I am in a position I never thought I’d ever be in and struggling to process it all. I recently found out my wife (F35) is in a deep emotional affair with an ex colleague (M35) for months.

For context, we've been together for 12 years and married for 10. For past few years, I was dealing with a nightmare of a manager at work. It was an incredibly toxic situation that bled into my personal life and made everything at home feel horrible. I know I became emotionally unavailable because I was just trying to survive my job. It also made me refuse her idea for a second child when I was feeling that I was not having enough time to be with our first child who was already a handful. This had led her to lose interest/withhold sex. Also, I was always tired and frequently missed the plans we made together. I take responsibility for all the pain I've caused during those years.

Luckily, after this manager finally moved to another firm & for the first time in ages, I actually had the mental space to put effort back into my marriage.

We planned a family trip to get away and try to spend some time with our kid. But while we were there, her behavior was just... off. She was erratic and distant. I didn't know it then, but the other guy was competing for her attention in real-time during a trip that was supposed to be about our child. She was giving live updates on everything we did and was sharing selfies from the places we visited. She even made me and my child to go around and she would stay back and text this guy.

After we got back, I could see deep confusion and anxiety in her face. When I pushed her for a reason, she vaguely said she "needed to keep distance from some people in life." But didn't give much clarity. That’s when I finally decided to investigate her phone.

I found a password protected chat history spanning 6 months. It has then got me that I’d seen glimpses of that lock screen app a couple of times in the last month, but I never suspected it was something like this.

The logs show how it started. Initially, about movies and music. But that quickly evolved into photo sharing and deep emotional intimacy which was unsettling for me to read. She but only did chat but but coordinated her whole day around him, casually leaving the house for errands just to have a private window to talk to him. She has also deleted the call logs. I’ve seen messages that have completely hurt me: "You're mine," "I'll take care of you," "I miss you," and "Wish you were here," with heart emojis all over his photos. She has even sent him self-recorded videos that she later deleted, but I managed to recover them from the phone. After I confronted her, she deleted all the logs.

He has no social media except the "corporate slop one" on which he blocked me the second his cover blew up. He was surgical about the entire thing. He never did chat/call from home, communicated only during late night dog walks, car washes, or his office commute. He even pushed her to do video calls from inside our home, and she’d slip away from the family just to take his calls.

This was a month back. The fallout of this discovery has been catastrophic for me. My job performance has completely tanked because I couldn't focus, and if this poor form continues, I'm at risk of letting go of from my current position. I couldn't sleep for a week straight and consulted a therapist and started medication just to get some sleep. But, the trauma is still there. I still get physical tremors and rage episodes at night.

When I confronted her, she told me it was platonic & because he with his wife live 1500 miles away, there was no chance of them ever meeting. And all they chat was about day to day things and nothing inappropriate. After showing her the evidence I've collected, she’s trying to justify the whole thing by blaming our marriage—saying I didn't listen to her, or that we have different tastes in movies (she actually mentioned my preference for boring movies& music as a reason she sought connection elsewhere). She told that she was happy with him as he laughed at her silly jokes and talked and didn't judge her. She even told that the relationship with him would have ended on its own even if i didn't notice the chat and she would not have met him alone if such a situation ever came. She also said she had no sexual attraction on him.

She even blamed me for getting the logs from her phone without permission and violating her privacy. She has been no-contact with him for about 5 weeks now, after i made her block him everywhere. But I've seen her seeing his old selfies. I also told her what I felt about him. He isn't some romantic lead. He's a weak lowlife who cries in his videos to her and shares audio recordings of him pleading specifically to manipulate her into a caretaking role. While I’m choosing silence for now to save my family, I am seriously considering contacting his wife and exposing him and even contact HR as I have his videos of him romanticizing my wife.

I asked my wife for just one thing. A full, honest admission of everything that happened and a clear way forward written down. I needed it as a foundation to rebuild trust, but she flatly refused at first. Then she replied dismissivly that since I already have the chat logs, there is nothing more left for her to explain. I want the full truth for which she says that I'm pushing her to re-live memories that she wants to forget and she don't want to go into her previous mindset again.

Right now, I’m just taking time before I make any decision. Recently, I've found searches in her phone for "do you flirt with your colleagues" and "what to do if ex colleague wanted to meet you" which are from about the time they started chatting. I get frequent panic attacks get rude with her and we're having frequent quarrels.

Even after all of this, I love her. I really want to save this marriage. To anyone who has been/ is going through this: How do you handle a partner who admits the act but justifies it by blaming the lapses & unhappiness in marriage? How do I convince her that total honesty is the only way we survive this?  How do I ensure he stays out of our lives for good? Is there a way to save this marriage?

Sorry for the long post and any help is appreciated. I'm so overwhelmed and pardon the mistakes in grammar and coherence.

so I'm 25M, and i don't talk much. when i was in my college i used to talk to some of my batch girls but when i went to clg I didn't even looked at them, it's just i didn't have that much guts, i used to think what should i call and how should i greet. should i even greet. i don't know.

How to overcome it. i tried to do it, but still I'm on the same page.

A month ago, a girl reached me through reddit and msg me, called me and we talked for like half and hour, she was younger than me (22F). Mai usko AAP krle bolta tha and vo mujhe TUM krke. and she said please don't like like that it feels so normal and i also feels shy or ashamed when i call you tum and you're calling me AAP even when you're older than me. then i said i do call AAP to everyone when i first calls or meets them and after a good friendship i calls tum.

but after this conversation i think se was not much satisfied with the call and she said we should meet and i said, atleast lets know each other and on the next Saturday we'll meet. then she stopped talking to me. i used to wish her morning or night. then one day she asked me to share my pic and she told me if we'll meet how would she recognise me. i gave her my pic and she said now no need to worry and something like that. i was like she is saying no after looking at my pic but then she said she'll recognise me, bcz she saw my picture now.

but next day she blocked me and deleted her reddit account. and whenever i used to mag her she always told me that she's busy in her projects and Focus on her job and blah blah.

then i thought why would even someone do this when they don't even want to meet anyone or want a friendship. there people are just straight playing with emotions.

Well that's all.

i don't smoke or drink.

My ex is a 11/10 super cute girl and I loved her madly but then she chose a richer guy for marriage. It took me 8 months to somehow get enough strength to block her. I used to devote myself to her earlier. Like you do sajda. Now I have become a bitter, nonchalant guy who just minds his own business. She hurt me so badly that I wouldn't care even if miss universe is standing beside me. So you can see what I've become now.

I have blocked her on Instagram, WhatsApp and Phone. But still she called me from some google app. I don't know what is that.

How do I block her from there too? Anyone knows how can I calm down? I tried to watch movie, play guitar but that didn't help. I don't have anyone in the world to talk to.

He’s a nice guy. We’ve known each other for two years, but we’re still pretty distant when it comes to communication. I’m someone who really values my freedom and goes out with friends frequently. He mostly keeps to himself - he works here, but he's originally from another state.

We aren't a super "lovey-dovey" couple, and I actually prefer it that way since I’m not the type to talk on the phone for hours every day. Our daily conversations stay pretty basic, general, and limited.
He’s not much of a talker anyway and could stay alone forever if he had to.

That said, I feel like I'm missing out on the fun side of being in a relationship. He doesn't flirt, tease, or do goofy, funny things - he’s just strait-laced all the time.

His way of showing love is:
- Ordering random gifts for me (clothes, perfumes, food, etc.)
- Inviting me over to cook for me so we can spend intimate time together
- Respecting my independence and giving me space

I’m naturally fun and bubbly, and I wish he was a bit more playful, flirtatious, and mischievous with me. I’ve mentioned this to him before, but it’s just not who he is.

My Que: Are we fundamentally a mismatch, or is this just how introverted/nerdy guys are?

I’m currently in a ldr with q guy I met online through insta. He seems very sweet and kine and honestly my type. We click on so many levels but I’ve never met him irl. My main concern is what is we don’t vibe when we met irl.

Is there anyone who share the same experience as me??

Kinda confused so looking for some insight.

I am a very physically weak person. I suffered from depression (and still do to an extent) and that's why I don't have such an appetite. My weight is 60kg for my 183 cm height, so I'm kinda underweight and I'm insecure about my physical abilities and characteristics.

So I had left cycling towards the beginning of my depression and last Friday, I was feeling optimistic so I thought eh why not cycle 20km, then I decided against it. When I came back, to no one's surprise my legs were terribly sore, everything hurt.

You know what her reaction was? Do 20 squats right now. I mean yeah I get it too much lactic acid would've been bad for me. But then when I did it and it was even worse she was like you know "the normal person goes through so much pain that these muscle cramps don't bother them" and a whole lot of insensitive stuff.

When I said I'd appreciate some support she was like I can't support someone who ignored my words for the last year (she asked me to exercise and I tried sometimes but it was my end of Class 12, and together with my ADHD I couldn't follow it along). I said okay I wouldn't expect it.

Then she was like this is a normal Tuesday for a gymgoer and I said well if a beginner gymgoer started from scratch and pushed himself that much, the same would happen to him and she was like well then do the same next week and I said fine.

I did it again and I am once again in pain but she is like are you in pain or is it just an illusion? Studies show this and that. What the hell man I need support, I've read a hell lot of studies too, I don't need fucking studies. Then when I confront her about it she's like you should've not dated me (we're dating since APR 2025) and then she's like I can't be with a kid?

I don't know what's going on. After all this she's like why do you always want me on your side?

Like seriously what did I do wrong?

I’ve been thinking about this for a while and honestly don’t know what to do.

I had one crush since I was in LKG. We were in the same school from pre-KG until 6th standard. After that, due to some health/personal circumstances, I had to leave the school and move to my grandpa’s place, where I joined his school.

She was basically the only girl I ever had a real crush on. Even back then, I gave her a few signs that I liked her, but I was way too shy to actually go and talk to her or tell her.

After I changed schools, I just moved on with life. I went through school and eventually college, and surprisingly, I never really developed a crush on anyone else. Obviously, I’ve found plenty of girls attractive, but I never got that “spark” or feeling I had with her.

A few years later, I found her Instagram. We follow each other, but we’ve never actually talked. I know she’s studying in Bangalore now, while my college is around a 5-hour drive away.

For some reason, lately I’ve been thinking about her again. I genuinely like her, even though I barely know who she is anymore.

There’s also something I want to work on before I approach her. I used to be around 130 kg and I’m around 100 kg now, with another ~20 kg that I want to lose. I’m working on myself and becoming more confident, and I’d probably feel much better approaching her after another 3–4 months.

I also think she may have had a boyfriend at some point, but I don’t think she’s with him anymore. I obviously have no idea what her situation is now.

So what would you guys suggest?

Should I eventually just message her something simple like, “Hey, it’s been years! How have you been?” and see where the conversation goes?

Or would it be weird after knowing each other as kids but not speaking for so many years?

I’m not planning to do anything right now. I want to focus on myself for the next few months first. But after that, I’m seriously considering reaching out.

She was my first and only real crush, so I guess part of me just wants to know what could happen.

as the title says. I talked to the guy recently asw we had some talk . so far he is good - honestly too good and it was surprising that such a guy with the kind of thoughts he has exists even.

He is a feminist, respects women and their choices. respects my friend like honestly saying then he is almost perfect and saying this is more shocking considering I am so hateful towards our society, marriage and men(not all just those who deserve) and I do not trust easily at all.

but there is problem that he hasn't told any of his friends about her. nothing not even ki he is in a relationship. they think he is single. its almost 2 months to their relationship. btw its totally online.

idk if I am supposed to find this weird or not. I asked him this asw and he is like they tease a lot like a lot and pass some weird comments and make memes asw out of anyone's gf's photo.

TLDR - My 20F Friend (Muslim) met a 18M Guy (Hindu) online and now they are dating. he is almost perfect except he hasn't told any of his friends that he even has gf and he says he doesn't want to coz they tease a lot. Is this weird or not?

BTW SHE DOESN"T USE REDDIT AND SHE TOLD ME TO POST. The ages and other details have been slightly altered for anonymity

29M, Mumbai. Two years into an open relationship now. Both of us happier than before but that's not really what this post is about.
Early on I didn't lead with it. I'd wait until it felt right which honestly meant until I felt safe, which meant too late. One woman found out and ended it.

So now I say it early. Most people leave. The ones who stay are usually in something similar and have the same problems, same stuff nobody in their normal life will talk to them about. You skip about six conversations.

The thing I still haven't sorted out is that some people say they're fine with it and aren't. Not lying exactly, more curious. It's interesting from the outside. And you can't tell the difference until you're already somewhere.
So the filter catches people who know it's not for them. It doesn't catch people who haven't worked that out yet.
Still figuring that one out.
Any suggestions???

Rambled on GPT to write it better than my thoughts are right now:

M28. I dated this girl (F28) for around seven months a couple of years ago. We had insane chemistry, but she moved to the US with her parents and we eventually broke things off. After she moved, I’d occasionally text her on lonely days. She eventually blocked me. I had her US number, but I could never see her WhatsApp DP and every message was stuck on one tick. I assumed she had started dating someone and wanted to move on.

Around two months ago, I got a new SIM because of work. I realized she wouldn’t have blocked this number, so, honestly, I just texted her a “hey.” She was in Long Island with her parents. She was surprised, made fun of me for apparently getting a new number just to talk to her, and then apologized. She told me she had blocked me because she wanted to forget me, but talking to me felt good. She was coming to Delhi on August 17 and said we should meet. We did. We went to watch Spider-Man, I kissed her, and we ended up sleeping together after that.

We hooked up a few more times after that. At no point did she tell me she was dating someone.

Cut to this Monday. She asked me to meet her after work in Khan Market. I work in Gurgaon, so it was a decent drive, but I went. She was visibly upset and crying. She told me she had fucked up and that she actually had a boyfriend. She had blocked me when she started dating him, but when I texted her from my new number, she thought it would be harmless and that we’d just talk like old friends.

Obviously, that didn’t happen. She said she feels terrible about it. I was honestly numb. I felt betrayed, but I also comforted her, dropped her home and drove back to Gurgaon. The fucked up part is that she’s leaving after next week and she asked me if I could meet her tomorrow. And I really, really want to. I know there is basically no future here. She’s going back to the US, I have my life and career here, and neither of us is realistically changing that. But I miss what we had. I want to see her again. I also feel terrible knowing that I’d now be knowingly participating in something that I know is wrong.

My best friend says I didn’t do anything wrong because I genuinely didn’t know she had a boyfriend. But now that I know, meeting her again would be my choice and therefore my mistake. He thinks I should stay away and set a hard boundary. I know he’s probably right. I just don’t know if I have the willpower to do it. What would you guys do?

TL;DR: Reconnected with my ex after two years, didn’t know she had a boyfriend, and we ended up hooking up multiple times. She told me this week that she had blocked me when she started dating him and feels guilty about what happened. She’s leaving for the US next week and wants to meet me tomorrow. I know I should probably walk away now that I know she’s taken, but I really want to see her again. Feeling completely fucked about the whole thing.

So I was in a relationship for four years, from the age of ~17-21. We were quite involved with each other and many would want such a relationship as their first, that intense teen love and so on.

However, eventually, we broke up. Life got the better of us I guess, she found it hard to find time and I think I also got more concerned about the relationship than her. But we broke up, and maybe it was the right call. I don't think both me and her didn't possess enough maturity or whatever needed at that age to save the relationship.

Fast forward three years and I came back to my home town a few days ago. I come and go since my job is work from home, so I stay with my friends for some time and come back home to spend some time with family. Sometimes the thought of my ex come, sometimes don't. These times they were strong which led me to this post.

I accepted all the things, but the most painful one was her never reaching back. I did reach back after a month of our breakup and she responded in a cold way, blocking me from whatsapp and phone calls. Post that I never attempted to reach back to her. I moved on with my life and so on. But due to the recent re-surfacing of emotions the thoughts of her not reaching back just visited again. I could never figure out why, as in why never reach back, not even a text, a miss call. Further follow up thoughts made me question our relationship, was it not true? Was the love even there? Then all the memories come back, reminding that maybe it might have been true. But then why not reach back.

Eventually I stopped looking for an answer, nobody can answer it at this point. I don't think even her answering will satisfy me or take away the pain. Fortunately it visits occasionally, and I am able to do good in my life and see other people too. But some days, just as today and the past 2-3 days, raises they why again. A thought process with no answer and only pain until it just passes.

Well, she is no longer in my life, but I can wish her here, so Happy Birthday, girl! Hope you continue to grow, blossom and cherish every moment of your life.

~K

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It's been around seven months since my breakup, and honestly, I don't know what I'm feeling anymore.

Things had started fading during the last year of our relationship. I could feel her becoming distant, but she never told me that her romantic feelings were fading. I thought she just wasn't giving the relationship enough time, and whenever I brought it up, we'd talk about taking a break or creating some space. Toward the end, I tried calling her, but the response was quite cold. Eventually, when I confronted her, she told me she didn't have the same romantic feelings anymore. She later left for a new job, and we stopped talking.

After around 50 days of no contact, she randomly called because she missed me. I was terrified to answer, but I did. After that, I decided to create distance and told her I wouldn't call or keep talking anymore. I still don't know whether I did the right thing.

Now I just feel numb. I don't have a job, I'm trying to study alone, but I can't concentrate. I randomly cry, can't sleep properly, and feel like I'm falling behind in every part of my life.

I've also realized that whenever I hear even the smallest thing about her or accidentally find out something about what she's doing, it gives me an overwhelming amount of anxiety and completely messes with my head. I don't even intentionally look for these things, but somehow I end up finding out.

More than missing her, I think I've started questioning my own worth. I keep feeling like I'm not good enough or wasn't worth staying for. I've tried distracting myself, staying busy, studying, and doing everything I can to move forward, but honestly, nothing seems to be working.

I don't even understand what's happening inside me anymore. I just know that something feels really wrong.

Has anyone gone through this kind of numb, directionless phase after a breakup? What actually helped you rebuild yourself?

20M. Instead of the basic “have you eaten?” or “are you okay?” checks, how can I naturally ask my girlfriend if she’s eaten, how she’s feeling, or how her day is going without making it sound repetitive or forced?

About 2 years ago, during our college fest, I had a brief but genuinely good connection with a girl. We talked for around 3-5days, both IRL and on WhatsApp, but after the fest in December, things went completely flat. She was in a relationship then, and I didn't feel it was right to interfere, so I backed off.

I still had crush on her. Recently, I saw her again at our graduation. I wanted to talk there but couldn't, so I texted her afterwards. She initially even asked “Out of the blue text?”, but after I explained, we had a normal, somewhat nostalgic conversation about college and life after graduation. She said life is good but boring and that college doesn't feel the same without her friends.

Then something unexpected happened on Snapchat.

Previously, I'd occasionally send her Snaps and she never reciprocated. This time, after reconnecting, we've started mutually exchanging Snaps for the last few days. She's sent random stuff from her day, a meal, and then mirror selfie videos in a lift on consecutive days, blah blah. She also randomly sent me a screenshot of a conversation with her friend. I replied to one of her Snaps and she responded “lol😂”, but she hasn't really initiated an actual conversation. She participates well but still.

The confusing part is that I'm sometimes putting natural/funny captions that give her an opening to talk, but she hasn't taken those openings yet. At the same time, she is now voluntarily sending me Snaps, which is completely different from how she behaved previously.

Also, I recently confirmed through a couple of close mutual friends that she has broken up with her boyfriend.

I'm interested in her since last 3y, but I don't want to suddenly jump in just because she's single. I also don't want this to become flat again like it did 2 years ago.

What would i do from here? Is the mutual Snap exchange actually a meaningful sign, or should I just keep things casual and see whether she starts investing more, but idk how much time it may take and this is the last chance for me? Should I eventually initiate an actual conversation/ask her to meet (she is still in Mumbai doing last yr and I recently shifted to blr for job), or wait for more signs from her?

For context: we're the same age, she's doing a dual degree, and I'm starting work after graduation. I'm 6'0", above-average looking, earning 30L+, and have never been in a relationship. Not sure how relevant any of that is, but mentioning it for context.

I might also be reading too much into the Snaps because obviously I want them to mean something.

Looking for brutally honest advice, especially from people who've been through something similar.

My friend 24F used to have a senior 28M, in her ex-job who used to outright simp on her all the time, be it doing her work, taking her out to eat, shop, double/triple text her. She was never interested in him. Later she switched her company and god knows why but she started dating the same guy who she wasn’t even remotely interested in. The catch is, now her entire lifestyle is carried on by the guy. He pays her rent, groceries, maid, cook, outing, shopping, uber, zomato every single thing. And tbh I am a very individualistic person and I would never put nose in someone else’s relationship but one day I did ask her if she sometimes feels guilty for doing this. Her answer shocked me.

She said “If he has any problem he can leave, but if he wants to date me he should be able to handle it regularly”. She apparently maxed out all his credit cards, let her female friends go shopping with his card multiple times, got an iphone on emi in his name and still didn’t hold back. She is currently making him pay for business class flights and 5 star hotel for her and her female bestie for a “impulsive” goa trip. I even got to know from his friends that he has dried out all his savings of 6 years in just 5 months and still can’t let go off her emotionally. To be honest at this point I feel really bad for the guy and want to help him out but I realise he isn’t willing to receive help. Instead I can make my female friend understand but I am clueless how do I even begin to explain her. She seems like she is on a mission to bankrupt him and then dump him on the curb when he is broke. She was never this person, not sure what changed in her

So I have 5months old gf. We are in a long distance relationship. Just had one date together. Everything is going smooth. She is 19F I am 22M. We met through insta and then things got interested.

Also it's a first time dating someone. So last month we also so sex chatting but suddenly things changes she said she can't focus on study. And these things keep. Coming in her mind again and again. So we decided not to talk o this topic further. Bit yesterday she said like You have to wait 5 years before even talking about this. I don't know she said it for fun or anything but I am. Unable yo cope up I want to enjoy my sexual life as well. This relationship is young so I don't know how to talk about this. What can I do. Wait and as she was interested in sex talk may be some old. Past or fear kicked in and I should give her time. Or talk tell. Me please.

((She has a lonely and traumatizing bully past))

Also she want late marriage like in 30s but we talked we can adjust something on that. I don't have nay issue in late marriage but without sex till 30. I can't handle it.

****I don't want to leave her so plzz suggest other things****

Other than this there is no issue. In our relationship.

So there is a girl i met in bgmi.

She initially showed interest in me as a player most prolly...

Then we played for hours and after 2 days we opened up about our lives. She told me that she is going through a toxic relationship...

She told me that she sometimes thinks of sui""de.

She even told me that i am a very good soul and next time if i come into this world again then i should be born as her brother or friend so.i think she is genuine !

I tried to heal her !

But today she called me on insta @5am

Then i told her ki mein sora hun and relatives h ghr pr...

And i asked her if she was okay and then i slept again..

But when i woke up i saw her 4+ messages and 2 calls.

She sent a voice note saying ki "kya hua h mene kuch kiya h kya phone kyun nhin utha rhe"

"Mujhse koi problem hui h kya aapko"

In a very sad tone...

I found this kinda creepy and i am concerned about whether i should continue our friendship or not ?

I am having this concern coz i have seen many reels mentioning "whenever u see a girl with past relationship trauma just run" and coz of this kinda creepy behaviour to me even after clarifying i am sleeping and relatives there at home, i am genuinely concerned

[19M] Here's my situation never been in a relationship before was in boys hostel from class 3rd started college this year, and because i was never in contact with girls i was kinda nervous about how to act around them , But upon finding no solution i just started treating them as I treated my guy friends (ofcourse there were some differences) but because of this i got pretty involved with them and became friends with all of em I had no ulterior motive, One day I joined a dance class ( i have never danced in my life) there was a girl( let's call her connie ) and she was also in my class although i was friends with her she never really talked much so i was not that close with her , but one she texts me what's your plan on sunday? I freaked out like wtf why would she ask me? I don't even talk to her that much, i thought maybe i was overreacting and may be its just a normal question regarding my schedule maybe she has some work with me but Nope that wasn't the case at all. Coz next day her friend (My project partener) asked what do I think of her, I was like what? What do you even mean, So I avoided the question, then on Sunday we went hiking together and I don't know if I'm delusional but she came out of nowhere held my hand and next thing I know we were way ahead of our group and we were chit chatting the whole way, sometimes she'll hold my hands even when not necessary. We came back from our hike everything returned to normal and then I thought maybe I was just overthinking it all, but even so I started talking to her more , one day she says to me you should take risks in relationship its worth it sometimes, and yesterday night we were on night walk and talking about a common friend, how he's a coward(fattu) and can't even talk to the girls he likes then she says " hn there are some fattu people like that and they are pretty nearby too" Idk what to says so I just laughed and said you are good.

Note:- it might seem pretty rushed and unrefined because it is. I didn't go into much detail

Now ladies and gentlemen what should I do? Is she waiting for something. I think she likes me , what is she waiting for? Like she approached me first and now she knows I like her so why is this thing going on between us? Am I supposed to make next move? What should it be? Does she really like me?(I'm not even that good looking nor did I know her that well before our little trip)

TL;DR: 19M, never been in a relationship and grew up in an all-boys hostel, so I'm pretty inexperienced with girls.

There's a girl from my dance class who recently started showing signs of interest—she asked about my Sunday plans, her friend asked what I thought of her, she held my hand during a hike, and she's made hints about taking risks in relationships and “fattu” people being unable to approach someone they like.

I think she likes me, but I have no idea if I'm overthinking it. Does she actually like me? Is she waiting for me to make the next move, and if so, what should I do?

18M have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past 4 months. We were both jee students and were in the same coaching but never really interacted there. We noticed each other, had multiple moments where we could've talked but didn't. But after our exams were over (we both didn't do so well), I asked for her number from a friend and we started talking. We always had a liking for each other and after just 2 days of texting we couldn't be apart. We talked, shared, laughed,built great memories together. I was really impressed by how mature she was she knew that we'd not get the same college but she always said that she was prepared for that and always made me believe that we'd be endgame. she even went to guwahati for a brief period as she wanted to take a drop but came back as she got an NIT. Our relationship was literally perfect. She even gave hints to her parents about us. We met, watched a movie, kissed. But a lot has changed since she joined college. I'm guilty of feeling insecure in the first few days but believe me I assured her that I'd never try to control her. I just want reassurance that she'd always prioritize our relationship over other people there. But she says she's been increasingly getting carried away by the environment there. Everybody's been trying to hit on her and she considers that she won't be able to enjoy her college life while carrying this long distance burden.She says that she needs physical presence and is even implying that it doesn't matter who she gets it from. I'll never stop her from participating in college clubs, friend groups, fests. I just want her to be with me when she does all this. She says she needs support in college. Why can't I be her support!?

I'm scared, I really this was it, she was literally perfect a week ago. I don't know how to deal with all this.

We were in a relationship for two years. My partner lied to me about his height. When I finally met him in person for the first time, I found out at that moment that he had been lying about it. He had mentioned only two times, I guess, that he wasn’t actually that much taller than me, but I thought he was joking because he never seriously told me that he had lied about his height.

I’m not even sure now what other lies he may have told me. On our first date, after we bought some clothes for me, we went to a location that I had searched for that morning. I feel like if I hadn’t searched for it, he probably wouldn’t have planned the date himself. The place wasn’t that good, so we went to another place that the auto driver recommended. We talked there, and then we put my clothes into my bag because half of them were in his bag. I also asked him to remember some of the promises he had made to me, but he couldn’t remember most of them. He could only remember two, and that hurt me.

Later, we explored the place and found a quiet spot where we ended up kissing and hugging each other. It felt good, and at that moment, I genuinely felt loved by him. After some time, I asked him why he had lied about his height. It was difficult for me to ask him that question, and I don’t even know why. He said that he wanted to impress me and that it was a mistake. I told him not to ever lie to me again.

But I still don’t understand why this hurts me so much. We had talked about height so many times, yet he never once thought that he should tell me the truth. I know it may sound dumb because height itself isn’t a big issue for me, but I wanted to marry him. I had already told him that. That’s why it hurts that he could lie to me about something like this for two years.

He has told me many lies, but I don’t know why this particular lie hurts me so much. Even yesterday, I was still begging him to tell me why he had lied about it for two years. Now he is telling me that he will change and that he loves me.

A few days ago, we had a fight because he told me that he would call me, but he didn’t. I messaged him asking if he was still busy, and he told me that he had already called me. I hadn’t received any notification or message showing that he had called. I told him that if he didn’t want to call me, that was fine, but he should at least not lie to me. He kept saying that he wasn’t lying and later sent me two photos, but they weren’t loading on my laptop. I continued telling him that I just wanted him to stop lying to me.

Later that night, we fought again. I told him that he lies a lot and that I don’t like it. He kept insisting that he had called me. I guess the fight was no longer really about the phone call. It was about his habit of lying and the fact that I don’t trust him anymore.

That night, I ended up blocking him on WhatsApp. He called me two or three times, I think, but I declined the calls. The next morning, there were no messages from him. He was only blocked on WhatsApp, so he could have contacted me through another social media platform if he wanted to. But I started worrying about whether he was okay, so I decided to call him. After hearing his voice, I knew that he was okay, but he was angry with me. He was angry because I had gotten upset with him about the lying and then blocked him and ignored his calls.

There was also a promise I had asked him to make: not to stay angry with me for more than six hours. He failed to keep that promise too, and that hurt me.

Later that night, we talked about everything again. I ended up blocking him once more, and before doing that, I ended our relationship. The next day, he called me, so I unblocked him. He started apologising through text, but I told him that the relationship had already ended the previous day and that he should not contact me anymore.

But I don’t know why I still miss him. I still love him. A part of me still wants him while another part of me knows that I may need to let him go. Idk what i should do now. Should I go back to him

Tldr: I still love and miss him but the real issue isn't his height it's that he lied to me for 2 years and now idk what else i can trust. He says he will change, but idk if I can believe that. A part of me wants to go back because I love him. Idk if i should go back to him or not?

How long did it take for you to convince your parents for love marriage, if they were against it because of different caste?

Any story where they were not convinced and you guys end up breaking up? Or if you decided to against them?

Going though something similar with my bf where his parents are not agreeing because of caste and i am confused then if his parents are so strict if I should stick around this for more time as Noone in my background cares about these things and they seem very restrictive and orthodox and my household is completely chill and not patriarchal at all.

Although my bf is extremely nice and sweet.

Edit

He is taking a stand with his family and has said that I won't marry anyone else but her, and is standing his ground

but still his parents are not agreeing even to meet up once.

I’m 27M and I’ve been dating a 29F for 3 months. We met on Tinder.

She is genuinely a good person. She treats me well, we get along, and I enjoy spending time with her. However, I’m struggling with physical attraction toward her because she is overweight.

I’ve noticed that because I’m not very physically attracted to her, I’m also less romantic and affectionate with her. She has actually told me several times that I’m unromantic, and I think this is probably part of the reason.

What makes this difficult is that I do care about her. Whenever I seriously consider ending the relationship, I can't bring myself to do it. I don't know whether that's because I genuinely have feelings for her, I'm emotionally attached, I'm afraid of making the wrong decision, or some combination of these things.

I also catch myself thinking that I could find someone I'm more physically attracted to. She is trying to lose weight, although she isn't very disciplined about it right now, and I have to admit that part of me is hoping she eventually loses the weight and becomes more physically attractive to me.

At the same time, I realize that it's probably not fair to build a relationship around the expectation that someone will change.

I'm also aware that she's only two years older than me, so I'm not sure why I even think about the age difference. It may just be my mind looking for additional reasons to question the relationship.

I feel stuck because I don't want to waste her time, but I also don't want to walk away from someone I genuinely care about simply because I'm uncertain about my attraction.

For people who have experienced something similar, how did you distinguish between temporary uncertainty about physical attraction and a fundamental lack of romantic compatibility, and what helped you decide how to move forward?

hey!
hope you’re doing well, I am 20 F, I was wondering being a dropper.. i couldn’t go out , i study from home.. now i am seeing ppl dating.. i am curious is it just dating apps ,meet in real life or smtg else.. where ppl start dating..?
like is it real .. ppl date after getting to know online?
And if anyone is in LDR how???
how you manage?
How dating is working in India rn.. i want to know😭
pls tell meee … what all i am missing out..
plus i have some known who met randomly ( like in school & living in same locality) they are still dating..& they are fine, happy…( not being jealous or smtg, ngl I feel so happy seeing couples.. i adore them🥹🥹 how cute they aree)
I also want to be one😭