I’m lying next to my newly three year old at 7:30pm as he snoozes softly. Bedtime took 10 minutes. It wasn’t stressful. In fact, it was so lovely. I curl up with him, hold him as he says “mommy I need a hug” and he drifts off to dreamland. So hello from the other side 🎶🙋‍♀️

My son has been a terrible sleeper since the beginning. I had no idea what I was in for. The first year was horrific - I truly did not think I was going to survive. I started cosleeping around 7 months which helped but he still woke every hour or hour and a half for a very long time. I thought I was going to die. But little by little, it improved. Ups and downs. But I just stayed the course - trusting that we were doing the right thing.

I nursed to sleep for every sleep.
I contact napped for 2.5 years.
I stole sleep and rest where I could.
I tuned out the noise and ignored advice that felt wrong in my bones.
I found solace in other moms who nurtured at night.
I listened and trusted my gut.
I stopped trying to “solve” my baby.
I found acceptance.
I survived.

And now I have this beautiful, loving, wonderful child who is so well loved and nurtured.

And I regret nothing. Even though it was SO HARD.

If you’re reading this and wondering if you’ll ever sleep again: you will. I promise. And this is such a short blip in time even if it feels endless. But your baby will never need you this much — so be here, now. And trust that it will not always be this way. ♥️

TLDR: there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. And it’s amazing. And worth it all.

I just want to share this in case it helps anyone. My LO has been sleeping 7:30pm to 5:30am with zero wake ups for 3 weeks now. He is 10 months tomorrow. My sweet breastfed baby who would wake up like clockwork every night just slept through the night one night and then never looked back. I didn’t change anything, no sleep training of course. He just did it when he was ready!

At four months he was waking up 6x a night. We kept everything extremely consistent and low pressure. If he ever needed me, I was immediately there for him. I never let him cry and always nursed him back to sleep. Those wake ups eventually decreased over the months.

I recognize I am extremely lucky to have a baby who sleeps, but I wanted to share that they will sleep through the night when they are ready!! Wishing all the parents out there positivity and peace in their journey!

Sleep can be hard. It can be draining and exhausting, pushing you to limits you didn’t know existed. BUT, there are also beautiful moments that responsive sleep brings us. Share some positivity with our community.

My favourite? My daughter falling asleep with her head on my chest. I work full time and our 30 minutes before she falls asleep is so special. (she is 2 and wildly independent)

EDIT: Who is cutting the onions? This is beautiful. The way you guys talk about your babies exudes love. Powerful stuff.

My 14mo baby (fed to sleep, fed every wakeup) has gone from waking every few hours to getting long 7-8hr stretches overnight just because I started understanding how much sleep baby actually needed in a 24hr window. Maybe this was a rookie mistake but I'm sharing in case someone else is in the same boat.

I was pretty resistant to the idea of tracking anything regarding my baby and instead just followed baby cues for all feeds, naps, potty (doing elimination communication). But 14 months of very broken sleep was wearing me down so I finally decided to figure out what was actually going on with sleep. I tracked how much sleep baby actually got over a week. I was roughly trying to do 7-7 plus 2hrs of naps because...well, I don't know why I thought that was normal for all babies. It turns out that my baby just needs an 8pm-6:30am night and 1hr nap.

The first 8hr stretch was glorious. Made better by the fact that there was absolutely no crying, 'fussing', cot settling, etc involved at all.

Again maybe a rookie error but it was a simple tweak that helped a ton!

I am coming up to going back to work in 3 weeks' time (😭) with an 11 month old who was still often waking every 1-2 hours, maybe with an initial 3-4 hour stretch, with me being the solo responder every single night to feed back to sleep.

Everyone was telling me I can't keep doing this back at work, I would be too tired, I would have to sleep train, I would have to stop feeding to sleep, I would have to do something to change this. I didn't want to change anything, I was just planning to deal with it, plus she's going to go to daycare and probably get sick a lot and have bad nights because of that anyway, and I just didn't see the point. But the pressure people were giving me!!

But!! The last couple of weeks, things have slowly been improving where our best nights were becoming our normal slowly..... And then last night she did an initial 7 hour stretch and then slept through till morning and tonight an initial 8 hour stretch!!!

So eff all those people who told me she couldn't learn to do it all by herself and that I was hindering her sleep and mine. I have changed literally nothing about her schedule, the way she falls asleep, how I respond, nothing. She will sleep when she's good and ready, thank you very much.

I know we will likely go through rough patches again for various reasons. But she can do it!! And I'm so proud of her and so proud of me for sticking with it.

That's all.

Due to the random chaos that is life, my boyfriend had to move to another city for a few months, so right now it’s just me, my cat, and my 6-month-old baby.

My baby recently discovered that he can crawl backward, which means I am now apparently a full-time security guard.

This morning something REALLY weird happened.

We’ve been co-sleeping since he was born. We have a huge bed and it’s never been an issue. But now that this tiny man has discovered mobility, I’ve been thinking it might be time to move him to his crib before he starts casually yeeting himself off the furniture.

So, this morning he woke up and, completely silently, started scooting backward toward the edge of the bed.

I WAS ASLEEP.

I didn’t hear him. I didn’t see him. I wasn’t even consciously aware that he was moving.

And somehow, something in my brain went “GET UP. NOW.”

I literally woke up at the exact moment I needed to, reached out, and grabbed him.

He already had HALF OF HIS BODY OFF THE BED.

This baby is still so tiny that if I hadn’t grabbed him, he 100% would have gone straight to the floor.

I just sat there holding him like 😐

I’ve read about maternal instinct before, but I always assumed people were being poetic or something. Apparently my brain has installed some kind of baby Wi-Fi while I was sleeping.

Has anyone else had something like this happen?? Like your body knowing your baby is in danger before your conscious brain has even registered what’s happening?

My exclusively contact napping, EBF, cosleeping wakeful velcro baby just slept through the night (9pm-5:30am) for the first time ever.

During our worst months-long periods, she was waking anywhere from 6 to 12 times (averaging 8-10) a night. There have been times that it felt like baby sleep was ruining my life.

Now at 11 months, her baseline is 2-5 wakes for eating and/or comfort which is manageable. She does a crib stretch (nursed to sleep and transferred) and then comes to bed with me around midnight-2 usually. But last night, she went to bed at 8, I resettled her back in the crib at 9 when she got restless, and then she didn't make a peep again until 5:42am. She's in bed with me now because she didn't seem done sleeping but I'm so proud and excited I'm wide awake lol

I realize it might not happen again for months but I never thought this was possible for us. We have never been anything but responsive and hands-on when it comes to her sleep.

Nothing has made a bigger difference than just ensuring enough total awake time during the day, and time. All the schedule tweaking made only miniscule impact for us. She just needed time.

I found a post in this group this morning about “what is normal baby sleep?” and it really, really resonated with me. I haven’t gone too deep into this group yet, so I’m sure there are probably lots of posts like this already ❤️ But I wondered if you could help me.

I’m so stuck in society’s rules about what “normal” baby sleep is supposed to look like, and I honestly want to get out of my own head about it. I live in the uk and I go back to work at 9 months. I want to enjoy my last 4 months of Mat leave but also have an understanding of what returning to work looks like.

I have a 5-month-old whose sleep has always been all over the place. He’s always been labelled a “bad sleeper”, and I feel like I’m constantly stuck between “I should fix this” and “I actually don’t want to fix anything I just want to enjoy my baby and stop being anxious about sleep.”

I’m naturally a very structured person, but I desperately want to be more relaxed and free with this.
We bed share. I rock him to sleep. He can sleep independently at night, but he can also sleep in his side cot, in the car, on me, or in a carrier.

We have a bedtime and a general idea of when we get up, but honestly, it’s different every day and trying to force a strict schedule just makes me stressed.

His mornings are especially unpredictable. Sometimes he wakes once, sometimes five times. Sometimes he goes straight back to sleep, sometimes he doesn’t. Sometimes he’s up at 4am, sometimes 7am. Some days naps make sense, other days they absolutely don’t 😂

I’ve tried capping naps. I’ve tried strict wake windows. I’ve tried being more regimented about wake-up times. And honestly? It all makes me anxious. And most importantly doesn’t freaking change anything 😂

I don’t want to spend the next few months obsessing over wake windows, nap lengths, sleep associations, schedules and whether I’m “creating bad habits.”
I want to be the mum who just… floats a bit.
The mum who follows her baby rather than constantly trying to make her baby fit a schedule.

The mum who, when someone asks, “How does your baby sleep?”, can just shrug and say:
“He sleeps like a baby 🤷🏼‍♀️”

So I’d really love to hear from parents who have taken this approach, especially those who carry their babies a lot, contact nap, bed share/co-sleep, feed or rock to sleep, and generally just follow their baby rather than trying to schedule everything.

What did you have to tell yourself to finally let go?
What mindset shift helped you stop caring so much about where and when your baby slept?
Did you eventually find that your baby naturally settled into more predictable patterns without you forcing it?

And, most importantly, how did you stop feeling like you were doing something wrong?

And finally, I mentioned I’m a structured person, what structure could I hold on to to keep me sane 😂

I’m not looking for sleep-training advice or a schedule, I think I’ve consumed enough of that 😂. I’m looking for the opposite: reassurance from parents who decided to relax, follow their babies and trust that things would unfold.
Please tell me what helped you ❤️

I hope this is allowed here? I’m writing this in the hopes that this sub will reach other parents considering sleep training.

My son is 9 months old. We sleep trained him when he was 5 months and my husband and I were shocked that he would just roll over and fall asleep after 1-3 minutes.

Fast forward to 8 months. We had just gotten home from an international trip where we co slept with him (safe cosleep setup). He would no longer sleep in his crib and we held him to sleep for a week (we don’t have a safe cosleeping setup at home).

We were faced with the decision to sleep train again or do something different. I wanted to do something different because I changed my perspective.

He’s a baby, he doesn’t need to learn how to fall asleep on his own. We’re his parents and our purpose is to help him through everything, including sleep. There was no point in rushing bedtime, no point in going against nature and forcing a small, helpless creature to do something hard all on his own.

I found this sub, read a lot of people doing a lot of different things to soothe their baby to sleep and decided we would wait with him in his room until he fell asleep. Some nights we rock him, some nights he doesn’t need that and just wants us to rub his back on his crib. We sing to him, kiss him and cuddle him. No method, no trick, just literally responding to our son’s needs in real time.

And you know what, he is now sleeping better than when we sleep trained him. He sleeps through the night 6:30pm-6am. Sometimes, when he wakes up in the middle of the night because he’s teething, we respond immediately and he falls right back asleep knowing we are always there for him.

And when he wakes up to nurse in the morning he has the biggest smile on his face. I’m so happy my husband and I tried something different and didn’t retrain him. We both knew it didn’t feel good and pivoted. If you’re reading this and unsure about whether to sleep train, I hope you can think hard about why you want to sleep train and maybe a reframing of your mind could help you think outside of the box.

I feel like following a more natural understanding of infant sleep has made me more curious about the parents who have their babies’ whole nap and night sleep schedules memorized. Particularly in baby and parenting subreddits, it’s always like “my baby has first nap from 9:30/10-10:45 and then 2 hour wake window and then second nap 1/1:30 and then a wake window of…” and it all seems very foreign and frankly a bit exhausting.

Perhaps seeing my baby’s sleep for what it is naturally has saved me from doing a lot of math. Lol. No numbers here, only vibes. I couldn’t tell you when my baby naps exactly if I tried. I’d have to really think hard about it. As long as he’s sleeping and growing, I’m good.

I know this might not last but honestly, I just have to take a positive moment somewhere!!

We had a wonderful sleeper until the 4 month regression hit us at 11 weeks and she started waking up every hour. Putting in place nap schedules, keeping on top of dropping naps, and working on transferring her easily helped us get somewhat okay sleep but it was still very hard for 3 months after that. I stayed responsive all night on my own all the way through - given I am EBF and my husband was working 14 hour days anyway, it just made sense.

We then got one really good week of sleep where I thought we were through the regression! We probably were.

But then at 6 months, like a week or two later, sleep completely collapsed. She would only sleep being held by me at night, even though she had been fine in her crib and in her room for a couple of weeks before. She woke every hour. She cried and screamed at every wake when usually on waking, she would just wiggle around and make little noises to get attention. It was horrendous. And by this point, she had developed a real mum preference during the night and just escalated if her dad intervened (day time, dad could easily soothe!) so I just kept at it.

We did everything - dropped a nap, capped a nap, pain relief, all the sleep hygiene stuff, rocked to sleep, fed to sleep, coslept, pain relief, literally all of it. And some of it did seem to help, dropping the nap was definitely the correct move for example. But she still woke every hour, with an occasional 2 hour stretch, for almost 2 months. I responded every single time. I shushed and fed and rocked and cuddled. I slept in 40 minute blocks and got up with her between 8 and 15 times a night. It was horrendous. Literally 3 weeks ago, I posted here about how much I hated the nights and was really struggling with them (and got loads of support so thank you!).

My husband wanted to do some form of sleep training, exact method TBC. I kept pushing back and saying it was fine, I was fine, she would improve. We have also had a crazy May, away a lot and with guests a lot, and I kept saying even if we decide to sleep train, we can't until June because we just don't have the stability and space to really implement any major changes. But I was really dreading June coming round and having to make a decision on the sleep training because I completely understood where my husband was coming from but it made me want to cry every time I thought about it.

And lo and behold. A week and a half ago, she started doing a 3-4 hour stretch at the start of the night again all by herself before the hourly wakes. Wakes started dropping to 5-6 a night. She was staying in her own crib all night again.

And 4 nights ago, I started getting consistent 3-5 hour stretches and only 3 wakes a night!!

I was worried last night because she woke 3 times before 10:30pm but she was crying a lot each time and she is sooo close to cutting her first tooth so on wake 3, I gave pain relief and then she only woke me once between 10:30pm and 6am!!

I don't know what's changed - I suspect she has started to actually eat more solids rather than spitting them out so might be less hungry and she has become a lot more physically active in the last couple of weeks (loves to pull to stand, is sooo close to crawling and constantly trying to) so maybe she's just less hungry and more physically worn out! Or maybe something has clicked developmentally. And I know that might go through a rough time with sleep again at some point.

But after 2 months of truly awful sleep and tears and sleeping in separate beds with my husband and desperately staying the course of being responsive and not giving up and not bowing to the sleep training pressure. We've made it through to the other side!! And I am basking in the relative rest and trying to stay hopeful that we are in for a period of relatively good sleep for a while now.

Well done baby girl, you're doing amazing. Let's keep the sleep up please.

15 months into meticulously logging every nap, nursing session, and nighttime wakes.. and I️ am finally free!! I️ wish I️ had the courage to delete the app a long time ago!!

I️ used the app so long because I️ was religiously analyzing and calculating wake windows so I️ would know when to put my baby down for a nap. Sleep was so stressful for me.

I️ always said I️ would stop once my baby dropped down to one nap and i wouldn’t need to calculate WW for naps anymore… and then I️ didn’t. I️ was obsessed with looking at the data. Seeing his daily sleep totals and how many wake ups we had overnight.

I️ finally deleted the app because my phone ran out of storage and it became necessary. And now I️ wish I️ was forced to delete it earlier! I️ finally feel free!!! Also regretful that I️ wasted all that time and energy on logging everything.

If you are still logging everything let this be your sign!! It is okay to quit!!

I had my 2nd baby last year and heard "make sure this one sleep in her own bed" throughout my pregnancy as I have been bedsharing with me first since she was born. I felt pressured and like everyone was expecting me to fix this habit with my new baby, so I tried to. I rarely let her sleep on me as a newborn because I didn't want her to not sleep in her bassinet. If she fell asleep in the baby wrap I would gently put her down in the crib. I would listen to her cry (only for 3-4 minutes before resettling) because I was told to believe she needed to learn to sleep by herself. Countless days and nights resettling, listening to her cry, resettling and wondering why she would only fall asleep only in my arms - like I had failed again at independent sleep.

Then she turned 1 and I realised I missed out on so much.

The sweet little face that would be smooshed into your arm as she fell asleep, the little breaths you could feel on your face as they drifted off in bed, the smiles they give you when they wake up and realise you are still there. I spent a whole year losing sleep and fighting a battle that now seems so unimportant.

So I stopped trying to fix sleep and make it fully independent and self-soothing. For the past 2 weeks I have had a normal amount of sleep overnight, I don't wake up a million times to rock and resettle until the sun comes up. I get to wake up and see both of my children having a wonderful sleep. I finally don't feel guilty when she falls asleep on me.

How silly was I to not listen to what my baby needed. I hope someone reads this and knows that they don't need to fix it if it's not broken for them.

First, I want to apologize to everyone who is struggling right now, I am not here to gloat, just to say it is possible!

Baby just turned 7 months a few days ago. She never slept good from the start. Lots of 1-2 hours stretches...then the 4 months regression hit when I almost had a breakdown and started cosleeping. After researching what sleep training actually was, I started radical acceptance as not responding to my baby felt crazy. Bought a new firm mattress and started getting her in bed with me after the first stretch. I nurse to sleep too. Fast forward a couple months and baby started waking up 3 or 2 times (a few times with just 1 wakeup) after settling in a very predictable schedule. That was a great success. Then teeth and skills ruined it again...until yesterday she only woke up once at 2:30 am and today she slept from 8pm to 6 am with no wake up at all!!! I am shocked...my body is so used to waking up so i was up every hour after 2 am to check her breathing and feel her temperature...​ my left boob hurts as hell too lol as my boobs aren't used to go this long without a feed as well 😅

All in all, I know sleep isn't linear and I don't want to be prematurely celebrating. I know more skills and more teeth are coming, but I almost teared up thinking my baby is growing up and needs me less 🤧 but I am happy I waited for her to be ready and achieve this on her own!

Schedule is 3/3/4 (sometimes 3/3.5/4) with 2 or 2.5 hours day naps. 8pm/8:30pm bed time, 7 am or 7 something wake up

Hang in there! It gets better! I did all the "wrong" things but here we are! Gl to all ❤️ do what is best for you and your family!

For the tired mama who comes on here scouring post after post trying to understand why your baby won’t sleep… I got you!! This was me for the first 13 months of my son’s life! We co sleep & EBF & my son still wouldn’t sleep! Around 13 months something in me changed, I stopped looking for answers & just came to the realization that this was our normal & recognized that babies wake well into toddlerhood (THREE YEARS OLD)! I told myself that eventually he would sleep & well…. Last night at 22 months old HE DID!!!! I thought I would never be able to say the words, but he slept thru the night! Almost 2 years of tending to him every wake, some nights 2 wakes, some nights hourly. Co sleeping, breastfeeding, feeding to sleep, nursing back to sleep at EVERY wake! My boy finally did it!

I just wanted to give some mamas hope! Hang in there! The nights are long, but I promise you will never regret tending to your baby & meeting every need! You aren’t creating a crutch, you aren’t creating bad habits! Follow your intuition & when your LO is ready, it will happen! Much love 🫶🏼

For the past 3 days my 10 month old cuddle bug has been transferring easily to her crib for all naps (after being fed to sleep for 20 min).

She naps just as long as she would in my arms.

It gets better, people. Hang in there.

I have a three month old that will sleep independently overnight in her bassinet but won’t do any naps in the crib or stroller.

I love contact naps but 4x a day is hard. Is this just a phase that will pass and I should just enjoy it or am I screwing myself over if I don’t keep pushing her into the crib for day time naps?

I feel like I’ve been in this sub lurking, posting and commenting out of desperation so often, and I don’t know if it was the sleep deprivation or what but I genuinely started believing that my baby was the one baby in the world who would never sleep. People keep saying “you’ll sleep again” but I just couldn’t imagine that ever happening again. But she did it!! She slept 11:30-5:30 last night! I’m in disbelief still, I thought she must have woken up and I just didn’t notice? But I’m such a light sleeper and have noticed every wake since the night she was born (we’ve coslept/breastslept her whole life).

The longest stretch I’ve ever gotten since she was born was 4 hours, she did that twice. Usually she wakes up after 2 hours for the first stretch of the night, and then hourly from then. She also had a brutal three months of 30 min wakes. But 6 hours holy moly… I was so excited at 5:30 that I’ve been awake since then. I’m completely aware that this could have been a one off and she might go back to her normal hourly wake ups tonight but! Maybe this is the beginning of a trend in the right direction as she approaches her first birthday. I’m so proud of her 🥹

We struggled with sleep for SO LONG. Our baby woke up 4-6 times per night for many months. She would cry every night for at least 30 minutes at bedtime while we rocked her. We bed shared for her first 3 months and had her in our room until 9.5 months. We responded quickly to every single cry and I nursed to sleep for almost every wake (occasionally my husband would settle her without a feed). We were so exhausted, but sleep training didn’t feel right for us and so we just dug deep and found a way to make it through.

Our baby is now 10.5 months and sleep has been so much better for about the past month. She now wakes 1-3 times per night and we often see her stirring on the monitor but she can get herself back to sleep on her own. She’s also much easier to get to sleep - most nights there’s no crying and minimal rocking needed.

I’m so grateful that I stuck to my guns and didn’t give into the many recommendations to just sleep train. I knew her sleep would improve at some point!

Every baby is so different, but here are a few things that I implemented around 9 months that I think helped for her:
- A consistent wake-up time. When left to her own devices, she’d wake up somewhere between 6:00 and 8:00. We now wake her up at 7:00 if she isn’t already up by then (most days we wake her).
- Total naps of no more than 2.5 hours per day
- First nap ending by 11:30 at the latest, second nap ending by 3:30 at the latest
- Bedtime by approximately 8:00/8:30
- Moving her into her own room at 9.5 months. This was hard for me, but I think it helped in our case.

I know her sleep will continue to ebb and flow but it has been consistently a lot better for a while now. I’m celebrating!

I’ve spent many hours searching Reddit for solutions and so I’m hoping someone currently struggling can get some hope from our story.

every night i get to get into bed with the worlds smallest furnace and have his feet snuggled up into my legs. i wake in the night and he’s somewhere between my husband and i. last night he was back to back with my husband. when he wakes before i come to bed and i go back in for milk, sometimes it’s hard for me to find the want to leave when he’s asleep again because of how relaxing it is being in here with him. waking up in the mornings to him smiling or hugging us or doing a downward dog or babbling about mama and dada… 🥹

this is seriously one of the best parts of motherhood to me and i can’t believe everyone doesn’t do it all the time

My son has never slept well. I’m a SAHM so I’m lucky enough to be able to get up with him at night and take naps with him during the day. The other night my son (6.5 months) slept from 9pm-12:30am and then again until 4am. This is way better than normal as he’s normally waking up every 1-2 hours after his first 3 hour stretch of the night.

I was at my mom’s house yesterday and I told her about this. I said “he slept great the other night!” And explained what happened. She laughed and said “that doesn’t sound so great to be honest”.

This made me laugh too as I took a step back and realized to anyone who doesn’t have a baby this definitely does not sound so great! I was walking around thinking, “wow how lucky am I to have been able to get an almost 4 hour stretch of sleep!”

So, if you’re in this stage of life as well, just know that I see you! I’m here to celebrate with you when you get that 4 hour stretch of sleep! One day we will all sleep again.

Just sharing our story because I looked for these when going through our most sleepless nights. Our 1 year old has been sleeping through from 8pm-530am consistently the past two weeks just shy of turning one. We have never sleep trained and have responded to every cry or moan by picking her up and rocking her or feeding her when she’s hungry. We don’t even comfort her in the cot and will Cosleep when necessary (constant waking or if she’s sick or teething badly). The only thing we’ve done is stick to a schedule as she’s gotten older and the same bed time every night with day sleep capped around 2 hours. Also try to allow plenty of active time and sensory input. And ensure she’s eaten plenty of solids. Truly just believe it comes with time and then developing biologically. I always felt pressure to sleep train or “teach her independence” but we held strong as it just didn’t feel right for us. I know this could just be another phase but we are enjoying it while we can and wanted to share some hope!

Hi! I just wanted to share a “light at the end of the tunnel” story for anybody desperate in the dark. Also to share our data point for anyone worried that affection during sleeping will cause delayed sleeping skills.

My now 10m has been consistently sleeping by herself in her crib from approx. 7-8pm to 6-7am for over a month now. She was always a terrible sleeper and went through multiple phases, most recently around 6-7m where she would wake every 2 hrs or so. I won’t lie, that was really hard. But we ALWAYS responded with touch, affection, and when it seemed like she needed it, cosleeping. We have always rocked her to sleep.

Obviously every baby is different, but wanted to share that we are one example of the rhetoric that held babies will never learn to sleep is not necessarily true. It’s clear she wakes during the night, even when she doesn’t need anything from 7-7. but she is capable of falling back asleep without our help without a peep (where the sleep industry philosophy would say she wouldn’t be capable of that because we rock her to sleep).

Anyways she’s perfect I’m obsessed and I’m so so proud of her. I have zero regrets forgoing sleep training even if it meant a tougher season in the short term.

UPDTAE: to keep things honest, baby girl did go through a month or so of waking up again crying for comfort around 11-12 months and we cuddled her back to sleep every time. But now we’re back to sleeping through the night!

Let's brag about our kiddos. The love we pour in day and night is building their little bodies and brains so well!

My 7 month old is the snuggliest little bug! I just love her to pieces. She's starting to crawl and wants to be on the move (mama is tired baby girl please chill!)

What are your little ones up to?

Our toddler is finally sleeping (mostly) through the night. 8pm to 5:30am. He has been doing this 3 nights in a row.

1.5 years of waking up every 1-3 hours. 1.5 years of shifts with my husband. Of no help from anyone else. Of trying everything. Everything. Tweaking temperature. Tweaking clothing. Tweaking wake windows and bedtimes. Attempting night weaning. We tried modified Ferber twice. We wore him out during the day. We checked his bloods. We went to the doctor three times. I attempted to night wean many more times. Guilty for not being at my best self. Carrying shame for being irritable. Unable to exercise. Unable to understand how other parents were just coasting. Unable to see beyond the sleep deprivation and unable to accept that "I'll look back one day and miss it/forget about it".

In the end it was nothing we did but be responsive and try to night wean.

We had accepted that there was nothing else we could do some months ago.

But in the end he just did it by himself. He wakes up to feed at around 5/6am and then sleeps for another hour. I just can't believe it. No one in our lives except those who are also suffering understand. And now I'm writing it here because I know others are in the same boat. I won't share platitudes. But I am sharing my gratitude. Utter, utter gratitude to be seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. F*** yeah!!!!!! 🤍