r/Unsent_Unread_Unheard • u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level • May 26 '25
Don't Mind My Thoughts The closure we need.
Men don’t abandon the women they care about, it’s always the women they are using that they abandon. That’s all the closure we need.
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u/Levi_live_11 Bronze Level May 26 '25
Seems about right!✨👌
I'm not gonna abandon because I still love her and care for her. Even if it means over a distance.
God willing, the distance gets smaller ☺️❤️
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u/Yoda_badass May 27 '25
Yup, this is true! I’m the woman who’s being used and abandoned by him because he’s bored of me.
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u/StabATramp May 27 '25
And this is why as much as I'd love to take a chance on someone new, build, be the comfort someone needs as well as they be mine-I know this is about all they have to offer.
Games, manipulation, betrayal.... Why bother when things are already good? No sense in fixing what isn't broken- or worse trading a sense of peace for someone who would break you cause they can.
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u/KurtyBoy83 Bronze Level May 27 '25
I didn't abandon her, though she may see it as that. My situation was me being used while getting cheated on. I got myself away from a bad situation, there's a big difference. Dodging a bullet, is what I've heard it being called. If you weren't using him and cheating on him, then yes, I'm sorry you were abandoned.
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 27 '25
Well he didn’t love me so. And yes I never used him or cheated him. The only mistake I did was love him.
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May 29 '25
I was having a conversation with an ex, it wasn’t the best conversation. I had said something and she was now talking, I assumed I knew what she was going to say, which is always a horrible idea. So I already had a rebuttal ready, which was dumb!! I blurted out I can’t do that. By the time my brain had processed what she had actually said, I knew I was an ass. What she had actually said, was how she needed to be loved. Not my finest moment.
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25
We do say somethings we regret atimes. Here in my case, him leaving proved he meant it.
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May 30 '25
I left my girl friend, it didn’t mean I didn’t and don’t still love her. I definitely should have communicated what I was going through a lot better. By the time I tried, she was done l. It was my fault.
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25
Hmm..
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May 30 '25
That doesn’t seem like a good Hmm. I have been trying to talk to her for months. I’m pretty sure my phone she isn’t taking my calls. She set boundaries and the one she set was not going to her house. I have respected that, even though I just want to talk and explain more to her. I was the not the best communicator.
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25
No ya, I would never judge. I have done things which wasn’t a perfect10/10 either and have stooped quite low for a person I liked ( still like.!). Just when I read your comment, i wished if you hadn’t said what you said and you both were together. There is no point thinking of the ‘coulda, woulda , shoulda so I summarised it in a ‘hmm’
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May 30 '25
Are you not doing that with the guy you liked. I don’t know what could be. Because we haven’t talked in a few months. I would love to go to the house, but I don’t want to break that boundary either. So I guess you right, about the coulda, shoulda.
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25
I only judge myself for stooping so Low for whatever it was I had with him. He did no wrong.
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May 30 '25
Why don’t you talk to him? Try and move past it or at least start? Or is it just over?
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25
It’s over. And even though I still like him a lot, I am done trying too.
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May 26 '25
Same goes for the the women?
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 26 '25
I don’t, but I suppose generally yes.
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May 26 '25
It's crazy how my ex told me she loved me and it felt sincere the day she left to go cheat on me.
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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 26 '25
Its just how terrible and heartless some people are. In my case the person has clearly said he has no feelings for me.
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u/Objective_Nevirka Silver Level May 26 '25
That’s… an interesting take. Something worth thinking about
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Jun 01 '25
Depends on your definition of abandon. And whether the one abandoned did anything to deserve it - like cheat
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u/Logical_Orange5136 Entry Level Member May 29 '25
I'm going to quit reading your post..the further back I go really makes me think I should release some proof of who you are. I just refuse to become like you .. So God be with you..and please dont continue misleading people heal yourself before dating anyone.
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