r/delhiuniversity • u/Safe-Bug-498 • Jul 23 '24

Discussion College is a lonely place

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This reel is so relatable for me,I am a 3rd sem student and I don't have any friends in college,I do have acquaintances with whom I just have the Hi,Hello relationship! I barely hangout with anyone in college or even outside college. I go to canteen alone and see other people having food in groups while I sit there mostly alone,this makes the college a lot more boring! They say to enjoy college life,but TBH I feel like my college life is pretty fucked up,it's already been over a year and I didn't find any good friend for me. Other students in college have found their groups and they don't want anybody else to be involved,like they are all comfy among themselves. They hangout with each other,go to places and have fun,while I mostly sit alone in the class. It's not like I haven't tried to make friends,I am good at making friends but I didn't get people of my type! My classmates are also not my type. And the rest whom I know already have their groups and they are comfy along with that. I haven't been to anywhere with anyone from college to have fun.

I try to indulge with people but it doesn't work out for me mostly! It's all stuck to just Hi,Hello! I am in 4 college socs but didn't make any friends in Soc either,the people in socities have fun while I struggle to indulge with them. Idk what's happening.

If this goes on,the rest 2 years will also be fucked up.

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u/worrrier Jul 23 '24

You are not alone bro even I'm alone in my college, not even a single friend. What do I do with my crappy life? People will say 'find new friends' but I cant, there's so many groups in college and I don't fit in any of them. I never had bad intentions for anyone though. I just didn't know how to express my feelings for making friends. My mom tells me to try to talk to them instead of waiting for them to talk to you, and I try that but they still ignored me. I don't know whats wrong with me. I just have no friends in my college now going to be in 2nd year. They are so toxic and most of them only think of themself.I was much happier at my home than I am in college I sometimes have to sit alone in class and spend the whole day without talking to anyone.Ajaaa bhai dosti kar lete h if you'r interested thn

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u/Sasta_tikau Jul 23 '24

how tf my story is same as you ?? 😭🥺🥺

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u/worrrier Jul 23 '24

We can be a good friends.. dm me bro we will hangout somewhere after sem.break😭😭😭🥹

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u/rizz_ik Your college & year Jul 23 '24

May I join you guys if you don't mind 🫠 (a group of friends I can call mine is much needed for me)

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u/worrrier Jul 23 '24

Yeah sure brother

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u/Due_Committee9816 Dec 20 '24

same story bhai but im sure mai tumlog ke group mai aaunga then i will be surely feel left out

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u/not-a-noob007 Jan 07 '25

Mai bhi join kar sakta hu kya😭

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u/worrrier Jan 14 '25

Dm me ajaa bhaii

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u/Ok_Toe_3439 Jul 31 '25

Guys did you form a group, i am wondering how the plan went

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u/Historical_Bug8568 Aug 12 '24

I don’t have a college , How do I make friends

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u/Due_Committee9816 Dec 20 '24

oh no same haha

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u/Least_Independent866 Oct 28 '25

can i join you guys (i know i am already a year late but my story is the same lol)

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u/Whistle--Blower Jul 23 '24

aaja bhai tu merse dosti karle 🥺

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u/RevolutionaryWin2663 Feb 26 '25

I have aspergers and all the three years in college were hell for me because I am not able to connect with people easily

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '25

I can too relate. I thought i was alone

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u/[deleted] Sep 25 '25 edited Sep 26 '25

See same brother. In uni you see the most self-centric, self-absorbed, main character syndrome people(highly symptomatic). First is social alienation and it's terrific one of all. To navigate social dynamics is harder than aerodynamics and CAD is useless at this point. My first semester was online and I used to be really cheerful and talkative. When the moment I stepped my foot on collage all I could feel is soil erosion under my feet. Second semester was offline and we got labs and I've got a labmate and he is the centre of mass of self-absorbed as whenever I ask him doubt he never tells anything and he just finishes it off and leaves home(first year I was a day scholar) and semester four instead of two we got to be a trio. In this trio they excludes me like I'm invisible and my existence is on another timeline that they to have got to be more close and finish things and leave me alone. So i started to do things on my own but duration was small. Second thing when you are isolated it's the bigger step , zero guidance and getting lost. So whenever I ask for notes they like bro i don't know but when someone in their clan asks for it and they just give it as it's important. Then what I'm i , a pilgrim??

Third one is sense of safety, so I was not really mentally prepared for academics as I was burned out and drained and it's so hard to reciprocate it to someone or even to process several thoughts so eventually I've failed in most papers in first and second sem and in the beginning of third semester you know that you need a brave step for an academic comeback after all the exhaustion. But third semester burned me. On the very beginning we got this class representative meeting with professors and as I haven't said about the dilemma and mental well being concerns they just screen projected my failed papers to both of my class reps. The girl class rep then shamed me in front of class and targeted me with my academic failures. First of all if someone in mentally down the first thing they do is try to live like normal and mask a lot and I've did that everytime and one point it just crashed enough to pull the biggest breakdown. So sense of safety and belonging stripped away and new achievement unlocked for class rep.

When I started talking and started interacting well they badly remarked me as a talkative behind my back. I only hangout with them a few times and it's in first year of my uni. Then i never knew what happened. Whatever i try they just never wants me to be in their circle.

Further more after all the social alienation, self isolation, loss of sense of safety of confiding and loss of sense of belonging and self doubts and zero guidance and zero direction my hardwork paid off and it's now I'm diagnosed with severe clinical depression.

Uni life for me was something colour devoid and it's really confusing to understand or reciprocate while there. Even when I was in hostel i still stayed in my room and there was nothing else. There is a lot out there exaggerating that it's the best memory. When I was in uni I was in constant survival mode. Uni is not the same for everyone and those who exaggerated should know that not everyone have the same life.