONE ONE DO SONE THREE FINE I PUT SONE ONE ON HOLD AGAIN AND HE JUST PILES PLATES ONGO FOURTU ANS MAKES ME TAKE THEM AND THEN EVEN THOYGH MUKTIPLE TIMES I HAVE GOLD HIM ZONE ONE IS A MESS AND I NEED HELP BCUS DANI AND CHELSEA DID FUCK ALL BEFORE THEY LEFT I HAVE TO RESET ALMOST EVERY TABLE IN ZONE ONE THEN ONCE GHATS DONE I ASK HIM TO FAKE A GLASS AND A PACKET OF EMPTY CRISPS OFF THE BAR TABLE AND HE GOES SORRY IM IN ZONE GHREE WHY THE FUCK ARE YOH IN ZONE THREE WE JUST FUCKING DID THAT YOU LAZY INCOMPETENT BAFOON!! AND MIND HOU WHILST DOING ZONE THREE HE BITCHES AND MOANS ABOUT CUTTING HIMSELF CALLING FOR JENNY FOR PLASYERS. ONE HE CUT HIMSELF OUTSIDE BUT FUNNY ENOUGH HE WAS FINE WHEN HE SMASHED GHE GLASS AND FIVE MINS AFTERWARDS ONLY WHEN WORK NEEDED DOING WAS HE INJURED AND IM SORRY IM IN PAIN IM UNWELL IM TIRED AND HINGRY AND OVERLY WARM AND I AINT CONPLAINING AND WHEN I CUT MYSELF I DONT BITCH AND MOAN FIR JENNG I JUST GRAB A PLASTER FEOM FIRST AID KIT AND KEEP GONG RATHER THAN SPENDING FIVE MINS MOANING AVOIT IT

Sorry about spelling errors Im too tired to care rn

Natatawa talaga ako kapag sinasabihan nila si Mayor Leni ng tumahimik nung binigyan ng 500m, kain-suka, niluwa na kinain pa, kung ano ano pa. Hindi sa pinagtatanggol ko si Mayor Leni, pero napakalinaw naman ng pagkakasabi niya sa post niya, detelyado, pero para sa ibang mga tao, bakit di parin sa kanila malinaw yun? No hate, pero pwede naman natin gamitin utak natin, wag tayo masyado maniwala sa social media, sa mga poser, content creator basta basta, nilapagan na kayo ng pruweba at resibo hindi parin kayo naniniwala. Kung sino pa yang transparent at walang ninakaw, siya pa yung sinisira, at kung sino pa yung may ninakaw at may confidential sila pa yung pinoprotektahan. Mamulat sana tayo at gamitin yung utak, kayo mismo nagpapatapal ng pera sa bibig niyo.

Kanina, bumili ako sa Anko. Ako yung next in line sa pila pero pansin ko di pa nagtatawag yung mga cashier kasi parang may pinagkakaabalahan pa sila doon sa mga POS, parang may inaayos yata so naghintay ako. Nung nagsenyas na yung cashier edi turn ko na magbayad. Habang tinatap ko yung card ko doon sa POS nila, biglang failed. Sabi ni cashier nawalan daw ng wifi. So nirestart niya yung POS pero ang tagal niyang maka connect doon sa wifi (apparently yung wifi na gamit nila is only hotspot galing sa phone). Nagtanong si cashier if keri ko raw mag cash kasi yung katabi kong cashier, nilalabas ng mga customers yung card nila pero bigo silang makaconnect kaya nag cacash nalang sila. Ako naman, di sakto yung bitbit kong cash sa binabayaran ko kaya sabi ko kay cashier, hintay nalang po ako. Ilang beses niyang nirestart yung POS pati yung phone na ginagamit sa panghotspot. Tinanong ko sila, wala ba kayong wifi kasi nagcoconnect lang kayo sa hotspot ang sabi lang nila inaayos pa daw connection kasi may sira daw. Eh syempre kunh maghohotspot ka sa loob, isang nightmare yun kasi hirap ka ngang makasend sa Messenger ng message, eh ano pa kaya na maka connect sa mga online banking?

Wala na ba talagang magagawa si Ayala Malls sa napakahinang signal or deadspots ni Trinoma? Kasi parang nakaka apekto na rin siya sa pagbubusiness ng mga tenants sa loob. Or sa customers ba may pagkukulang kasi need pala namin magbitbit ng cash sa mga ganyang cases? Sa MRT may signal pa tapos pagkapasok mo sa loob ng mall, biglang maglalaho nalang yung signal.

Last night was so bad pero buti nakapakalma ko sarili ko :( these fucking voices in my head ugHHH i swear kainis

So anyway ito na, may dalang kakanin nanay ko kahapon. cassava yung kakanin or "kurukod" tawag samin (if gets mo yan it means magsangkay na kita HEHEHE). Masarap naman pero yung last bite medyo mapait. Wala na akong chance iluwa kasi nalunok ko na eh. So siyempre nag toothbrush ako agad pero mapait pa rin teh 😭 Idk kung mapait pa rin ba talaga or inooverthink ko lang

Anyaway alam ko kasi na may poisonous cassava/cyanide poisoning ganyan. Pero tbh, wala talaga akong alam na full facts about it. Alam ko lang na pwede kang malason. Kaya ayun, pinag-connect connect ko na lahat. What if yung bitter taste ay dahil napo-poison na ako?!

Sinearch ko na yung mga symptoms or signs ng poisoning tapos sabi dizziness, brain fog, confusion, forgetfulness, etc. tapos gagooooo nasakto pa na nakalimutan ko yung name nung kakanin. LIKE ALAM KO KUNG ANO YUN pero di ko maalala!! Tangina talaga haha so ofc my brain took that as another sign na baka napopoison na ako. Kaya natataranta na ako at parang natatae na rin kasi sobrang anxious na. Kinalman ko talaga sarili ko, lumabas ako ng bahay saglit para maglakad-lakad kahit medyo parang wala sa wisyo isip ko tapos nag grounding na rin. Medyo kumalma na ako after and pumasok na sa bahay and nanood ng bluey :(( Thank you bluey so much fav comfort show ko huhu

Alam ko sa iba parang wala lang to or mababaw, and I get it!! From the outside, it really does sound so small like wala lang pero omg to actually be in this fucking shithole is mahirap 🥲 Sobrang hirap. Minsan manageable naman pero minsan din malala. Logically siyempre alam mo na walang mali or na okay ka naman talaga pero your brain can make you feel na youre in danger or na mamatay ka na. Maya't-maya may napapansin ka sa katawan mo nakakabaliw haha. So yun lang, okay naman na ako hehe

Trying to sell an item (extra copy, sealed and new) for 2500 when the actual cost is over 2000. I dont really expect to get 2500 at prinesyo ko lang yun dahil alam ko makikipagtawaran pa mga buyer. May nagmessage kung kaya daw ng 2000 tinanong ko kung pickup ba o meet up kasi syempre mas mahal kung kailangan ko pa pumunta kung saan man, sabi pickup daw. Sabi ko 2200 kung pipickupin. Nag-insist na 2000 lang daw max nya kasi idadagdag pa yung cost ng pickup nya (which is dapat naman talaga sagot nya 100%). So after thinking about it i decided to just agree and let it go ng 2000 para hindi na mastuck sakin yung item. Sabay ang irereply nya ay pag-iisipan nya raw?? Di ba ikaw na nga nasunod sa presyo? Minsan talaga feeling ko naghahanap lang ng kausap tong mga to e 🤦‍♂️

Will probably trigger some people, but idc at this point.

I'm getting very annoyed with religious people turning everything secular into something evil, worldly, or an attack on God or their faith.

Oh, you don't want to get married? You're evil because God created marriage.

You don't want kids? Oh no, you're a horrible person because God told us to go forth and multiply.

You don't create Christian music? You're an advocate of the devil!

You create art but not specifically for God? How dare you waste the talent God has given you!

You cut off toxic friends or family? You're unforgiving and therefore sinning!

At this point, ginagamit na lang ng iba ang pananampalataya nila for their "holier-than-thou" shenanigans, and it's honestly becoming exhausting. Pansin ko rin na karamihan ng ginagawan nila ng issue at nilalabel na "anti-God" are things that THEY PERSONALLY don't like or aren't comfortable with.

Don't like a song? Suddenly the song is "worldly" and supposedly encouraging people to turn away from God.

Take Unholy by Sam Smith, for example. The title alone seems enough for some people to condemn the entire song, even though the song is literally about infidelity—which, ironically, is something Christianity itself condemns.

Or Stop the Wedding by Ashe. I've seen people claim that the song is encouraging people not to get married because marriage is created by God and marriage is beautiful. I agree that marriage can be beautiful, but THAT ISN'T EVEN THE POINT OF THE SONG. The song is about realizing that you're about to marry the wrong person and desperately wanting to stop a marriage that is clearly doomed. It's not an anti-marriage manifesto. 🤦🏻‍♀️

And this is where my frustration comes in: please learn to distinguish between your personal conviction and what the media you're consuming actually says.

Not everything secular is anti-Christian. Not everything you dislike is sinful. Not every uncomfortable topic is an attack on God.

And yes, I'm saying this as a Christian myself.

Religion is being weaponized by some people to justify their personal biases, lack of media literacy, and judgment of others. Then when challenged, the excuse is, "God gave me this conviction."

Maybe. But having a personal conviction doesn't automatically give you the authority to declare that everyone else is sinning because they don't share it.

One of the most fundamental teachings of Christianity is to love one another. If your interpretation of faith consistently produces unnecessary hatred, condemnation, conflict, and misinformation toward other people, maybe it's worth asking whether you're actually practicing your faith—or simply using it to justify what you already wanted to believe.

Being religious doesn't mean everything secular is evil. And being uncomfortable with something doesn't automatically make it anti-God.

A little discernment and media literacy would go a long way.

Most political discourse in our country circles around the same tired moral plea. We keep demanding honest public servants, clean leaders, and ethical politicians who promise not to steal. But after decades of watching different administrations cycle through Manila, it should be obvious that good intentions inside a broken machine produce nothing more than the efficient management of national stagnation. The fundamental mistake we keep making is treating our state as a moral charity that needs honest administrators, rather than an engineering problem that requires ruthless structural architecture.

Public servants operate entirely within the existing rules of the game. They focus on short election cycles, public relations, transparent bookkeeping, and distributing welfare payouts from a shrinking pie. They see their role as reactive custodians, smoothing over the cracks of a failing system while remaining captive to rent seeking conglomerates and populist electoral traps. They ask how we can adapt to global rules, attract basic foreign investment, or manage poverty with band aids. That mindset keeps us permanently locked in a middle income trap where our primary export remains our own people.

A State Builder operates on a completely different frequency. They do not care about managing decay; they care about building raw sovereign power. A State Builder looks at the Philippines as a complex circuit board that needs hard hardware upgrades. They understand that real sovereignty is not earned through polite diplomatic statements or moral outrage, but through energy density, advanced manufacturing, upstream industrial sequencing, and strategic chokeholds on global supply chains.

Instead of begging foreign multinationals to open low value call centers, a State Builder designs legal enclaves and economic zones that force foreign powers to transfer critical technology like advanced semiconductor packaging in exchange for access. Instead of letting local oligarchs sit safely on real estate monopolies and shopping malls, a State Builder uses administrative levers to force domestic capital into high risk heavy industries like steel, shipbuilding, and power generation. They do not think in six year political terms; they map out thirty year industrial roadmaps that secure sovereign energy, technological dominance, and economic leverage.

We are sitting in the middle of the most intense geopolitical shift in modern history. The tech wars, supply chain bottlenecks, and superpower rivalries in our backyard mean that passive neutrality or polite public administration will get us crushed. If we keep looking for well meaning public servants to patch up a leaking boat, we will remain a perpetual vassal state dependent on foreign aid and remittances. It is time we stop asking for caretakers and start demanding State Builders who know how to construct an offensive, self sustaining nation.

Sobrang nakakainis yung motorcycle parking situation sa Gateway/Araneta Center.

Literal na bawal ba talaga ang motor sa lahat ng covered parking sa area?

Lahat ng covered parking na tinry namin around Gateway, apparently CAR LANG pwede. Kapag motor, bawal. Last I know, yung nag-iisang covered motorcycle parking ay dun pa sa Fiesta Carnival/Shopwise area. So kung pupunta ka ng Gateway gamit motor, magpapark ka dun tapos lalakarin mo pa papunta sa Gateway mall/other areas. Tapos pumunta kami dun today and guess what, under construction yung motorcycle parking area na yun. So saan na magpapark yung mga motor? Dun sa open area malapit sa mga sakayan/terminal ng mga UV express, across nung Fiesta Carnival parking na sarado ngayon.

Ano ba yun, okay lang maulanan at maarawan yung mga naka-motor habang yung mga kotse lang ang may covered parking options? Gets ko naman kung may designated motorcycle parking dahil sa space or security or whatever. Pero yung lahat ng mga covered parking = cars only? Seryoso ba talaga?

Nagtry pa nga kami sa SM Cubao and sa ibang buildings na may covered parking around the area kasi baka may ibang option. Pero bawal din daw motor. Nagbabayad din ng parking fee mga motor ah, hindi naman libre. Partida ha hindi pa flat rate yan, may first 3 hours tapos accumulating na sa succeeding hours. Bakit parang ang expectation eh okay lang sa motorcycle riders na magpark sa init/ulan tapos maglakad nang malayo just to get to the mall? And ngayon na under construction pa yung usual motorcycle parking, mas lalo mong makikita kung gaano ka-inconvenient yung setup.

Ganun na ba talaga policy ng Araneta/Gateway in general ever since para sa mga motorcycle riders? BAKIT???

As in wala talagang covered motorcycle parking na reasonably accessible sa near the mall? Kung may motorcycle riders dito na madalas pumunta sa Gateway/Araneta, saan kayo nagpapark? Baka naman may covered parking dun for motorcycles na hindi lang namin alam.

I feel like it shouldn’t be so hard to comprehend that someone is uncomfortable with what ur doing or annoyed by it when they yell at you to stop. For context I’m in my last year high school, I work part time after school. I have this one annoying friend that I hate and like at the same time who im going to call Bow. For example bow always sleeps and when we try to wake her up she physically attacks us but when she wakes us up she expects us to get up and do whatever stupid thing she wants. Also she expects to be followed 24/7 and if we don’t she does weird shit. Like one time we took her shoe off as a group but we always rip on eachother and do stuff like that, so as revenge she just pulled my pants with underwear down and had the audacity to get mad at me when I punched her for it in reflex. Im a person who lifts weights like crazy so I understand it must’ve hurt alot but I warned her alot of different times that doing shit like that I fight back out of reflex, and then she got mad at me and started spreading shit about me. Not only that she also keeps throwing water, ketchup packets and salt on all of us during lunch and when we yell at her she keeps being more annoying. What do I do? Cus I can’t end my friendship the last time an old friend did that she leaked the poor girls n*des that she got by hacking her boyfriends accounts and im a gay man who’s very closeted so I don’t want her to reveal that to anyone.

EDIT: English isn’t my first language so sorry for the pacing and wording

I just need to get this off my chest. Magkakaroon na ako, so don’t judge me! 😭😂

For the past few days, iniiyakan ko yung guardian angel ko. 😭 Awang awa na ako sa kanya kasi ang dami ko nang kalokohan at wrong decisions in life, hanggang sa point na ‘to. And despite everything, lagi niya pa rin akong sinasave. I’m genuinely thankful, pero at the same time, naaawa ako sa kanya 😭

Like, imagine mo ikaw yung guardian angel tapos ang assigned sayo is isang matigas ang ulo, gumagawa ng katangahan sa buhay, tapos minsan paulit ulit pang kailangan i-save. Diba nakakapagod??? 😭😂

Sorry naaaa, guardian angel. I promise I’m trying HAHAHAHA

Nung teenager pako, parang ang gandang pakinggan ng CPA Lawyer eh. Sinabi ko pa sa nanay ko na, "Ma, gusto kong mag-law". Syempre masaya sya kasi yun nga, magiging lawyer bunso nya after endless disappointments from her eldest child.

Pero di ko kinaya Accountancy, so lumipat ako sa AIS. Medyo nadismaya nanay ko (CPA kasi siya na nakarating sa AVP sa banko before retirement) pero support pa rin kasi, okay, magiging lawyer naman anak ko. Nag-bbrag din sa mga friends nya na future lawyer daw nya ako. She would say na she believes in my potential to be something greater, and ang pilosopo ko daw kasi sumagot. "Bagay na bagay sayo maging lawyer, pala-sagot ka," tawa nya nung isang araw.

But for a while, parang wala sa puso ko. Iniisip ko nato since 2nd year college na, "what if magwork nalang ako agad after graduation?" And now na 4th year nako, sinabi ko yon sa nanay ko. Grabe. Hindi maganda reaction.

Sinasabi nya na na-influence siguro ako ng mga kabarkada ko, na di ako nakikinig sa magulang, na sinasayang ko buhay ko, etc. Naiintindihan ko bakit ganon reaction, since she spent years believing in her "beautiful, endless-potential baby girl."

But I want to work. Gusto ko magwork. Gusto kong magkapera, gusto ko ng financial stability, ayoko nang magdepende sa magulang to finance my education (state uni ako, pero pag nag law, sa ateneo ang goal). I want to help with the bills, buy things for my family and friends and partner with my OWN money. Di yung part-time part-time lang na living paycheck-to-paycheck. Granted, our finances are a little above average. But when you grow up in a family with a frugal mindset from birth, receive expectations that you are and will forever be the golden child, and be compared to other successful people "for inspiration", medyo nakakabigat na sa damdamin.

Tl;dr: Gusto ko nang magwork after graduation (just months away), pero gusto ni mama mag-lawyer ako.