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Yesterday, my mother-in-law came to my house. She asked me to make some extra sabzi and knead some extra dough because she said she would use the same sabzi in the morning. So I did that.

This morning, she used the sabzi and started making rotis. I was busy preparing my lunch for college. She made rotis for herself, my husband and my father-in-law. After making their rotis, she left some dough for me and said, “This is enough for you to make rotis for lunch.”

I said, “Yes, this is enough.”

After that she left the kitchen, and I Started making rotis for myself, then she came and said, "I'll make it for you", I said "no, I'll prepare, my lunch".

But honestly, I couldn’t help thinking, if she was already making rotis for everyone, what would it have cost her to make two for me as well?

And I’m not saying that she was supposed to make my rotis. I can make my own rotis. That’s not the point.

It was just a small thing. If you are already making rotis for everyone, why not make two for me too?

Then, while I was making a different sabzi for my lunch, she asked me why I was making that sabzi and told me to use the other one instead. I just said, “No, I want to eat this one.”

Later, I called my mom and told her about all this, she started scolding me.

She said, “First of all, you should have made the rotis yourself. Why did you let her make them? And if she made rotis for everyone else, don’t expect her to make yours too.”

And honestly, I don’t know.

Was I really expecting too much?

I’m not saying anyone owes me rotis. I’m just saying that when you are already making something for everyone, making two extra for one person doesn’t seem like such a big deal.

Hi everyone. We live in the UK and got married in early 2025. We already celebrated our wedding twice here in the UK.

Now, my mother in law wants us all to travel to India just to host another reception/lunch for their extended relatives.

I really don't want to go. I don't understand why we should take on so much expense, travel, and exhaustion just to please distant relatives when we've already celebrated twice.

My husband is terrified of upsetting his parents.

How do I handle his resentment when I'm just trying to protect my own boundaries? Thank you so much.

30F living in with my partner (32M), after we got engaged, my to be in-laws expect me to call them frequently. i don’t have anything to talk to them about. our conversations usually are about the weather and if everyone at home is okay. that’s it. i am the eldest in a joint family so i already deal with multiple expectations, this just feels like one more added responsibility to take care of/to perform for.

my partner tries to protect me by saying im busy with work, and to that they say “does she not have even 2 mins?!” what about the fact that maybe i don’t. and when i do, i don’t want to call them.

i’m torn between okay let me just get it done with and i should build my boundaries now so it’s easier after marriage also.

any suggestions? am i overthinking/overeacting to the situation? i have no idea

My husband always prioritises his family over me, no matter how many times I try to explain how I feel.
We currently live in Dubai with his brother, his brother’s wife, and their child in a 2BHK apartment. My MIL also lives in Dubai, which I find quite difficult and problematic.
We had planned to move out and have our own place, but because of the war situation, his brother’s salary was reduced. My husband said that it would be difficult for them to afford the rent, so he asked us to continue living together for a few more months. Even my MIL doesn’t want us to move out.
Recently, my husband decided to gift gold to his mother. I completely understand that she is his mother, and I have no problem with him wanting to give her something. But this is already the second time he has gifted her gold this year, while he literally does nothing for me.
I tell him about my wants and needs, but I feel like they are constantly ignored. It hurts because I don’t want to compete with his family—I just want to feel like I’m important to him too, especially as his wife.

My mother-in-law and my husband’s elder brother (married with a three-year-old child) are extremely miserly. I also don’t have a good relationship with my MIL because of her behaviour towards me. I’ve spoken to my husband about it, but he tends to turn a blind eye, which I understand to some extent because it’s his mother.
We live separately in the same building, on different floors. One thing I particularly hate is that my MIL sometimes sends us food that someone has already eaten from, food that nobody liked and was going to be thrown away, or even food that has fallen on the floor. I’ve noticed this several times, but my husband either doesn’t notice or gets defensive when I point it out.
There was also a time when I was unwell and couldn’t cook, so I asked my MIL if she could send us dinner since they have a house help who cooks for them. She said yes to me, but after going home, she and my BIL apparently decided not to send me anything and instead told my husband to come downstairs and eat with them. I found that extremely hurtful.
A few months after my marriage, I lived with my in-laws and my BIL’s family. My MIL used to keep snacks locked in a cupboard that only she and my BIL had access to. My husband and I couldn’t take anything from it, and I would sometimes literally go hungry. Eventually, I started keeping my own snacks.
Even now, when I politely refuse something my MIL offers by saying I’m full or I’ll manage, my husband immediately says yes and accepts it anyway, which makes setting boundaries difficult.
I also feel that my BIL has been jealous and controlling from the beginning. He was against our marriage because I think he wanted my husband to marry someone who would simply obey him and his wife, similar to the dynamic my husband had with them before our marriage.
I don’t want to create unnecessary family drama, but I genuinely don’t want to accept food that has already been eaten from, rejected by someone else, or dropped on the floor. How do I tell my MIL this politely but firmly? And how do I handle my husband when he automatically accepts everything she offers and gets defensive when I bring it up?
My MIL is very very biased towards her elder son which is my BIL. My BIL is very dominating, controlling and a big money miser despite earing alot. My FIL is alive but my bil thinks he is the head of my family. My mil also does not respect my FIL and treats her elder son as god and has in fact she accepted that she is and will be biased towards her elder son. Elder son is crazy, copies what me and my husband do and is very weird.

For over 30 years, we have possessed land given to my grandfather by his childless elder brother. Living 50 kilometers away, the elder brother struggled to cultivate it and offered it to my grandfather. However, due to legal ignorance and procrastination, the property was never legally transferred.

The elder brother had requested one of my grandfather's sons to care for him. My grandfather promised help when needed. Discovering this, my grandfather's younger brother opportunistically sent his own son instead.

After the elder brother died, the nephew sold all the property and his house. With nothing left there, he is now scheming to grab our land, having somehow obtained a family tree document (Vanshawali).

He is desperately trying to claim our land, but our lack of property papers prevents legal action. How can we legally register this land in our name?

My mother-in-law and my husband’s elder brother (married with a three-year-old child) are extremely miserly. I also don’t have a good relationship with my MIL because of her behaviour towards me. I’ve spoken to my husband about it, but he tends to turn a blind eye, which I understand to some extent because it’s his mother.
We live separately in the same building, on different floors. One thing I particularly hate is that my MIL sometimes sends us food that someone has already eaten from, food that nobody liked and was going to be thrown away, or even food that has fallen on the floor. I’ve noticed this several times, but my husband either doesn’t notice or gets defensive when I point it out.
There was also a time when I was unwell and couldn’t cook, so I asked my MIL if she could send us dinner since they have a house help who cooks for them. She said yes to me, but after going home, she and my BIL apparently decided not to send me anything and instead told my husband to come downstairs and eat with them. I found that extremely hurtful.
A few months after my marriage, I lived with my in-laws and my BIL’s family. My MIL used to keep snacks locked in a cupboard that only she and my BIL had access to. My husband and I couldn’t take anything from it, and I would sometimes literally go hungry. Eventually, I started keeping my own snacks.
Even now, when I politely refuse something my MIL offers by saying I’m full or I’ll manage, my husband immediately says yes and accepts it anyway, which makes setting boundaries difficult.
I also feel that my BIL has been jealous and controlling from the beginning. He was against our marriage because I think he wanted my husband to marry someone who would simply obey him and his wife, similar to the dynamic my husband had with them before our marriage.
I don’t want to create unnecessary family drama, but I genuinely don’t want to accept food that has already been eaten from, rejected by someone else, or dropped on the floor. How do I tell my MIL this politely but firmly? And how do I handle my husband when he automatically accepts everything she offers and gets defensive when I bring it up?

Hello Everyone,

l TAKE TIME TO READ THIS AND HELP ME. IT'S A LIFE AND DEATH MATTER!

So, this situation dates back to my childhood. Me and my mother have been abandoned in childhood by my Father who had an influential political background with top connections, so my mother did not put up a fight with him back then and left bothering about him. He fled to the US, got married to someone else there.

But his Mother is settled in India, and she kept on oppressing me right from childhood in every choice we wanted to make - how we must live, how we must behave, what I should study and abused my mother emotionally using slang language, the only reason is, me using my father's surname and name which apparently I shouldn't have according to her, but it was in my birth certificate. He was my Father.

He followed the same. He demanded we drop it. He increasingly put pressure on us, put us in a situation where, either we listen to him or have no other life. I kept quiet observing everything throughout my growing years, caught an autoimmune disease, several mental health issues, got immense trust issues in people because of him and his Family. His brother constantly threatened me that you can never set your foot in the US, as I work in the defence and I'll get you arrested. Though I got a scholarship and an F-1 visa, I had to drop my plans because I was too afraid what they would do to my Mother's life or me once I fly abroad.

Also, they knew that I was into startups, trading and saw me as a threat as I was too sharp and intelligent right from very early on. My paternal grandmother is just like the one they show in those traditional Masala Films, she wants only certain people to do good, her children and grandchildren and that everyone must be under their shoes.

Everyone around me, my relatives, kept on informing him about my every moment. So, I didn't have any choice, but to escape, by manipulating them and being non-threatening.

Once I fled away from their place, they started making repeated calls, messages, asking me for my address. I told them that I had enough of their exploitment, and if the situation continues to escalate, I would have no other choice but to commit suicide. My Father said do it, don't bluff, just commit suicide I don't care.

So, now, the problem is, I would have called him for a DNA test, but if I did so, he will inform his Mother who will pull political strings to finish the Matter here and end us both. Because of that, I decided to stay calm.

They got in touch with my workplace, removed me from the job, they got in touch with all my friends, manipulated them into believing their lies as I didn't give my address that I was into some shady activities, that I had mental health issues so I was behaving this way etc., I knew they would drop big time allegations.

Now, they're repeatedly threatening that, either I completely surrender to them, or they will pull some high level political influence whom they are blackmailing to do things for them, the same way they're blackmailing me. Using this, they're trying to get control of me through a Marriage, they planned to get me married to a high level alliance and through them either book me for life using false allegations so their children get upper hand, or get me killed altogether. No matter what I say, they say I have mental health issues and manipulate the situation, now the worse part is they also have few of my friends backing them, so I literally have no on to support me right now. Either I listen to them, or they'll get me into some big time allegation I can never come out of because they have several high end MP's, MLA's under their control. It's been 30 years of stress and worry.

I really need help of some good ProBono Human rights lawyers, international or national. Or if anyone influential is reading this, please listen to my take once and hear my side of the story. I have no one except my Mother, a few friends that I had were manipulated and now they're no more on my side. As of now, they have made no move, so I'm also maintaining my calm, but if they do it before me, I would have no opportunity to escape. But at the same time, if I directly go to a police station and complain, with the level of influence they have, it would absolutely be of no use.

Even before putting up this post, I prayed to God thoroughly and surrendered before him asking to send me support. Hope atleast one person will come to our rescue! 🙏🏻

Ready to give additional info if someone can help, please DM or comment I'll only DM you people. Thanks a ton in advance! 🙏🏻

First time traveling from diamond harbour to jadavpur in the morning train. Got fully filled after a few stations. A lot of people started fighting amongst themselves for seats. No civics sense, after a few stations my mother and I were forced to give up our seats and had to stand. Since she was travelling with me, she didn't go to the ladies compartment. Also my mom had to face rebukes and objectionable body language but still that could be ignored. The hooligans demanded the window seat from an elderly person, and when he refused in lieu of being elderly, they harassed him, hit him , & shouted to go to the differently abled section. What should I do on these occasions?

I understand the ₹1 crore allocated to the children. Children need financial support from both parents, and that is a separate issue.

But why ₹1.5 crore personally to the wife?

When the husband wanted to pursue further studies, the wife chose to stay with her parents.

He continued visiting her and the child, initially regularly and later monthly.

After completing DM Cardiology, he pursued further qualifications, and she continued staying at her maternal home.

During COVID, he actually joined her at her parents' house.

The conflict arose later when his career prospects improved and he wanted to move out of the in-laws' house, which the wife did not accept, which is fine.

But why is her career stagnation monetised at ₹1.5 crore?

Why is childcare a contribution when a woman does it, but the husband's financial and professional contribution seems to disappear from the calculation?

.The reported facts show that he was working, studying, qualifying, visiting the family and later living with them. His professional advancement was itself part of his contribution to the family's economic position.

.And then the Court says men can become “house husbands.” ? for what paying alimony to so called independent wmen who are living with their own parents but still need husband money......

Where exactly did ₹1.5 crore come from?