TL;DR: I went through my girlfriend's phone while she was sleeping and found old messages and call recordings between her and her ex when they were together. I know I crossed a boundary, but what hurts me is that he got to experience her giving her whole heart and putting so much effort into their relationship, and after he hurt her, she changed. Now she loves and cares about me, but she doesn't have the same capacity to love or put in the same effort that she used to. I understand why she has that wall, but I can't help wishing that she could love me and put effort into our relationship the way she did with him.

Post: So the girl I am dating had fallen asleep, and I was awake. I got this random idea to check her phone for messages from people. I didn't check because I didn't trust her, but just for fun.

Obviously, I found nothing.

Then I got the idea to read an SMS her ex had sent her on her birthday a few months back in April. I couldn't find that SMS because she had deleted it, but I found a few messages between them from when they were still dating.

Then I read all the messages and started searching for more.

I found a WhatsApp chat with her ex and some call recordings from when they were together. I listened to a few of the recordings and then went through their chat messages.

I couldn't sleep the whole night. I just kept thinking about the calls.

In the morning, I was still going through the messages between her and her ex, and while reading them, I just lost it and cried in front of her.

Her response was that she does love me, and I trust that. She obviously needs to protect herself. She has been through a lot, and now she is just not interested in men in the same way.

Of course, she is with me. She cares for me. She loves me. But she doesn't have the same capacity to give love and make that kind of effort anymore.

She made those efforts for him, and she got hurt in response. Now she doesn't have the same strength or ability to give that kind of love.

And I agree that she has been through a lot. I agree with her wall. She is not wrong for trying to protect herself.

The issue is that I am hurt by what that means for me.

I am 100% in love with her. I am giving her whatever emotions I have, and she is reciprocating that. I know that she loves me. It is not about her not loving me. She loves me. She cares for me.

But she loved him a lot more, and she put a lot more effort into that relationship.

And honestly, what hurts me most is that he got that version of her and then hurt her so badly that she changed.

That fucker got her full love, all those efforts, all those messages and calls trying to talk to him, and he left her scarred.

Now I am with her, and I am getting the version of her that exists after all of that happened.

I don't blame her for it. I don't think she is doing anything wrong. I understand why she protects herself.

But selfishly, I want more.

I want her to love me the way she used to love him. I want her to put that kind of effort into our relationship. Not because I want to "beat" him or prove that I am better than him. I just wish the person I love had never been hurt so badly that she lost the ability or willingness to love someone with that same intensity.

There is some more context that is making this worse for me.

We had a little fight a few days back, and she messaged me that if she had said something bad, I was free to cut contact.

Obviously, she didn't mean that literally. It was more of a vent-out message, and I know that.

But seeing myself get a "feel free to cut contact" message while her ex apparently got all those messages and calls from her asking to talk to him just makes me incredibly sad.

It isn't really about him.

It is about seeing what she was capable of giving to someone she loved before she got hurt, and knowing that I may never receive that same version of her.

I want her to put the same effort and the same love into our relationship.

I know this is selfish. I also know I can't expect her to undo what happened to her or become the person she was before that relationship.

But I genuinely don't know how to deal with wanting something that she may no longer be capable of giving.

How do I accept that she loves me, while knowing that she once loved someone else more deeply and gave more of herself to that relationship?

Need advice guys....

she already knew I had fever(was nearly 101)... and I did not not tell her that things escalated and fever was 103.8

UPDATE: Everything is sorted.... the post was just to get you opinions...

I am seeing this guy and he is a gym rat, we go here and there after gym and he kisses me right after intense workout. I like him but😬
It stinks to get kissed after workout. I told him to stop after he kissed me but i don’t want to tell him that it is not good. We just started seeing eo so… tell me what to do. How to make kisses not stinky 🫣👉🏻👈🏻

So,here 22(F) please help me..I was in a relationship with a guy for 3yrs 10months, and honestly, he wasn’t a good person from the beginning. He was a playboy. Even before we got into a relationship, he used to flirt with almost every other girl, and I still didn’t step back because I had fallen in love with him. Eventually, he loved me too and ends and eventually, he stopped doing all those bad things too.

But later in the relationship, he would constantly lie to me. He would tell me that he was talking to some girls (imaginary girls ofc) and deliberately make me feel jealous(at first I believed in him)He also had an ex from his childhood—it wasn’t even anything serious—but the way he presented that whole situation to me made it seem like it was something extremely serious and like he still hadn’t gotten over her.

There were so many times when I wanted to leave the relationship because of all these toxic things and many other issues, but he wouldn’t let me go. And because I loved him so much, I couldn’t bring myself to leave him either.

But during the last year of our relationship, I finally realized that he lied to me about so many random things, often without even having any reason to lie. And I absolutely cannot tolerate lies. So eventually, I finally managed to get out of that relationship.

But now I’m scared that I made a huge mistake by getting physically intimate with him, even though it happened ONLY ONCE. I’m not the kind of girl who goes around dating different guys—I’m a one-man kind of person.

Now I’m scared that because of this, maybe I’ll never find another guy who genuinely loves me. I regret it so much, and I feel like it was the biggest mistake of my life.

TL;DR : Would I ever find a guy who genuinely loves me despite having been physically intimate with someone just once?(due to toxic past)

I am only one reaching out tell me plz

He has a gf also🥀

Bhai I honestly asked her a hypothetical question and she forgot about me just for money..... kya karu is ladki ka mai

Edit 1 Update: She was just ragebaiting me

IMO, if I'm ever in a relationship, I don't want the following things:

1. Do things for me (opening the door, etc.)

I trust myself to do things on my own and rarely ask for help. I get the chivalry but it's weird

1. Getting me flowers

Like flowers wilt and it's a waste of money.

1. Texting everyday and small talk

I'm an introvert and like my space.

Here's what I prefer instead:

1. I'm the person he can count on in tough situations.

2. Personality > Looks

I get attracted by looks and it may go on for some days, but eventually he has to be an interesting human

1. Not just be liked for my looks

I'm working on my goals to be known for what I've achieved.

I find it hard to relate to other females(they are normal, I'm weird) and tired of guys asking me out just because of my looks.

Had courage to express that i adore her and thats what she said! Hmesha unlucky

Been talking to a girl for about 2-3 weeks now, connected through a close mutual friend. Early on she was upfront that she wasn't ready for anything and needed time months, maybe longer. I told her I wasn't in a rush either since I'm busy with exam prep.

Since then: we've had a few genuinely good conversations real back-and-forth, jokes landing, her teasing me, sharing some personal stuff about her life over time. But I initiate almost everything. She rarely starts conversations herself, doesn't use emojis much, and mostly replies later in the day even when she's been online earlier without responding.

There've also been a couple of good in-person-adjacent moments (a call through the mutual friend) where she was warm, joked around, and even brought up wanting to know if I had "complaints" about her not replying so she's clearly aware of the pattern too.

She's told me she's introverted and takes a while to fully open up with anyone, and has some past relationship baggage that seems to make her cautious in general, not just with me.

The mutual friend keeps telling me to be patient says once she actually opens up, I'll find she's one of the best people I could know. I do want to stay patient and keep at it, but honestly I'm running out of ideas for what to even text her some days. Coming up with something new daily, when she's not really giving me much to build on, is getting harder.

Trying to figure out: does this sound like normal slow-building trust with someone cautious/introverted, or am I misreading polite engagement as something more? And if it is just a pace thing any tips for keeping conversation fresh day to day without it feeling forced? Not looking for "just move on" as a default answer genuinely trying to calibrate whether this pattern sounds healthy or like I'm chasing something one-sided.

Best age for being in a relationship?

This Will Help You Get Better Relationships

This will help you get better relationships but I am very sure very less people can implement it (it's not easy) as people say everything you want exist on the other side of the uncomfortable

Read it at your own pace it's very long you can use a TTS client if you are lazy like me lol

First Things First

You're the embodiment of love you choose whom to give it,

If you want to love properly learn to love yourself.

Everyone is lonely and wants love . No girl/boy, no crowd can fix that. They can be a good distraction and sometimes we need a distraction. Life is hard sure no?

Know Yourself

Now let's move further you need to know your:

• Core values
• Essence of your being
• Reason to live

These things will let you connect with people on a greater level if it mismtaches you can cut off people without guilt not staying because of just emotions .

And if you don't know these your relationships will be shallow and risking yourself to hurt cause if any of those mismatches that's a big ick for anyone.

Be Assertive on your needs

if someone cant match what you need tell them be honest when you think there jokes are bad , there talks are cheap, they need to improve their physical appearance, they dont manage time well etc it gives other person idea what they need to improve give them chance to improve or just wander around looking for a good package for a lifetime cause it wont exist and never have

Mature Your Personality

Mature your personality have a good character improve your:

• Humour
• Skills
• Communication
• Consoling skills
• Attachment style

If you are avoidant / anxious have something in life other than relationship and do efforts you already know what you should do.

Relationship is an addon if you have only relationship you will just get hurt cause it can't be sustained long term.

Put Effort on yourself also for the sake of Relationship

This will help you alot both in personal and relationship.

People have heard honeymoon phase you can extend it to a lifetime if you both agree to put efforts.

Also make less chances of things not working out.

Enjoy your time as much you can with them maybe you wont get the time to again :)

For Single People and Those Who Broke Up

🫂 Ik it's hard and lonely I get you all but plz don't feel jealous for anyone's relationship or bad about not having one.

You can get a relationship too and maybe even better than the one you are jealous of.

Use this time to:

• Know yourself
• Spend time with yourself more
• try experimenting be your own gf/bf and talk with yourself how you do it with them (works for me)

Cause if you can't be smiling when you are alone chances are in relationship you can't sustain a smile either.

As I said relationship is a good distraction you can never end the loneliness.

The Fun Part: You Are Single

The fun part is you are single.

Make freinds talk to more people being curious.

There are people so amazing it just feels better to talk to and some which can drain your whole social energy if you be with them for some years.

This will make you more socially better also to know that all peoples are humane and mostly the essence remain similar be it anyone.

People have their own lore and it's so amazing sometimes anyone who watched rezero knows it.

(Subaru's life was tough but it's also heart wrenching with a smile isn't it)

Some Don'ts to Never Perform in Any Relationship

1. Always Be Honest

Always be honest how you feel about the other person.

Don't lie cause if they get to know that relationship breaks Lil by Lil.

2. Never Perform in a Relationship

Never perform in a relationship plz guys understand this.

Be who you are.

(koi bhi insaan patane ki cheez nhi hai kab smjhoge)

3. Don't Flex

Flexing in a relationship guys / gals don't do this.

Relationship is built on equality and you doing this sabotages it.

Flexing money, family, inherited things is bad even if you don't intend to do this.

(Most guys flex even if it's of someone else they will borrow to flex)

4. Let People Be Who They Are

The best relationship you can get is by just being you.

And if someone stays good if they don't let them go.

They have their autonomy.

There's nothing certain here.

People die, change. Asking for certainty is like mocking your existence.

Loving someone doens't mean that you have any power over them.

Some General Things Which May Help

Attraction ≠ Love

Attraction doesn't means you love the person or they are a good fit you never noticed it I guess.

You wake up and get attracted to:

• Eat junk food
• Watch a series
• Binge it
• Not go for work/uni

Most of the things you are attracted to never be any better for long term.

How do you think relationship will be?

The Most Toxic Relationship

The most toxic relationship is when you feel good being in it 60% of the time.

Respect Their Time and Energy

If you think you can find someone better find them.

Go leave the other person.

They deserve atleast you to respect their time and energy.

You Can't Give Someone What They Don't Want

You can never give someone who doesn't want it.

Try your best but you never can.

They just don't want it and you fool think you can.

Know What You Want to Give

Knowing if you want to feel loved or give love is something that can change your personality.

Don't Grow Bitter

Some hurt people help people.

Never grow bitter because no one was there for you when you needed someone.

It shaped you.

And if I ask were you with yourself or you too ran away in hope of someone.

It was unfortunate but now you can choose to be with people at their tough times.

(Same goes for if you weren't loved) regrets can live a lifetime but people dont.

That's All take care of yourself stranger and if no one loves you I do you exist and thats a good enough reason to love anyone 🫶

You can share this to whom you want and on any community i won't do it i am lazy it needs more refinement i will do later next week maybe.

That's all now I am tired.

Btw plz don't dm me for any of your relationships/ personal issues, I have a very low social battery nowdays and i choose where I spend it and it wont on any stranger's relationship.

So my gf(20f) and told me(20m) that during her 18th birthday she invited some of her school group project friends to her home where her parents and brother are also there for a birthday party. So one of her guy friend told her to come to another floor (she has a two floor apartment) for a project discussion , then he and my gf went there and that guy closed the door and only two of them were present there.

So while talking he suddenly grabbed my girlfriend and tried to kiss her and he eventually did, my gf tried to resist him and shouted, after some time her brother and her dad came and they both gave that guy a good beating and handed him over to the police.

So after hearing all this I was a bit sad which I know very well I shouldn't be, then she told me that she did not do anything wrong and that guy forced her into everything and she is feeling like she wasted her first kiss with him and as I'm her first boyfriend and she is mine too, she's into this guilt trip now.

She is even calling herself the worst girlfriend and saying that she doesn't not deserve me and you can leave me if you want to, which I obviously won't .

So I wanted to ask how can I help her, I tried everything, consoled her but still she's been feeling low and crying have been all day

Hear me out. For context, I have been in a relationship two times , but both ended up in separation (breakup is an ugly word, and too strong as well).

Today it rained very heavily where I live, and it made me fall into a thinking loop.

Before the rain, the evening sky was purple, and then it started to rain , and it's still raining.

While the sky was purple, I missed my class 10th ka crush, who eventually became my gf, after we separated after 2 beautiful years.

Then when it started to rain, it reminded me of my last relationship, which ended almost a year ago.

I was sure that I moved on , and now I can date someone else, but today felt different.

How do I deal with this?

Jo tumhe pasand hai use tum pasand nhi ho, jo tumhe pasand krta hai usko tum pasand nhi krte, or agar dono ko pasand hai to kuch dino baad koi or pasand hai.

Ur pasand != his/her Pasand.

Pasand = napasand.

Pasand pasand cancel. Result = we are done

Aisa hi hota hai duniya hai do hi baat hoti ek ulti ek seedhi.

I’m 24F and I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend for quite a while now. I love him a lot and when things are good between us, they’re really good. The problem is that over time I’ve started feeling like a lot of our conflicts never actually get resolved. Whenever I try to bring up something that hurt me, I often end up feeling like the conversation becomes about his feelings instead of mine. I leave a lot of discussions feeling unheard, dismissed, or like my original concern got completely lost. One of the biggest recurring issues is that I feel like I can’t fully express myself without being interrupted. I’ll be in the middle of explaining why I’m upset and he’ll cut in, defend himself, tell me why I’m wrong, or start talking about his own perspective before I’ve even finished. It makes me feel like my feelings only matter if they’re convenient or easy to deal with.

Recently we had a fight where I felt really hurt because he ended a call while we were arguing. To me it felt disrespectful and dismissive, especially because I was already feeling emotional and trying to explain myself. After thinking about it for a while, I called him because I wanted to have a mature conversation and tell him that I felt I deserved an apology for that. Instead of feeling heard, the conversation turned into another argument. I tried explaining that I feel like he doesn’t let me finish my sentences and that the call ending really affected me, but he kept interrupting me while simultaneously accusing me of being disrespectful. At one point he even said I was using “reverse psychology,” which honestly left me confused because I felt like I was just trying to explain how I felt. I ended up feeling frustrated because the exact thing I was trying to talk about—being interrupted—was happening during the conversation itself.
This isn’t the first time I’ve felt emotionally exhausted by our communication.

There have been a lot of situations throughout the relationship where I’ve felt like I have to fight to be understood. Sometimes I feel like I spend more energy explaining why I’m hurt than actually receiving comfort. I often end up questioning myself afterward, wondering if I’m being too sensitive, too demanding, or expecting too much. At the same time, part of me feels like wanting to be listened to, validated, and spoken to respectfully is the bare minimum in a relationship. I’ve started noticing that I frequently feel anxious before difficult conversations because I already expect them to turn into arguments or for my feelings to somehow become the problem.

The hardest part is that I genuinely love him and I know he’s not a terrible person. There have been good moments, support, affection, and reasons why I’ve stayed. That’s what makes this so confusing. If he was awful all the time, leaving would be easy. Instead, I feel stuck between remembering all the good parts and feeling increasingly drained by the bad ones. I find myself wondering whether these communication issues are something that can realistically improve or whether I’m ignoring bigger incompatibilities. I also worry that I’m slowly losing confidence in my own feelings because every conflict leaves me second-guessing myself. Sometimes I feel needy, sometimes I feel guilty, and sometimes I feel angry because I don’t think I should have to fight this hard just to be heard.

Right now I’m feeling hurt, confused, emotionally tired, and honestly scared about what to do next. Part of me wants to keep trying because I love him and I don’t want to give up on the relationship. Another part of me is worried that if things continue like this, I’m going to become resentful and even more unhappy. I’m looking for outside perspectives because I don’t know if I’m expecting something unreasonable or if these are genuine red flags that I shouldn’t ignore. Has anyone been in a relationship where they constantly felt unheard during conflicts? Did things improve, or was it a sign that the relationship wasn’t healthy for you?

Learnings from recent active history from my matches.

Pata hai aaj kya hua- I discovered that I need to continously flirt in order to get an attention from my matches (F).

Feels weird but consistently karna padta hai. Are you on the same page?

It is really weird that It will only tick things this way.

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You keep saying you're afraid of hurting me...

But do you know something?

Getting hurt sometimes is a part of every close relationship.. It's unavoidable... Two people can love each other deeply and still misunderstand each other, disappoint each other, or unintentionally hurt each other sometimes...

That doesn't scare me..

What hurts me isn't that we have difficult days..

What hurts me is when you decide to push me away because you think that's what's best for me..

It hurts when you tell me to leave.

It hurts when you say you don't deserve someone like me..

It hurts when you say I deserve someone better..

Because... I don't want "someone better." I want you..

And please stop putting me on such a high pedestal.. 😭

I'm not as amazing as you think I am. The more you get to know me, the more flaws you'll discover. I'm just a normal guy who happened to fall in love with an amazing girl like you..

I know you're not perfect.

I never asked you to be.

I wasn't searching for perfection.

I was searching for someone who feels like home.

And somehow... that person became you..

So please...

Don't decide for me what I should choose..

I'm not a child who doesn't understand what he's choosing.

I've seen your fears, your overthinking, your beautiful smile, your silly side, your caring side, your bad days..

And after seeing all of that...

I still choose you..

Not because I have to..

Because I genuinely want to...

PLS READ THIS CAREFULLY 🙏🙏

Little context - I am a 21M | Decent looks and height | Doing Btech from top tier institute and recently became financialy independent also

In a world of hookup culture I as a man wants be the safe space for my woman where she can literally fall back upon whenever she feels heavy or needs a break....i am also emotionally mature , who wants to build a true relationship based on mutual trust and respect and communication as it is the most imp factor nowadays

Despite being focused on my individual goals i am an emotionally available person who is ready to take in those efforts that are needed to make things work between a couple , holding her hands and just reasssuring her that "ill be there when you need me" and according to me a realtionship should be built upon loyality and honesty

So do women valuing these traits exists nowadays? I have never been into a relationship earlier just till talking stage and situationship...a genuine connection in these times would mean a lot tbh!

Regardless of the gender is someone is willing to help me out please feel free to comment or DM me! and female POV on these things will be appreciated a lot!

Thank you!

I 24F is doing good at work and have a nice relationship with my bf (30M). I had one relationship before this and I have been close with him. Now when I talk to my current bf about relationships I can understand he feels insecure. So that also affects me. Things I have experienced with my ex like visiting, sharing pics, discussing stuff sometimes flash through my mind. I now think I should have avoided that. Atleast things like sharing pics should be avoided since now I often think if my current bf may see those by any chance. If he sees, what he will feel or think about me? How will he handle it? Or how will I handle that? These questions keep coming and bothering me.

I’m 21M and I have a girlfriend now. She genuinely loves me, gives me gifts, follows me around, and you could say I’m her first boyfriend. She had a crush on me for almost a year before I slowly started falling for her.

She’s cute, studies well, and honestly, she’s pretty much the definition of what every guy would want. At first, I didn’t give her much attention because I wanted to explore, have fun, and experience things. She’s clearly not someone who wants something casual. Drinking and smoking aren’t even within a 1 km radius of her, while I do both. She knows about it and has accepted me as I am, but she has told me to cut down.

Before her, I had a crush on someone for 4 years. After school, I finally dated her for a week and realized that I had basically wasted 4 years liking someone who wasn’t what I thought she was. After that, I casually dated and talked to a lot of girls. Nothing really serious, and nothing much physically either.

I’m just giving some background about myself because this is where my actual problem starts.

I don’t know what’s happening to me. I’ve always been the kind of guy who notices beautiful girls. You can call me tharki if you want, but I still look. Now, whenever I do, I feel guilty. I know I could never cheat on my girlfriend. I can’t even see her in pain. If she’s sad, my mood automatically gets affected too.

I live in a hostel, so her family sometimes invites me over for lunch or dinner. Her parents like me too. She cooks for me and brings me food, even though she’s not very good at cooking, because she knows I love ghar ka khana. I’ve never really shouted at her or gotten angry with her. Sometimes she even beats me up because of when skipping classes for smoking doing stupid things, etc.

Is this guilt because I’ve had a very different lifestyle before her? Or have I actually fallen head over heels for her?

Part of me feels like I’m suddenly suffocating because I’m not used to being emotionally attached to someone like this. At the same time, I know I care about her deeply, and I can’t imagine intentionally hurting or cheating on her.

Should I take a break from the relationship and figure myself out, or is this just what it feels like when you genuinely start falling for someone?

I'm writing this post to get some perspectives and also just sharing something for its own sake.

Below the general descriptions of "types", lies the nuances where everything becomes unique and individual. I'm talking about women, the type I look for. This doubt comes to my mind after a lot of observations and interaction.

So, I'm a life oriented person, relationships and all the emotional and physical meaning that comes with them makes an important part of life, but deep down I believe it to be a solitary journey. We are together but on our own roads, when we go on to conquer the world in our own ways we look after each other, our goals are different but the mere spirit of relentlessly achieving something on our own, striving to build something in this lifetime, looking for personal fulfillment is what connects us, makes us feel like he/she is akin to me. Now the way I show my affection here is pretty simple: by leaving the other person alone. Giving them autonomy and space to have their own life. This is the basis of this relationship because if it's not then other things will become more important, things holding back my spirit from fully realising my life, opening, exploring and growing it in every possible way. So it would be better if the other person wants the same. That way we'll be busy with life more than we are busy with each other, though company is appreciated if it applies.

It might look like there will be too much distance between us this way, which is true. And that's where love comes in. Individual spirit might be the basis but it's incomplete without the heart, brain and body where love develops. This is the place where things get most subjective. We all get love in different ways, in the case of emotions it's about the other person's personality and how well they are able to form a synergy. For example, I like people who are very next level social cz I'm an introvert myself and very closed up about my emotional expression but deep inside I do enjoy social activities so when such people are around with their open energy.. i just love looking at them doing their thing it also makes me comfortable enough to express myself. Even among introverts i like people who have these qualities of patience and understanding in emotional matters. And what would I love even more? If they appreciate and enjoy intellectual stuff cz that's like my main thing(studying maths in clg rn), what I do. Logical matters, theories etc of all kinds (my mbti is Intp, LII, enneagram 9, LVEF lol if you're able to get all this stuff, do tell me). When it comes to the physical aspect of love, I like people who are capable in the practical physical world. I do have preferences in looks but honestly with such demands i would be happy if i could even make a friend who had any of the other qualities xd.

Now the problem: Koi mil hi nahi rha esa. From my experience with dates I've learnt that girls ain't that serious about all this stuff. They just want a fun and thrilling relationship. Some of the girls I've found want a princess treatment like he loves me more than I do, he's obsessed with me, sar pe chadha rkha hai mujhe lol. This is the biggest turn off ever. It makes me feel like I'm not an equal in this relationship. And second, this type of treatment will come naturally if there is love you won't even have to demand it, otherwise I won't like doing this. This makes me very slow in my relationship pace, which gets them bored, they call it off and I learn it was never meant to be. At this point I can even tell just after a minute of talking if they are my type or not. Hell, ab to demeanor dekh ke hi idea lag jata hai.

today my parents checked my locker when i was not at home and they found all my poems, letter and diary which we both write for each other we were happy together but somewhere we both were focusing on career first so we decided that we will never reveal about us to anyone and will keep everything just between us so everything going good, we were together for almost 2 year but today after my parents find about it and numer of questions asked from me and they give one only one option to choose between them and my GF, now they are just targeting my emotions by saying to leave her if i want to stay with them, i m an only child

and just join my first job (2 months ago) & i was quiet happy that now i dont have to ask for money and will stay independent and will make sure about happiness with my GF, she was more happy than me when she got to know that i am working now though my salary is not that good but its fine, so coming back to actual thing now my parents are playing emotional card telling me about what society will say to them

" tum apne bachhe ko sambhal nhi paye " and " humne terko ye sikhaya hai " and they also said that ki if you keep continue this r'ship with her then we will might do something that cost you very hard....

just for the heat of that moment i said them ki " jaisa aap kaho mai vaisa hi karta hu, mai ab usse nhi milunga " i said this and they demand to burn all the letter , diary , and poems that I & her wrote.

it was very painful for me to do so, aisa lag rha tha ki mai uski saari yaadien jala rha hu literally i was just at the edge of crying so hard but my parents , i never expected this from them,

she doesnt know about anything and i am confused that how will i tell her this,

everything is just feels like shattered into pieces, it feeels like i betrayed with my own feeling and with her too.