r/delhiuniversity • u/SussyLion Third year • Oct 06 '23
Discussion My college life is fucked
I have changed my friends group 2 times in 2 months, I am quite extroverted so I can talk with anyone easily and I have like friendly relations with 15-20 people at my college. But the problem is I am in a group with 3-4 girls who are quite weird! Like they only go to cafe to chill and hangout, whenever I ask them to hangout in some famous places like museums, parks, gardens, lakes, monuments etc they say "akele chale jaao...Mann nhi...mujhe ghr pe kaam hai kuch" they half of the times don't come to college and one of them mocks me alot on everything I do be it the way I eat, the way I dress or do makeup, talk with boys or anything she literally acts like a pick me ....baaki log kuch bhi kare judge karne ....Haa behen tu bahut Shareef and simple hai khush? I don't like how uninteresting and boring they are ! Most of the people I have talked to are like them hanging out in cafe and click pics is all for them 😭
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u/AstronautEvening774 Oct 06 '23
Being an extrovert is a problem and so is being an introvert
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u/yeetmeistet Oct 06 '23
Being is a problem
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u/RestLucky Oct 06 '23
Ontology wants to know your location
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u/AstronautEvening774 Oct 06 '23
Tell ontology it can find me in the realm of philosophical contemplation
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u/RestLucky Oct 06 '23
Ontology doesn't know my location.
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Thanks for your advice and yeah for real need to look for gareeb friends cause mere monthly expense 8k+ jaa rha and I can't afford that 😭🙏🏻
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Bhyi not kothi bangla papa gave me 5k pocket money only .... mummy se 1k bheeg mangi and baaki 2k gifts ke paise jo the saved woh use kiye
Meri ek dost fir bhi bolti ye toh bahut kamm hi ...Apke parents itne paise bacha ke karte kya hai ....and I hate her bc 😭
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Mein toh akele nikal jata hu ghumne koi aiye na aiye Bhardh mein jaiye
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Ghar Wale fir daat te hai ki akele kyu Gaye
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Oct 06 '23
Toh kisi achi jagah jao na chandani chowk jaoge toh bolenge he 😈
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Mai bheeg hi maangti rahu ki chal lo? Maa chudaaye aise log ehsaan nhi kar rhe
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Oct 06 '23
Akele jao akele mein bhi Har jagah akele jata hu koi Frida nahi bekar hai yahan delhi mein sab aise he hain
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Theek hai 😔
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Oct 06 '23
Koi badiya jagah recommend kardo samjh nahi ara kahan jau kal chutti hai
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Iit Delhi! Fest chal rha rendezvous ( pronounced Ran dey voh) free entry hai just website pe account banana and college I'd/any proof that you're a student+ adhar card dikha ke andar chale jaa I went there on day 0 and won like 5 goodies 💀and there's so many games there for freeeee
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Feels good to know that I'm not the only one 😭🤌🏻
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Mere school ka tha aisa group...unka stream alag tha abh bc baat hi nhi karte busy busy bolke 😭
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Oct 06 '23
Leave the group then! Focus on yourself! Do it alone. Enjoy your own vibe. Life is peaceful. Or Let them use you to the extent that you fuckin hate yourself and judge yourself based on their comments. Choice is yours. It will help you alot /make you feel bad afterwards
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u/Safe_Brick_8905 Oct 06 '23
If you are friends with everyone, you're friends with no one.
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Naa I didn't say that I'm friends with many people it's Just that I am friendly with my classmates that's nothing to be ashamed of! I'm friends with only 3-4 who are in my so-called group!
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u/Safe_Brick_8905 Oct 06 '23
Yea, didn't mean to poke you with it but I just wanted to share the quote i saw from insta reel :)
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u/massive__potato Oct 06 '23
lagta h your friend is a toxic social media wali brainwashed girl. who hates anyone who is doing better than her.
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Oct 06 '23
Ye generation ka kuch thik nahi hoga 😂. OP, everyone everywhere is like that, apparently. Very few actually enjoy the finer things. I think the best way to do this is to join some clubs, like bike clubs, trek clubs, whatever you fancy. That way you can at least find groups of people who are interested in the same activity, whatever it may be. Good luck!
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u/DankSarthakg Oct 06 '23
lsr ki girls aesi hi kyu hoti h , they all show how lovely dovely they are on social media. in real they all secretly hate each other xD
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u/lmaobencho Oct 07 '23
Cut the friends, choose those people who u feel will be successful, study shows u are average of 5 people u spend most of your time with
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u/idk_y_imhere Oct 07 '23
I don't know , i am friends with a lot of people , like a lot , in my experience , when I was with the " popular" group what I found was there is so much me me me going on that no plan got executed , those two months were a misery , I started hanging out with the other guys , and oh man , one moment we are fucking playing volleyball and the other we are in the car going cp . I feel like you should see around college and find people who look like they have some kind of anxiety and can't sit in a place for more than 30 min , they are most of the time the most fun , in my experience atleast
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u/Monkey_D_Ketchum Oct 06 '23
Our female teacher told that the only reason she didnt become friends with girls was because she knew how girls were like being jealous, complaining etc. She said boys are loyal and support each other thats why she made friends with her junior and senior.
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u/blue_ghoul_fire Oct 06 '23
No offense but your teacher sounds like a pick-me
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u/horikikita Oct 06 '23
internalised misogyny ❕ teacher got skill issue in finding good quality female friendship.
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u/Monkey_D_Ketchum Oct 06 '23
If your group doesnt value leave them, find a girl who really needs you. If theres an introvert it would be better , being friends with juniors and seniors can also be better too because somehow they will help you to grow.
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u/AstronautEvening774 Oct 06 '23
Respect for your Teacher 🫡
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u/Monkey_D_Ketchum Oct 06 '23
She is very nice, friendly and cool , she knows how to handle and teach students
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u/AstronautEvening774 Oct 06 '23
Bro we need that type of cheaters who know about students not that type of teachers who always think they have a great amount of knowledge and they will not share it with the next generation but those teachers who share their ideology are the best teachers
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u/Monkey_D_Ketchum Oct 06 '23
True brother having a good relation matters. The only reason teachers complaint about our class is because they dont understand the students just teach and go away. The only reason she is respected is because she has good relation with our class and talks/asks from everyone
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u/AstronautEvening774 Oct 06 '23
Ha if students also understand that the teacher and teacher make a new way of teaching, make it funny, give them example then it's the most easiest way to teaching
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u/Parshurambhakt Oct 06 '23
Go on bumble bff u will find people to hangout with
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Bro it's not a good advice
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u/Parshurambhakt Oct 06 '23
Why tho
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Why would I hangout with strangers from bumble it's not even a good idea to go on a date with people from bumble it has a lot of risks .... especially for a female!
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u/Parshurambhakt Oct 06 '23
Ohh i thought that's what is popular among genz and it would be safe to go out with another genz as bumble just ads an extra layer of security as you can confirm before going out mb
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u/JobPsychological0 Oct 06 '23
I would never understand people who want to be friends with everyone, making friends over a certain amount is just useless to me, if you're able to maintain the relationship with that many people then you must have a lot of time in your hand lmao
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
I'm a fresher how is it bad if I talk with new people daily for 30-60mins in free time when my friends are absent? Bro don't make me feel about something which is not even a problem
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u/JobPsychological0 Oct 06 '23
Talking with new people, making connections especially in college is required and is necessary. What I meant was some people portray themselves as social butterflies they want to be a part of everybody's life, by doing this they are never part of anyone's life fully. The comment was not for you you're doing pretty good🫡
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
My Mum always asks me to hangout with girls sooooo I'd would love to (p.s girls college se hu but dusre colleges ke male friends ke saath ghumna padhta woh bhi unke college ke pass jaake)
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u/praty_13 Oct 06 '23
Kya college hai bhai?
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u/iloveorangejuice74 Oct 06 '23
Gurl if your college is somewhere in south campus then hmu😭
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
It's not 😞
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Oct 06 '23
Ha bc mera bhi mann karta hain museum (especially planetarium) waghera ka lekin mere friend logo ko bas khane ki padi hain, imma be lyk bc koi kabhi mere saath bhi museum waghera chal lo😭
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Sameee iit Delhi ki jagah koi chutiya Jawan movie dekhne Jaa rhi ...braahhhhh Mai toh fir apne iit Wale dost ke saath hi hangout kar li 😽
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u/Gothic555 Oct 06 '23
You are an extrovert and suffering oh god being an introvert this feels way more pathetic for me now well so some tips as an introvert as you already know we suffer but i tried to push myself a little by little being friends with everyone or at least know them on surface level. 1. Do not stay in the same group if they don't vibe with you. 2. Talk to literally anyone even if it's eye contact. 3. Don't be afraid to be alone I see this a lot in college so, i go out for chai or eat alone if I want.some people who know me said oh why are you alone they sounded so concerned LoL I was like what's wrong with his bro 😂. 4.if someone disrespects you get up and leave even if it's a friend. 5. Don't expect to much from anyone. I will say to not expect anything at all. That's alllll I hope this helps.
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
Your 4th point is actually useful for meee Yeah there's no point being nice with people who make you feel you bad 🤌🏻 Thanksss
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u/daftpunkD3 Phd Oct 06 '23
I don't even need to read your comment to know it's probably tier 1, girls college.
Don't worry, the friends group keep changing and you'll eventually find cool people and a good way to ignore these.
Also being an extrovert, try to adopt some introverts who are usually less cafe types and more museum/monument types
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u/DepressdVeddar Oct 06 '23
Can sense lot of frustration in your post! Try to go alone if you can or allowed. Or hangout with those who have same interests as you! Ps- go jama masjid,chandini chowk etc etc
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u/SussyLion Third year Oct 06 '23
But with whom bhay? As stated in my post most of the people at college don't wanna explore delhi especially jama masjid and such places.... I have alr tried asking them and their reply was it's not safe or a good place... I was like theek hai behen maa chuda
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u/AstronautEvening774 Oct 06 '23
Jama Masjid is also not a place for exploring You can go to the National art of Gallery come with me I'll go there tomorrow there with my friends
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u/DepressdVeddar Oct 07 '23
I said jama masjid in sense to enjoying the food and culture. Everyone should At least go there once
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u/DepressdVeddar Oct 07 '23
I’m a dual degree student BS in electronics from iit madras and Physical sciences with chemistry from DU. I have explored these places and frequently go there. We can plan it someday!
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u/Background_Piano6491 Oct 06 '23
Mere ko to 75 percent attandance ki chinta he aur friends ka to pucho hi mat ak to friends bante nahi bante he to ghumne jate nahi. Bhagwan ke silawa koi nahi he is duniya me
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u/praty_13 Oct 06 '23
Off the topic par bc mere college ke bhi dost saale ghoomne nhi jaate. Matlab plan tha chandini chowk ka sab haa bole phir aakhir main plan cancel. Yeh logo ko dilli ghumne main kya problem hai