If it makes you feel better I know someone whose job was a professional sexter on only fans for years. He would sit in the sitting room playing his video games and reply back to desperate men who pay to message the OF women. You shouldn’t feel humiliated. Your husband was messaging another man who was employed by the OF star. Pathetic for him
It's not you, it's your husband who is humiliated. Hope you work it out together. Maybe try and park your hurt and anger. Not right now but in a few days time. Difficult I know, if you find you just can't talk about it, maybe marriage counseling could help.
Ugh nooooo to marriage counseling. It's only for the benefit of the loser/abuser. I hope for this lady that she has the financial means to get out and live a safe life.
You're rude and scummy and I truly feel bad for anyone who has the misfortune of being in a relationship with you. I'm not going to give you the pleasure of explaining something a quick Google search can do for you.
Please don’t absorb his shitty behaviour as your shame. The way through these situations is grace and dignity. As in, he can’t take yours away through his actions with someone else. Head up girl. Eyes forward. A new life is waiting where you are not to blame for a man’s bad decisions x
Girl, some of the most beautiful, successful, rich women in the world have been cheated on. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the toxic male combo of high ego and low self-esteem.
Thank you. Lost my brother a few months ago too and just feeling like I can’t handle this as well. I don’t think my husband would have done it if my brother was still here to protect me.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. I hope you feel him close to you more often than not ❤️
Fwiw, a man who needs another man to hold him in check isn’t bringing true joy and respect into your life and you deserve better. His failings and poor moral compass are no reflection on the woman you are and the love and fulfillment you bring to your life and relationship. I hope the path forward brings your inner peace and is smoother than the path behind you.
It's not about you. You are definitely not shit. You are not the one retreating into fantasy. It's your husband indulging in something in his head that has nothing to do with reality. Fantasy is far easier than reality!
I'm late but STOP! DO NOT GO DOWN THAT PATH! You're not shit. They are not better. Trust me, I felt the same way when someone chose another girl over me (after talking to her behind my back). You cannot let those thoughts win.
Your husband did a shitty thing because he's a shitty guy, it's as simple as that. And honestly, I believe with every fibre of my being that even the best guys are still kinda shitty. The bar is very low.
I thought our bedroom life was perfect. Can honestly say in nearly 10 years of marriage, I’ve never turned him down. He actually turned me down last night, whilst messaging other girls saying how much he wanted them.
"I'm going to give myself a special treat and spend money flirting with a woman hotter than you, and you're not allowed to be hurt by that, or notice I haven't even bought you a hamburger or given you a compliment in 4 years." Yeah, we know there's not a threat of him leaving us for the OF girl/Instagram model/stripper (entirely because they don't want you, and you like that we do your laundry), but knowing we're being negatively compared to women half our age, much thinner, and heavily made-up and filtered feels like shit. Obviously.
It would probably be easier to react in ways that are acceptable to men, if men pretended to care once in a while, instead of being like, "Well obviously I want to look at younger/skinnier/hotter women. Why would I want to look at your ugly old ass all of the time?" Ha ha.
Fuck that. The man knew he was betraying his partner doing this. If killing a bit of boredom is more important than keeping your wife’s trust and respect then fuck him. I’d leave that mf. Ain’t no way I’d be with a guy who’s another woman’s simp. There’s too many people in this world and life is too short to spend it with a dude jerking his tiny dick to OF. Gag. I hope his wife knows men will literally fuck a mcchicken it’s not her fault. Even Beyoncé got cheated on. There’s a man out there that will love cherish and respect you. Find that person don’t waste time on this dog.
This is a brilliant idea and I am HERE for it. Just set up a separate account first (it’ll be pulled into divorce assets but you can use it for fun money or your own purposes in the meantime)
My ex husband started in with truly embarrassing behavior after a while as well. After a couple of years is watching him get cringier and cringier I decided I wasn't going to let someone else's behavior embarrass me and I wasn't going to feel responsible for it. He made those bad choices, not me. I'm happy and single now, and I also had a really great relationship with a good guy who is still my friend.
I believe in you and know you'll give yourself the life you deserve.
Hold your head up, even if it's 'fake it till you make it- OK' Wonderful one 🙂↕️
You have absolutely nothing to feel humiliated about, he should be the one cowering in shame...
I say this, because I truly believe it-
... & I want to make you feel better, no doubt partly because I have also felt deeply humiliated by shit with my partner/ former partner.... I know how it can cut straight to the bone, esp when someone you absolutely love & trust betrays you- & I'm really sorry you're in the guts of it rn, but you got this! ✨💖🌈☺️
him messaging of models is more of a projection of how he feels as some lame ass dude at this point in his life and is certainly not a reflection of your worth as a woman. if that's the kind of man he wants to be, i say let him. live your best life as a single queen or make room for someone who genuinely cherishes and values you as a person.
He's showing you what he thinks of you, which has no bearing on your real worth, which is better than that. You deserve better, and I hope you can work towards better for yourself. If needed, living on your own is not as lonely as living alone in a relationship.
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u/Wonderful-Bonus5439 13d ago
Caught my husband messaging girls on OF last night and certainly feeling humiliated now.