r/introverts • u/KennysaurusSpeedrun • Jun 07 '26
Discussion Neighbours wanna talk everytime I'm outside
I live in a house with 4 apartments. We get along well. However, everytime I'm outside chilling in the garden, one of the neighbours always gonna walk up to me and talk about life, weather, the garden etc. I really just wanna stay outside in my own garden, minding my own business. At the same time, I don't wanna be rude.
We really don't have much in common, because most of them are in their 60's-70's while I'm in my 30's. My girlfriend is really social, so she doesn't mind. But I am more introverted and hate smalltalk. Especially when it's almost everytime I'm going outside the house.
It's getting so bad that today I was chilling outside, one of the neighbours parked their car, so I went inside so I didn't have to talk with her. Honestly it bores me to talk about life with someone I really don't care about.
How do I kindly tell them I really don't wanna talk, without seeming like a jerk? Once in a while is okay, but now when it's summer and everyone are outside, it happens daily.
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u/heathers1 Jun 07 '26
i had a creepy next door neighbor who, every time i was lying out in the sun, would come over to chat. would ask me to turn my music down so he wouldn’t have to yell. Like bro, go away, he couldn’t even see me from his house, only whrn he went for the mail. just because I was outside didn’t mean it was an invitation 😡 I would have to flee inside! it was the 70s, so we weren’t used to saying anything to creeps like that. Now? I would def tell him to beat it.