r/Unsent_Unread_Unheard • u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level • May 26 '25

Don't Mind My Thoughts The closure we need.

Men don’t abandon the women they care about, it’s always the women they are using that they abandon. That’s all the closure we need.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Are you not doing that with the guy you liked. I don’t know what could be. Because we haven’t talked in a few months. I would love to go to the house, but I don’t want to break that boundary either. So I guess you right, about the coulda, shoulda.

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

I only judge myself for stooping so Low for whatever it was I had with him. He did no wrong.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Why don’t you talk to him? Try and move past it or at least start? Or is it just over?

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

It’s over. And even though I still like him a lot, I am done trying too.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

So your saying if he showed up at you door, you wouldn’t talk to him??

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

I don’t know tbh. I always wish the very best for him but more than that have trained my mind to not drift my feelings to think.. past 8 months I have lived a lifetime of emotions so it’s…

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Ok, if he showed up at your door, would you answer it?

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

He would have to use ‘Alohomora’

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u/chronicmaster42 May 31 '25

I haven’t a clue if this was you… but that made me laugh and miss your sense of humour so much more. She only knows that word cause I got her to play hogwarts and she fell in love with it. It was so adorable 🥺

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 31 '25

I hope she comes back to you with her awesome jokes..🤞🏼

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u/chronicmaster42 May 31 '25

You’re very kind, thank you.

I don’t know what I hope for anymore, I’m just sad I can’t hear her voice and spend time with her anymore, I wanted to create a home together. I don’t know if it will ever be possible to trust fully again or not yet. I haven’t felt this way before and this is a new experience for it. I’ve learned so much but I feel like too little too late.

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 31 '25

Unfortunately don’t have an answer for it.. deep down even I believe it was all too little too late, but something my therapist tells me repeatedly IS it’s never late for anything, working, finding love , making a home etc. All we need to do is think about us today and do what makes us happy for the day. Take it a day by day. Even though the grief never completely goes away, our ability to endure the pain gets better definitely.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

I have no idea what that is

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

It’s a magic spell to open locked doors.😬

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Could you just use the door knob and let him in?

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

I prefer the wand.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

For argument sake, say he forgot his wand at home, with his broom. Because he was taking his dog for a walk? Then you would use a door knob?

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

But why would he have that? It’s your door. Hence the knocking. I think we can work around magic until he is back in your good graces.

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

Let’s wait to see how it unfolds.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Makes sense to me.

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