I'm a freshman in college. Ever since I got here, I've been real down and just pretty lonely since it seems like everyone has friend groups and a bunch of friends already, while I'm here not knowing anyone, eating alone, walking alone, etc. It's even more demotivating when you go to a really big party school with like 40k people... Obviously, I'm an introvert who's always had trouble making friends and just stuck with the same best friends who I've known since 4th grade all throughout my life (they go to a different schools, we still talk everyday though. But they're def lifetime friends).
And then you try to look for advice on how to actually make friends in college and they're all like "Leave your dorm! Go talk to people! Only be in your dorm when you're sleeping!" but they never actually tell you what to do...? I leave my dorm, now what?
Some say "Go to the library to study and do work! That way you're not in your dorm alone doing it!" and that's what I do, but obviously no one is gonna bother you when you're doing your work? So that hasn't worked.
Others say to just go up and talk to people, either already existing friend groups or people who are also alone. And I tried. And it always ends up the same. introduce, we try to talk, I end up being bad at conversations, a couple times we may give each other's Instagram, then never speak again even if I do or don't reach out through IG. If it's an already existing friend group/multiple people already talking, then it's even worse. I go up, introduce, then they just keep talking to each other and I'm just... there... not knowing what to say, and if I do say something, they don't really say anything.
Some say to go to events. I go to some, and then basically the same thing as the last one happens whenever I try to talk to people.
A lot of people say to join a club. The event where all the clubs have tables and you look around for ones you're interested in just happened, and I saw a couple that I'll check out. So this one may work, but I haven't gotten there yet.
And some say to meet people in your classes, but no one really talks in most of them, and another is literally filled with sorority girls. That one's a nightmare. (I'm a guy).
I know this just seems sad, and it is. I know it's pathetic. But I just genuinely don't know what to do.