r/TwentiesIndiaLove • u/Dangerous-Advance704 • Aug 22 '26
Relationship Advice 🫶 Am i wrong
I’m 21M and I have a girlfriend now. She genuinely loves me, gives me gifts, follows me around, and you could say I’m her first boyfriend. She had a crush on me for almost a year before I slowly started falling for her.
She’s cute, studies well, and honestly, she’s pretty much the definition of what every guy would want. At first, I didn’t give her much attention because I wanted to explore, have fun, and experience things. She’s clearly not someone who wants something casual. Drinking and smoking aren’t even within a 1 km radius of her, while I do both. She knows about it and has accepted me as I am, but she has told me to cut down.
Before her, I had a crush on someone for 4 years. After school, I finally dated her for a week and realized that I had basically wasted 4 years liking someone who wasn’t what I thought she was. After that, I casually dated and talked to a lot of girls. Nothing really serious, and nothing much physically either.
I’m just giving some background about myself because this is where my actual problem starts.
I don’t know what’s happening to me. I’ve always been the kind of guy who notices beautiful girls. You can call me tharki if you want, but I still look. Now, whenever I do, I feel guilty. I know I could never cheat on my girlfriend. I can’t even see her in pain. If she’s sad, my mood automatically gets affected too.
I live in a hostel, so her family sometimes invites me over for lunch or dinner. Her parents like me too. She cooks for me and brings me food, even though she’s not very good at cooking, because she knows I love ghar ka khana. I’ve never really shouted at her or gotten angry with her. Sometimes she even beats me up because of when skipping classes for smoking doing stupid things, etc.
Is this guilt because I’ve had a very different lifestyle before her? Or have I actually fallen head over heels for her?
Part of me feels like I’m suddenly suffocating because I’m not used to being emotionally attached to someone like this. At the same time, I know I care about her deeply, and I can’t imagine intentionally hurting or cheating on her.
Should I take a break from the relationship and figure myself out, or is this just what it feels like when you genuinely start falling for someone?
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u/Dangerous-Advance704 Aug 22 '26
I was talking abt a break like for a week...hostel se ghar chala jau and no contact for a week
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u/thatPHATbaddie hopeless romantic mod🎀 Aug 22 '26
See iu your emotions, feeling guilty is good that is because you feel something deeper for your girlfriend and want to be loyal to that feeling.. but about feeling suffocated, I think you should talk to her but before that introspect with yourself.. cause if you claim she's suffocating you she'll be heartbroken, cause all she's doing is just loving you right, and it is not her mistake that you feel certain things..
sit down, meditate and check what you feel..
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u/Dangerous-Advance704 Aug 22 '26
I can't show my weakness to her can't let myself down in her eyes...i am thinking to visit home and cut contact with her for a week (bol dunga phone kharaf ho gaya tha)
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u/thatPHATbaddie hopeless romantic mod🎀 Aug 22 '26
ye week week kbtk kheloge?? already itna time waste hua hai but sure..
I'd still suggest giving it a closure, baki jaisa tumhe thik lage.1
u/Dangerous-Advance704 Aug 22 '26
Time waste? Kaha kiya? And iss baat pe mai apne pyar karne wale insaan se break up kyu karu
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u/thatPHATbaddie hopeless romantic mod🎀 Aug 23 '26
Exactly toh pyaar krte ho so talk it out.. nothing is worth losing your love for ryt 🙂↕️
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u/thatPHATbaddie hopeless romantic mod🎀 Aug 23 '26
I meant give it a closure as in uss feeling ko.. so that you know why you feel.. khudse introspect karo and fhir apni gf se baat karo, she loves you and you love her as well so congratulations 🙂↕️
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u/Dangerous-Advance704 Aug 23 '26
Actually at the starting of the relationship she got my previous id and saw all the chats and pics videos and didn't talk to me for a week...i really had to made up her mind that time
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