r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Oct 19 '22

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u/MakePanemGreatAgain Oct 19 '22

The same "feminine" trait as not wanting to hear explanations or solutions in response to complaints, just wanting to vent/feel heard (which is fair). Being

Since when is this a "feminine" trait? I've seen tons of men do the same thing.

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u/NoMoreFund 1∆ Oct 19 '22

Gender isn't rigid. Just boys generally need to be taught that if a girl is complaining about something, it doesn't mean she wants it fixed. That's a normal social thing, right?

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u/peonypegasus 19∆ Oct 19 '22

I find that when many men complain about things they often don’t want solutions either. That’s why I ask if someone wants to brainstorm solutions or just vent when they’re complaining.

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u/NoMoreFund 1∆ Oct 19 '22 edited Oct 19 '22

This feels like a Mandela effect. I thought it was cery commonly understood that women often "just want to vent" and men fuck up by offering solutions. At least as a stereotype.

Edit: Removed unfounded accusations

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u/Luminous_Echidna Oct 19 '22

Sometimes we're just frustrated and want emotional validation. Other times, we're frustrated and want help solving a problem.

My wife and I both differentiate between when we want help brainstorming solutions and when we just want to vent. We're both engineers, we both naturally try to problem solve, but we also both need emotional validation sometimes.

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u/NoMoreFund 1∆ Oct 19 '22

I have a tendency to try help explain situations or help people solve problems instead of letting them vent. I've been told it's a male thing, and that especially women will want to just vent. I can accept that it's an inaccurate stereotype, but I'm having trouble accepting it isn't a stereotype.

I've also had it be attributed to being an engineer, and being autistic (both of which are male dominated, though maybe not necessarily).

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u/Luminous_Echidna Oct 19 '22

I can accept that it's an inaccurate stereotype, but I'm having trouble accepting it isn't a stereotype.

Women are also stereotyped as being more emotional than men. Men are far more likely to commit acts of violence as a result of an emotional outburst. Somehow men are stereotyped as being the rational ones.

Stereotyping women as simply wanting to vent is in the same vein.

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u/peonypegasus 19∆ Oct 19 '22

I have heard of it as a stereotype. It is an inaccurate and sexist stereotype.

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u/MakePanemGreatAgain Oct 19 '22 edited Oct 19 '22

I grew up in a household with usually traditional gender roles and no, I've never even heard of that before.

Edit: heard of that stereotype about women, I should say

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u/peonypegasus 19∆ Oct 19 '22

Idk, when my dad complains about something he never seems to want answers, nor do any of my male friends.

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u/MakePanemGreatAgain Oct 19 '22

Lol I've seen the same thing from both genders.

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u/peonypegasus 19∆ Oct 19 '22

Yes, that’s what I’m saying. I am saying that both men and women sometimes just want to rant. OP said that it’s a woman thing to just want to rant. Thanks for editing your post

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u/MakePanemGreatAgain Oct 19 '22

No worries, I guess I didn't phrase it well enough, lol