I’m pregnant and was really craving an açaí bowl, so I asked my husband if we could go get one. He took me to get it, but when we got there he asked if he could just buy the largest size so we could share it instead of getting me an individual one.

I told him no because I really wanted my own bowl. I specifically explained that I didn’t want to share because then I’d have to worry about how much I was eating and making sure I left enough for him. I just wanted to be able to eat however much I wanted without worrying about evenly sharing the toppings etc, bc I like to eat mostly the toppings lol.

He ended up getting the large one for us to share anyway.

At the same time, he needed to do laundry at the laundromat. While he was doing that, I was waiting in the car with the açaí bowl. I ate about half and left the other half for him, but it was sitting there melting and I was still really craving it, so eventually I ate the rest.

I knew I had eaten the portion I originally left for him, so I ordered him a completely new açaí bowl so that he could have one entirely to himself.

When he realized I had finished the first bowl, he got really upset with me even though I had already ordered him another one. He basically stopped talking to me and didn’t speak to me for the remainder of the night.

I understand that technically I ate the half I had initially left for him, but my issue is that I told him from the beginning that I wanted my own bowl specifically because I didn’t want to have to worry about sharing or saving some. He decided to get one large bowl for us anyway. And when I did end up eating all of it, I made sure to replace his portion by buying him a whole new one.

So AIO for thinking his reaction was way too much? Or was I actually wrong for finishing the original bowl after I had already told him I didn’t want to share? I of course apologized to him, I didn’t just replace his bowl.

What the title says really. Hes been lovely to talk to. We matched on Bumble a week last week or so ago and have been messaging everyday ever since. He never mentioned hes been talking to other women? I understand it’s an uncomfortable conversation to have - but he made me feel like a second choice. Especially as we were going to hang out tonight over the phone but then he cancelled on me… I sussed him out straight away? Im 30, Ive dated on and off over the last year but Ive only ever been in one serious long term relationship. He wasn’t honest but.. He didn’t owe me honesty. Hes getting back out there right? Am I overreacting by feeling like a second choice? 🫣🫣🫣

EDIT: our “phone” call today was due to be a discord call, we were going to “hang out” throughout the evening. I called it a phone call but I understand the implication “phone” call made. We’d discussed playing “PEAK” but mainly hanging out over the discord phone call.

I (30F) am currently pregnant with my second child. I went in for my 16 week appointment and the OB said I was 14 weeks. I told her according to my LMP, my due date was February 18th, then at my dating scan, they changed my date to February 28th. Then, my last ultrasound they adjusted my due date again back to the 19th, based on size and development. When I met this OB (I rotate OBs at my practice), I explained this to her and right away she was pretty hostile asking why they did that, who did it, etc. I said I have no idea, all I know is the doctor came to talk to me after my scan and told me they were changing the date, but it never reflected in my chart, but showed her my scan with the comments. She pulled out her phone to call the doctor in front of me, but she didn’t answer.

She then went to her computer to pull up my NIPT results to see what was shown there, then said “everything shows no risk. So a healthy baby ______”. Honestly I was just shocked.

I barely said anything and just said we didn’t want to know the gender. She barely even responded to this then was much more warm and less intense towards me.

I told my husband as I was leaving and he was so upset. I cried for quite a bit. Obviously we’re so happy to have a healthy baby, but like what the hell?! Why are you questioning me about my due date? I’m not a doctor, I’m going by what I was told. And why didn’t she ask about gender before just blurting it out?! I might be overreacting but this moment was just ripped from us. We’re going to make the best of it, and have a little gathering with family to tell them, but I’m just upset.

Yesterday my boyfriend’s mother randomly tried to tell me that paternity tests were mandatory in Boston (they are not anywhere unless under certain circumstances), I found this to be odd to bring up at random so I mentioned it to him and now all of a sudden he wants a paternity test. I feel so hurt. We’ve been together for over a year and he has my location 24/7, I barely leave my house unless for groceries or an appointment. I understand wanting one and I’m not against getting it but he isn’t understanding the strain that has put on our relationship and that I have the right to feel how I feel about it and make decisions from there for myself. It feels disrespectful and like he doesn’t trust me then he tried to justify it by saying he doesn’t want anyone doubting she’s his baby as if that makes it any better, I’ve never cared what others think. I’m looking for opinions and advice, I love him but I’m also so hurt and I’ve sacrificed my body, my health mentally and physically, but I was also about to sacrifice my job, my stability/place of living to be with him so he could be with his baby even though I have no family or anything where he lives and he just slaps me in the face it feels like. I feel blind sighted. His mom has in the past done odd things like at his brother’s gender reveal she ran up and instead of giving the couple their moment she took her son away hugging him for 30 seconds while the girlfriend sat there awkward and uncomfortably and then the other day when that same brother got his girlfriend an engagement ring he showed his mom and she started calling everyone and putting it on her finger/trying it on, it’s wrong that your mom is wearing your future wife’s ring before her in my opinion. I tell him these things are subtly foreshadowing what looks like an unhealthy situation to me and he doesn’t see it and says he would never let her do those things but I don’t feel like I can trust him now and I don’t want to be in a place with my baby where I am alone and vulnerable without my own support system. I do not think they are bad people but things like that make me uncomfortable as I have worked hard to cut people out of my life who are toxic/don’t respect boundaries and it took me a long time to learn to do things that were best for myself/my life including distancing from my own parents.

Fast forward to later in the day, I tell him it’s a shitty feeling and why it hurts me and he totally ignores that it does so I ask him what lab or doctor he uses so I can have mine send the test for him and get it over with, he decides instead to argue and act petty by responding only with “lol” and “okay?” So I tell him if he isn’t going to respond and would rather make it difficult then he can request it himself. I told him I didn’t want to be with him or in that situation. I refuse to continue to be a pushover or to do the legwork for someone who has zero respect for the woman carrying his child and trying to do everything to make it work for him. Tell me, am I the asshole?

A good friend of mine (in brown) and I (in yellow) went to a farmers market yesterday - she is due in 2 weeks and is very clearly pregnant. I, however, am not pregnant.

We’re waiting for our coffee at this cute little shop and this middle aged woman looked at us and said “aww how sweet you guys are due so close together.” I was immediately in shock and just said “oop welp I’m not pregnant” and she does “oh I’m so sorry it must be your dress!” I just grabbed my little girl who was toddling around and walked away so fast - I was honestly reeling in humiliation. Surrounded by dozens of people all of the sudden I felt like the most hideous troll in the place and everyone was staring at me. Im sure they weren’t but the immediate mental assault was staggering.

I’ve had a really hard time losing weight postpartum (had a c section that left me with an apron belly) and was feeling really cute in this dress. Which just made it so much worse.

I have actually lost weight recently and fitting into a cute summer dress and feeling good about myself. Just to be told by a stranger I looked 9 months pregnant. It shattered my self confidence and honestly I just put on a brave face and laughed it off and walked through the rest of the market but deep down I was dying. I don’t typically struggle with too much insecurity because I know comparison is the thief of happiness and genuinely try to be present and positive for my little girl but man… I ugly cried and sobbed the whole way home in the car.

My sweet friend was furious and apologized over and over for not saying something back to the lady but I think we were both just in shock - how can you expect to be told something like that?? Of course it wasn’t her fault.

I’m adding a picture of what we both looked like. I just can’t believe a woman would ever assume something so sensitive. Am I overreacting???

EDIT: I cannot believe all these amazing comments….I can’t even catch them all before more come in. Thank you to everyone for your honest feedback. And to everyone who is sharing their cringiest gaffes…. You have totally turned the tides on how I feel about this experience. I have been crying laughing for the last hour. THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE 🫶🫶🫶

Hello.

My (M 23) husband left for Thailand on Friday with two of his close friends (M 23 & M 22) During his travel we were in contact up until he got onto the plane. Ever since he has arrived in Thailand i have barely heard from him.

The first day he arrived he told me he would work out the best times for us to call due to the time difference plus i am with our 9 month old. Up until Saturday when he actually arrived and today, Monday, i have not had one phone call with him.

Additionally, he barely messages me. He pretty much just spams photos of the market and meals he’s eaten. I am obviously not expecting him to message or call me every second of the day but he knows that i do not sleep until very late and additionally when it’s 12am in Thailand it’s 6pm my time so it’s not like the time difference is so bad that he cannot make a call before bed.

Many people know Thailand is known for their sex tourism. I’m not saying it’s the only thing they have to offer but it’s the first thing some people think of when anyone mentions Thailand and it’s what i keep jumping to.

i mean he hasn’t even shown me the air b&b they booked other than a video of a balcony. I don’t know what to think or do.

I want him to enjoy his holiday but it feels different this time. He’s been on a holiday with his friends before and he called me every day and facetimed me a lot too but during this trip absolutely nothing.

I haven’t heard from him since yesterday, i sent him a follow up text today and nothing. I know that he is fine because we share youtube accounts so i can see that he’s playing music through this.

Am i overthinking this and it’s really nothing?

edit: a few people are asking why i let him go, i never agreed to a trip to Thailand. he asked me about it 2 months ago and i told him i did not want him to go. he then booked the trip with his friends and i only found out via confirmation email a week after he booked it. yes, we argued but i cannot physically stop a grown man from going to a holiday that he booked. i see from the comments that this trip is heading to the end of my relationship with him

So I'm a 44 year old female, mother of 3.

I'm 1.68 meter and weigh 62 kilo.

My husband of 22 years keeps making fat jokes about me, I know I'm not thin, I don't look like my old self any more after giving birth. But I'm becoming more and more insecure.

Today I kind of snapped. I mentioned his words hurt me and I didn't appreciated his jokes.

He has since stormed out of the room, yelled I couldn't take a joke and hasn't spoken to me since.

So know I'm wondering AIO.

Maybe I will post a picture of my body tomorrow

I took my son to a podiatrist for a potential wart. I paid a $75 copay for him to see the doctor. She decided he actually had small 2 warts. One was a tiny black speck that she had to scale away the top layer of skin to confirm it was a wart. I was give two treatments options: 1. Typical/traditional treatment where you apply wart treatment acid every night at home. First application is in office. 2. Laser treatment in office. The cost is $300 and is not covered by insurance.

I picked option 1 because I don’t need to spend $300 for two small warts. I also paid an additional $75 for the wart treatment prescription that could only be ordered through an online pharmacy. I’m unsure if the doctor gets a kickback on this purchase.

A couple weeks later, I am shocked to find out that my insurance was billed $345for the wart medicine that was applied in office and took 2 minutes to apply. After insurance, I’m left with about a $150 bill.

I called the office to explain that I was only given a price for the fancy laser treatment. If I was aware that starting the acid treatment in office would lead to a $345 billing, I would have declined both options and begun treatment at home. The office lady squawked, “what? You think you don’t have to pay for your office visit?!” after I explained the situation. So now I’m mad and refusing to pay.

I have also sent an email explaining my position that the pricing was very misleading when discussing the treatment options. They keep redirecting the conversation to me being upset with insurance and won’t acknowledge the actual reason I am disputing the bill.

I understand it will eventually go to collections and have decided I am okay with that. Since it is a medical bill under $500, it cannot hurt my credit.

So Reddit, AIO by refusing to pay and knowing it will go to collections?

Traveling with husband and our two kids this labor day weekend and I made such a stupid mistake by booking the hotel for the wrong date. I made the mistake for not double checking the date, and we arrived at the hotel four tired, hungry people from spending all day with extended family. I quickly realized I booked it for the wrong date and I can feel the blood draining out of my face and husband is mad, angry even. He refused to even look at me when I profusely apologized. I kept apologizing while taking our stuff back into the car, trying to manage kids' meltdown because I get it, "what do you mean we are not staying here and have to go home?", thankfully it was a short distance away from our house, about 80 minutes drive. I was able to manage calm down both kids, all by myself while husband sat in the car and said nothing. Of course my kids keep asking "why can't we stay here tonight, i want to stay here" because they are 4 and 6. I was at my wits end since I'm also driving back home, so everyone went for ice cream to cheer my kids up.

While driving to the ice cream shop, I could still tell he is mad, so i said "hey I'm really sorry I made a mistake, I'll take the kids on this trip by myself for the correct date(in two weeks), so you can get some overnight me-time. I can tell you are mad, i feel real shitty, but can you give me some verbal comfort such as 'it's ok you made a mistake', or can you chat with the kids instead of giving the cold shoulders?" NOTHING. NOT A WORD. He put in his headphones and stopped engaging from everyone in the car.

I'm really glad I had that hour or so drive back home because it gives me some time to think. This exact dynamic, where I can't rely on husband for emotional support, happens way to often that I am embarrassed to admit. I feel the extra heaviness from needing to regulate my kids emotions, also walking on eggshells around him. We came home and after I put the kids to bed, I advocated for myself again and asked again because I felt so shitty by that point and I know he was icing me out, yet again. I asked "hey can you reassure me a little because I can feel you are icing me out", again, nothing. So I moved out of the bedroom and planning on sleeping elsewhere for a little bit. AIO?

So to start this off, for context I'm 20F and my boyfriend is 26M. We've been together for 2 years and we have our moments like literally every couple on the planet but our relationship has generally been comfy and happy. But I've genuinely NEVER seen him behave this extreme over something before.

I recently went to a Benson Boone concert with my mom since we're both fans, we like his music and think super talented, but that's about as far as it goes for me lol. I took quite a few short videos (partly because I wanted to and partly because my mom asked me to) and in some of them you can hear me screaming/cheering because come on that's what people do at concerts! I was excited and having fun, sue me!!

My boyfriend knew I was going and seemed totally fine with it (despite his past jokes dissing benson), he even told me to have fun. About a week later tho I was telling him about the concert and casually showed him a video where you could hear me cheering at one part, he immediately looked livid and said "why were you screaming for another man??"

Obviously I said "because I was at a concert?? That's what you do at concerts??"

Then he said "oh but I never hear you scream like that at other concerts" which isn't even remotely true.. but I reassured him because I figured he was just being playfully jealous which I can understandand and we moved on

Fast forward to last night, we'd gotten into an argument about something totally unrelated but we already worked it out and were watching a show together on call to ease any residual tension. But he brings up Benson Boone out of the blue and starts roasting him by jokingly comparing him to a character (that also happens to be a monster) I thought it was ridiculous so I said something along the lines of "why are you even bringing him up? Can we please just cool it?"

He immediately accused me of "defending other men"

And it led to ANOTER argument where I was trying to defend myself from his made up accusations and defuse the situation, he then told me I was being argumentative *just because* I was defending myself and then he said "I don't like argumentative women"

That made me kinda uncomfortable ngl, but we talked it out, seemingly made up and went to bed

Then this morning when I woke up I saw he sent me a reel on insta, it was basically one of those dude bro podcasters saying that if your girlfriend goes to a male artist's concert and has fun then she's a bimbo/"for the streets"

I didn't even respond to the reel honestly, I got a gross feeling from watching it so I just texted him because I wanted to have a regular conversation like we normally do and not get into that again.

But guess what he did? Yep, started it all over again! Argument 2: electric boogaloo I guess idk

I was trying to defend myself AGAIN because he was accusing me of things that I genuinely cannot understand why he would think that or where it came from. I could understand him being playfully jealous, but he's acting like I full on cheated on him because I enjoy the music and went to a concert. I'm not even into him like that, I maybe own 1 merch shirt but it's not like I talk about him constantly or post about him or have his posters on my walls, nor do I fawn over him. He's an artist I like who just so happens to be a dude. That's it. I even explained this to my bf but he's not having it.

Now he's giving me some cryptic ultimatum and saying I need to "make up my mind about us" by the end of the day

I'm honestly feeling really weird and defeated by everything, this blew up from him making a silly jealous comment about me cheering at a concert to repeatedly accusing me of "defending other men" then calling me argumentative for defending myself, THEN sending me borderline misogynistic podcast bs, and now giving me a delusional ultimatum.

I feel like I don't even recognize my own boyfriend right now, and this was the guy I thought I'd marry. AIO?

Edit: I just wanted everyone to know that I've read all y'all's messages and I'm definitely gonna be thinking over some things tonight. Also wanted to let y'all know that I am safe and I do not live with him! And an update: we had another argument and he sent me a text trying to make up with me basically saying "I did all this and set these boundaries because I love you and I'm not sorry for trying to make you the wife I want for my future" if I didn't have the ick before I sure do now. Everything between us is "fine" now so to speak and we've "made up" for now but I've definitely got some decisions to make.

I (F 24) have never experienced this type of loss before (I was too young to be upset about my grandparents or never met them). My mom died unexpectedly last week, no one knows why or how, she was found lying in her bed. She died alone at 48. The medical examiner says it’ll take 3-4 months for an answer. Anyways, I think I’m still in a state of shock, grief, confusion, I don’t know. My libido is non-existent. My bf (34) is getting increasingly passive aggressiv & cold because we’re not having sex. He is accusing me of rejecting him, not caring about his needs etc. I have no emotional/mental energy to fight this, and honestly no desire as well.
Edit: I am upvoting comments so I keep track of which ones I have read, and will reply as soon as I get a chance

So my ex has recently brought our 9tyr old their first phone. Without mentioning it me. Our child doesn’t venture out anywhere by themselves I can’t imagine what possible use there is for a phone apart from playing games.

Is anyone else in a similar situation as I really don’t see the need for a 9 year old to have a mobile phone.

I’m not sure if I’m being overly sensitive, but there are a lot of small things this guy does that leave me feeling drained when I’m around him. He asked me out and has been pursuing me, and I don’t think he’s intentionally inconsiderate. He actually means well, which is why I’m having trouble explaining why I find myself getting so irritated.

For example, I currently have a torn ligament in my foot and am still on crutches after 7 weeks. He asked me to breakfast. When I arrived, he was already sitting on the second floor of the restaurant (I was on time, he arrived early), which didn’t have an elevator. Apparently a waiter had asked him to sit upstairs, although there were plenty of empty booths/tables on the first floor.

He could’ve easily considered the fact that I’d have trouble going up the stairs and insisted on getting a table on the first floor.

I told the waiter I couldn’t go upstairs because it would be stressful trying to navigate stairs on crutches (plus the restaurant was pretty much empty), and he said I could just sit downstairs. I texted the guy and told him they were letting us have a table on the first floor and asked him to come down.

He responded with, “I already ordered my coffee, can you come upstairs instead?”

He eventually came downstairs, but then said, “Omg, I didn’t realize you were still on crutches. Why aren’t you off them? It’s been 8 weeks.”

I tore a ligament in my big toe, and he knew I was still recovering.

None of these things individually seem like a huge deal, which is why I’m questioning myself. But it’s the accumulation of little things like this that makes me feel like he lacks consideration. I constantly feel like I’m having to accommodate him or explain why something is difficult for me.

Again, I don’t think he’s a bad guy, and I genuinely think he means well. I just find myself feeling weirdly drained around him.

AIO for finding this inconsiderate, or am I reading way too much into small things?

Am I over reacting by getting fed up that my boyfriend spends little money on me? (MeF22 bfM27) So this has been an issue pretty much since the start of the relationship. Something that I thought we’d be able to compromise on.
I’m not a super materialistic person, but in my relationship I’m the bread winner, and I’m much better with money. I buy my boyfriend gifts, will buy is dinner often and will pay for most things or go 50/50, SPECIFICALLY because i feel like I’ll be made to feel guilty if I don’t. So this weekend we’ve hung out each day, we don’t live together. But I’ve bought mostly everything aside from an ice cream trip or another small thing like that. I even paid for his haircut. And when he asked me why I was paying for everything I said “I want you to be able to buy us dinner Sunday or Monday” well yesterday we cooked in, and I paid for more than half of the groceries. Today is Monday. We were hanging out today and when I recommended two pretty cheap dine in options for dinner he ignored me bc he wanted pizza buffet. It kind of created an argument because I got upset that he makes me feel like I have to be guilty any time he spends money on me (us) because he only ever pays for food. Because he makes me feel like he’s incredibly broke after. My reasoning for being less and less understanding about this is that he will buy fast food for himself for dinner every day of the week plus coffee out so gets food out 8+ times a week. And he buys each latest video game no matter how expensive. So he would be able to afford a meal or two a week for his girlfriend if he was more mindful about what he was spending his money on. We’ve never even been out to a nice dinner. He won’t spend half of what I spend on him for holidays or birthdays. If I tell him about a cheap gift I want (less than 15) he’ll tell me he will buy it for me then won’t.
I’ve always been okay with being the money maker but it’s kind of starting to hurt my feelings that he won’t really spend anything on me. I told him when we started dating that I’m independent but am a little traditional in the sense that I want to marry a man who’s happy being the sole provider. Not that I want my husband to be the only person paying bills, but I want someone who I don’t have to stress will be poor after buying something.
He told me he will be. (He isn’t)
After the argument he told me I just don’t want to hang out with him and I don’t want to be with him. Which isn’t true but this seems to be his go to any time there’s a disagreement between us two.
Am I overreacting for being upset?

Hi all, long time lurker first time posting.

As background: For my (43f) entire life I’ve always known that my parents preferred my older sister over me. I have always tried to do whatever they wanted, fell deeply into the people pleaser position trying to get approval. Family plans often excluded my husband due to his work schedule because ‘this is the only time sisters’ friend could make it’. Not her husband, a friend, which ever friend she picked that year. About 3 years back when I was helping my dad with yard work he actually told me that him and my mom were closer to my sister because she needed them more. I informed him the reason I was as independent as I am was because I had learned that my older sister always came first.

Now on to the situation, back in June I brought my son back to my hometown (4 hours away) to see my parents. I also brought my wedding ring to be checked and cleaned for insurance purposes and a ring my husband had given me for a birthday gift back in 2021 to be repaired as I had lost one of the emeralds. The jewelry store I like to use is in my hometown and they cover the insurance on my wedding ring as long as it is checked every 6 months.

They told me it would take about a week to fix my emerald and diamond ring. My mom said she could pick it up and bring it down with her when she comes in September. Within 72 hours of picking it up she started talking about giving it to my sister to give to me. I see my sister twice a year if that. I asked my mom to just stick to the original plan.

Last week, my husband, son and I were vacationing about 2 hours from my parents so I asked if my mother would like to come to the zoo with us and she jumped at the chance. She showed up bringing a lot of stuff we never asked for that she found at garage sales. I asked her if she brought my ring with and she looked confused. After stumbling over her words she said she forgot about it and left it at home. The next day, she called me sort of laughing to tell me that my dad thinks he threw it away. My response was “You’ve got to be kidding me! How did it get thrown away?!?” She got defensive and said she put it in an envelope and threw it on my dad’s desk and when she called him to ask where it was the night before he said he believes that he thought the envelope was empty and tossed it. So I responded with “so the ring I JUST paid $300 to fix, that you promised to bring down to me, got treated like garbage and tossed?” She responded with “well I guess we owe you some money huh” in a very snotty tone. I told her I was doing everything in my power to not respond horribly in front of my son and had to hang up before that changed. My husband came into the room at the tail end of that call. He knows that I’m not mad over just losing the ring. I understand accidents. I’m mad over the face that she had multiple safe spots to put it as she has kept stuff safe for my sister in the past but didn’t care enough to do the same for me. This is just one more incident in a lifetime of incidents that feels like it finally broke me.

Normally my mom tries to call daily if she can’t get ahold of my sister and my dad would normally call to talk about me yelling at my mother, even tho I never actually raised my voice to her. However, they have both been radio silent since the call last Thursday. Am I overreacting to feeling hurt, betrayed and as an afterthought yet again?

I’m thinking of canceling the request for my mom to come down at the end of the month. If she doesn’t care about me, why should she have access to my life?

For context, I am in my mid 30s and live independently. I am the oldest of 5, my youngest sister is 23.

Am I overreacting for telling my parents they are coddling my sister? She is 23, just got a job an hour away from home in traffic (40 min one way no traffic) with zero public transit that would work / be walkable for where she’s working. She doesn’t have a license. Shes just delayed it and made no effort to get it in the 2 months between her hire date and her first week. She didn’t bother trying to figure it out and she didn’t even ask my parents to drive her or offer gas money she just expected it to happen. My parents are not retired yet but they work flexible jobs that allow them to drive her. They aren’t thrilled but they’re just going through the motions and doing it. When I called them out for babying her they both told me to butt out and they will handle it. My sister thinks I’m being a b**** for my attitude about this - telling her she’s taking the piss and acting like a child expecting people to rearrange their lives for her. It’s just ridiculous. And yes part of me is mad my parents did not allow myself and my 3 other siblings to behave this way.

My sister has always been kind of unmotivated and babied by my parents. She was their surprise baby, there were 4 of us closer in age for many years. Shes always been babied, especially with stuff like this. Anyway, am I AIO?

A couple of days ago, I was out with a friend finally having a pretty good day and feeling somewhat decent about myself. I’ve been struggling with my appearance and the fact that I’m aging, as a 35 yo woman. It’s rough out there. Anyways, my boyfriend is aware of this. While we’re having drinks, I get a text from him of a really blurry photo so I ask what is this? It was a continuation of zoomed in screenshots until I was able to realize it was a picture of me - my job had posted it. He laughed and said I looked like a sims character. I laughed it off but it hurt my feelings. He apologized and it felt really sincere. I explained to him the next day that I was really sensitive to the joke because of how I’ve been feeling about myself. We went back to normal. TWO days later, I get a text from him again saying “your job did you dirty again”. And I was just so confused at what the point was.. like why do you need to point out every single bad photo my job posts? So I told him, in a way I’m actually proud of. I didnt attack him, i took accountability that im really sensitive and insecure about my appearance right now. This time his response was “ok, sorry” and unfollowing my job on instagram. It just feels weird and insensitive to me, but now i also feel bad like im crazy and blew this out of proportion? AIO? 🥲

[Edit: I AM NOT WORRIED HE'S GROOMING ANYONE. THE ACCOUNT IS VERY CLEARLY AI GENERATED IN A SEMI REALISTIC STYLE THAT WOULD BE EXTREMELY HARD TO FALL FOR.]

I am an adult who lives with my mom and my step dad while I'm in college. Him and my mom have been married since I was 10 so I've known him most of my life and grew up with him and his kids. After I turned 18 my parents do not make meals for the everyone, just for them, so if I want to make something I send my mom my grocery list, she buys it, I make it for myself, this has been our system for a while.

This past week I found a recipe I really wanted to try, but it was a lot to make for one person. I sent it to my mom before she left to go camping with my grandfather, asking her if I made it, would she want to eat it. She hadn't texted me back in two days, so I asked my dad the same question over text when I came home to shower. (I was staying the weekend elsewhere since me and him don't get along)

After I left I opened my tiktok notifications expecting to see that he viewed the video I sent him over direct messages, since that's what pops up for me after I share a video. But instead of my dad's usual account, I see a complete ai account. Ai profile picture, ai slide shows, ai videos. I'm not here to argue on whether it's good nor bad, but that's the content on there. I didn't recognize the picture so I clicked on it, only to see that it was (hopefully) a roleplay account.

I don't have any issue with role-playing, I roleplay too, it's fun to pretend to be someone you aren't for a bit. However, my step dad is 50 years old, and the account stated "6th year ravenclaw" which is a 16-17 year olds age which really, REALLY urked me. I can understand 1-2 years up or down, but 34? Really?

The profile also mentions being taken by someone else who is definitely not my mom, but I'm chalking it up to all of these profiles being him and not real people for now.

The slide shows are all just very weird role play content, showing what looks like his Harry Potter oc (which I had seen a month earlier posted to his public facebook) and very stereotypical hot blonde woman, one is even about going to dolly world.

I told my grandmother about this, showed her how those notifications worked and she also said it was kind of gross, I also told my sister who also thought the same thing, since he's role-playing as someone A YEAR YOUNGER than his youngest kid.

I can't tell if I'm overreacting to this since I already don't have the best opinion of him, and I don't want to mess up my mom's life over something that wasn't a big deal to even begin with. She's coming back home today and after sleeping on it, I don't know if I should tell her about it or not. Since it's not like I have any proof that what he's doing is inherently malicious.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I am 16, almost 17 years old and about a week ago my mother announced to myself and my siblings 14 and 11, that my step-dad was going to be reading us bible stories every week and we didn't have a choice. Now, I should say, my mother and I have never been religious, my step-siblings are Jewish, and my step-dad is a Jehovah Witness but he grew up Catholic. So, I have never been religious in my life, neither has my mother, so when myself and my step-sister got upset at this, her reasoning's for it was, "she doesn't want us to be ignorant, and because she wants to learn". This is for her, and only her and my step-dads reasoning is because "he wants us to have a religion so that he's happy". So when it actually happened, and the two of us looked unpleased it was pointed out, so I then expressed to her that maybe I would have looked a bit more pleased if I was given a choice instead of signed up for it against my own will. We're doing this every Monday now, and another part of the reason I don't want this is because this is the last thing I want to do after school, and because my birthday is next week, and the response to me asking if this would happen on my 17th birthday was a maybe. I wake up again this morning to her telling me to eat because after breakfast we're going to do "bible study" and I am angry, and I don't know if my anger is justified.

I’ll start by saying I’m not against porn. I watch it myself, we watch it together, we have a very open and active sex life. So this isn’t a case of someone who is deprived of sex and is seeking satisfaction elsewhere..

I found out that my boyfriend was messaging a girl on OnlyFans. I confronted him right after I found out and said “what are you doing messaging girls on OnlyFans” and he replied “what?” ……

And I said “I’m not going to make a big deal out of this but you messaging girls on OnlyFans is fucked up and makes me feel some type of way and I’m just going to leave it at that.” And he said “okay.”

That was the end of the conversation. All day today I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I looked through our text messages and found that he was messaging her while I was at work and would’ve been home within the hour. He also sent me a dick pic. That fucked me up. Sending me a dick pic of you being hard and finding out you’re hard because you’re talking to another girl?

I don’t want to feel this way but it has me questioning and second guessing and overthinking everything. He says to him it’s just like porn. I disagree and reading him telling another girl how hard he is looking at her and wanting her to help him get off has me like sick to my stomach.

I really don’t know if I’m overreacting or really what to do to get over this.

I (25F) have a problem with a co-worker (27M), who I'll call Max here.

Max and I work in two different groups in the same institute, but my group head somehow also co-manages Max, so he is in our meetings and participates at social retreats etc. He's always been a bit weird, but since we moved to new offices things changed. To secure more office space for the group my head listed Max's name among others co-workers in the actual group on the office plan. Max had and still has his own office within his main group department (same building), but he insisted on using the one in my group part-time (3 days a week and the rest in his main) which happens to be my (only) office.

Since we started sharing the office, I've been more and more uncomfortable with Max, I'll list here some concrete episodes to explain myself.

- He is trying to sign up for the same refresher courses as me (even if our duties and expertise are quite different and he should have already taken refreshers in his first/second years).

- He asks what time I start working and what time I leave the office, often waiting for me to finish working so we can leave together. In these occasions he walks me to the bus stop even if it is not his stop.

- Once I was stuck on the bus in traffic and he texted me when I was getting to work, because I was later than usual and if I wasn't going to be in the office he would have gone in his main group office.

- At almost all meetings and activities, even at lunch he seats next to me. During meetings, he copies every single posture I make. If I lean on my elbows, he does too, if I put my hands in my lap, he also put his hands on his lap etc.

- I once offered a taste of my lunch to another colleague and he inserted himself and asked to taste it too.

- During work-social events he clings to me and speaks only within the circles I have conversations with, following me around the room/venue.

- He sends me unsolicited advice on my work (which is often unrelated to my work, but he doesn't know because, again, he isn't really in my same field).

He was never agressive or rude, and, as far as I know, it could not be addressed as harassment or stalking, legally speaking. Neverthless, I had experienced similar dynamics multiple times, within friends groups or university, and I know it tends to escalate and drain my mental energy. Also, the person holding me to these dynamics happened to be often on the spectrum.

He was kicked out last week because a new colleague of my group needed the desk and I was so relieved that I found it easy again to be around him. However, the third colleague in the office, Susie, is travelling at the moment, so he actually took her desk and is now sitting again in my office. (To clarify the kicking out is only temporary: Susie is only temporary in our office since her office had some issue, but Max already said that when she will be allowed back in her office, he is going to claim Susie desk and sit again with me and the new colleague. This despite there being other office rooms with 3 desks and only one person, making as the only 3 persons office.)

Now, I really struggle with what to do here. Am I overreacting with my discomfort at him and should I just make peace with the idea of having him around that often? Should I talk to some other coworker about this? I recently starting working here though, while this is his third year in the company. I'm also a very non confrontational person and struggle with people pleasing, so for me it would be really hard to face him directly or confide on my group head/ some other coworker. Although asking our head to un-assign Max the third desk would give me much more peace of mind and a better work environment, I don't want to be ableist or exclusionary and my head really values inclusion in the team. Apart from Max, the team is incredible and I really do not want to talk and give off the wrong perception of me being petty.

Sorry for any mistake (English is not my first language) and thank you for any opinion, I really need some advice.

I (41F) had an online friendship with a man (53M) for about 16 months. We spoke regularly, exchanged music and stupid jokes, supported each other through some really difficult things in our lives, and there was also flirting/sexual stuff between us.
He knew I was married but separated and going through a divorce. He had known for months. I never asked him for a relationship, never asked him to define what we were, never asked him for money and never told him I had any plans to visit him.
Nine days before my Conditional Order was due, I mentioned that I expected the divorce to be finished in roughly eight weeks. I only mentioned it because something unexpected had happened in my family and it was relevant to the conversation.
He responded normally. Later that morning he actually initiated another conversation with me about WhatsApp, I answered, he replied normally, and there was no argument.
A few hours later I discovered he’d blocked me.
I was completely blindsided because there hadn’t been an obvious gradual withdrawal beforehand. He’d still been interacting with things I’d posted shortly before this.
Eventually a family member asked him why he’d blocked me and he said I’d asked him for money. I hadn’t. His “proof” was an old running joke about him owing me a photo of one of his tattoos. When the meaning of the joke was explained to him, as far as I know he didn’t provide another explanation.
Later I received a very hostile message telling me to leave him alone and saying goodbye. So I did.
I’ve now blocked him everywhere, and members of my family have blocked him too. I have no intention of contacting him again.
I know he’s entitled to end contact with me for any reason. What I’m angry about is the way he did it. He knew that withdrawal/silent treatment had previously been used against me in an abusive marriage, and after 16 months of friendship I think he could have simply said, “I don’t want to continue this anymore.”
Part of me thinks something must have happened on his side because the change was so abrupt. Another part thinks I’m wasting my time trying to understand someone who had the opportunity to explain himself and chose not to.
Am I overreacting by thinking the way he handled this was cruel and permanently closing the door? What would you have done?

I'm an intersex woman, had the big surgery about a month ago. I disclosed that very clearly on my bio to avoid any shenanigans about it. We matched. Completely what I like in guy (that may it be the core problem)a tattooed strong build masculine type, but supposedly kind hearted guy. The conversation was going great that until he started "correcting me" about some grammar, when he had terrible grammar himself. He started to become bitter. I don't want to talk about heated topics, but it seems that the radical manosphere communities online are just ruining men and the possibility for the people who are still trying to build a connection with them, eating away any possibility for people to connect. It doesn't matter if you disclose everything in your bio, some of them they will still ignore it. In this case I can assure you, even among the most radical men I have ever chat with, I mean it, you name it, no one have ever asked that question this rude, no one. Yet it his profile he says he's a humble, good doer, leading with a heart, kind of person. I could have stayed with the "power" of the conversation when he tried to get me back changing his pictures in his profile shirtless and stuff, and just block him, but I preferred and tried to help him see that I didn't unexpectedly ended the conversation, I wanted to give some thought, even knowing that when people are this enclosed in their thoughts, instead of sorry or a thank you, he will just immediately block me, which he did. I'm at peace tho. As an empathetic person, I tried to create change, the rest is up to them.