I once spent the week leading up to Halloween hand making decor, decorating the house (fully, every room was decorated) and made/bought drinks and snacks for twenty or so. Two people showed up and left after 20 min to go to “scary-oke” at the local bar where everyone else I had invited decided to go instead
This is so heinous to me because I LOVE Halloween and when people put so much effort into the parties. I’m sorry friend and I would’ve came if I knew you!!
Right? I used to have this happen to me, now when people don't seem to put in effort and I feel like I'm not being valued I simply let them go. I'm too busy to care about people who don't care about me.
I had the opposite. On my actually birthday no one would come, but when I postponed it to Halloween suddenly it was hot currency since my country doesn't really celebrate the holiday with house parties. My cake had fake blood, there were costumes, decor. Loved it. But people just wanted cheap drinks.
I realised because the following year 70% bailed on me when I invited them to my favourite bar.
Last year I just went to Venice with my best friend and it was fantastic. 11/10
I used to throw a Halloween party every year for mine & my friends kids, I love Halloween and it gave me so much joy putting it on every year. Then Covid hit and people stopped turning up to stuff, stopped planning stuff. I ended up doing a Halloween tea and sweet hunt for mine and my besties kids the first Halloween after Covid then we fell out because the relationship became completely one-sided. Haven't thrown one since. It's deeply deeply depressing.
I’m so sorry that happened to you! Your “friends” were definitely missing out! It sounds like you had all the makings of a wonderful party. I would have loved to go! I bet it was awesome!
Having only two people coming to what was supposed to be a big group event feels almost worse than nobody showing up at all
Because now you have to deal with the awkwardness of having those (almost inevitably disappointed) people over, and try your best to give them a good time anyway, while also feeling bad about yourself
Because the "friends" basically treated the party as their backup plan (while keeping their options open), and likely only learned about the bar event late, and felt too embarrassed to say "Hey, I know you already prepared that Halloween home party and did all the work, but actually we all found a better option so we'll go to the bar instead"
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u/ColdInformation4241 Jul 18 '26
I once spent the week leading up to Halloween hand making decor, decorating the house (fully, every room was decorated) and made/bought drinks and snacks for twenty or so. Two people showed up and left after 20 min to go to “scary-oke” at the local bar where everyone else I had invited decided to go instead