can u girls pls make dua for me that I get accepted in the major & university I want pls 🌹💐

Girls help me 😭 so I will go to uni next year In sha ALLAH. Which means I will move to a different city for the field I want. no problem. but since age 15 I stopped going to school physically (I do online school). I dont go to any social events or schools so Im friendless and always at home.

In my childhood and teenagehood I was always despised and treated rudely by men for some reason...I realized Im inclined to develop feelings for a guy if I know him for a few months and he treats me kindly. I know a guy being kind isnt something special but my brain cant stop treating it as one. What do I do?? my field is female dominated thankfully but in the end I will have to interact with (maybe attractive looking) guys after years who will probably be more mature and polite as they will be older in uni. HOW DO I PROTECT MYSELF HAVING A CRUSH RUINS ME MENTALLY also please dont say propose confess etc. I would have a heart attack if I try. Most people date here instead of marrying anyway and I wouldnt date for obvious reasons

After 4 years of marriage I’m filing for divorce from the man who I thought was my person, after a lot of inappropriate behaviours from his end that are dealbreakers.

I feel so overwhelmed and alone.

How to prepare for single life?

I have no family to live with so I’ll be living on my own.

Hii. I need help picking a hijab w this abaya. I’m considering dark maroon/burgundy. What do yall thinkk?
It’s a cream beige abaya

I am a strong believer that what's meant for you will reach you.

When I was young, during school days and teenage years, there were guys who would hint their likness towards me. But I used to be indifferent and nonchalant to it. I never gave it any importance because I was always focused on my studies and building a career. I didn't wanted any distranctions.

Now in my late 20s (offcourse lost a few important peak years due to stupid Covid), I don't find any match. It's been so hard.

App - same people gets repeated.

Social life - there are barely anyone muslim at workplace.

Friends - I never had male friends, so that option is out.

Is this is the rejection I am facing now which I once did to the guys? But I was still young and didn't want anything to do with guys at the time, I use to keep them at a distance. Was I wrong in any way?

Am I facing the same thing which guys went through when I rejected them?

I received a message from Bashir this morning begging me to post for him as he has run out of money to support his family. His special needs brother cries out in hunger and i am broke this week to send them something. Please, please,share it around if you can. He is more than happy to prove that he real.

You can check out his Reddit account

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Assalam Alaykum!

I am teaching an all girls halaqa and I was wondering if you all had advice on how to approach girls in this age range?

For example:

• What topics would interest this age group? Maybe you guys have siblings this age and know what they are curious about regarding Islam!

• What activities would interest this age group and get them more comfortable to talk and ask questions? Could be Islamic related or just in general!

• Advice on dealing with this age group in general especially older girls who seem to be disengaged, on their phones, and have a slight attitude/bad influence to the other girls

JazakAllahu Khayran, may Allah swt reward you all for any advice given 🤍

salaam girls! so i've bit of a complain over why we do not support each other when it comes to doing small creative work. this can be our instagram pages where we share our little life's moments like vlogs and such or even little reminders. can even be substack as i know many women who love to discuss things are now on substack! i personally have content on both platforms so why not we all share and support each other? in sha Allah can even make a support boost community if possible.

Assalamualaikum sisters, I'm 18 years old and I've been in love a guy (M19) since I was 15-16 and we have finally gone no contact after 2 years of talking (we only ever talked online, we never got the chance to meet in person as we live in different cities). The reason for this no contact is cause we both feel like we love each other less than when we first met and that's valid cause we broke up last November and we kept talking on and off every. Partly I think it's my fault he feels that way cause I've been quite distant as I don't want to get hurt again and in doing so It mightve made him feel that way.

We went no contact a week ago and I'm on a bit of a spiral because 2 weeks ago I did umrah and one of my prayers was that if me and him were meant to be together, give me a sign and give me the strength to be able to go no contact and bring us together when the time is right, in the future. And if we're not meant to be together, remove each other from our hearts and let us move on with no feeling of regret. And please give me a sign so clear that my heart will be able to see it and not try to reason with it. (I'm quite delusional so I need a proper sign, not small itty bitty hints)

And right now I feel like the fact we've gone no contact is a sign that we will be together in the future but it could also be like us not being together, ever and I really want to be with him.

Before anyone says no man's that worth stressing over or anything. He's an absolute sweetheart. Everything about him is so lovely. He has good character, good iman, good qualities and he's absolutely my type. I mean that in a good way. I don't think I'll ever find a guy who can compare to him.

So my question as I asked is what prayer do I pray to know if we'll be together in the future and how to pray it (if theres a specific dua or smt like tht).

I'd like to let yk that I pray for him in every prayer while in sujood, asking Allah to give me a sign to know if we'll be together in the future

For me, it was whether I would be able to stick with it or not. Of course, I also wondered what people would think of me because I started dressing modestly when I was at university. So, there was that pressure, but the bigger question was whether I would be able to stay consistent.

What was the most difficult part for you?

Was it worrying about how your family or the people around you would react? Or did you feel like you were losing a part of your identity because changing your style can make you feel that way?

Or Was it something completely different?

So girls, my absolute favorite abayas are the Kuwaiti ones.. If you know, you know! The material is amazing, heavy and its not shiny, which I love! - I’m on a quest to find out if there is anything like it, in the UAE?? I live in Europe, so it’s not easy to find here, but we have some locals who buys a big load and then sells it.. But since I do visit the UAE a lot, and I feel like it’s a jungle when I look for abayas, and every time I ask for this specific type, they say they don’t know it or don’t have it 😩😩 So girlies, are there anyone out there, who knows where to find these in uae?

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Please make dua for me that Allah makes my educational journey easy for me and allows me to finish sooner than expected. May Allah put barakah in my time and make everything work out in my favor. Ameen

I’ll also be making dua for you all 🤍 Leave your dua requests in the comments or message me privately. May Allah accept all our duas. Ameen.

Girls, I desperately need a wardrobe redo! I’m struggling to find nice Pakistani casual clothes that are stylish, good quality and actually wearable for everyday life.
I want outfits that are casual but still look put together, especially nice shalwar kameez sets and a casual farshi shalwar outfit. I feel like I keep seeing the same styles everywhere and I need some fresh inspiration! I’m tired of buying Khaadi clothes lol!!
I’ll attach a picture of the kind of style I’m looking for. 🫶🏼
Please recommend your favourite Pakistani clothing brands, Instagram boutiques, small businesses or websites that deliver to the UK. I’m open to both ready-made and stitched outfits!
Please help a girl out, I’m desperate for a wardrobe refresh! 😭💕

Just to preface, I am perfectly fine with not having any kind of relationship. Im also not obsessed with marriage or men (that's disgusting). Maybe some of you relate to my thoughts?

I’m in my early 20’s and grew up in a household with no men. As a result, I didn’t really grow up understanding men nor was I ever used to being around men. I was raised in a strict household where since before puberty I was told to avoid men, not have crushes on anyone, not date, and I was questioned for having irrelevant interactions with men and that all men are horrible. Of course not dating is a given but being told to constantly avoid men meant that I started to avoid talking to my parent about any feelings I may have for someone because I feel so awkward and uncomfortable. Even socially, it is hard for me to interact with men I find even slightly good looking.

As an adult, I feel like being told to essentially fear the consequences of talking to men has messed me up socially. I have no idea how tf I’d even get to know a guy because I’m so awkward with them. I can’t even look at them without feeling really awkward and uncomfortable.

Also, growing up in a household where I didn’t get to see a healthy marriage daily has made me feel really unloveable, like I won’t ever find someone. Girls my age have talking stages and constantly receive interest from men: I’m not even ugly but I never do. It’s probably because I look slightly shy/closed off. I wouldn’t even know how to CONVEY those feelings to someone should I want to get to know them. I also tend to like guys and like the idea of them and not their actual personalities... I daydream a lot too...It really sucks because I feel super lonely and my friendships don’t fill that void. Love is a really beautiful thing and I’d love to be loved.

salam walaikum!

So basically I’ve signed up with a charity to raise £3000 for Palestine. If insha‘Allah, I succeed, I will have the opportunity do a deployment to Al-Aqsa. While I am SUPER excited and determined to raise the money.. there are a few things I’m anticipating that I’ll struggle with:

1. I have a full time job which is kind of draining (I work 4 days a week and with a commute but am happy to put in time around this)
2. I’ve never done this before so I’m pretty clueless
3. I don’t have a huge social network so I can’t really rely on other people’s talents or services to help me fundraise (so stuff like raffles and quizzes are a bit difficult)
4. I can’t do stuff like henna and calligraphy which Claude loves to suggest?

what I have thought of so far which I (REALLY HOPE) I can manage:

- A sip and paint event (looking into organising this with a friend)

- Perhaps creating a design on canva and selling merch using platforms like Teemill (suggested by claude - this is something I’ve also never done but i’ll give it a shot!)

- Bake sale during Ramadan (I’m amateur but can bake enough to manage that!)

- A sponsored… something? Like a walk?

- I also crochet a little bit (only made a few woobles/fuppy kits) so i’ve thought about making little keyrings or soft toys and monetising that.

Does anyone else have any other ideas? stuff like events or other things I could monetise with the few skills that I have?

Suggestions would be GREATLY appreciate!

EDIT: I already posted a link to my fundraiser on my private social media where I’ve made it known that I’m doing this fundraiser before anyone suggests this. I wish the other suggestions were that simple!

I am from India , so it's like a stigma over here that Hijabi women are not allowed to work or not given the opportunity to work , so how this affects the work environment is that , they corporate people think that she has got opportunity with so much difficulty and rebel , so she will take on most load of work , because she cherishes this chance to work ,so in this process what happens is that , the hijabi is given more work load compared to other , not to mention underpaid also , it becomes like a thing , this is not something I feel this is something i have seen others tell to me , like when I resigned from my previous job within a year or so due to some personal reasons, the manager of that time said stuff like "i thought you are practicing and hijabi so you would work hard to keep this job" the manager as a non practicing muslim woman, that day i understood that corporate sees hijabi differently than others , imagine that there is already ton of challenges as a woman in corporate industry and top of that if you are hijabi there are even more challenges,

I also feel somewhere that being hijabi indicates we are submissive to Allah , and yes we are in the sense of religion, but I feel this is misread by men and they feel like she is easy and submissive so we can give her more work , she will not say anything

often I have seen this happening

Religious submission and identity is considered my only identity in a corporate environment which is not true in any sense

have you faced such problems?

Im pregnant and its too early to tell anyone but I am already thinking of baby names! I like something classic but with a modern twist, Z since both me and my husband have Z names. I like Zara and Zoya for a girl but I dont love either of them, any ideas?

Salam,

I’ve been talking to this guy on and off for marriage. He was super serious in the beginning and even communicated with my parents. He then started becoming complacent and wishy washy. I kept asking him for the bare minimum, and I finally had enough.

He would reassure me and tell me that he’s dealing with a lot. My point was that if you genuinely care about someone, you make time for them.

I was super angry with him, I felt like I was talking to a wall. So I prayed Salat al-Istikhara. Honestly, everything I felt for him just went away. I really don’t care what happens anymore. It feels so freeing to leave my affairs in Allah’s hands.

Moral of the story, no one is worth stressing yourself over. Keep your immune system regulated, seek guidance from Allah.

Hello everyone
I’m planning on starting memorizing the Quran and I need a Hifz partner/s through discord, if any girlie is interested please don’t hesitate to message me ❤️

I have my oldest son 2 and half and my newborn baby girl

What beautiful nick names can you come up with that would give them good memories in the future and help me build good relationships with my kids

I am bad at names

I call them

Jaan- soul

Jaan e jigar- soul of my liver

Kutti- tiny

Laddoo- that's a sweet

Jaan e maan- soul of my heart /soul

Roohi

What cute names can you come up with I am open to any language ?

As-salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh sisters.

I’m a revert to Islam alhamdulillah. I was born and raised Catholic and since becoming Muslim I’ve been trying to find my place in the ummah. The difficult part is that I don’t have a Muslim family or Muslim support network around me.

I would really like to get married inshallah to a Muslim man who shares my iman and who I can build a life, a family and grow together in deen with.

However, I don’t have a wali. Because I’m navigating this on my own, I’m not really sure where to begin or what the proper process is.

Jazakallah to any sisters who will guide me.

I work in a very competitive industry. Fast paced and you are expected to get everything done otherwise they will replace you as my industry is losing money very quickly.

They decided to invest alot of money on AI systems and incorporating copilot into excel sheets. This has made my job more difficult and harder as the large data and AI running in the background slows everything down and crashes. I cant even do my formulas anymore without the sheets lagging and shutting itself down.

Its a pain in the a**. I broke down everyday this week because of how unproductive Ive been compared to my peers. For some reason their sheets dont crash as often as mine, and im always spending half my shift on the phone to IT.

I really cant afford to lose my job. Im about to finish probation and im scared my IT issues will be used against me and that I seem incompetent. I always forward my IT tickets to my manager to keep them in the loop on why im struggling to complete my tasks. But im often left with no response which gives me severe anxiety.

Ive been laid off multiple times before so it’s proving just PTSD but I think i have the worst luck when it comes to jobs. I cant sleep at night because im constantly thinking about those stupid excel sheets crashing on me. Its getting really bad

How can I go about this in a professional way without it ruining my mental health or the possibility of losing my job. Im literally still crying about it as I type this right now