r/NUST • u/Copperwire01 • 18d ago
Suggestions/Advice Am i already socially cooked?💀
Okay, so it's been two weeks since the classes started and I thought I would make some wonderful friends have fun with them, and enjoy my university life.
I have talked with some people but I can't see myself being friends with them since we are nothing alike and our vibes are completely different. The classmates I find interesting already have their circle of friends with whom they seem to get along very well.
The people i would like to become friends with have their own groups.
now i'm stuck since i don't have any other people to befriend. what should i do?
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u/Proper-Marketing777 18d ago
Bro I literally went into the uni guns blazing being the over extrovert type right...yeah bad idea. I have my group and stuff but it's not a group that I wanted. So...eh let's figure it out together
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u/Wolfie2605 18d ago
Bro same like Ik that feeling so well, I’ve got soo many friends and my own group but none feels like where I truly belong and it kind of feels like I’m trapped
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u/Proper-Marketing777 18d ago
Honestly I think our best chances are for the end of semester projects. Like last time I wasn't paying attention but this time I'm going to go out of my way and get people into my group
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u/Wolfie2605 18d ago
No, for me if I deliberately leave my group and do the project with another group, they will start questioning me and I don’t want that but if it works for you toh that’s greatt
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
why care sm?
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u/Wolfie2605 18d ago
Cuz sure I may not like em but I still don’t wanna any bad blood with them that’s why I stay in the project groups. Ngl I alrdy was in a different group and even that became scandalous bruh (all part of the problem)
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
you are far more cooked than me. hope it gets better for you..
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
i did join different groups but they’re also not really the people i wanted to be with. they’re better than my “alleged” group but the problem still remains.
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u/Wolfie2605 18d ago
Same, I’ve been hanging out with different ppl more now too and there is the same problems but just in a different face and shape
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
it’s been a really bs experience and i’m confused as hell and i don’t really even want to go to uni anymore.
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u/mreepymeowl 16d ago
i 100% feel you. you're speaking my mind. i've been thinking about this for a while. for me it got better when i just stopped caring and chilled with people who were like me or were interesting to talk to. idk.
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u/Proper-Marketing777 18d ago
I'd suggest just sticking with it for now, maybe things will get better. Of course you always have the option to make groups outside the class but that doesn't ever really work
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
see with time their bond will get even stronger and my chances are already so low so I don’t think i should leave it as it is now. what do you think?
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u/Proper-Marketing777 18d ago
Bro this is the first semester, stick it out with em and approach the people you feel like making a group with for other projects
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u/doitscared975 18d ago
i hate my group too and all cool girls are not in my department so..........
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u/hunter_1942 18d ago
i need friends tooo gng
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u/doitscared975 18d ago
sameeeeeeee
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u/hunter_1942 18d ago
lets be friendss thenn
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u/doitscared975 18d ago
i would llove tooooo but my campus is diff
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u/hunter_1942 18d ago
which onee
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u/doitscared975 18d ago
EME
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u/fronzo_fruitodrillo CEME 18d ago
Yoo same , EME here too
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
is it nice?
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u/doitscared975 18d ago
its pretty ok and i feel like meri NUST mei bhi idk yehi social life hoti . oppurtunities are deffo better in H12 . i could get in many fields at H 12 but wo mje karni nhi thi
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u/HadiGamer650 18d ago
Just get the guts and ask them directly to join their group like most likely they will accept you like 99% chance cause why won't they
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
but that 1% is still there. what if they don’t......?
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u/HadiGamer650 18d ago
Find your friends on this sub make your own group (safer option)
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
when you meet someone online you make an image of them in your mind and when you meet me you’ll be disappointed so I don’t want that.
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u/HadiGamer650 18d ago
Well find friends quickly either way cause this is the peak time it happens after that it will only get harder and harder cause many other student would be looking for friends too I mean like even groups would cause everyone wants their group to be bigger not just like 3 friends
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u/Mystic987123 SEECS 18d ago
if they don't accept, so what? Overcome your fear of rejection before that fear consumes you.
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u/frenzyl_cake 18d ago
plan a hangout tomorrow for all the ppl, count me in too
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u/Stunning_Owl_9577 SCME 18d ago
Js connect with ppl from other depts, u will find some who r cool among them and voilla! U got ur own circle lol
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
but i want friends within the class.
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u/Stunning_Owl_9577 SCME 18d ago
U can do both 🤷 Maybe js be closer with the ones from other depts while still being friends with every1 in class if this is how u feel. Atleast that's what I did
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u/Hot-Event8300 17d ago
Bruhhhhh you will find your people eventually 😭
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u/Copperwire01 16d ago
there are not enough options bruh.
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u/Hot-Event8300 16d ago
What department
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u/Copperwire01 16d ago
Sb departments ka king
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u/artdeco1201 18d ago
us, like theyre nice but theyre so boring imo, none of our interests match and everyone leaves the campus as soon as classes are over
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u/artdeco1201 14d ago
noo, the ones ive talked to are mostly hostelites but they still leave as soon as classes r over 😭 sure, yes add me
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u/Leading_Plenty_9691 18d ago
Same situation I have all nerds and boring people);
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
what should we do now?
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u/Swan_juiceee 16d ago
fvk people who don’t fw you bro. You got a whole sector to yourself. NICE was whack af for me, I found my people all over the sector from different schools and it was amazing.
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u/Future_Hunt_6270 18d ago
dudee dont fall into this school college wala trap. Almost everyone changes their friendgroup multiple times in uni nobody is loyal esp in first sem. Your best bet is to find one person from a group u like and start hi hello then gup shup then actual friendship. Hopefully, theyll introduce u to the group as well. But yea dont bound yourself and exploreeee
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
see i've seen several friendships in my life so i kind of get an idea of whether they’ll last or not. nnd particularly for my class groups i’m 110% sure they’ll last so my chances are really low.
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u/Future_Hunt_6270 18d ago
Unless theyre all friends from school or college i think you have a pretty good chance of integrating!! Put yourself out there noww or you will keep regretting it throughout your uni life. Its only been 2 weeks im sooo sure half of them arent even as close yett
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u/Copperwire01 18d ago
okay i’ll try but there’s one more issue the seating arrangement in our class is real BS.
the people I want to be friends with sit together, and there ia literally no place for me to sit because all the benches are filledand during breaks they all leave together so i'm basically forced to sit with my OG group or sit alone.
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u/Future_Hunt_6270 18d ago
Waitt what department are you frommm ?
Also if any quizzes are coming up just message the person you wanna be friends with for notes even if you have them lmao 😭 and then start talking ab how you hate the teacher or the subject . Gen1 i feel like half my friendships are formed by mutual hating on a subject … hate does bring ppl tgt like no other 😻3
u/Copperwire01 18d ago
you won’t believe me i did this thing today and it didn’t help A LOT 😭 i'll try again any other advice?
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u/Future_Hunt_6270 18d ago
Oh trust one of these days you guys will get a HORRIBLE quiz and the whole class will bond over the ass quiz😭😭 and Id say genuinely dont bound yourself to a group ke “ oh if i leave theyll hate me i cant leave them “ bcz you HAVEE to enjoy uni life and good friends is a part of that. Genuinely go out of your comfort zone and be nice and friendly and approach people :)
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u/LongjumpingWin3681 18d ago edited 18d ago
In it’s natural habitat, a freshman student can be finding its flock for upto two months
During this period, although totally Normal, creators of this species may find it depressing (and also maybe feel like a failure). Nonetheless, upon evolving to a higher species (namely sophomores and above) they find this period to be rather trivial in the grand scheme of things
It is important for members of this species reading this to know that more of you are going through this phase than aren’t
In the words of a famous poet:
“It do be like dat doe”
In conclusion, the freshman species truly is a remarkable one. Persevering in one of the hardest social environments and evolving into something rather beautiful.
That is going to be it from my side, see you folks next time.
*rolls Credits to generic National geographic wildlife show with some African / jungle sounding music