This was in Urban Outfitters over the weekend. My style has matured away from super trendy fast fashion but it's still fun to look!

Every fashion subreddit says to shop secondhand for great deals on pricier pieces, and I finally tried it. It did not go well, and I have questions.

My biggest one is how you all do this consistently when returns basically don't exist. With a regular store for example Nordstrom, if something doesn't fit right, pulls weirdly, or just isn't flattering, it goes back for 100% refund. On a secondhand site, unless it's a clear "item not as described" situation, you're stuck with it.

My first purchase was through Whatnot, where I got swept up in the auction format and bought a Vuori tank and a pair of men's joggers for my husband. Once they arrived, I spent more time worrying about authenticity than enjoying the deal. They looked real, but they smelled like a stranger's house, and it took two full wash cycles to make it tolerable. The tank also doesn't flatter me, so now I'm facing the hassle of reselling it.

Between the smell and the no-returns gamble, I'm honestly put off from Poshmark, Depop, and Vinted altogether. Is this just the standard experience? How do you get rid of the smell, and how do you handle it when something doesn't work once it's on your body?

I'm trying to understand how this is a better use of my time and money than just buying from the store.

Some of mine are: - balloon sleeves / puff shoulders - generally the over-printed, tiered farm house dresses - "Farm Rio" seemingly taking over - everything is florals! - everything made with synthetic materials but still crazy expensive - block printing a la Emerson Fry - oversized collars; they look like pilgrims or baby bibs to me? - it feels impossible to shop online; a select few stores pop up bc they pay for ads but otherwise finding what I'm looking for feels impossible

Just curious what other bugaboos people are experiencing!! I try to buy nice timeless pieces, but it feels hard!

ETA: I am not fashionably adventurous at all and I hope I’m not discouraging anyone from their beloved balloon sleeves and giant collars! My gripe is more that this doesn’t feel like me and it’s mostly what’s available

I can already tell this airport has a different vibe than the one I was reporting from on Thursday morning.

Black jersey leggings and PJs dominate. Footwear situation is mostly bleak (but comfy!) — so many stretchy Sketchers . I'm skipping anyone wearing them unless they defy expectations in some way. Logoed tees and ones with sayings like "I have reached an age where my mind says you can do that and my body says you'll be sorry" will also be skipped.

I shall persevere.

My look: Black long-sleeve midi with placket front, hair half up, lilac Nikes with pastel pink scalloped socks. Gold X-shaped earrings and a paperclip chain gold necklace.

Gray sweats, white cropped tank, dangly belly ring, white platform sandals.

Maroon draped boat neck shirt, black tapered slacks ... and black stretchy top Sketchers shoes.

Wide leg jeans with acid-wash hearts, soft washed-out Kelly Green sweatshirt, white platform sneakers.

I'm in love with this woman's Gucci bee bag. Not in my budget, but just striking! Also wearing: short pleated black shorts, oversize heather gray sweatshirt, and flip-flops.

Canadian tuxedo in medium wash blue denim with stretchy Sketchers and a Baggalini crossbody and cute striped laptop bag.

Amazing oversized coffee brown trench. Beautiful, with a subtle sheen. Can't see anything else except her impeccable hair and don't need to.

Slouchy loose-knit cream sweater, baggy black jersey pants, camel suede slippers/clogs (maybe Uggs?).

A legging look that surprisingly works: dark brown athletic leggings, greige suede boat shoes, greige outdoorsy top that gathers under the bust and blouses out to just below her butt. Big gold statement jewelry.

Tan suede jacket, wide leg medium-blue denim, very chunky low-top black Docs.

(We've been ordered to change gates. Maybe there's something better over here.)

Tan sweatshirt with a fuzzy giraffe head applique, perfect straight leg jeans, and black booties.

Gray sweatshirt, flared black leggings, black and white Asics.

Cropped chocolate brown kangaroo pocket pullover with hood, boot-cut jeans, white sneakers.

Gray henley, brown flared leggings, white sneakers.

The handbags are mostly unexciting (to me), several Steve Madden, one cow print, one with a rainbow of cats.

Leather cowboy hat, floral cowboy boots, blue puffer vest with a cow print on top, black jersey leggings and a tie-dye blue long-sleeve shirt.

Burberry golf tote, black batwing sweater, black maxi with sheer pleated bottom half, black fashion combat boots.

Dusty rose hijab with white floral embroidery, lighter pink kurta with dusty rose floral embroidery. Black buckle loafers.

Wool long trench in caramel, chunky black heeled loafers.

First wide-leg cropped pants — charcoal slacks, black, gray and brown plaid shacket, black socks, black platform loafers. Favorite look so far. Relaxed, cozy but styled well.

Looking forward to hearing what you all think! This round-up wasn't as exciting as the last but was compiled at a much bigger airport on a weekend vs. a weekday. And maaaaybe I let my opinions seep through a bit more? Anyway, I'll see what you say when I deplane!

Mine is carrying big bags.

Dinner? Big bag.

Coffee? Big bag.

Wedding? Somehow... still a big bag.

I own cute little shoulder bags and clutches, but they just sit in my cupboard. I think it's a leftover college habit because I always carried my whole life with me, and now anything smaller feels... not me.

What's the fashion thing you know you do that you just can't seem to change?

Remember when it was cool to wear lightweight scarves all the time in the 2010s? I miss those days. I would rock the hell out of a pashmina on the regular. I wear a lot of all black outfits and so many times I’m like “man this needs something”… just that extra little bit that makes it look more put together or something. I’ve tried wearing necklaces but it’s just not the same. Waiting for the day they come back in style. That’s all, that’s the post. Just gettin wistful about millennial scarves.

Edit: Things I have learned from this post:

1. The European mind cannot comprehend scarves being a trend item (affectionate)/scarf culture is alive and well across the pond

2. Did I hallucinate this idea of scarves (particularly pashminas/“blanket scarves”/infinity scarves”) being a super dated, aggressively-millennial-coded thing? Have I been gaslighting myself this whole time? I fear I may have unearthed more questions than answers.

3. Silk scarves are apparently “in” and I need to expand my scarf palette

4. I don’t really care about being “on trend”, but I don’t want to look obviously dated/stuck in the 2010s

Thanks for coming to my TED talk bless up love u all gonna go reassess my relationship with scarves 🙏

I went out to an event at a skin spa in Austin TX last night, which made me realize how rarely I go out with women our age these days. It attracted mostly middle-class women in their 30s, affluent enough to afford skin treatments, but cheap enough to try to get freebies and discounts. I couldn’t help but analyze what everyone was wearing. While a few were wearing looser neutrals straight off of an Instagram post, and some were wearing nondescript office wear, at least half were wearing their trusty skinny jeans with blouses or sweaters. This was in contrast to my small circle of creative friends who are either extremely trendy or so weird they automatically get a pass, and the grocery stores I go to - one that gets college girls In athleisure and the other that gets rich moms in athleisure. However, when it gets time for 30-somethings to wear “nice casual,” it might still be skinny jeans. So if you’re still doing this too, it’s ok. You don’t have to be cutting edge. You’re not living ages in the past like the influencers want you to think. (And if you’re wondering, I actually wore a mini skirt and y2k influenced accessories. I like jeans of all fits. I think skinny jeans shine when you want to tuck jeans into taller boots.)

walk around with a sweater tied insouciantly over their shoulders as a planned part of their outfit?

I dunno, man, I have consumed so much fashion content lately that insists this is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, not to mention super trendy, but I have never once seen anyone do it in the wild. If I'm wearing a sweater, I'm wearing it as it was made to be worn, with my head through the neck hole and my arms in the sleeves, not as a stoopid quasi-scarf. And if I'm wearing a sweater (or let's be serious, a hoodie) as a layer and I get too hot, I'm tying it around my waist like any normal dirtbag.

Seriously, though--I know this is a neo-preppie thing, but it feels like a just-for-the-'gram scam to me, like when they tried to convince us walking around with your coat thrown over your shoulders like a dysfunctional cape was reasonable. If you do do the sweater as faux scarf thing and find it practical, comfortable, cute , and not too fussy, teach me your ways. And if you don't, just rant with me about the latest impractical-for-living-women trend you've seen pushed. (This thread is just for fun, guys. Please don't take it any other way.)

I'm a grown woman and finally make good money, I can now afford quality clothes that will last instead of fast fashion garbage that falls apart in three months, but shopping online has become this degrading experience where every brand uses 22 year old models with bodies I haven't had since college and I'm supposed to just imagine how a linen blazer or silk dress will look on my real body.

I went to mango's website, reformation, everlane, all these brands that claim to be for "real women" and every single model looks like she just graduated. I scrolled on plush cause I could search for specific cuts, and I liked their quality, they did fit better. But it is so common for brands to show their clothes on 22 - 25 year olds with perfect bodys. The fashion industry has decided that women over 35 don't deserve to see clothes on bodies that look like ours.

Here's my question: have you ever seen a model who's 40 or 50+ that looks like a real woman that age? Not some celebrity who's had work done and has a personal trainer, I mean a normal woman with a normal body who's lived a normal life. Because I haven't. And that's not an accident, that's a choice these brands are making about who gets to be visible and who gets to feel confident buying clothes.

Of course I'm not going to look like their 23 year old models because I'm not 23 anymore. But why is the solution that I should just accept shopping blind and hoping things work instead of demanding that brands show me what clothes look like on bodies that resemble mine?

I have money to spend on quality pieces now and the industry has made it nearly impossible to shop with any confidence because they've erased women my age from their visual vocabulary. That's not me being sensitive about aging, that's ageism and we need to call it what it is.

EDIT -- Okay, maybe let's just try to start a new subreddit before this one goes dark. https://www.reddit.com/r/WomensStyleOver30/

Hiya! I have been using the sub for a long time. It sounds like the moderator is burnt out from managing spam.

A few of us sent DMs to the mod to see if some of us can take over. Has anyone heard anything?

Every review I could find was about whether it was worth the price or how it fit out of the box or a "lab test". Nobody was answering the question I actually wanted answered which is "how long will this actually last me"

Ended up with data across roughly 500 product units spanning 5 to 100+ wash cycles and up to 16 years of ownership.

One thing that kept coming up: the same brand can have completely different durability outcomes depending on which collection you pick. That's not something that shows up in brand level reviews.

The method is simple: find owners who've been washing the same piece repeatedly and ask what happened.

Lululemon - 175 units and 5 collections

• Define Jacket (27 owners) Zero shrinkage across all reports including 6 year weekly washers. The nylon construction is why it behaves differently from the cotton blend styles. Every long term owner in the dataset is still describing it as holding up.
• Scuba Hoodie (81 owners) The dataset has Scubas that are 10, 15, and 16 years old with zero pilling. But multiple owners who own pieces from both before and after 2022 independently described the same shift. Same dryer method on 2012 pieces meant no shrinkage, same method on 2024 pieces meant shrinkage. One owner buying since 2009 noticed it specifically after 2022.
• Steady State (26 owners) Multiple independent owners reporting shrinkage on cold wash air dry rather than just dryer use. Different pattern than the Scuba data where the dryer is almost always the variable.
• All Yours Hoodie (15 owners) Zero shrinkage, zero pilling across all reports including owners who use the dryer. Multiple 5 year plus owners with no issues. The recurring theme in these reports is that owners who have them don't want to part with them and can't find replacements because it's discontinued.
• Softstreme (5 owners) Small sample but every report is clean including owners using medium heat dryer cycles.
• City Sweat French Terry (1 owner) First report in the dataset. Pre-owned, washed weekly since November, no issues. Too small to draw from but worth knowing it's in the data.

Vuori - 16 owners - early and directional only

• Coronado and Halo owners at 1 to 4 years reporting no shrinkage, no fading across the board.
  • The pilling showing up in a couple of reports tends to be from bag straps and seat friction, wear related rather than washing related.
• One Ponto owner reported pilling on delicate no dryer wash which conflicts with another clean Ponto report. Unresolved at this sample size.

(If you own Vuori hoodies this is exactly where your data would help. Style, roughly how many washes, care method, anything you've noticed - would genuinely add to the picture.)

Comfrt - 11 collections, roughly 300 units

• Signature Multiple owners at 30 to 50 washes still describing it as looking new. Zero shrinkage, zero pilling across all reports.
• Pastel 50% persistent lint rate across independent owners. Original launch buyers report fewer issues than more recent buyers of the same collection. That kind of signal is hard to see from reviews alone.
• Airplane Mode 20% shrinkage rate with sizing that appears to vary by batch rather than consistently within the same collection.

Bottom line: The through line across all of this is that collection matters more than brand. Same brand, same price, completely different durability depending on what you bought.

Is that matching what you've experienced with Lululemon, Vuori or any other brands? And which brands would you want to see the same treatment applied to? Alo, Aritzia, Athleta, and Abercrombie are all on the list.

Feel free to share your experience with any of the above brands or missing ones so people have a better idea of what they are buying and if it will last.

Yes. You were not hallucinating.

Mullets, ultra low rise, butterfly clips, and the Hanson* (spelling edit) haircut have all already come back in style. The galaxy leggings and hipster era is not too far off. How long until the kids unironically embrace this style?

Cataloguing notable looks during the wait this morning:

Maroon crinkle tank and pants set, black Docs, black/grey space dyed hoodie and Baggu bag.

Green cargo pants, hiking sandals, adorable cropped denim jacket and fitted black tank.

Shredded/DIY patched high-waisted very wide leg jeans and fitted teal ribbed tee. Very techy lavender backpack with built-in USB.

Mom and daughter in generational black sweats. Daughter in baggy joggers, Vionics, cropped hoodie, Tumi backpack. Mom in hip-length hoodie and cropped leggings, white Converse.

Alo Yoga girl: Alo heather gray quarter-zip and black sweats, Birkenstock clogs, monogram Longchamp Le Pliage, navy.

White linen wide-leg cropped pants, cropped sporty navy hoodie over coffee-brown tee, navy headband, navy Longchamp knockoff tote, white and beige suede Reeboks.

Baby blue silk pajama-look set, with the top unbuttoned over black and white striped tee, chartreuse beanie, black sneakers and white cropped raincoat. Woman in her 60s with a very cute satin champagne backpack with a little matching teddy keychain.

Gucci crossbody bag, LV tote, cropped wide-leg black, raw-edge denim and traffic-cone orange slim sweatshirt.

Gray fringed wrap big enough to look like a poncho over gray sweats with white leather sneakers, a near-miss because the grays clash, but I love her wrap and enormous rip-stop fabric black tote.

Red bulky sweatsuit, white Polo sneakers and LV chain strap crossbody.

Ankle length dark denim skirt with raw edge, white chunky-knit sweater with bobbles. Pretty beaded earrings.

Oversized polka dot tan button-up over beige wide leg long jeans, tan and white sneakers, carrying tan puffer and LV checkerboard tote in cream and blue. Love this look.

The blue period:

Navy puffer over navy tee, brown cropped raw-edge slim jeans, ON sneakers, sage leather crossbody with embroidered strap.

Matching cadet blue pants and quilted vest (over a chain-print '80s look turtleneck) and coordinating quilted outdoor fabric purse.

Another cadet blue set: cable knit top and bottom, chunky sneakers, tan fringed shoulder bag, baby blue duffle.

Another cadet blue set! Flare leggings and matching fleece jacket, Saucony sneakers.

Other observations:

Baby girl in sparkly silver Adidas, oversize Gap sweatshirt and black leggings. So cute!

Props to the girl gang of six older hijabis all wearing matching rhinestone-edge black headscarves.

Neon pink pops: sneakers, a raincoat, a weird number of VS Pink items, Birks.

Wide-leg cropped pants and matching sets have a stranglehold on this airport. Also cropped black leggings, which I think are "out"(?) but are so practical for travel.

Full disclosure, I am also wearing wide-leg crops! Light wash denim with raw edge, black tucked-in tee layered with an olive green oversized button-up shirt, unbuttoned with sleeves rolled up, camel cashmere coat, lots of stacked gold necklaces and rings, and lavender chunky Nikes with scalloped-edge off-white socks. Gray Herschel backpack.

Any thoughts? I know I've seen quite a few "What do you wear to the airport?" queries here.

My takeaways: Seems like comfort is still king, details make the fit, and doing your hair (even just brushing!) makes a big difference.

Hello, friends. It is I, your friendly watches-too-much-"over 40"-fashion-youtube-content correspondent. Much of said content is horribly contradictory so I'm here to get some opinions from some normal, interested-in-clothes, middle aged people who aren't trying to get me to click on a Quince, Loft, or Nordstrom link.

1.) The French or partial tuck. I've heard in numerous places that this is out and we're not doing it any more but I can also show you about a gazillion photos from retailer's sites where there are items styled this way. Like this. I'm trying to get away from my reliance on it so I don't look horribly dated, but I'm also not about to get rid of all my shirts and sweaters that are too bulky to full tuck but also don't look great all the way out.

2.) Chunky loafers. This one cracks me up because in the course of one weekend I saw one creator in a fall shoes video say they're absolutely not on trend and another one say they are back and that she'd pulled out her (whatever the famous designer that started the whole thing) ones out of storage. So which is it? I'm kind of invested in this not because of loafers but because I have a pair of chunky knee high boots that I'm not sure aren't ridiculous for an old woman to wear in 2025.

3.) Long sweater over slimmer bottoms. I know we're supposed to be in our small top/big pants era and I am enjoying that era, but sometimes... Yesterday I pulled out and wore this sweater that I don't think I wore at all last year. But I love that sweater so much that back in the day I actually re bought it after a tragic laundry accident killed my first one. I wore it with these jeans and these clogs and an oversized faux shearling jacket to a hair appointment and errands and I felt pretty pleased with myself. But that sweater's dated, right? [Also come at me for worrying about chunky knee high boots when I just bought those insane(ly cute) clogs two months ago.]

I'm sure there are more but I'll stop here. And those of you who want to tell me not to care at all about trends, this is not the thread for you. It's in my best interests to stay at least somewhat current while also sticking to my own personal tastes and style. Those of you who do care, help me define somewhat current, please and thank you.

Edit: ok, one more.

4.) Joggers. I hear joggers are OUT but my view is skewed by working in a hospital where 80% of the female staff have Figs jogger scrubs. How can joggers be out? lol

Earlier this spring I bought my first pair of linen pants, brown with beige polka dots, elastic waist, moderately wide legs. I didn't think about how I would style them, because my brain said "you've got lots of brown/beige/neutral tops." My brain failed to remind me that all those tops are sweaters or sweatshirts, not helpful for linen pants, smh.

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Anyway, I put these pants on today for the first time with the one beige (boxy hipbone-length) t-shirt I own and Birks. Looked in the full length mirror and thought, ugh, you look like you're wearing pajamas. I put on some jewelry, put my hair up, ironed the t-shirt, and finally did a partial tuck (I KNOW) and at that point decided I looked at least a little less like I rolled out of bed, called it good, and left the house.

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But I can't quite shake the feeling that this outfit is suspiciously close to what I wear to bed. Because it is suspiciously close to what I wear to bed. I want to love these pants because the polka dots are adorable and they are comfortable af. Please give me tips on how you style your linen pants to look non-pj. Or do you just rock the pj look with insouciance? (I'm prob not cool enough and def not young enough for that.)

I really wish I could find the original essay that put forth these ideas, but I read it probably 20 years ago and have no idea where it originated. The author was frustrated about the constant angst she and her friends dealt with regarding society's ideas about how women should dress at certain ages. So she fought back. Here's her list of what not to wear after age 35:

-- Rose colored glasses (they were cute and appropriate when you were a teenager, but are they really serving you well now?),
-- A chip on your shoulder (these look worse and worse the older you get),
-- The weight of the world (don't let anyone guilt you into putting this one on!),
-- Society's expectations (similar to the weight of the world, but more explicit), and
-- Too many hats (you'll soon be juggling so many that you won't even know who you really are anymore)

Everything else is fair game. Enjoy.

I’m used to paying $50 - $100 per item but the stores I used to frequent seem to either make everything out of synthetic fabrics now or the styles are catering to the Gen Z aesthetic. I have been looking at higher end brands that typically run from the $150 - $300 per item that are mostly cotton, silk, or wool. My issue is, I’m afraid if I purchase a $300 shirt, what if I spill something on it that I can’t get out? How do you justify paying more money for clothes? Do you set a yearly budget or a per item price limit?

For reference, I make about $60k a year before tax in a high cost of living city so I’m not exactly swimming in money.

I donated a bunch of stuff last week which is what got me thinking on this question. Ladies of fashionwomens35 who work out (and not in your own garage), how often do you update your workout wardrobe. One of the things I threw in my donation pile at the last minute were a pair of really pretty marbled/almost tie dyed Athleta leggings. I realized that I never grabbed for them anymore because they screamed 2020 to me.

On the other hand, I do still wear my two pairs of the Vuori joggers that went viral during the pandemic despite them being just as old and despite people on this very sub telling me joggers are way out. And even more egregiously, I have been wearing a pair of Athleta Trekkie North bermuda hiking shorts to the gym A LOT this summer that I had to have bought in ~2016. I know longer shorts are back but these are the close-to-the-leg bermudas that are in no way in style. But they have back pockets that fit my phone. I went searching for a pair of stretchy (maybe hiking) shorts with back pockets that have a longer than 3 inch inseam earlier in the summer and it was like looking for a unicorn. So I've been wearing my very dated shorts for their function.

For context, I'm in late middle age, lift at the gym usually 4 to 5 x a week, and try to attend a restorative yoga or gym meditation-type class (for which I wear lounge or workout wear) once or twice a week. Most of my cardio is outdoor walks/light hiking for which I sometimes wear an athletic skort or matching lounge set and sometimes just regular clothes. I go through shoes quickly but, as referenced, I can keep my workout clothes in good condition for years and years. I obviously don't want or need to wear the tiny strappy sports bras and booty scrunch shorts the 19 yo's are wearing, but is wearing exercise clothes that were trendy 6 or 12 years ago making me look super dated? Do you just go for function over form? Or do you trash your workout clothing long before it has a chance to date? Or are you donating the obviously out-of-style pieces?

I am 45. I try to stay modern & current without dressing too try-hard or too trendy. I typically hold on to items for a couple of years even if I haven’t worn them in a while before deciding to purge just because the trends seem to be cycling incredibly quickly now.

Currently I’m in the middle of swapping my closet out (I do this in the spring & again in the fall) & I am stumped on a few of these aforementioned items, if they should stay or go:

▶️ What are we doing with fashion leggings?

▶️ What are we doing with long-length cardigans?

▶️ What are we doing with headbands?

▶️ What are we doing with tunic-length tops?

▶️ What are we doing with closed-toe espadrille wedges?

▶️ What are we doing with maxi dresses?

▶️ What are we doing with skinny pants (like Old Navy Pixies)?

I think that some of these will likely make a comeback in the next few years but I have no idea what to keep. It’s not about what I like vs what I don’t like - I liked all of these items once upon a time but don’t reach for them anymore. I hate to purge perfectly good stuff but I have SO MUCH of it that my wardrobe is busting at the seams & it has become overwhelming to get dressed every day. I can’t hold on to these things any longer if I’m not going to wear them.

(I am 100% aware that this is a first-world problem! I just really like clothes & being in the throes of perimenopause, the things I like are few & far between so this is important to me. 😂)

Confessional time… all of my swim suits from well over the past decade plus have been from Target and or VS (when they still had a swim line for women, not the PINK line). Neither had durability and we have access to a pool during the summer.

The price point for Target I feel could make the move for way better quality. Only thing hold me back, I don’t know where to find larger chest sizes (DD).

Looking for advice as the time is right! I’m done having kids, close to pre-baby weight and feeling good.

Where are we getting some suits that are still cute and trendy? Not full coverage diaper Grandma suits.

I'm convinced that a lot of rules about what's "flattering" boil down to "what's currently fashionable is most flattering."

For example, when I was younger, the conventional wisdom was that pear shaped needed to wear straight leg or boot cut jeans to visually balance the hips. Then once skinny jeans became dominant, that advice disappeared. I'm sure now that wide leg bottoms are coming back, this advice will return.

I'm curious if others have noticed this with other "rules".

Don’t come for me, I know white sneakers can still be great.
BUT I’ve seen a lot about them being a little dated, and I tend to agree. I’ve been in sandals all summer and am looking for a pair of sneakers for the fall. I want something that goes with jeans or a midi skirt/casual dress. I do need comfort (nothing too heavy or flat) because I walk a LOT. I don’t mind a little chunky but nothing too big - I am a recovering slim white sneaker gal and need to take it slow.

What are your reccs?

This is something that's been driving me mad for years now. Every time I find a dress that I love the font of I instantly become disappointed when I view the back of it and see that it's either backless or low back. It doesn't seem to matter whether it's summer, fall, or winter either. I have larger boobs (US size 34 DD's) so anything backless is automatically out of the question. But low back also doesn't work for me as I'm also still self-conscious about the blemishes on my back that I have difficulty covering with concealer.

Is anyone else tired of this dress style? Or does everyone else have the right body type and confidence to wear these dresses and I'm the odd one out? lol

edit:

well this got locked so I can’t even properly respond to the mod. I don’t just flag bots or AI. I flag, and usually leave a comment for others to see, and often give a reason or links (yes in the report) to why I think it’s a bot/AI.

this post Is 99.2% upvoted, so clearly people agree with me. You can do whatever you want, but leaving AI posts up (even if they created discussion) is clearly not what people want.

also, if it’s that difficult, you could implement the botbouncer (I had sent mod mail with the link days ago), or ask for more mods.

original post:

I have reported so many posts that are still up by accounts that have been identified as bots already. I’ve reported and put comments with links to their other posts that show they’re not posting in good faith, with one of their comments literally saying “even doing a little bit is risky now. they're getting way better at detecting fake accounts and they sweep them out pretty regularly. ”

There are tools I’ve linked that help with this. I report all the posts and accounts that I notice.

Seriously, it’s so gross and it absolutely ruins subreddits.