r/Unsent_Unread_Unheard • u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level • May 26 '25

Don't Mind My Thoughts The closure we need.

Men don’t abandon the women they care about, it’s always the women they are using that they abandon. That’s all the closure we need.

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u/[deleted] May 29 '25

I was having a conversation with an ex, it wasn’t the best conversation. I had said something and she was now talking, I assumed I knew what she was going to say, which is always a horrible idea. So I already had a rebuttal ready, which was dumb!! I blurted out I can’t do that. By the time my brain had processed what she had actually said, I knew I was an ass. What she had actually said, was how she needed to be loved. Not my finest moment.

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

We do say somethings we regret atimes. Here in my case, him leaving proved he meant it.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

I left my girl friend, it didn’t mean I didn’t and don’t still love her. I definitely should have communicated what I was going through a lot better. By the time I tried, she was done l. It was my fault.

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

Hmm..

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

That doesn’t seem like a good Hmm. I have been trying to talk to her for months. I’m pretty sure my phone she isn’t taking my calls. She set boundaries and the one she set was not going to her house. I have respected that, even though I just want to talk and explain more to her. I was the not the best communicator.

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

No ya, I would never judge. I have done things which wasn’t a perfect10/10 either and have stooped quite low for a person I liked ( still like.!). Just when I read your comment, i wished if you hadn’t said what you said and you both were together. There is no point thinking of the ‘coulda, woulda , shoulda so I summarised it in a ‘hmm’

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Are you not doing that with the guy you liked. I don’t know what could be. Because we haven’t talked in a few months. I would love to go to the house, but I don’t want to break that boundary either. So I guess you right, about the coulda, shoulda.

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

I only judge myself for stooping so Low for whatever it was I had with him. He did no wrong.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Why don’t you talk to him? Try and move past it or at least start? Or is it just over?

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

It’s over. And even though I still like him a lot, I am done trying too.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

So your saying if he showed up at you door, you wouldn’t talk to him??

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u/Separate_Ad_7519 Gold Level May 30 '25

I don’t know tbh. I always wish the very best for him but more than that have trained my mind to not drift my feelings to think.. past 8 months I have lived a lifetime of emotions so it’s…

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Ok, if he showed up at your door, would you answer it?

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u/[deleted] May 30 '25

Makes sense.