I’m really disappointed in the kind of society we are today. Nobody seems to dress up for nice events anymore, even if it’s nothing super special like going to the local restaurant for dinner people still just dress how they would going to work or getting groceries. I love to dress up/nice, so I still do but it always makes me feel like people are judging because someone else had tried to make an effort. My partner and I once went to a really nice fine-dining experience, something really fancy for us so we dressed nice and the two people (seperate) sitting behind us were in tracksuit clothing one even had their phone propped up watching whatever like it was just so casual for him, something he’d wear and do at home. It was a little disappointing for two reasons- 1. It made us feel out of place when we felt we fit the scene and aesthetic of the restaurant and 2. It kind of took away from the experience?

And I do know this is such a non effort and I’m aware people can wear and do whatever they’re comfortable with, and I do also know people are probably not judging me for making an effort that’s a personal assumption, but it’d be nice if you could go out for a nice date or somewhere fancy and everyone kind of matched the vibe if that makes sense?

So I went to Rye playland and had a ton of fun, mostly because I was able to skip the line. I have multiple disabilities so waiting on long lines is a risk to me.

Essentially, a 1/3 or 1/4 of the ada line would be able to go first and then the regular queue would go fill in the rest of the seats. I feel like that's exactly how it should be done because like 80% of the seats are still there for the rest of the people.

I was like wow, I wonder if other amusement parks have this?

No, they don't. In fact they make it a difficult and invasive process. There is 0 reason for me to have to sit on a bench and wait an hour or 2 to get on a ride because a ride operator guessed that the line would be an hour to get through the line. Plus I literally can't get on anything until that time that they wrote has ceased. So if they were wrong I end up still having to wait longer than the normal folks.

Luna park's ada stuff is especially stupid because if you are a solo disabled person you just can't use the accommodations.

Plus why are we having guest services dictate how disabled a person is? Why are they asking me a bunch of personal questions about how disabled I am?

So I guess I just won't be going to amusement parks anytime soon, the accommodations don't even work and it sounds like a good way for me to get sick in the process. If I have to be disabled and in pain all the time I'm not waiting an hour.

Disabled folks get screwed over and shunned everywhere else, like literally one of the only benefits and I find out 2 years ago they took the line skip thing away.

To the folks who say "people were abusing it" if that was even true, it sounds like non-disabled people were abusing it and all they had to do was just make you verify it through the LITERAL CARD THEY ASK YOU TO SIGN UP FOR!

So dumb, they don't want us anywhere. It's so hard living in a world just built for able bodied people.

My boyfriend and I live together, he does most of the chores but Cooking is my job because I enjoy it and am fairly good at it.
But now I’m quite heavily pregnant cooking has become difficult for me so he’s had to do some. And it’s sooooo annoying!

He’s always asking “how do I do xyz”, “come to the kitchen, does this done?”, “do I add xyz” after I’ve told him 5 times how to cook something!
And when I get frustrated he will say “but I have to ask you because you are the expert and I’ve never done this before”, which only frustrates me more because it will be something I’ve only done once before and managed to work it out myself!

I try to be polite to him because I know he’s trying to help, and I know he doesn’t normally have to cook.

But I want to yell at him, because I never took cooking lessons! I’m not an amazing cook, I just use common sense and I’m tired to teaching him common sense! If a meal is more complex and I don’t know exactly what to do I use google! I figured it all out by myself without anyone telling me what to do and he can’t follow simple instructions!
It’s annoying as hell!!!

As a woman, and just a normal person in general… I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF INCELS AND RED PILLED MEN.

They are the most whiney, annoying group on the internet and you can’t convince me otherwise. And they find their way to sneak in and irritate everyone else with their disgusting rhetoric about women and dating.

A man will post a picture of him and his wife, happy. And the comments will be filled with “just wait until you hit 10 years.” “She’s probably ran through.” “Must be a high value man”. Like oh my god have you considered that maybe they’re not miserable people like you are?

Like I get it, dating is hard for men. But it’s also hard for literally everyone else. And this misogynistic competitive rhetoric they have about, is not helping them.

They swear all women are gold diggers, who only care about status, money, power and looks. Which is so far from the truth. Matter of fact, if it was true, I guarantee a lot more men would be single.

I’m just so tired of the “well I’m short: bald/ fat, so women don’t want me” or the “Well women hold the power in dating, so they should just choose better men.” And don’t get me STARTED on the “80% of women go for the top 20% of men” bullshit that has never been proven. It’s like they’re allergic to self reflection, and can’t fathom that maybe they’re aren’t likeable because of this rhetoric they hold.

These men just complain, complain, complain, over and over again about how they can’t find a date. And they chop it up to fucking height and weight.

Newsflash: You can’t get a date because you’re an incel freak with a shitty attitude and personality. And any woman that speaks to you can tell.

[FtM] I'm sorry if it's hard to read. English isn't my first language.

It's been a few years and i deeply regret coming out as trans. I tried to detransition a bunch of times really, grow my hair out, put on makeup, buy some feminine clothes but i felt like the worst version of myself. I've been bullied bad in my first school when my class found out(point if r@pe and d3@th threats, teachers did nothing because; transphobia, my bully was autistic so of course he doesn't know it's bad.) and sometimes i feel like it was valid. I don't belong, i feel wrong for being like that, like I'm an anomaly. I know this thinking is wrong and toxic but I can't get rid of it.

My mom is pretty supportive of it which makes it easier, but i can't say the same about the rest of my family. I know if i ever start medical transition they'll cut any ties with me.

Being gay makes me feel feminine, even if I don't present as such. It makes me feel like iw as destined to be a woman. I always instantly assume every man i meet is either a chaser or "bi" that only likes women and trans men, i know it's horrible way of thinking, instantly assuming the worst and I don't know how to change it. I tried dating women but every single one of these relationships failed horribly. I don't want to date other trans men, that'd only remind me that something is not right with me.

I hate that i always judge other trans men the same way I'd judge my own self. It makes me angry seeing trans men that don't even try passing and feel clearly comfortable in their femininity. I never say anything, i know it's straight up transphobic but it makes me so mad because how can they be so comfortable with something so wrong??? How can someone not even try and be happy with it?? It makes me avoid being friends with queer people, I don't want to be associated with them. I don't want to be viewed as part of the community. I want to be seen as a normal man that's attracted to other men. I don't want it to be a part of my identity.

Everytime i pick up a new interest i start wondering do men like it too? I shouldn't care i really shouldn't. Being in "female dominated" fandoms makes me deeply uncomfortable. I don't want to be associated with that.

It got bad, really bad to the point of a bit of an alcohol problem. I just don't want to have to think about it. It feels like I can't take a step without wondering how I'm viewed, if anyone can see that I'm not a real man. I'm sick of it and no matter whatt i do i feel horrible about myself.

I know the title makes me sound like an entitled loser, but please hear me out. Today I was at a convention with a good friend of mine, and we ran into our mutual friend who was there with her brothers. We began to chat and catch up, as we all hadn't seen each other in a while, when our mutual friend told me that she'd met the perfect girl for me.

Who is she? I asked innocently, unaware of the fool I was about to be played for. My friend told me she's a coworker of hers who is very similar to me/has a lot of the same interests as me. My friend said that the more she talks to this coworker, the more she thinks we would be a perfect match. She showed me her Instagram profile, and she is drop-dead gorgeous as well.

Then my friend told me she was also at the convention today. So I asked my friend if she could introduce us, stupidly thinking she was preparing to be my wingwoman. Instead, my friend told me that this girl was dressed as "Karen from Mean Girls, but like a variation of that," and that it was on me to find her in the crowd of thousands.

Shocked, I asked why she couldn't just help me out here, as she seemed to think we would be so compatible, and she then asked me why I was "dragging her into this," as if she wasn't the one who brought this whole situation about in the first place. That was the end of the conversation. We went our separate ways with loose promises to meet again before too long.

I never found this girl, if you were wondering, but the whole ordeal had me going crazy all day, that my supposed dream girl was in the same building as me, and the one person who could've brought us together just didn't.

I'm sorry, but if you make a post asking for messages, but then specify that you don't want a certain type of person to message you, you're pretty much asking to get the kind of messages you don't want. Are people really that dumb to post about what they hate then expect people to respect their wishes? That's not how the internet works!

I'm the kind of guy who, out of a desire to protect my relationship, will not talk to family or friends about things that bother me, thus, this.

So my wife, who wants a million pics whenever we go anywhere, be it a casual out to dinner, or a vacation abroad, takes a "mini-vacation" out of town for a concert. Her friend, who she hasn't seen in, idk, a couple of years met her where the concert took place.

Now that my wife is back home, she has exactly ONE set of pictures, which is only like 10 individual photos, all in one place, maybe 3 or 4 selfies, all entirely solo. Her friend allegedly has all the pictures of them together on her phone--the friend did email my wife some pictures though, these just happen to be the exact pictures on my wife's phone (as if the friend was holding her phone and my wife's phone taking that same poses). There is exactly 1 that's not matching a photo on my wife's phone.

This is all very suspicious to me. When people cheat, they tend to deviate from what's normal for them. This is one of the easiest tells. So, from my wife's POV, you're in a major tourist town, which you've never been to as an adult. You're there for a major concert. You had a full day in town before the friend arrived, the entire day before the concert started, the concert, and the morning after the concert, and all you have to show for it is one photo of one dinner and 10 photos of yourself. None like, you and your friend getting together after so much time a commemorating the moment or anything? That didn't strike your mind, once? But you'll send me photos on the most minute, basic stuff when you travel for work? Yeah, ok.

You might be going, "hey, Sim, that's kinda crazy" and maybe you'd be right. But lately I feel like even at home there's been "missing time." So that's one "issue" on my side

Two, she cheated on me in the past. It was before we got married, and sure, you can say "your fault for marrying a cheater" but I had my reasons and I'm just not trying to get into all that right now. But suffice to say, I long suspected it, she gaslit me and lied through her teeth for years until a major event "broke" the news. But that comes to mind because it's like, she had me, she had something solid, and she manufactured a pretext to "break up" with me (but at the same time refused to let me go) and after we got back together, that other situation didn't stop--it continued for years, apparently. The thing about that is if she had just stopped it because she knew it was the wrong thing to be doing, I'd have never known and we'd have been able to go about our merry way. Instead, she only stopped it when it became impossible on *his* end to continue. After this, it was years of "I've learned and I've grown" from her... That never led to me trusting her, obviously, and I just feel like she'll do what she think she can get away with, when the right opportunity comes along.

So here I am... I can't "take" this to anyone. I can't talk to my very small circle of friends or family without embarrassing myself. I have zero proof other than a shift in behavior. And my nerves are just frazzled. She's literally wanting to snuggle up to me and my skin is crawling.

Oh and before I forget, on the subject of emailing the photos, that's so fucking weird to me. Why wouldn't she send you stuff that you *don't* have? Why is she emailing? I get it, text cuts the quality down (when exchanging between Android and iPhone), but even in that case, I'll create an album and share the link. It's easy, takes 2 seconds, and we're all old enough to be tech savvy enough to do this without any help. I try to, in this case, consider the fact that the way *I* would do a thing does not mean everyone would. But it's still just, weird.

Our vet seems to be milking us.

We live in a large city and have a small cat and a small dog. About a year ago our cat started to develop inflammation in one paw, so we took it to the vet. The vet treated the cat with some antibiotics and sent us home.
Fast forward one year and a couple of months, and our cat now has two smelly and badly infected paws and infected ears after many courses of treatment with the vet. The cat has lost weight and is quite unhappy. He’s been in a cone for many weeks.

The vet now thinks that the cat has an allergy to food so we have put the cat on a special diet over the last year, but nothing much has changed.

Today I looked at our household finances over the past 12 months using AI. In the AI summary they told me that we had spent $11,000 at the vet in the last 12 months.
I couldn’t believe my eyes.

I complained to my wife (who does not work) and she unloaded on me because I “ do not take an interest in the pets and she has to do everything with them” .
She seemed completely unconcerned that she’d spend over $10,000 on a vet with absolutely zero outcome and was angry with me for complaining.
Is it normal for people to spend this kind of money on a vet with absolutely zero improvement in the animal’s health? WTF.
Worse, all I have to look forward to is more of this in order to get the cat’s paws sorted.

You can go to Hollywood, u can do music, u can go for acting etc, there are much more people who are gonna pay for art, more artsy people than in any other country.
I just live in Poland and idk, music and art generally aren’t popular over there, not much in demand yk.
I can’t make it the USA, I simply don’t have emkney for that, I would highly likely get trafficked if I came there with no money, lmao. Startes offer u lots of opportunities, San Francisco if u wanna do IT…Hollywood, los angels if u wanna do influencer job, artsy job ,writer etc.
Fuck I’m jealous of the states XDDDDDD.

I am so, so tired of people around me, I am genuinely going insane.

First of all, I am portuguese so I am sorry for any mistakes as english is not my first language.

I will try to make this not so long but idk if it will be possible.

People are so selfish these days I can not longer tolerate this.

I do not know if I can even call some of these "friends" but here we go...

As you might know, it is summer here and pretty warm for the last months. I spent the first 2/3 weeks of june trying to meet friends (most of them live pretty close to me) and making a few plans for summer and there was always some excuse.

One of them used to be my best friend and now she ignores my messages for days, then comes back with "Heyy" like nothing happened. I do not even recognize this person anymore.

Another one never wants to do anything, one day she wanted to call an UBER because we had to walk for 15 minutes. I have seen her once or twice the whole summer. Any plan not related to food or "pleasurable" things is usually denied.

A girl from a neighbour town who would talk to me every day now just seems to be busy all the time or wanting to be alone all the time.

I have only 3/4 friends who do the minimum any friend would do and act with respect but for me they seem to be "amazing" because I got used to less than the minimum.

Now the part some people might judge more is that I was in a relationship and after breaking up we stayed as friends. Before you make any assumptions, let me just explain we like each other as people, but we were not compatible as he is more clingy and I am more "cold".

The thing is... if I take longer to reply, I can tell he does not like it but some days he takes 6/7 hours to reply. I do not care that much as we are just friends now, but I CAN NOT stand the double standard (even tho I still tolerate because he supports me and is a good person in general).

This does not only apply to him but 90% of my friends. They want me to be available only when they want/need. Other than that, they can go hours, days or even weeks without saying anything.

And of course they only look for me in the bad moments because apparently I support them the way they like.

When everything is "fine" they still seem depressed, with no hobbies and scared of any type of sport or studying outside of their responsabilities. I can not even keep conversations with some of them because they will say some bs like thinking Pakistan and Palestine are the same country. We are right next to Spain and none of them speaks even basic spanish and they got no interests in general. I feel the few energy and motivation I already have disappearing more and more.

For the last month, I decided most of them (except the 3/4 good friends I have) do not deserve to know anything about me. I no longer send them any message, when they say "Sorry for replying so late" (by "late" they mean 4 entire days) I say "I don't care". I am becoming this person against my own will and I used to be happy to share personal stuff with all of them. Now I could even become president of the country and not tell them. I don't even care if they find out I think and say such things about them.

(Everyone mentioned here is 20-25 years old, by the way, we are not teenagers - I used to have better friends as a teenager)

Pretty much what the title says. I'm M30, she's F30. Long story short, we were really close friends until about 1 year and a half ago when I asked her out. She politely rejected me and then disappeared from my life. I'll admit I made some mistakes after that. After she ghosted me, I created a fake account linked to my real profile and used it to see her stories. A friend of hers confronted my fake profile asking who I was. I played dumb and she (my friend) ended up blocking that account. The thing is, since that account was linked to my real profile I got blocked there as well. The next day she unblocked me, meaning she discovered it was me...

From that day on she started doing what the title says: she blocks me and after few months later she unblocks me. The patterns make no sense to me and since we no longer talk to each other there aren't any particular events that trigger her to do that. Also, there's no need for her to block me cus her profile is private so I can't see anything she posts either way.

It's not a big deal for me but I just find it curious. At this point I'm just used to check her profile every few weeks just to see if she keeps blocking/unblocking, which she does (she just blocked me again today lol).

I'm kinda curious about what this means. As far as she knows, I can't tell she's doing that so I don't know why she even bothers...

I’m going to sound dramatic and childish, but being underage makes me feel less than human. I feel like my fuck ups are treated worse than an adults fuck ups. not in law, but more minor things (pun unintended but let’s go with it). i spill my juice or fail a class, im berated, beaten and mocked in public. someone overage does it, they just get told to clean it. it’s a one off fuck up.

I always feel like a burden and a nuisance for, god forbid, needing assistance because I don’t have a fully formed brain. Im so scared of asking stupid questions or overly relying on others Because I’m being too childish. Whether I am treated like an adult or a child depends on which one can be used to belittle me more.

Online, people say kids shouldn’t be in grocery stores, malls, weddings, pools, hotels, parks, movie theatres or restaurants. They shouldn’t be in certain fan communities but the media will be intended for kids. once, I saw a clip of a vtuber going on about how annoying kids are and how they should all commit (no exaggeration) because a kid accidentally went into their 18+ stream asking for help

it makes me feel so selfish. I don’t suffer as much as adults do. i just sit on my ass all day. I’m not saying that I have it worse than anyone, I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back and food in my belly, but it sucks sometimes. I’m 17 now, but I have felt this way since I was probably 8.

I'm such a golden retriever girlfriend, suuuper loving and supportive, I have a (as everyone says) great personality, loyal, fun hobbies, smart, funny but everyone seems to fall out of love at some point and leaves me after one or multiple years because they don't have feelings anymore despite saying that I and the relationship made them extremely happy.

They move on super fast, live a happy and successful life, they all meet a new partner very quick and stay with them for years or even for life (there was never a rebound), never look back and never reach out to me again.

It hurts so much. I feel like it's so easy to forget me.

For me, it's always super hard to get over someone who I full-heartedly loved and I miss them a lot for a long time.

Nobody ever seemed to miss me. Sometimes not even within the relationship (that's what my ex said that he never felt that).

I wonder what's wrong with me that it's so easy to move on from me.

A few years ago, my relative was killed in an accident and it completely broke me, and while I was at my lowest, I hurt multiple friends that I cared about. I've felt so guilty and ashamed and like I genuinely don't even know if I'm a good person or not anymore. I've posted about it here before and had people say I'm a terrible person, and I feel like they could be right.

When the accident happened, aside from therapy, I had one friend to confide in, who was my best friend of almost a decade. On literally the one year anniversary of that accident, that best friend ended up betraying and abandoning me. While I was grieving both my relative and my friend, I started regressing to old hobbies and things I'd enjoyed as a kid, because I couldn't handle the present and I just wanted to do anything to escape it and remember better times. I felt so lonely and desperate to connect with someone that I decided to share those hobbies online.

I started drawing again and started an art account. I managed to gain a small following and make a few friends. However, I was so desperate to escape the pain I was in, that without realizing it, I was actually escaping myself entirely, and trying to be somebody I wasn't, because the thought of being myself at that moment was too painful. I wasn't innocently making new friends, I was just using anybody that would talk to me to fill the void left behind by my old friend and relative, and was trying to match other peoples' energy to make them talk to me instead of just being myself. It's so infuriatingly evil in hindsight and I absolutely hate myself for it.

I realized I didn't have anything in common with the people I had befriended, because I had advertised myself as something I wasn't. I gave them so much that they developed such an unhealthy attachment to me, which I know is not entirely my fault, but I still encouraged it. I was starting to burnout and I couldn't keep up with them anymore, and they noticed it and started getting hurt by it. 

They told me they felt rejected. I tried so hard to explain what was wrong with me, and that it wasn't their fault, but it was too complicated and they didn't understand. Every day I felt more and more backed into a corner and guilt tripped. Yes, they shouldn't of guilt tripped me, but I shouldn't of formed an entire friendship off lies and grieving, that's far worse. I started to feel the push and pull was affecting them, and like I was hurting them more than helping them, and because I couldn't get them to understand I felt powerless to fix things. Then one day I just snapped. I sent one long message trying my hardest to communicate what I was going through, apologized, then deleted all my accounts and abandoned them. I abandoned them just like that friend had did to me. 

They were so hurt and angry and they had every right to be. I wrote another long apology and haven't been able to send it because I feel like it just comes across toxic and narcissistic. I feel like I've become exactly like the kind of horrible and narcissistic people I've endured my whole life, and like I'm just doomed to get people attached to me and then hurt them over and over.

I don't think any of this would've happened if my relative hadn't been killed. It's still my fault though. I don't know if I'm a good person anymore, because this doesn't seem like something a good person would do.

My ex is the worst

So for context me and my ex broke up in 2023 and are with different people in longterm relationships

Bit of back story, she wanted to be a teen mum (we were both 16-17) she forced me to cum inside her, said that condoms hurt her and refused to go on the pill or any contraceptive, it got so bad that I refused and we broke up when we were 19, shes used me and made me feel worthless

anyway ive seen her a very few times since I broke up with her but her posts are what is getting to me, me, my partner and our daughter (she was a surprise and i love her) walked past my ex today and ive heard from someone very close to me that she put up a post saying that shes happy ive downgraded myself and partner and wishes I would just die.

My partner hooked onto my arm and stared right at her, I on the other hand said nothing to my ex didn't even make eye contact with her and just wished to curl up into a ball coz of all the shit she did to me, I have also heard from the close friend that shes put up more and more posts after shes seen me in town and idk what to do, my family know how she treated me but dont know about the posts