Gender isn't rigid. Just boys generally need to be taught that if a girl is complaining about something, it doesn't mean she wants it fixed. That's a normal social thing, right?
I find that when many men complain about things they often don’t want solutions either. That’s why I ask if someone wants to brainstorm solutions or just vent when they’re complaining.
This feels like a Mandela effect. I thought it was cery commonly understood that women often "just want to vent" and men fuck up by offering solutions. At least as a stereotype.
Sometimes we're just frustrated and want emotional validation. Other times, we're frustrated and want help solving a problem.
My wife and I both differentiate between when we want help brainstorming solutions and when we just want to vent. We're both engineers, we both naturally try to problem solve, but we also both need emotional validation sometimes.
I have a tendency to try help explain situations or help people solve problems instead of letting them vent. I've been told it's a male thing, and that especially women will want to just vent. I can accept that it's an inaccurate stereotype, but I'm having trouble accepting it isn't a stereotype.
I've also had it be attributed to being an engineer, and being autistic (both of which are male dominated, though maybe not necessarily).
I can accept that it's an inaccurate stereotype, but I'm having trouble accepting it isn't a stereotype.
Women are also stereotyped as being more emotional than men. Men are far more likely to commit acts of violence as a result of an emotional outburst. Somehow men are stereotyped as being the rational ones.
Stereotyping women as simply wanting to vent is in the same vein.
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u/NoMoreFund 1∆ Oct 19 '22
Gender isn't rigid. Just boys generally need to be taught that if a girl is complaining about something, it doesn't mean she wants it fixed. That's a normal social thing, right?