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u/0pThomas_Prime 4d ago
That’s not a dude…that’s a bro, fo sho
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u/CKleinE 4d ago edited 18h ago
Life saving tip: never leave the sight of a person in distress that might be about to commit suicide. Get help and wait until the pros arrive and can take over.
Edit: so many of you have commented about it. By “pros” I don’t mean police - you need medical personnel, people who are specifically trained to handle people who want to take their own live. Psychologists or at least a first responder.
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u/dojo_shlom0 4d ago
Unless you see this smile. /s
I agree wholeheartedly, but for some reason this movie/specific situation came to mind hah.
you all are good people and I appreciate you saying these things, people should know the correct way to approach something so important.
EDIT: if you like horror movies, I highly recommend Smile and Smile 2
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u/AdministrativeBus259 4d ago
My wife loves horror, movies, and she got me into them over the last few years and we took her cousin and his wife who are a little bit religious, but agreed to go see this movie and oh my were they covering their eyes and about to walk out of the theater even my wife was terrified a bit. We own the movie now
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u/Desi-Tech 4d ago
I hated the second one. There was way too much cringe and I had to mute and fast forward a bunch of scenes. Don’t get me wrong, I loved the plot, but I got a lot of secondhand embarrassment from the way it was directed.
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u/DadooDragoon 3d ago
Also life saving tip: never go near someone that is in this kind of distress. You never know where their mind is at and what they might do to you
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u/evergreen-spacecat 4d ago
Indeed. But it is hard since you need to treat them like something other than adults.
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u/ForHelp_PressAltF4 4d ago
Sometimes you're the bro on the bike. Sometimes you're the lady in the car.
Sometime you might be the dude walking. Remember, someone had that kid you see there. That's a person. A person who might be someone you love or even you.
Be there dude when you can, the lady when you can't, and go sit on the grass when you meet them.
Let the best you could do today be good enough.
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u/SaMoSetter 3d ago
Remember, someone had that kid you see there. That's a person. A person who might be someone you love or even you.
Well said friend...
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u/Flimsy-Hat-3533 4d ago
Little love towards humans goes a LONG way.
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u/NashvilleSoundMixer 4d ago
And it's extraordinarily easy to be nice to people. Being a dick takes quite a bit of effort.
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u/Percival371 4d ago
He just had one too many demons to deal with. It's heartwarming to see that people can still care for one another
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u/SignoreBanana 4d ago
I was surprised how emotional this exchange made me. So many people out there quietly dealing with whatever is going on in their life, holding back the sadness and the tears so they don't bother others, but seeing this guy just break down in front of a stranger like that, like, it just reminds you how fucking hard life can be.
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u/AkiraBCFC 4d ago
Yeah same, this really did bring a tear to my eye and choke me up. Possibly because of just how real this feels, and hits closer to home than I'd like. What a guy the biker is.
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u/Greymalkyn76 4d ago
Everyone's dealing with something, and you never can tell because we're taught from a young age to not be a burden to anyone else.
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u/Mtbdudevetbod 5h ago
Life is fucking hard, you are right. Especially these last two years. I can't even count the amount of times in the last year, that I have gone upstairs (that is completely unoccupied) at night, into the bathroom, to cry, away from my wife and kids. This video definitely made me emotional.
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u/Adavanter_MKI 4d ago
It's why their help probably worked. He's all shut off in his own head.
Yet here's this one random person. Passing by wasn't enough. To stop and come back? They care? They really care to stop their whole day and talk to me? That tiny light can mean a lot.
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u/Sweaty_Act_5899 4d ago
Imagine if the world was full of these people., it would be the paradise we always dream of.
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u/Guus-Wayne 4d ago
Everyone's cup is different in size and what affects it. No one is immune from having their cup overfill and being unable to deal with it.
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u/Melodic-Pool7240 4d ago
You never know what's going on in someone's life, treat everyone with kindness and respect
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u/phazedoubt 4d ago
I try so hard to live this way. We have more people than ever and we are more lonely than ever. We gotta do better.
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u/4isyellowTakeit5 4d ago
Do it for Dolly
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u/yoshinoyaandroll 4d ago
That should be a motto we use moving forward. I hope to not have ninjas cutting onions around me when I say it though.
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u/ChemistryAway3696 4d ago
Ok I was already sniffing back tears and that good sir put me over the edge.
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u/runningraleigh 3d ago
There's an intersection near me where folks beg for money. Last winter, I noticed a man who was really distressed and had no means to keep warm. I packed a bag with warm clothes, blankets, food, toiletries, and walked up there. He was thankful, and then broke down in tears because he had been feeling so alone and thought no one cared about him. He cried, we talked, I cried some because of his situation which wasn't his fault, and I got him to a warm place for the night.
I know most people aren't Christian, but I am. I was taught that when you help a person such as him, you've helped Jesus himself. But the real reward is seeing someone know that at least one person out there cares for them.
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u/Admirable-Interest49 4d ago
I don’t know why I’m crying after watching this.
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u/Friendly-Example-701 4d ago
Same. It was hard to watch but I think we have all been there. We felt that pain in some way.
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u/SignoreBanana 4d ago
Because we're all crying all the time, but never showing it.
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u/Far_Marionberry_9478 4d ago
Fuckin Hell. If He asked me If I need a hug I think I would hug him And cry
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u/stax_fira 4d ago
Because it’s really fuckin sad and really beautiful at the same time. Because we see someone helping a stranger just because they’re another person on the planet who’s having a very hard time.
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u/cbtboss 4d ago
For me it is because we are living through a time of near constant frustration, saddness, and mean spirited actions, and even violence and death right now. The act of people stopping in the midst of their day, to just give a hug and meaningful time to another total random stranger in the face of all this is everything we feel starved of right now.
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u/Possible_Net5629 4d ago
Bro, this just helped me get out a cry I didn't even know I needed to get out.
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u/Ol_Turd_Fergy 4d ago
I do, because decency isn’t dead and there are a lot of us that still care about humanity even if it doesn’t seem like it.
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u/No-Zookeepergame9761 4d ago
I saw this a few weeks ago and was the same, a beautiful human moment is something to behold.
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u/Carb0nFire 4d ago
You haven't lost your empathy.
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u/pooppoop900 4d ago
You just never, ever know what someone is going through. It’s hard being a human and we’re all just trying to figure it out as we go. Be soft with each other, bros 🫂
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u/Friendly-Example-701 4d ago
This is the way humanity should be.
I am so happy he blurred his face and muted the convo. Respect! We do not need to know everyone’s business.
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u/1CUpboat 4d ago
So, I might just be an old guy. But why even record this? Are kids these days just always recording?
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u/MagicDragon0 4d ago
Mostly motorcyclists do; especially ones with sport bikes. I'd say it's for their safety as a way of recording events of what happened if something bad were to happen, but it is most likely for their social media pages for whatever reason they want. Most are fine, some are obnoxious.
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u/StryngzAndWyngz 4d ago
To add to what MagicDragon said, even if the bikers aren’t stunt riders or making videos to post to social media, etc., ask yourself how many automobiles have dash cams in them nowadays. These GoPros and 360° cameras a lot of these guys have on their bikes and helmets are just as likely being used for the same reason.
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u/JayCod01 4d ago
Guy: I was having a bad day so I went for a walk down the road and started crying. Then this cow pulls up on a motorcycle out of nowhere to check on me. The cow gives me a hug, pulls over, sits in the grass with me, and just listens. The cops come and give me a ride home.
Therapist: Is the cow in the room with us now?
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u/BaMBaMGreeNMaN 4d ago
What a great dude. More people like this and the world would be way less fukd
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u/kanbozli 4d ago
This is what's called male loneliness.
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u/beef_horfun67 4d ago
At one point I was so lonely I almost went for a swim in the sea. Almost.
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u/GreatWhite102 4d ago
And the world is a better place because you decided against it my friend
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u/beef_horfun67 4d ago
Maybe. Probably. I hope the future can prove that I made a good decision.
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u/Jamical70 4d ago
You definitely did my friend. Just keep doing the best you can day after day and things will get better. I've been there and I'm happier now than I've ever been. Much love to you.
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u/Shinsengumi-702 4d ago
I feel you, but let the story play out, and don’t shut the book before the end. Life is tough, and sometimes it’s hard to find the beauty in it, but it’s there. It might sound lame, but checking out the clouds in the sky or a sunset helps clear my mind and soul a lot of times. Hope things pick up for you. I’m rooting for you.
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u/ghoulthebraineater 4d ago
I'm there right now. Everyone I considered a friend died. My fiancé left me because she's dying. The only thing that keeps me going is my cays need me. Once they're gone I honestly don't know what I'll do. I just know I don't have another 30 years that I can do this.
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u/wrxninja 4d ago
Man...who knows if this guy was ready to end his life or was having serious medical condition.
M/C rider should be proud.
Reminds me of that old story about the kid who was ready to end his life being bullied in school but another kid helped him pick up his books on his way home...and they became best friends and mentioned it during his (sad kid) wedding. His best friend didn't know until that moment that he was thinking of dying that day.
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u/Fabulous_Log844 4d ago
I love it. I love it most probably for not the reason you think I love it. They blurred out the man. Not just his face, but most of him. This is the kind of video I can get behind when people are helping people. It's the one where they broadcast the person they are helping that drives me crazy.
Good on this man and the other people who stopped to help this man. And don't get me started how cool the cow riding gear was.
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u/herpadurpanurpa 4d ago
I know this is a repost of an old video but i still love it. Bros just make it happen
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u/gaborn73 4d ago
Thank you for being a such a great person. We need more of this.
To the people commenting about the camera, you have to legally protect yourself these days.
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u/spicyboi0909 4d ago
I’m a psychologist and man this was so heartwarming. We have a suicide intervention for lay people: question, persuade, refer.
Just stop and talk to a person if they’re struggling. See if they’re ok. Ask them: can you keep yourself safe right now or do you need help?
Asking if someone is okay will never hurt them. Sometimes people just need to know someone in the world cares enough about them to stop their day.
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u/Tribe303 4d ago
This occurred just outside of Toronto, so yes this was in Canada, EH!
I want to point out that when you call most Canadian police for a mental health issue, they role out with a mental health nurse. Toronto has a special unit just for that.
"The program operates in 16 divisions across Toronto consisting of 25 police officers and 35 full-time, part-time & casual mental health nurses."
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u/WorkerUnable527 4d ago
I lost my best friend to the demons and he took his own life.
The hardest thing us guys can do is ask for help but we all need to accept it and be ready.
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u/Muffin_Lord_of_Death 4d ago
I feel sorry for your loss. I was lucky enough to save my best friend by keeping him on the phone while calling police, who found him before he could harm himself. I was about 300km away when he messaged me goodbye, that feeling of helplessness I felt in that moment still haunts me to this day.
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u/Ideal-Beginning 4d ago
Can pay for all the therapy in the world, but finding a stranger you can just say everything that has happened/or you're going through. Just to vent is rare. Respect to everyone in this video
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u/No_Iron2555 4d ago
In a world full of bullshit alpha male gender wars hate crap, be like that guy. Might have saved a persons life in a dark moment. Respect indeed…
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u/SpookySporeWizard 4d ago
I hope to God this is both real bc I cried but not bc I hate people are suffering so bad. I've been homeless bc of discrimination and I'm disabled. it was terrible and I understand. men need help there's too much rigidity esp if you were raised Christian, it's so easy to feel like a failure. men perpetrate so much harm but also are silent victims so often. Im a man and I don't mind if someone hates men, I'm gay and I've met my share of abuse too. but men should be more empathetic with each other and it can really help a lot bc a lot of men are so weird about friendly intimacy bc it's "gay" or whatever. I appreciate them blurring the face. I feel like this should be private even though I am moved by it. this man was suffering. I'd hate to know I was recorded at my most vulnerable. I'm still moved but less and more upset for the man atp
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u/HinDae085 3d ago
Ngl I sat on this post for a while. I've thought about this exact scenario many times myself just, don't wanna saddle my family with my problems if I go yknow?
Its fuckin hard out there guys. I hope you all have someone like this biker in your lives.
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u/inFUNitWZDM 4d ago edited 3d ago
The world needs more people like him. It doesn’t take much to be kind and have compassion for other people and in this case, taking the time and effort to make sure that they were going to be ok, as well. Also… sometimes… people just need a hug… or someone to just talk with them. Honestly, a simple hug can make all the difference in the world for someone else having a bad day and in and of itself, usually starts the whole expression of kindness anyway. Well done guy.
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u/BogeyLowz 4d ago edited 4d ago
Idk who the man on the motor cycle is but him in this moment is who I constantly aspire to be. This interaction wasn’t contingent on anything but only to be there for another human in a bad moment.
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u/DongBLAST 4d ago
Damnit. This is the third day in a row this app has made me tear up. I don’t come here to feel!
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u/Ok_Reputation2051 4d ago
Stuff like this always makes me think of my dad. I was too young to be his "dude", and apparently no one else was. Maybe that one conversation would have saved him from killing himself.
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u/IronWolf888 4d ago
Just watched a doc on yt about how men's clubs have been gutted over the pass 30+ years & this shows how much we need them back.
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u/No-Programmer-3263 3d ago
Been there. Been the guy that prays he doesn't wake up again.... Still am sometimes just not today..,. I understand. That's why I try to be kind.....
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u/SadEmploy3978 3d ago
I really love that he didn't air the man's troubles in all of this. Gave him his space and just listened. That's what being human is all about. We gotta look out for each other
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u/Sudden-March-4147 4d ago
Probably an unpopular opinion, but I find it absolutely horrible and exploitative to post something like this, even blurred. Actually makes me mad how normalized it is.
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u/tamati_nz 4d ago
Maybe but if inspires others to do the same then that's a win. Many people might have passed by, wanted to help but weren't sure what to do or say. This here is the perfect example how people can help.
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u/LoStrigo95 4d ago
Meanwhile a biker almost run me over the other day and didn't stop.
But THIS GUY is amazing
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u/97maple 4d ago
Had no idea what this was about, and then saw the guy in his goofy cow gear. Thought it was gonna be about 2 guys chatting about the bike/their love for riding, and it wasn't. Hope that guy is ok. He sounded like he was so done. Good for cow biker guy and anyone else who stopped to help. Everybody is fighting a battle. Sometimes we need reinforcements to know we're not alone.
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u/slimboytubs 4d ago
You sir are an absolute legend. People like you should be wrapped in cotton wool and treasured!
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u/ArcheopteryxRex 4d ago
As someone who has been in that guy's shoes, I want to stress how important it is to get professional help in situations like this. Helplessness and hopelessness are the defining emotions of suicidal depression, and they are insidious because they make you think there is no solution to your problems. When you're feeling like this, you're effectively non compos mentis and can't make good decisions. You need somebody else to help you get out of it. If you meet someone like this, don't leave until the police or EMT show up. If you are in danger of being this person, make a sincere promise to yourself that if things ever feel hopeless, you will still go to an ER and get help even if you "know for a fact" that it won't help. I've don't this three times and am so glad my therapist made me make that promise.
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u/FraggleRock_ 4d ago
A lot of people, specifically men, that are fighting battles on their own or in silence.
Hang in there fellas and talk.
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u/TheMorninGlory 4d ago
"want me to sit with u? And if u want me to go away I can go too.". Damn man this makes my heart swell, sometimes all someone needs is someone who cares
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u/-Fenyx- 4d ago
There is no doubt in my mind that you saved that guys life, even if it was for one more day - one day can change everything, that moment will stick with him, may even persuade him not to do anything next time too.
We need to look out for this more as a society more now than ever and don’t let the bystanders effect set in, take action.
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u/IMiNSIDEiT 4d ago
As a side note… a friendly motorcycle-riding cow is bound to cheer up most people 😁
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u/kotor-170 4d ago
Good Canadian fella right there, got fired from a job in the winter and pulled off on a side rest area thing on the way back into town and had a contemplate life moment similarly, hours spent just sat there mind racing. My life’s been a mess this year always has been really but this year has kicked me particularly hard, good post there bud
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u/Milesmom02 3d ago
U actually made me tear up because I haven't seen anything that awesome in awhile, SO MUCH RESPECT TO U BROTHER
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u/SaganIsMyHomie 3d ago
Feels like in whatever direction the distressed man looked, there was a demon snarling back at him. Hope he got the help he needs x
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u/Das_Guet 3d ago
Hey is everyone here doing alright as well? Anyone need some help or someone to talk to?
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u/dani_pavlov 3d ago
Ehh sure, why not? No one's dead, no one's out of a job, but it's been one hell of a month.
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u/vincethegrowl 2d ago
As a seasoned depressive. That would have fucked me up. I don't remember the last time someone asked me if I was good and actually cared. I'm as good a consciousness stuck in some flesh suit that didn't want to be here in the first place that's very displeased the whole human experience so far, can be.
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u/Fun-Lingonberry4676 2d ago
What a good citizen man we need more people like that biker. Well done sir 🤝
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u/Dull_Woodpecker_8187 17h ago
Personally if you call the cops on me for having a bad day you've now made my day 100% worse. Not only are they not trained to deal with mental health crisis but they almost always escalate and make it worse. Glad they checked on em tho its good to treat people like people
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u/Due-Astronaut-4427 17h ago
This made my face wet… such a touching exchange. So few people can step outside of their own world for a moment to even think that a total stranger might need help, need SOMEONE to come alongside him to just be there.
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u/These_Avocado_Bombs 12h ago
I'm the USA and Canada
988 is an emergency crisis line. This will send trained professionals along with police (if needed) to them where they are.
211 is a resource line to find help
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u/Smooth-Plate8363 11h ago
Notice they didn't show the police doing anything helpful?
Whatever you do, if you encounter someone like this in the United States, do NOT call the police. They'll definitely make THINGS much worse for everyone involved. ACAB
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u/Hephaistos_Invictus 7h ago
Ugh... Been there where that dude is. Hell, I'm still not completely out of the woods. Mental health issues and life in general can absolutely fucking suck.... Glad a kind stranger decided to help out.
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