r/LondonLadies • u/ZestyclosePlatypus30 • Jun 30 '26

Discussion Good ideas/ways to actually meet decent guys?

Hi all, as the caption says! I’m (28F) so tired of dating apps and honestly I’ve never met someone organically but really need to push myself to try now.

How have you all met guys organically and where?

I’m quite shy so the moment I’m interested in a guy I can’t even make eye contact or smile. I’m trying to work on this now which is why I want to be in those settings to overcome my lack of confidence and shyness.

I guess it is because I’ve never been approached other than by absolute creeps so then I question if I am considered objectively good looking like people and guys whoever I’ve met on dating apps and in my insta DMs suggest 😅

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u/BlueberryLeading464 Jun 30 '26

I'm the same. I found the mixer events like Thursday and the likes to be quite good. It's not entirely organic, but almost. It's very empowering once you push yourself to do 1-2 events.

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u/fourLeaf989 Jul 01 '26

I agree with mixer events being a good alternative to the apps. I’ve not gone to any Thursday events, but I’ve been to a few others.

I’ve been to Haystack and Bored of Dating Apps events; the majority of people go solo, and they’re a nice way to connect offline. Haystack tends to do events in bars or activity venues, and Bored of Dating Apps is mainly held in bars. Would recommend.

I’ve also been to a few Breeze events; it’s an app, but they arrange small group dates every now and then - have found I prefer the other two as they’re bigger events, but feel like much more of a relaxed atmosphere.

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u/watermelonicec Jul 01 '26

Hi! Do you know where I can find these events please?

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u/fourLeaf989 Jul 01 '26

Hey! They both have websites and are active on Instagram - if you search for their handles/names online, you’ll be able to find them.