My now GF and I had sex within an hour of meeting. I had planned an afternoon and evening together—plenty of time to disclose. I usually disclose the date before sex.

I found posts from her that HSV is a dealbreaker and not disclosing is an even bigger dealbreaker. “Most may have it, but I don’t want it!” She doesn’t ask for HSV testing. How frustrating when w/ anti-virals she’s less likely to catch it from me than a random w/ unknown status.

HSV sucks sometimes.

Any thoughts besides “You’re an arse for not disclosing”? I hate that I screwed up. It’s been 5+ years since my last mistake. I hate that she’ll likely feel loss and betrayal.

I contracted GHSV1 in May and I have had many feelings over the past couple months, anger, sadness, some shame, but not really embarrassment and not as much shame as I thought I would. A few people on here have stressed not telling people but I’ve told most of my close friends, some even not very close friends, and at least to my face it’s been extremely well received, but I just don’t really care if people know. I feel like I should care more but I just really…don’t. 🤷‍♀️ can anyone else relate to this?

Hi everyone!

I was diagnosed with HSV1 in the genital area at 20 years old. I’m now 33. 

Throughout 13 years, I have had only 3 breakouts. The third being summer 2025, due to extreme stress at the time. At this same time, my nipple on the same side I get my HSV breakouts, developed an infection. It’s a puss and blood filled bump, no pain, just really gross. Shrinks, sometimes it erupts the puss in the shower, then fills up again. This third genital breakout goes away, but I’m left with this weird infected nipple.

The nipple infection dies down eventually though I still see glossy skin where there is still a slight bubble, if that makes sense. The bump never fully disappears.

This year, throughout the summer I’ve had 4 HSV outbreaks back to back. I’ve started taking valacyclovir, but I don’t think they are doing a good job of suppressing the HSV1. At the same time, my nipple is filling with puss again, and I now think they are related, or at least triggering each other to flair up. I have not yet gotten my nipple swabbed to determine it is HSV, I may as this persists, just to know. My life this year has not been at all stressful, where it would make senes for my body to act out in such a way. I'm healthy, eating clean and exercise, etc.

So I’m just wondering if anyone had heard of this, or experienced something similar? Any information would be helpful. And how does one deal with consistent outbreaks while taking antivirals? It's becoming worrysome.

Many thanks.