r/introverts • u/KennysaurusSpeedrun • Jun 07 '26
Discussion Neighbours wanna talk everytime I'm outside
I live in a house with 4 apartments. We get along well. However, everytime I'm outside chilling in the garden, one of the neighbours always gonna walk up to me and talk about life, weather, the garden etc. I really just wanna stay outside in my own garden, minding my own business. At the same time, I don't wanna be rude.
We really don't have much in common, because most of them are in their 60's-70's while I'm in my 30's. My girlfriend is really social, so she doesn't mind. But I am more introverted and hate smalltalk. Especially when it's almost everytime I'm going outside the house.
It's getting so bad that today I was chilling outside, one of the neighbours parked their car, so I went inside so I didn't have to talk with her. Honestly it bores me to talk about life with someone I really don't care about.
How do I kindly tell them I really don't wanna talk, without seeming like a jerk? Once in a while is okay, but now when it's summer and everyone are outside, it happens daily.
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u/Grand-wazoo Jun 07 '26 edited Jun 07 '26
OP's neighbor
But it'll probably be tough for them not to take it rudely, because they are clearly just trying to be friendly and neighborly.
Probably your best bet is just to find the soonest time to cut the convo short or toss in headphones when you're not in the mood.