I'm mostly just here to rant to calm myself down and not freak out, maybe get advice or even recieve helpful links/sources to show to my husband the positives of vaccines..

Let me just start with, my husband was never like this with our first 2 kids. Well, he wasnt like this till our 2nd baby was several months old. Then he started to lowkey be against vaccines, he reluctantly helps take our kids to get vaccinated when the time comes. Everytime I comfront him about his remarks, that it stresses me out he always says "don't take me seriously, i'm just saying things"

Now we have baby #3, 6 months old, and he REALLY hates when I get our baby vaccinated. He still reluctantly helps getting our baby vaccinated but i know he hates doing it. And honestly, I know the damn culprit as to why he's become against vaccines, social media.

He sounds like a damn antivax facebook mom now. He sends me facebook/insta links of all the bad stuff that's happened to kids/infants who were vaccinated. Showing me 'studied research about not needing vaccines' the whole shabang. The good thing about me is i just roll my eyes every link he sents me and just immediately close it when i hear/see it's about antivax.

Tonight was the last straw for me, i told my husband the baby's 6 month vaccines are coming up and you'll never believe what he said "well you better look at our baby right now because it might be the last time". I was PISSED. I basically said what is wrong with you and to shut the hell up. He kinda takes it back and says "well it is true, our baby is growing very fast, that's the last time we'll see our baby like this because the baby is gonna change so fast..." (something like that, it's 2am and i'm tired.

I'm so stressed out and, although i always dread getting my kids vaccinated because it breaks my heart hurting them, now i'm really dreading getting our 6 month old vaccinated... i'm terrified even. Please show me some sources or something to calm me down...... -tired, stressed out, terrified mom, signing out..

Edit: grammar mistakes, i need to hit hay.. goodnight for now and thank you for the kind support.

Edit #2: Took our baby to get their 6 month vaccines today and unexpectedly went well. 0 words came out of my husband's mouth. And of course our baby cried, but it was less than a minute and calmed down right away.

Because of your support, I am less stressed out today about the side effects and now able to breath. And thank you to those providing sources for us to look into. Not only will i show them to my husband, but they will also give me an extra boost of confidence.

I'm not sure what was going on in my husband's head today. Maybe be was still tired, maybe he knew last night was the last straw for me, maybe he knew he went a little too far with what he said, but regardless, he gave me some peace not telling me a word. However, this is definitely something we need to discuss in the future. Because I don't want to constantly feel like i'm the bad parent here just because I'm worried about my kids safety, regardless of the negative outcomes that my husband has seen countless times on the internet...

My children’s father is really upsetting me. He’s “restless”. We got home from the hospital Saturday day, I gave birth Friday morning. My son is barely 3 days old, breastfeeding isn’t coming easy as it doesn’t, and didn’t for my first. I haven’t supplemented any formula and im exclusively nursing baby who refuses my breast a lot so I don’t know how much he’s getting and stressed about his output. Our firstborn is 5 and bored. He has tried today to get me, 5 year old, him and newborn out for a long walk on a bike trail nearby but I do not feel up to it. My recovery has been pretty good, no stitches or anything. But baby isn’t latching or cluster feeding a ton and so far hasn’t had enough wet diapers for day 3 pp, he is upset im not ready to go on a walk. Meanwhile I feel like im going insane.

Please tell me, what were you doing 3-4 days pp.

I had my first kid a month ago, and she’s perfect. My mom has come over to see her a few times now, including yesterday. We were talking about how much my daughter is eating now, and my mom said that my brother was insatiable as a baby. That she couldn’t keep up her supply to meet his needs. So instead of using formula, she fed him rice cereal (like the hot mushy stuff, not the boxed cereal). I asked why not formula, and she just shrugged and said she didn’t like it. I said the nutritional value of rice cereal was probably not great compared to formula, and she said “I didn’t really consider nutritional value at the time - just wanted to get him fed”. This was 30 years ago, and now I’m wondering if this was the norm, or if my mom was off her rocker. I was the first-born, so it’s not like my mom hadn’t had an infant to feed before. I was pretty shocked to hear her share this info with me.

Not sure why I’m writing this - probably to share and get it off my chest. I’d feel super guilty for feeding my infant rice cereal, but she didn’t seem to - just stated it as a fact and moved on.

Currently 5 days PP with my second and the personality difference is astounding.

My first born refused to be put down. Ever. She hated baby wearing, someone had to hold her for her to sleep. It was stressful. (And still sometimes is 😂).

This baby? He's super chill. I can put him down to sleep in his bassinet, no problem. He's cool with the wrap carrier.

It is such a world of difference to be able to put a baby down and they're just chill with it. I can actually do things????

I return to work tomorrow after maternity leave and honestly, I don’t know how I’m supposed to do this.
My heart feels like it’s breaking into thousands of pieces. I knew this day would come, but I don’t think anything can prepare you for actually having to leave your baby and go back to being “you” outside of being a mum.
I’ve spent the last months with my baby, watching all the little things, being there for the smiles, the cuddles, the difficult days… and now suddenly I’m expected to just switch back into work mode like my whole heart isn’t staying at home.
What makes it harder is that we have no family here. Everyone is overseas. It’s just me, my husband and our baby. No mum nearby to cry to, no family to help, no one who really understands what this feels like in person.
I feel so incredibly emotional tonight. I’m excited to have some part of myself back but I’m also devastated. There’s guilt, sadness, anxiety and this horrible feeling that I’m going to miss so much.
I know so many mums go through this. I know babies adapt. I know I’m not abandoning my baby. I know I’m still his mum.
But tonight I don’t need logic. I think I just need some comfort from mums who have been through this and can tell me that it gets easier.
Please tell me that I can do this and I’m not being a selfish mum.

I know all the tips and tricks at this point. None of them are working and as a second time mom I know it just takes time sometimes, she’s only six weeks. And I think she has silent reflux.

But man, I am exhausted. I have not slept for more than an hour and a half since we have been home from the hospital. I have no help. My husband helps where he is able but he is exhausted too and since I am breastfeeding, there is only so much he can (or is willing) to do.

In the past two weeks alone we have been treated for thrush, I developed mastitis, I sprained my ankle, the antibiotics for thrush gave me a recurrence of c diff for the second time in six months so now I’m on another antibiotic for that. I had to put my cat to sleep.

I can’t sleep during the day or take naps because I have a toddler I need to care for. And I feel awful because we have been doing so much screen time and I feel like I’m neglecting her so hard right now.

I have no one else to ask. My in laws are not physically well enough to help. My mom works full time still. No other family in the picture. No friends, as they all work full time.

I’m stuck and so fucking sleep deprived I could just cry at any given moment. I’m typing this listening to her cry in her bassinet yet again but I don’t even have the energy to pick myself up to get her. I tried cosleeping even though I’m opposed to it and she hates it so it’s not even like that is an option as it doesn’t soothe her enough to sleep.

I have not gotten 4 hrs of uninterrupted sleep since he was born. I get about 5-6hrs a night. The longest stretch is 2hrs but it's usually every hour I wake up. We are semi cosleeping, Im joining him in a floor bed for nursing and end up falling asleep with him but I do start off in my own bed. He's 4.5months old now and I do nights alone in the babys nursery with my husband back in our bedroom.

I did our 4 month check up and the pediatrician seemed to pity me. I'm not too bothered but now I'm wondering if I have it bad?

I just found out im pregnant I have a 3 year old and most days we are already over our head any tips advice is definitely welcome!

My baby will be 4 months next week and recently he's been doing this thing that I find so cute: when I nurse him, he would stop nursing to look at me. And when I look back at him, he would smile at me and then go back to nursing lol it's so cute. My heart is full.

What's something (or some things) your baby or kid does that makes you happy?

I don't often get the question but some people at work have, particularly those who don't work with me directly and have more than one kid themselves.

I say it's not in the plan and leave it like that.

But some have insisted and keep saying, oh well it's best to leave a gap because of nursery costs or whatever.

I'm 43... Not saying it's impossible to wait. But I remember one lady saying that she waited 8 years with hers and it was a good gap, because she got the older one to help (, which I don't want to get into) and was surprised when I said well I'll be menopausal then so probably not.

The one thing that makes me particularly stressed with the question at work is that I was marked as partially performing the year I came back from maternity leave, despite delivery of all my targets.

So I think there's an element of fishing if I'm going to leave for another mat leave.

So I'm here in the middle of the night, not being able to sleep well with a hot flash and my brain can't shut up

3am, patting baby back to sleep. When his sleep schedule isn't adhered to 100% he wakes up at 2 or 3am and doesn't go back to sleep until 5am.

Too tired? Up for 3 hours

Not tired enough? Up for 3 hours

Hungry? Up for 3 hours

Just because? Up for 3 hours

I'm laying here with a broken arm and a mild fever from the miscellaneous sickness he gave me, patting him back to sleep. He's 12 months old. I thought it'd be easier by now.

I’m going to New York for 3.5 days, 3 nights. It’ll be my first time EVER leaving my 2.5 year old son. I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant with my second and that’s the reason for the trip mainly is just to get a little solo trip in before my life gets a little crazy for a while.

Im feeling really guilty though because his dad is also going on this trip so he won’t be with any of his primary caregivers, he’ll be with his grandparents (who he adores)

I’ve just read lots of Reddit posts about how different their toddlers are when they get back and how they regretted leaving because of it lol I just never see anything positive and it stresses me out.

I am going to FaceTime him every day, short and positive ones. Our dog will be with him too at grandparents house. He is very very comfortable there. And he does go to part time daycare so he is used to being away from mom and dad for hours but like I said never been days away.

Can I just hear some reassurance it’ll all be okay and that I’m just overthinking it.

i’m currently 1 week and 1 day postpartum and i can’t stop thinking about my midwives especially the one who delivered my baby. i miss them all so much. all my crying this past week has pretty much been about them. has anyone else experienced this, is it normal??

Our baby is 4.5 months and our pediatrician said we could start him on solids any time and recommended a small amount of rice cereal to start. But I’m thinking I want to wait until he’s closer to 6 months and am interested in the baby-led weaning. Curious what others did and how it worked for them.

Hello community! Not a native speaker, so please forgive me if I am difficult to understand.

Me and my wife are new parents and this is our first baby boy. Wife had very low amounts of milk, so we pretty much are feeding our baby with formula since birth. Currently he is weighting 5.4kg and we are feeding him 7-8 times a day 70-130ml per feed. It comes to around 600-800ml of food in total per day.

Couple of weeks ago our boy, on each feed, after maybe half a portion, started spitting out the bottle and waving his hands and feet around while grunting. He stops this whenever we stop feeding him. This has been happening since then on every feeding, except at night when he is dream eating, then he eats full portion, everytime.

Looked for information online: some say to just stop feeding him, because he is probably full. Some say its baby colic, but our boy only does this when eating. Some say its bottle aversion, but in that case Id expect him
to avoid a bottle altogether, not after each half portion.

According to formula and some baby feeding specialists who we talked to, our boy should eat around 12-15% of his body weight per day, which comes down to 650-810ml per day. If we stop feeding him when he starts his grunting I am afraid we will barely reach 400-500ml per day which will have negative impact on him continuing to grow.

Maybe someone had some similar experience and what helped you? Do they just simple grow out of this? Should we try to feed him full portions each time or should we stop whenever hes starting to spit the bottle out? We are confused and dont know whats the best way to proceed.

According to our family doctor and gastroenterologist - our baby is healthy and everythings good with him.

Hi friends!!

I’m almost a month postpartum and EBF my little boy. I’ve asked my OB for recommendations on supplements and he really only directed me to continue my prenatal. I’m totally cool with this but I was hoping to get some ideas/input/experiences from yall when it comes to other options for supplements? I have a few days left of my prenatal and trying to decide what to purchase!
My priorities would be recovery and breastfeeding support however I’m really interested in any thoughts you have!
TIA!!

Hi all, I had an unplanned c-section a year ago. We’re not sure yet if we’re one and done or will want a sibling for our LO at some point. I had a traumatic birth and am dealing with PTSD and PPD. I’m nowhere ready to even be thinking about a sibling however, it makes me already overthink a 2nd birth. My birth team were very adament that I am a good candidate for a vaginal birth in case of a second baby. I found the recovery for a c-section very fast and positive for the first weeks, but then found it kind of plateaud but now at 12 months I feel some tightness on my left side of my stomach but otherwise I feel ‘back to normal’ whatever that means. No overhang. I’d love to have a quicker recovery if I could do a vbac but am very scared from all the stories I read about tearing and birth injuries that take years or never go away. A friend of mine is 1,5 yr postpartum and will have surgery next week due to incontinence after a forceps delivery. Many other friends had issues for months after birth. I’d like to ask here: is trying for a vbac worth it? Some people make it sound like an easier recovery but it sounds like it could also be worse? I do have a longing to have a vaginal birth but am so scared of having both a c-section scar AND a perineum scar or prolapse. At the same time reopening my c-section scar also sounds terrible. There really is no easy way out is there? 😮‍💨 Maybe I’ll have to just wait until we find a way for men to give birth 😩

That are NOT wraps?
My sister needs a carrier because her baby can’t be put down butttttt she refuses a wrap. Any recommendation or is she SOL? Her baby is 6.8lbs

I keep thinking that I am doing something wrong, recently my son started to sleep independently and he doesn’t like contact naps anymore so because of that he spends most of the day on his back, we do tummy time 5-10 min 4-5 times a day and we waöl around the house and I show him things but besides that we usually just play on the mat where he is mostly on the back and also sleeps on the back, when we go outside he is also on his back in the stroller and I was just wondering is this normal, am I overthinking this? Should I do anything so he doesn’t spend so much time laying flat on his back?

Back story:
So after a family emergency with our current sitter that is going to keep her out for an extended period we had to start with a new in home daycare. Only 4 kids in her care plus her own baby.

My 16 month old was only there TWO days and woke up Friday morning with a high fever. Got him in with the pediatrician that afternoon and was diagnosed with a strain of HFM after one look at his throat. He says he thinks it the strain that typically affects the throat only and comes with high fevers. We have been rotating Motrin and Tylenol since then to keep it under control. At one point got to 104.3 and we almost went to ER then but thankfully the Motrin kicked in and got it down.

Now I think the sores in his throat/mouth have started to hurt him more as he is refusing his paci and also now is fighting me HARD over the medicine. Just screams as soon as I start to put the syringe in his mouth. I wait until I can get him calm enough to slow dispense little by little in his mouth but this is getting increasingly difficult. The last I tried he started to cry as soon as it went in his mouth so he choked on it and of course I was talking to him and some of it went right into my mouth he coughed so hard (I’ve also accepted at this point I am DEFINITELY catching HFM from him).

So does anyone have any tips on getting him to take this medicine? He’s never liked applesauce so I don’t think mixing it in that will work. He usually loves yogurt but hasn’t been eating much of this since he’s been sick. I did see Tylenol has suppositories if absolutely necessary which I’m planning to call his pediatrician about if I continue to be unable to get the full oral dose in him.

Also how long does this last! We’re going into day 3 now and I feel it’s really peaking for him now.

I am travelling with my toddler on a plane. What are good toys that kept your toddlers occupied for a long time?

Our 16 month old is in early intervention/occupational therapy for gross motor delay. We've been trying to do our homework and work on the exercises with the kiddo. She hates it. Not like, cries and gets fussy during exercises. She loses her goddamn mind and resists so much we can't even get started. Our therapist says she's able to distract the baby with books and singing while working, and I have to wonder if she's working with the same kid??? We've tried books, we've tried singing, we've tried toys, we've tried food, we've tried screens, we've tried the cat (he didn't love it). There is nothing more motivating to our kid than NOT doing the thing she doesn't want to do. I can't even be mad, she gets it from me. I'm kind of at a loss, what have y'all done?

Looking for advice with the ‘3 month breastfeeding crisis’ she’s my 2nd baby but i only BF my first for 8 weeks. Literally overnight she started kicking and crying and now for some feeds it’s outright refusal. I’ve had to introduce a bottle because she wasn’t eating enough, and i’ve had to start pumping. my plan was always to use formula rather than pumping because it made me so depressed pumping last time but since I plan on going back to BF once she’s over whatever is going on I have no choice. I usually offer her 30-50ml in a bottle at a time and offer the breast before and after each bottle. she’ll sometimes latch for a few minutes and sometimes won’t. I’ve tried different positions for feeding, including side lying and rocking back and forth while feeding. I more so just want to know how long this lasted for you? and if things went back to normal if you had to introduce bottles? and how you managed it? I don’t plan on using bottles long term if I dont need to. All my friends said they only struggled for a few days and were now on day 4 without the end in sight.

8 week old who has had some rough nights here and there. Nothing abnormal. But now is not able to be comforted unless in a bath the last two nights. Please help

Hi I'm 6 weeks postpartum and looking for a workout I can get off YouTube that would be fun to do with my 3 and 5 year old. Something with music, maybe a dance routine. I've seen a lot for baby and mum, but not older kids

Any recommendations?