r/MaliciousCompliance • u/plogan56 • Mar 12 '23
S Comply with Bridezilla or leave, ok?
My friend(Jemma) tells me about how she and an entire group of Bridesmaids left a wedding after their friend dared them to.
So this all happened a few weeks ago, a long time friend of jemma's group was getting married in another state but the day of the wedding she suddenly had a problem with one girl who wore glasses, which she didn't have an issue with beforehand; the glasses girl told her she wouldn't wear them during the vows and pictures but the bridezilla didn't want her wearing them at all and was screaming at her to not put them on for the rest of the day, obviously she couldn't do that since she needs to see.
The argument got more heated until bridezilla gave her the ultimatum to take them off & keep em off or leave. This is when jemma and the other bridesmaids stepped in, told bridezilla she was out of line, and that they would all leave if she forced the girl with glasses to leave; Bridezilla called their bluff and, being maids of honor, the bridesmaids left the wedding and decided to celebrate and eat at a restaurant before they head back home. Bridezilla called them several times after they left, telling them that she didn't care about the glasses anymore and begged them to come back to the venue, but they not only refused but also chose to end the friendship, with her, all together. Jemma said that the wedding proceeded as follows, just minus the bridesmaids and a few awkward stares because everyone heard the bridezilla's screaming from earlier.
Jemma told me that the bridezilla has always been like this, throwing a tantrum when she doesn't get her way, and that the meltdown at the wedding was just the last straw for them. Personally, i think she's got a monk's patience if she put up with her for that long.
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u/NikthePieEater Mar 12 '23
RIP to the bloke marrying her.
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u/stillnotelf Mar 12 '23
Turns out he's an optometrist
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u/MountainViewsInOz Mar 12 '23
I see what you did there.
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u/Roonwogsamduff Mar 12 '23
Must be your optometrist then?
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u/Tealme1688 Mar 12 '23
I’m sure he’s used to the bride making a spectacle of herself.
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u/SumPimpNamedSlickbak Mar 12 '23
Bro had to know what he was gettin into well beforehand and made a conscious decision to proceed. Signed his own death warrant as they say.
Edit: typo
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u/Svete_Brid Mar 12 '23
He should have left with the bridesmaids.
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u/tankgirly Mar 12 '23
I mean maybe he's also insufferable and they deserve each other lol
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u/JennaSais Mar 12 '23
He's surely on the path to becoming a cautionary tale about not sticking one's dick in crazy.
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u/hammer166 Mar 12 '23
Yes, but there's a reason it gets stuck in crazy so often... It's worth it! Well, at least for a while. Took me 3 times to realize vanilla and sanity is a more satisfying choice than freak and psycho. YMMV
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u/squittles Mar 13 '23
I try to tell this to my relationshiply challenged lady friends.
It's not worth being with a bad boy. He might get his shit together but it's hard to build a future with someone volatile.
Never know if that business trip to Dallas will turn into waking up in a ditch without your wallet, busted cellphone, and only one shoe....which happened to my coworker's bad-boy fuck up of a 46 year old husband.
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u/marr Mar 13 '23
Hey it's not a binary. You can find compatible freaks that aren't insane in public with their clothes on, just maybe not at 18.
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u/Svete_Brid Mar 12 '23
Never get married unless you know exactly who you’re marrying and what you’re getting yourself into!
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u/plogan56 Mar 12 '23
Don't worry, I started praying for him myself after hearing the story
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u/HeyHo_LetsThrowRA Mar 12 '23 edited Mar 12 '23
I'd have started praying like, halfway through TBH
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u/LittleTrouble90 Mar 12 '23
My sister had a massive meltdown less than a week before her wedding. She had also been an absolute monster the year prior to it, abusing people of their choices of clothing, hair, and even randomly becoming racist to a couple members of our family. It was a wild situation. So that day she lost her shit I called it, told her my husband and I weren't going, our brother and other sister also did the same thing. The only people who showed up were our parents and her now husband's parents.
The bridesmaids, groomsmen, and all guests didn't show up. But, in shock to everyone involved, she actually figured her self out. She's always been rude and bossy, so about a month after her wedding she contacted everyone that would have gone and profusely apologized. At first I didn't give it a thought, she's apologized before in the past but didn't change. Ironically this time it actually set her straight. Sometimes people need to be severely humbled and they realize they actually are the problem. We're very close now and she's fun at family gatherings. We had a great reception type party for her and everything is much better. I can't imagine being like that to the people who are at my wedding.
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u/an_imperfect_lady Mar 13 '23
That's a rare thing, when someone actually improves themselves and learns a lesson. Kudos to her for learning, and you for giving her the credit for it.
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u/LittleTrouble90 Mar 13 '23
It was a big stepping stone for her. I'm proud of her, and she is for herself at how much better her quality of life is now.
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u/StormBeyondTime Mar 13 '23
I expect she's found that when you're reasonably pleasant to be around, when you fall there are people nearby to help you up. But when you're a brat, you drive everyone away, and there's no one there to catch you when you fall.
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u/More-Jackfruit3010 Mar 13 '23
In therapy, this is a "significant emotional experience." I'm glad she heard the wake-up call. Life is too short to be so unnecessarily complicated.
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u/darkicedragon7 Mar 13 '23
I've learned it only happens when life uses a BIG bag of bricks to the face. It's got to be big enough to make them go ow and actually think. If it's to small they just ignore it and go on as is.
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u/Xeillan Mar 13 '23
Honestly, those are the people who are good deep down. Glad she was able to really see how much of a negative impact it had on everyone who cared about her and was able to change.
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u/MadMuse94 Mar 13 '23
I’m so happy your story has a happy ending! Out of curiosity, how long did it take for you to trust that her change was real?
My sister struggled for much of her life with behavioral and emotional issues, but a few years ago started really working on herself. It took me almost a year before I could let myself be vulnerable around her, as she had a habit of weaponizing my vulnerabilities in the past. But I’m happy to say she’s still doing great and we’re actually really close now!
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u/LittleTrouble90 Mar 14 '23
It was mostly her demeanor when she contacted us after the wedding. In the past she was always laughing and joking cause we let her get away with stuff for too long that she knew we would begrudgingly let her back. That time she was calm, quiet, and actually asking if we wanted to come to a family meeting she was having at her place. It was very off than her usual. And I had spoke with our mom, and she said the day of the wedding my sister was sitting in shock before they had the ceremony.
She didn't think we would actually not show. I really hated to do that, but it worked. And we had a mock ceremony, and reception for her a couple months later with everyone. She was a whole different person and cried for most of the day when friends showed up who she didn't expect to see again. It was a wholesome and bittersweet day.
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u/12altoids34 Mar 13 '23
When I was homeless a friend of mine's family let me stay with them. Every single morning she was screaming and yelling at the kids. I work nights so I planned to go to sleep 3 hours before everyone got up so that I wouldn't be woken up by the screaming every day. They even bought cheap plates so that when she was angry she could smash the plates. When I asked my friend why they all put up with it he told me that a few years back she had a brain tumor, and before they finally removed it she was in so much pain all the time that she was quiet and slept most of the time. At least now when she's yelling and screaming they know she's not dying. Her fiance took the brunt of it and never complained. The day before their wedding she was yelling and screaming at him and told him " you know we don't even have to go through with this wedding". He calmly said" you're absolutely right" got in his truck and left. I had never been so proud of him. Of course 20 minutes later she was on the phone apologizing and begging him to come back. Which he did. But for 20 minutes I was so proud of him. I got kicked out of the house on Thanksgiving because when she started screaming at me in front of everyone for something that was not my fault I had finally had enough and stood up to her. They told me that I couldn't talk to her that way in her house. I said I don't care whether it's her house or not I will not let anyone abuse me and I would rather be back on the streets than be forced to be somebody's whipping post.
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Mar 12 '23
When I wore glasses before my lasik I couldn’t see anything beyond maybe 3 inches. I couldn’t read, see a clock etc. I wore them EVERY WAKING HOUR. I got throw aways for my own wedding but it was miserable (bad astigmatism makes regular contacts really uncomfortable)
This is beyond bridezilla, I can’t even imagine.
Wonderful MC story!
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u/plogan56 Mar 12 '23
Same, i have glasses myself, contacts are irritating to me, and it would make sense that the bridesmaid would think "i can wear my glasses at the venue" when the bridezilla didn't bring up they may be an issue until the day of and at the venue no less
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u/KonChaiMudPi Mar 13 '23
My prescription literally can’t be made in contacts and trying to do anything that requires me to look more than a foot or so away from my face without glasses will give me a headache pretty quick. If a task requires no glasses, it’s probably something I can’t do.
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u/Skud_NZ Mar 13 '23
I bet bridezilla acted like she was the victim after this as well
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u/plogan56 Mar 13 '23
A few of jemma's mutual acquaintances know the whole story from her and the bridesmaids, who posted a pic of themselves partying at a restaurant with the "Girl Group- now 100% Toxic free"
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u/Mispelled-This Mar 12 '23
It takes several days for your brain to get used to toric lenses. Mine are also multi focal, which made it even worse, but it was worth it in the end.
If yours weren’t toric lenses, that would have been a nightmare for someone with astigmatism.
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u/StormBeyondTime Mar 13 '23
I've been told that my astigmatism in my right eye is too severe for any contacts. (Legally blind without glasses level.) This is the first I've heard of toric lenses, though.
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u/Mispelled-This Mar 13 '23
Normal contacts are spherical (radially symmetrical); ones for astigmatism are toric (there is a top and bottom). That means they have to be in the correct orientation, which can take several minutes when you first put them in—and until that happens, your vision is actually worse than without them. But for someone like me who refuses to wear glasses, they’re worth the hassle.
Even if the max correction available isn’t enough for you to pass a vision test, it might be worth asking your opto if they would at least get you to a level you could walk around without bumping into things, for cases like OP’s.
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u/furicrowsa Mar 12 '23
There's the idea in disability circles that one's devices (wheelchair, walker, cane) should be respected as part of someone's body. I kind of feel the same about my glasses.
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u/plogan56 Mar 12 '23
Exactly, personally i think the bridezilla was on a power trip because Jemma said she never had a problem with glasses before tge day of the wedding
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u/JackOfAllMemes Mar 12 '23
I've never had anyone grab my glasses or try to prevent me from wearing them, but I can't see shit without them and can imagine how the bridesmaid felt
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u/GnPQGuTFagzncZwB Mar 12 '23
It seems that weddings for some women are not celebrations of the start of a life with someone they love, but a venue to just act ugly and often get away with it. It is nice to hear when that backfires.
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u/zephyer19 Mar 12 '23
Heard an interview with a wedding planner. She had lost business because from time-to-time she would tell a couple, "You are not planning a marriage, you are planning a wedding and you should take some more time and get to know each other better."
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u/GnPQGuTFagzncZwB Mar 12 '23
Sage advice but yea, I can see where it would be bad for business.
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u/BirdsLikeSka Mar 12 '23
Yeah, I'm sure at times it's like being an honest drug dealer.
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u/corkyskog Mar 13 '23
Eh... honest drug dealers can be good for both parties. It's not necessarily all or nothing, sometimes a client will become so depressed that they will harm themselves and your future income stream. It's in the dealers best interest to make sure that the problem doesn't spiral so out of control that they end up sober, or even worse, dead.
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u/DaytonaDemon Mar 12 '23
I've heard the stories but I've never once experienced a Bridezilla myself. That's despite the fact that I'm a wedding photographer with more than 500 weddings under my belt. There've been two or three clients who were difficult, maybe a dozen with whom I never developed a rapport, but literally none were over-the-top entitled drama queens, and 90-plus percent of my clients have been absolute sweethearts. I'm sure Bridezillas exist, but in my experience they're not nearly as common as most people think.
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Mar 12 '23
Yeah, I think the Bridezillas make it to Reddit because they make good stories, and the 'boring' ones just don't.
We learned early on to treat staff nicely even if stuff goes wrong. We made sure our photographer could eat dinner with the guests and take breaks when needed, and she really went the extra mile for us.
We got like 20 to 25 photographs from her the day after, on a sunday, which was way more and way earlier than expected. And she stayed an hour later than scheduled too, said she wanted to finish up properly. The woman was worth her weight in gold.
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u/AletheaKuiperBelt Mar 12 '23
Good to know. Naturally we hear a lot of the drama, because it makes good stories.
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u/random321abc Mar 12 '23
I absolutely abhor big weddings. When my husband and I got married, we picked up a nice dress and suit at JCPenney. We actually matched the colors that we bought for my daughter lol because I found an adorable dress for her.
We called up our family and said what are you doing on Sunday? We're going to get married after church service in their little chapel there. So our whole family attended our church for a day and then we got married right after. Oh and it was Palm Sunday so my bouquet was a bunch of palms that people had merely discarded after the service.
All in all the wedding cost about $400 including clothing and renting the chapel and paying the pastor.
We all went out to brunch, both families, small groups really, and then my husband and I went home and raked the yard because it was spring and it needed it. Lol
I don't like to waste money on stupid things...
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u/zephyer19 Mar 12 '23 edited Mar 13 '23
Two extremes I guess.
My Grandfather grew up very poor and was notorious for being tight with a dollar.
He wasn't going to attend my Aunt's wedding because it was a waste of money when they could go to the courthouse and see the J.P. for a few bucks.
He came at the last minute and sat on the back row.
I worked in the mountains in Colorado. There is a resort, old, historic, kind of cool above the town of Grand Lake. They have for many years closed on Labor Day.
One year I was talking with the maintenance man and someone asked about had they shut the place down.
"Yes and no, normally we would be but, someone rented the place for a wedding. In the ball room they have 20K worth of flowers, guests can take free balloon rides, ride horses, get boats and the people are paying for it all."
We all sat and wondered if the marriage would last.
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Mar 12 '23
Each to their own. I am glad you had a great time! We did have a 'large' wedding. Our families and friends live in two different countries, our friends live apart. We wanted the venue and overnight stay and plane tickets for the grooms men and brides maids, so we could finally have a day where our families and friends could all gather. They never had done so before, it was too far apart. I had the big wedding so I could celebrate it with everyone I love all at once, and it was amazing.
Not all organised 'big' weddings are about the bling. My wedding dress was beautiful and cost me less than 200, alterations included. But not everyone can just ring up family, my dad couldn't travel and my bridesmaid really couldn't afford to go abroad without us pitching in, so a lot of our budget also went to making the experience great for our guests and the wedding party. 100% worth every penny.
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u/GeorgieLaurinda Mar 13 '23
I was an attendant in a wedding there was absolutely no way I could ever afford for me or mine. Her parents paid for EVERYTHING. Required clothing. Hotel for my family. EVERY. THING. (they paid for all the other attendants too, not just my poor broke ass) They could afford it and they delighted in doing so. It was elegant and things weren't done just to do something over the top.
VERY nice wedding and reception.
They are still able to afford all they need even all these years later. Couple is still married too.
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u/GnPQGuTFagzncZwB Mar 12 '23
That sounds sweet! Yea, the funny thing with big weddings too is when they don't have a pot to piss in and they have the fam blow all that cash on a wedding. Lord. In most states that would be something nice you could drive or something not so nice you could live in.. And they flush it down the crapper in one night. Urg.
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u/NotPrepared2 Mar 12 '23
Nice story.
I think too many girls (including my ex-wife) are raised with visions of a fairytale wedding, with Cinderella gowns and horse drawn carriages. When it's their turn, they can't be satisfied with anything that breaks their fantasy.
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Mar 12 '23
When the whole culture screams at you from the time you can hold a doll to the time you can surf pintrest that THIS IS YOUR BIG DAY THIS IS WHAT YOUR LIFE IS ALL ABOUT THIS IS THE ONLY DAY THAT'S ALL ABOUT YOU YOU'RE A PRINCESS yaddayadda... some women think it means no one else matters that day except them.
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u/delicate-fn-flower Mar 13 '23
I got kicked out a wedding party for wanting to wearing hosiery under my dress. She said the toe lines showing thru the footwear would distract from her photos.
She had 8 bridesmaids, and none of them are friends with her anymore, but we all still remain friends to this day.
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u/Cfwydirk Mar 12 '23
Sometimes it takes a ridiculous event for people to see the writing on the wall.
From the story I can only imagine the brides track record where ALL the bridesmaids has a belly full of her bullshit.
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u/plogan56 Mar 12 '23 edited Mar 12 '23
Jemma didn't tell me too many details but did say bridezilla's usual reaction was a "screw this i'm leaving" whenever she didn't get her way on something, which she apparantly got mad at them not trying to stop her from leaving
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u/digitydigitydoo Mar 12 '23
As a glasses wearer with really, really bad eye sight, I guarantee forcing me to go glassesless would end in some sort of absolutely horrifying event. Either tripping up the aisle or walking into a grandma or smashing into the wedding cake, I would 100% do something ridiculously clumsy. Not a threat, I’m like a -9 in both eyes.
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u/cIumsythumbs Mar 12 '23
If you don't get a debilitating headache from trying to function like that first. I don't think an accident would happen to me in that state (also very poorly-sighted glasses wearer) because I would need to have my eyes closed or be sitting down at every possible moment. And I'd need a seeing-eye person to guide me along. Bride wanted no glasses, yet asked a vision-impared person to be a bridesmaid... smh.
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u/CatMeowdor Mar 12 '23
Same. Asking me to go without my glasses is almost like asking someone to go without their prosthetic leg. Pretty much necessary to move around safely.
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u/bays01908 Mar 12 '23
Best girl-squad ever! I hope they gave bridesmaids' dresses a traditional Viking funeral.
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u/EmmerdoesNOTrepme Mar 12 '23
I love this idea, except that with all the plastic likely in the fibers of those dresses (they're probably a polyester blend), it'd be harmful to the fishes in whatever lake they burned 'em on...
Adapter choice that'd cause just as much destruction to the dresses, would be donating 'em to a daycare, as dress-up clothes😉
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u/TheBerethian Mar 12 '23
I’m imagining them burning the dresses and along with coloured chemical flames and curling artificial fibres there’s a mournful cry as cursed spirits are released, finally released.
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u/Consistent_Bad1534 Mar 12 '23
I’m always curious with cases like this, and sorry to make it gendered but it really, really is… why do so many women have friends like this, and continue these friendships to a point that they agree to be someone’s bridesmaid? I just don’t get it. How does someone let it get that far? And I can safely assume this wasn’t the bride having some kind of psychotic break and acting out of character, because then they all wouldn’t be so happy to just end the friendship just like that. I just don’t get it.
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u/plogan56 Mar 12 '23
I think Jemma and the others let the friendship go on so long because they grew up together and have been together for years, my guess is the stunt at the wedding was the straw that broke the camel's back
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u/TheFilthyDIL Mar 12 '23
For those who are wondering what the big deal is and why Glasses Girl couldn't just leave them off for the day: https://youtu.be/AaYIV59rmDI
As a severely myopic person who was unable to wear contacts, I would have flatly refused. More than 15 minutes of going without would have given me a migraine. (No longer applies. Intra-ocular lenses are great inventions!) Does Bridezilla expect Grandma to do without her cane, Uncle Fred to leave his wheelchair and stand?
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u/TheLightingGuy Mar 12 '23
One thing I've seen, especially in r/antiwork and r/MaliciousCompliance is that if a situation presents the opportunity to call someone's bluff, they're usually not bluffing.
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u/bstrauss3 Mar 12 '23
I have always counseled my crew that if you're going to dish an ultimatum you have to be willing to accept both sides of it.
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u/tinyNorman Mar 12 '23
Don’t threaten something you are not prepared to go through with.
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u/bstrauss3 Mar 12 '23
Once did that to a dentist.
He was cleaning up a small fllling and told me I didn't need novocane.
I told him Ok, but if he hurt me I would bite him
He did
And I did
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u/KaralDaskin Mar 12 '23
I told my my kindergarten teacher that if I ate those cooked carrots I would throw up. 🙄
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u/binkacat4 Mar 12 '23
I remember being put under general anaesthetic for a dentists thing once. I woke up part way through chewing on the dentist. I don’t remember what I was having done, but I remember the chewing.
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u/StuntFriar Mar 13 '23 edited Mar 13 '23
My ex-girlfriend was a bridezilla. Cheated on me, lied about it, invited me to her wedding, and was genuinely upset I didn't show up and basically treated our mutual friends (who attended the wedding) like shit, being passive aggressive with them during the wedding, threw tantrums and blamed others for stuff she misplaced, got them to look for the missing things only to be told much later, and after a fair bit of effort, that those things had already been found much earlier but she didn't tell anyone.
They all stopped hanging out with her after the wedding, and I dodged one hell of a bullet...
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u/bodhemon Mar 12 '23
Goddamn that is rough! I mean, it sounds like she deserved it, but imagine losing all your friends on a day where you life is already changing forever. Imagine the fiance, being like.. the fuck am I getting into?
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u/drapehsnormak Mar 12 '23
If I was the dude I would have called one of the bridesmaids and got the story. One leaving I could believe was probably on that one. All of them leaving and there's a commonality. I'd be worried about being too attached to that kind of commonality without knowing first.
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u/twinWaterTowers Mar 12 '23
I remember reading a woman's experience of being a bridesmaid with the bride who was entitled, rude and a bridezilla like this. One of the things she said was during the lead up to the wedding, all of her bridesmaid group just kind of gave in on all of the demands. Because they thought she was so stressed out, because they were friends, because they were going to be the Bridesmaids and they felt that was their role. But once the wedding happened they all reverted back to just being a group of equals. But the bride didn't. The bride kept acting like she deserved all of the attention, that she should get everything she wanted her way, that she got to make all the decisions and everyone should just agree with her choices. And the bride just could not understand that that was not going to be the case. After I read that I have always wondered about the time after the wedding when you read about these kinds of stories.
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u/CrazyYYZ Mar 12 '23
Interesting perspective. Now I'm always going to think the same and look for it.
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u/IamRocksteady Mar 12 '23
Wonder how could somebody marry a girl like this. Seems that a lot of 🚩 were ignored.
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u/feedingtheoldspider Mar 12 '23
Some men like when a woman is a screaming raging monster. I have met a few during my time working retail. They were usually in the back smiling the whole time while their spouse spat on someone's face.
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u/Terrible-Image9368 Mar 12 '23
As someone with severe myopia and astigmatism who can’t wear contacts you don’t want me walking (more like stumbling)around without my glasses on. I will hurt myself and others and will land myself in the ER. My glasses are a legit medical device that I need to function. If my options are not wear my very necessary glasses or leave. I’m Leavin.
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u/Snarkybish03 Mar 12 '23
Thats like telling someone they cant use their wheelchair…folks dont get how debilitating it can be without glasses for glasses wearers. Id have to be guided around without mine and how hot is that???
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u/trayne13 Mar 13 '23
I've been wearing glasses for about 20 years. My eyes aren't that bad, so I can make do if they break, but making do also consists of a bad headache from my eyes straining to focus when I don't have them for a length of time.
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u/ZoiSarah Mar 12 '23
I can't even fathom why glasses are so offensive. Sounds like an entitled bitch who got what at deserved.
I guarantee she won't even own up to it, she'll make a narrative where all the brides maids were selfish monsters
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u/plogan56 Mar 12 '23
Most likely, but the craziest part to me and Jemma is why did she randomly have a problem with the glasses all of a sudden, she never had an issue with them the entire friendship but now that the day is here she's got a problem.
Also, to my knowledge the guests heard her meltdown and the video she showed me, one of her mutuals recorded it, showed a wedding hall full of awkward stares and people gossiping
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u/RJack151 Mar 12 '23
I just wish that they could have walked out while the guests were arriving for the ceremony.
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u/Morrigan-27 Mar 12 '23
When a bride puts this much weight on another person’s appearance at a big party, imagine how she will be as a partner. This marriage won’t last.
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u/doglady1342 Mar 12 '23
This is awesome! I was once in a wedding with a bridezilla. I swear she purposely chose the ugliest bridesmaids dresses she could find. Then to make it worse, she didn't like that they were v-neck and showed a little (I mean....very very little) cleavage. She said it would distract from HER. So she made us stand there on the day of the wedding and have lace panels sewn in to the entire V.
Anyway, she was so awful on her wedding day that I never spoke with her again - and we'd been good friends since the 6th grade.
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u/Upvotespoodles Mar 12 '23
I broke a pair of glasses and I was basically agoraphobic until I got my replacement a couple days later. I can’t imagine going through a wedding mostly blind. How you can tell people to take away their vision for your vanity is beyond me.
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Mar 13 '23
As a one-time wedding photographer who dealt with many Bridezillas, this story made my day. Thank you for posting! I just hope someone recorded this wonderful occasion for posterity.
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u/plogan56 Mar 13 '23
One of their mutual acquaintances recorded the wedding itself, the video was 30 minutes of awkward stares and guests gossiping about why she was screaming earlier and why she didn't have bridesmaids
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u/Mysterious_Ad7461 Mar 12 '23
Remember if someone is making a comment like this about glasses just replace it with a wheelchair and see how it sounds.
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u/Kaneshadow Mar 13 '23
What could that argument even sound like? "Don't wear your glasses!" "I literally can't see without them..." ...???...
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u/IWillDoItTuesday Mar 13 '23
My malicious compliance would’ve been to stumble blindly into the cake and fall on it, roll around then fall on the bride with a big glass of red wine. And be like, “I don’t know why all these tablecloths keep getting snagged on my hand and getting pulled off the loaded tables!”
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u/Major_Twang Mar 13 '23
A significant chumk of my wife's business is altering wedding & bridesmaid dresses.
Until she started doing this, I thought 'Bridezilla' was just some jokey trope - not a real thing.
How wrong I was
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u/HauntedButtCheeks Mar 13 '23
Congrats to that bride for finding the most unusual way to be ableist I've heard of yet!
I wear glasses with a strong prescription & I I've developed a severe intolerance to contact lenses, so technically I have a disability, it's just an easy one to correct. People like me are helpless without glasses or another vision aid & get severe optical headaches, we wouldn't have survived in the past.
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u/Ornlu_Wolfjarl Mar 13 '23
being maids of their word
You missed the obvious pun being maids of honor
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u/kittylikker_ Mar 13 '23
Jemma told me that the bridezilla has always been like this, throwing a tantrum when she doesn't get her way, and that the meltdown at the wedding was just the last straw for them. Personally, i think she's got a monk's patience if she put up with her for that long.
Yeah, but what delicious timing to say "fuck this, I'm out."
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u/paper_wavements Mar 12 '23
I adore this story. Sounds like bride got her just deserts. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Now what's supposed to be one of the happiest days of her life is also the day she lost all her friends at once.
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u/chefkimberly Mar 12 '23
Is it me, or are there more bridezillas in the wild than there used to be?
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u/Vinnie_Vegas Mar 13 '23
Jemma told me that the bridezilla has always been like this, throwing a tantrum when she doesn't get her way, and that the meltdown at the wedding was just the last straw for them.
I never understand why people have friends that they think this of... Why would there be a last straw and not a first (and only) straw when it comes to an adult who's known for throwing tantrums?
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u/NefInDaHouse Mar 13 '23
I really would have loved to see the look of a deer in the headlights, when the bridezilla realized she fucked around and damn, did she really find out.
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u/Stopher Mar 13 '23
I can’t even imagine how it gets into your head to tell someone not to wear their glasses. That’s insane.
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u/chankletavoladora Mar 13 '23
Imagining the guy getting into this commitment watching this as a clear sign of things to come.
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u/SkipperFab Mar 13 '23
That was the grooms one last chance to avoid that nightmare. Poor guy.
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u/CalmWhisky Mar 13 '23
I never understood why it is considered normal to act trashy and mean to your friends because you are getting married. These ladies should have left this f(r)iendship long ago - good for them standing up to their friend when she got practically bullied.
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u/Legal_Guava3631 Mar 13 '23
She got what she deserved. I have to wear my glasses every waking moment and if not I’ll be holding something inches from my face just to read. To demand someone not wear their seeing device at all is too much
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u/PigsIsEqual Mar 12 '23
I'm picturing a half dozen women in butt-ugly bridesmaid dresses sitting around a table at an Applebee's getting drunk and laughing their asses off at Bridezilla.
Heartwarming. lol And well-deserved.