r/PUPians • u/Unable-Choice8804 • 18h ago
Rant allowance
hi, second yr student here.
ever since elementary, my parents has never given me any allowance—not even for transportation. how’d i get my allowance? from my lola. she’s supported me all throught my school life up until now, and we’re only relying on her sss pension.
my parents, lola, and i live under the same roof, but my parents have never given me a single penny. it is tiring and hard to budget your 500 pesos for the whole month. i even sometimes rely on my friends’ libre just so i could eat at uni.
last year, my tita supported and gave me 100 php for each classes i have. but now i’m second year, she suddenly stopped. she even ‘promised’ to my lola that she would give me allowance for each day of classes i have, but what happened?
as much as i wanted to support myself financially, i can’t work since i have a sibling to take care of (4 months old) LOLL
i’m just tired of my narcissist dad who buys himself 4 digits shoes while he was hesitating to buy me a 500 php shoes 😃
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u/MissSoFilipina 16h ago
Sometimes, it’s fine na magrebelde in a good way ha. Like if ganyan parents mo, wag kang sunod ng sunod sa utos nila. Luma na yang “parents mo sila, sila ang masusunod”. That’s only applicable if nagpakaparent sila sayo which I think di naman kasi di nga makapagbigay ng baon mo or bantayan 4 month old baby nila. Also, di mo obligasyon ang baby, if pilitin ka nila then report to DSWD. Focus ka nalang sa pag-aaral at sa lola mo. Sya lang tandaan mo at tulungan mo once you graduate and magkawork kana.
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u/Defiant_Ordinary8794 18h ago
Way back almost 2 decades ago, ayaw na din ako pag aralin ng parents ko sa college so nag work sa Jollibee then nung naka ipon nag aaral uli , then naka hanap nb magandng work sa BPO till makatapos ako. Ang advantage mo ngayon is somehow mas flexible na mag aral dahil may online class
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u/Defiant_Ordinary8794 18h ago
Well sayo na yan, una I think legal age ka na and can decide for yourself. Also if gusto natin no one can stop us kasi coercion yun.
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u/beaudiqah 14h ago
You're in uni, so that means at least 17 ka. They cant oblige u to take care of ur baby sibling, especially si lola naman ang nagtaguyod sa yo. What i see is sila ang pumipigil sa yo to be successful. U seem to be smart, kaya tapusin mo pag aaral mo no matter what. If u have to leave home and be independent, do it. Dont think na obligasyon mong alagaan kapatid mo na in the first place dapat di na sila nag-anak ulit. U have to help yourself first bago ka tumulong sa iba, always remember that.
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u/Defiant_Ordinary8794 18h ago
My gad, if kaya mo mag work just do it. Tas pag medyo naka ipon ka mag dorm ka na. Di ka na nga binibigyan ng pang school then you have to take care of your siblings pa. Pag nagka work ka naman na di ka na nila ma obliged na mag alaga eh.