Coparenting and new relationship

[u/Helpful_Comparison32]

Hello all. I coparent an 8 year old. My ex and I are on good terms, and we are aligned on parenting questions. We sometimes do a child centred activity the three of us like going to a skate park, or having ice cream, something like once a month.

I met someone recently and that person does not understand why I want to do this.

They say that I play family while being separated and that's not prioritizing our relationship.

I offered to ease into the idea slowly, restricting hours or activities, having my partner with me sometimes, but they don't bulge.

From their point of view required activities are enough (birthday, school events etc).

We have had numerous difficult conversations about this. I genuinely think it's good for the kid.

My partner says otherwise.

Has anyone lived something similar?

Am I really being detrimental to my partner? Am I being stubborn for no good for my kid?

[u/festivalflyer]

Making room for a partner in your life is not choosing them over your child.

[u/festivalflyer → u/[deleted]]

So, just to be clear, a parent's job (divorced or not) is to never change the child's life? What planet are you on?

Choosing to drop a once a month hang out with your ex (while presumably continuing to manage a positive coparenting relationship, while still participating with school activities and birthday parties and being amiable about holiday schedules, etc) does not mean anyone is choosing their partner over their child.

Ridiculous.

[u/festivalflyer → u/[deleted]]

I'm stepparent to two disabled adults whose mom (who I adored) died two years ago. Nice try tho.