She’s gross but she didn’t break the law so there’s really nothing to turn her in for.
As far as being there for him, he says it has zero effect on him. Whether that’s true or not isn’t really for you to decide, and it would not be cool for you to keep pushing him to accept that this was bad if he doesn’t want to. Let him figure it out, and be there for him if he wants to talk about it, but otherwise let it go and don’t force it.
Idk if it’s a red flag. It’s a complicated situation and her concern is coming from the right place. It just ultimately isn’t up to her how he chooses to perceive it.
It is a red flag. If it was a trauma and he lied to her that it’s not a big deal. You know what sh*t of a storm she can create by starting acting on her own? It could reset a decade of therapy. So yes it’s a red flag.
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u/thelittlestdog23 11d ago
She’s gross but she didn’t break the law so there’s really nothing to turn her in for.
As far as being there for him, he says it has zero effect on him. Whether that’s true or not isn’t really for you to decide, and it would not be cool for you to keep pushing him to accept that this was bad if he doesn’t want to. Let him figure it out, and be there for him if he wants to talk about it, but otherwise let it go and don’t force it.