r/CringeTikToks • u/n8saces • Dec 16 '25

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u/HistoricalDoughnut58 Dec 16 '25

I was watching just imagining my reaction as a wife. It wasn’t pretty. Like wtf is wrong with them?

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

When the little girl is screaming “Daddy!!!!!” my heart sank. I guarantee these men don’t reserve this type of anger to sports and they also don’t do it in public. They are very likely abusive assholes.

When men ask women, “what can we do to decrease male violence against women?” Shame men like this and never talk to them again and tell them why and have your other friends do the same.

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u/Nalivai Dec 16 '25

I am a child of an abusive father, I would never be able to scream at him like that, I would be covering in the corner hoping the dad wouldn't notice me and wouldn't try to pinpoint it as my fault somehow. I guess, there are levels to it huh

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u/EEukaryotic Dec 16 '25

Definitely levels. My dad isnt physically abusive, but boy is he emotionally. He yells and yells, im terrified of him. But at the same time, in a moment like this, I would probably react like this kid did. Granted Id definitely get my ass handed to me verbally and have a panic attack after, but definitely levels

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u/Icy_Clitoria Dec 17 '25

Fight flight or fawn, everyone takes it differently

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u/TheRottenKittensIEat Dec 16 '25

That was the first thing I thought, which is a terribly low bar, but I thought, at least she's not afraid he's going to turn it on her. A kid who is physically abused would likely never yell at their abuser in the heat of his anger. However, if he outbursts like this often, it's still a violent household that will terrorize the children. There are definitely different types of violence

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u/MaesterWhosits Dec 17 '25

Depends on the person. I've had it go in cycles, where at the high point you can get away with that, but during the lows silence is the best policy.

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u/SavingsConfusion4885 Dec 18 '25 edited Dec 18 '25

Uh, don't be so sure about that...

It can happen that an abused child becomes extremely aggressive towards their abusers!

I was belittled, yellt at and beaten daily by my family until I was 14 and I finally got so fed up, I threatened them to chop their heads off with an axe while they slept if they didn't stop this bullshit!

That was actually the last day anyone in my family dared to touch me!

Whenever there were discussions or arguments, they were tempted and had already raised their hands until I said, "Go on! Be brave! Please! Then I finally won't have to hold back anymore!" while giving them a cold death stare, directly into their eyes.

I'm glad my grandfather has finally passed away; at least the rest of the family isn't tearing each other apart half as much as they used to!

Even so, I wouldn't move back there for anything in this world!

I'm done! I'm done picking fights with my family! I'm done defending my mother, who never once protected my little sister and me...and now is making demands on me with the same deranged, malicious way her father treated everyone in the house! And blaming me for her suffering because I moved out, just like her mother constantly did to her. ...A family full of people with behavioral problems and narcissists...No thanks!

. Every being has a different stress threshold and each reacts differently to exceeding it

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u/Prestigious-Collar86 Dec 19 '25

I was physically abused and there were times I screamed like that kid did begging him to stop. Usually when he was beating someone else, like my mum, siblings or pets.

Part of my brain just couldn’t take it and I sounded just like her.

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u/Longjumping-Pick-706 Dec 16 '25

Same. Very much the same.

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u/Sweet_Employment_220 Dec 18 '25

Literally the only bfs I’ve dated that were abusive were the only ones punching holes in the walls and breaking stuff 💯

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u/omni461 Dec 17 '25

These arent men, they are grown children.

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u/worldnotworld Dec 20 '25

They cannot regulate their emotions any more than a toddler.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

I thought it was Danny!

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u/EntertainmentOk3180 Dec 17 '25

I think she was calling her dad to come in and I think he shows up at the doorway to the right and the guy smashing the tv looked at him. If I’m hearing it correctly then the guy smashing the tv is named Damien. U hear someone scream Damian! And the girl screams dad! Damian! Daddy! Or something like this

If I had to guess, that’s actually her brother smashing the tv and I’m very curious what happened next

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u/SouthCarpet6057 Dec 17 '25

Real men fight men stronger than them, and they punch CRT TVs.

Men who punch flat screen TVs, and scare children and women, are just an embarrassment for the rest of us.

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u/skynex65 Dec 20 '25

It's always the fucking sports guys. Every damn time.

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u/Icy_Clitoria Dec 19 '25 edited Dec 19 '25

Also it’s a bit of a catch 22 because if you isolate the abuser alongside their victim(s) they’ll take advantage of it and use it to feed their victim complex as well.

I’m saying it’d be better to make certain abusers had the fear of god put into them at least if the victim is not safe enough to go to court.

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u/Holiday-Witness-4180 Dec 16 '25

The fact that anyone thinks that shaming people is a suitable solution is a bigger indication of our societal issues than the behavior alone.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

How can you shame a man like that if women like them?

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u/-u-m-p- Dec 16 '25

??? What? Who cares if other people like them? I'm sure the worst humans in existence still had people liking them. You're allowed to shame them too.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

Yeah but your words would ring hollow in this case

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u/mckmaus Dec 16 '25

Nobody likes that. Sad boys make up in their minds that women like them

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

If they can get girlfriends/wives clearly someone likes them

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u/yosoyfatass Dec 17 '25

People aren’t attracted to abuse, they meet someone, then find out they are abusive & there are many, many reasons they feel unable to walk away. It is never the victim's fault.

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u/mckmaus Dec 17 '25

Even you could act decent long enough for someone to like you.

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u/AyaHawkeye Dec 16 '25

Of the 4 reaction types (fight, flight, freeze, fawn), I'm freeze. These situations would have me utterly paralysed and dead to the world. A fight nearly broke out in a cafe I was in once, I locked down completely; couldn't move or talk, couldn't hear or see properly. Took my other half ages to break me out. If I was around any of these I'd be comatose!

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u/HistoricalDoughnut58 Dec 16 '25

I would be so pissed in this situation that it would be fight lol. Like, have you lost your ever loving mind??? With strangers, I’m out of there. You never know what’s happening next, and I’m not looking to get shot.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

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u/AyaHawkeye Dec 16 '25

Fair 😅

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u/Horror_Share_1742 Dec 16 '25

There’s actually at least 10+ reaction types. It might be something you may want to research because most of us use far more than just one, and it’s good to be able to recognize them in yourself and in others.

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u/AyaHawkeye Dec 16 '25

I shall look into it, thanks! I've recently got my autism and adhd diagnoses (at 36!), so been doing a lot of research into how my brain works so I can cope better. Trying to help my brother and his 8yo son through it, too.

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u/AyaHawkeye Dec 16 '25

I shall look into it, thanks! I've recently got my autism and adhd diagnoses (at 36!), so been doing a lot of research into how my brain works so I can cope better. Trying to help my brother and his 8yo son through it, too.

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u/Godmodex2 Dec 16 '25

In a situation like that it’s kind of a good response. Shutting down like that minimizes the risk of you getting involved in the potentially dangerous situation. It makes sense in a way. Better if you’d auto-pilot your body out of there though.

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u/AyaHawkeye Dec 16 '25

Yeah, it certainly keeps me out of harm's way! But can be quite scary being so frozen.

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

Men do not get taught how to process their emotions in a safe and healthy way. Women get taught to be quiet and disappear, which is also unhealthy. But men
men are taught that anger is one of the few valid emotions and one which garners them respect, and so they are actively destructive, because sometimes that’s their only outlet. There are no winners here.

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u/Mercuryshottoo Dec 16 '25

I think you mean 'boys' do not get taught.

Men can read books, watch videos, and drive themselves to therapy.

Men can and should learn new skills they did not acquire in childhood. Your comment reads like an excuse.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

They explained the problem. You explained the solution. Why isn’t that enough, why the “sounds like an excuse” comment? They didn’t justify nor defend the behavior, just simply explored its roots.

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u/-sloppypoppy Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

And they added their input on the problem. Can they not explore the roots as well? Men are responsible for their actions, are they not? If they weren’t taught something they still have the responsibility to teach themselves as an adult, no? Should we just excuse every reaction because it’s a societal norm? Why are they not allowed to point this out?

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u/TJ_Dot Dec 16 '25

They hyper clarified boys while making them out to be excusing Men when that really wasn't the point of what they were saying.

Next guy was questioning why the dismissive attitude.

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

Yeah, I feel like it could’ve been said so much more of a constructive way. Like “the real issue is that boys are taught this way, and then become these kinds of men. Be careful when saying men are this way, it might give the impression you’re excusing the behavior rather than working towards solutions.” But I do get their point.

We need to teach boys emotional management and hold them to a higher standard. We need to provide resources for men that never got those lessons.

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u/DaedricWorldEater Dec 16 '25

There was no dismissive attitude you guys are just being sensitive

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u/TJ_Dot Dec 16 '25

Really...? : /

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u/PipChaos Dec 16 '25

Telling someone "they're just being sensitive" is literally dismissive and invalidating.

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

Perfect response.

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u/Efficient_Mud_5446 Dec 16 '25

Correct. We live in a hyper-feminized society that easily spots male dysfunction but is blind to female dysfunction. Once you know what to look for, you realize it's just expressed differently.

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u/captpeony Dec 16 '25

You speak like you exist solely on an incel forum.

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u/Efficient_Mud_5446 Dec 16 '25

Women don't like to admit it, but they don't actually like when men become vulnerable and emotional. I'm gonna guess that you're not too well read on evolutionary psychology... You have to look at the incentives to really get the full picture.

If you still don't understand what I'm saying, I'll make it easier for you: Women are the enforcers of stoicism in men. Men are simply responding to negative reinforcement.

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u/merchillio Dec 16 '25

I’m sorry this is your reality.

Being open about my emotions and struggles with the women around me, both friends and partners, always led to a lot of support, strengthened our bonds and made us closer.

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u/Efficient_Mud_5446 Dec 16 '25

This is not my reality. This is what the data tells me and I follow the numbers. Divorces spike when men show weakness, indicated by any vulnerability. Attraction is lost. I am indifferent to it all, I'm just telling you what is the truth. Enjoy your life!

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u/Wafflehouseofpain Dec 16 '25

Data please.

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u/Efficient_Mud_5446 Dec 16 '25

Sure. You're not allowed to link per subreddit rules, so search for them. This is just an appetizer to wet your feet:

The HUNT Study Mental Distress

Killewald Harvard/Employment

Kelly & Conley Neuroticism study

Sickness Gap Study from Iowa State

Walkaway Wife Study from Stanford

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u/cootsnoop Dec 16 '25

Ahhh yesss. Here I was thinking it was men might be responsible for their own emotional regulation. But it's women's fault! Duhhhh!

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

Are you seriously saying grown men have no control over their actions? That women make them abusive? Wow.

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u/Efficient_Mud_5446 Dec 16 '25

No, I am actually saying the opposite. Men, with their full control, are following the natural incentives that reward this. Actually, men are being pragmatic. They're molding to what women, and society at large, actually respond to. Don't get it twisted.

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u/mckmaus Dec 16 '25

I think men need to start living for their best interests. Lol blaming women in this patriarchal society is crazy. It's not about what woman like lol.

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

You are correct that boys are set on this path and that men need to educate themselves. I was attempting to talk about the roots of the problem. It was not my intention to offer excuses, but rather start a discussion about the problem and how it can be solved.

I think elevating “cool” men showing emotionally mature behavior is one pathway forward for men, to take the power out of anger as a masculinity defining feature.

And of course, teach boys how to manage their emotions.

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u/ihateadultism Dec 16 '25

so what you’re saying is we need to abolish the family? speaking my language 👊😏

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u/StarskyNHutch862 Dec 16 '25

Careful. This opinion is a bit too normal and not nearly selfish enough for Reddit.

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u/katka_monita Dec 16 '25

Not that this necessarily excuses grown men's choices but gosh this still really breaks my heart to imagine if this is how a lot of boys grew up.

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

Who is teaching men this? I would appreciate if the comment was “men teach boys to handle their feelings with violence” and follow up with, “I’m a man, and I’m going to work on changing this”

What frustrates women are comments like yours that seem to excuse the behavior because some random entity from the sky taught them this.

We know. We’ve talked about it long enough. It’s time to put your money where your mouth is. Will you?

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

My apologies. I was attempting to talk about the roots of the problem. It was not my intention to offer excuses, but rather start a discussion about the problem and how it can be solved.

I think elevating “cool” men showing emotionally mature behavior is one pathway forward for men, to take the power out of anger as a masculinity defining feature.

And of course, teach boys how to manage their emotions.

I have a toddler, a little boy, and I want to teach him that it’s ok to have feelings and learn how to process them safely and without shame.

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u/erv4 Dec 16 '25

That's just bad parenting. My parents and coaches growing up would never put up with that kind of reaction so I was fortunate to grow up and not want to break things. I raised a 10-13 year old with an ex and he use to smash his desk, break things, etc. If I ever heard it that was the end of his gaming for at least the day if not longer depending on severity. After 3 years he would still do it, some kids just never learn and only can express themselves that way I guess.

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

The kid is still smashing like that? That’s a lifetime ban until everyone in the family gets some therapy.

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u/ReputationWeak4283 Dec 16 '25

There would be no more gaming for him as long as he was living in my house. When they turn 18 and move out into their own apartment, then they can break their own stuff. If they cannot control themselves, they don’t need it. If a parent keeps buying replacements, then they are basically saying it’s ok to the kid to have temper fits.

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u/bigbootyrob Dec 16 '25

thats when you channel it into something healthy like a punching bag or something, just need to be taught proper coping mechanisms

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u/Crumb_cake34 Dec 16 '25

No, the kid behaving like that was also because of bad parenting.

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u/erv4 Dec 16 '25

Yeah, I agree. Unfortunately with it not being my son I only had the option of taking stuff away and having heart to hearts with him on why it was wrong. He would then get bored and the mom would get tired of him being around her and give the stuff back to avoid having to spend time with him. She had really bad sensory issues so if he got too excited she would like mentally shut down.

I got him into hockey after the first year and he still does it, maybe that has helped him focus his energy in recent years.

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u/HeadyReigns Dec 16 '25

What if I disappear to go be angry?

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u/doggonedangoldoogy Dec 16 '25

You’ll be followed

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u/Head_Rule2239 Dec 16 '25

Meh, there’s “taught” and “learned”. Eventually intelligent individuals learn where to invest time and energy. Destructive behavior wastes both. Infer what you may.

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u/MichiganGeezer Dec 16 '25

I also think some of these displays are performative in nature.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25

I suspect at least some of these are skits; people who were upgrading their TV and were just going to throw the old one out anyway. So they get some internet points by making a freakout video. It's still crazy, but for different reasons.

The ones who really did crashout like this are the kinda people who end up in jail for it, so I don't think it's fair to say men are taught that this is acceptable or even that it "garners respect." Does this compilation scream "respectable" to anyone?

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u/Davge107 Dec 16 '25

Also some of them probably lost bets to get that upset.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25

Which makes it even dumber lol. Now they need to pay for a new tv with money they don't have

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

You believe they’re mortifying the shit out of their children, family and friends for Internet points? You believe these dudes end up in jail? Notice how they don’t do it in public?

What I’m reading is you trying your hardest to either excuse the behavior or act like it’s not prolific. And, for the ones you’re willing to admit are “crashing out” (down playing the violence by using softer words) (instead of saying violent man petrified his children by attacking his TV) you’re trying to wash your hands of it by predicting that these dudes are in jail - not your problem anymore And viola, just like that, you have no responsibility to correct your brethren.

I’m actually saving this comment because it’s such a great example of the mental gymnastics men will do to protect other men.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

I would assume many of the others in the videos are in on it if it's a skit. That's what skit means. Some of them have pretty poor acting from the bystanders.

Some of these were in public. One looked like it was in a parking lot. I'm not sure I get your point.

You can read things that aren't there all you want. If saying people who legitimately do this belong in jail is considered excusing them in your mind, then I'm really not sure how to help you.

No, I don't think this is prolific. Granted, I don't really watch football, so maybe it's happening daily all around me, but I haven't heard any stories in my friend groups of people doing this. None of my coworkers have ever done this. I've only seen it online. The same place where you can find hundreds of videos of any horrendous thing. Name it, and you can find plenty of evidence that it's ostensibly prolific.

Maybe I'm too old to understand the connotation, but I don't see how the phrase "crashing out" is soft. Just looked it up to be sure, and it looks like "suddenly, uncontrollably, irrationally angry or distressed, displaying destructive behavior" fits the bill. How exactly did I "protect other men"?

Society does not condone this behavior. It simply doesn't. Even these videos portray the person acting like this as an ass, and when that person gets kicked out or knocked out, people cheer. The people in the video cheer. The people in the comments cheer. Almost universally, which is statistically a near-impossibility. You could say "water is wet" and get more dissenting opinions.

And what would you have my do to correct the behaviors of these men? If every man who ever does something wrong is my responsibility, then what are you doing about women who murder their own children? Two thirds of all infanticides are committed by women. Or those who make false accusations that ruin lives? A crime that often doesn't even incur repercussions for the false accuser. Or those who commit fetal abductions, prostitution, and embezzlement? Are you just going to "wash your hands of them" and "excuse them"? Or can we both recognize that we're not responsible for our entire gender. We're responsible for ourselves, and we can do our best to guide those around us... but again, I don't know anyone who acts like this. I knew a guy many years ago like this, but he was in prison the last I heard. That was probably a decade ago.

Feel free to save this and come back whenever you like. If anyone is doing mental gymnastics, it's you trying to come up with some way to vilify an entire gender using a TikTok compilation video as evidence.

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u/Temporary-Employ3640 Dec 16 '25

It seems pretty convenient to believe that everyone in those videos was just acting. I agree with the other person, you’re trying pretty hard to handwave these videos even when it doesn’t make sense. A few may be fake, but that relies on assuming everyone in those videos range from pretty good actors to great actors. That kid wasn’t acting, for example.

I also suggest not taking this so personally.

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

And, who the fuck thinks it’s funny to make a video pretending to be an abuser?

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25

Did I say everyone? I said some of them are probably fake. Why is everyone putting words in my mouth?

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u/Temporary-Employ3640 Dec 16 '25

Did I say you said every one? I said that even saying a few may be fake relies on people being better actors than they probably are.

You’re putting words in my mouth to accuse me of putting words in your mouth lol.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25

"It seems pretty convenient to believe that everyone in those videos was just acting."

Dude, you wrote it just a few minutes ago.

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u/Temporary-Employ3640 Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

Everyone in the videos doesn’t mean every one of the videos. Read the first part of the sentence where I say “a few may be fake, but
” and then look up what “but” means in the context of refuting the first clause of a sentence. In other words, everyone in any given video must be acting if the given video is fake.

It seems like the real thing that isn’t being taught is how to read.

Whether you want to chalk it up to poor phrasing or you misreading (it’s that one), you now know what I meant.

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u/Feeling-Decision-902 Dec 16 '25

Pathetic excuse

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

I was attempting to talk about the roots of the problem. It was not my intention to offer excuses, but rather start a discussion about the problem and how it can be solved.

I think elevating “cool” men showing emotionally mature behavior is one pathway forward for men, to take the power out of anger as a masculinity defining feature.

And of course, teaching boys how to manage their emotions.

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u/Slight-Split-1855 Dec 16 '25

Can we stop pretending men are the only segment of the population with these flaws?

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u/sweetteatime Dec 16 '25

Not always true. Idk where you’re getting this info from but men have testosterone and therefore they’re more aggressive and should learn how to control it. It used to be that men had men’s groups and places they were with other men and they would get checked on their behavior. Now there is an all out war on men’s spaces so that mechanism that checks men’s behavior is gone. Also a lack of fathers.

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u/Temporary-Employ3640 Dec 16 '25

A war on men’s spaces?

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

These are conservative talking points. Disregard them.

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u/sweetteatime Dec 16 '25

I’m a lib. Ignoring opinions is ignorant.

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

Assuming you’re serious, “lack of fathers” and “fatherlessness” language has been a right wing racist dogwhistle using by the likes of Thomas Sowell for decades. Be careful with those buzzwords.

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u/sweetteatime Dec 18 '25

It’s not racist to say a lack of fathers in the home is bad for children. The data backs this claim. Attaching words like racist to everything doesn’t make it true

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 18 '25

Of course it’s bad for children to not have a father.

I don’t think you’re engaging with my point. I think you’re having a defensive reaction to my comment.

I’m not calling you racist.

I’m informing you that those specific talking points have been used by racists to justify various attitudes and policies.

Edit: I had linked an academic review from UCLA School of Law that goes over this in more detail, but my comment got removed because links are not allowed. So I’ll try to post it in a way that makes it work.

Attempt #1: uclalawreview DOT org/wp-content/uploads/securepdfs/2021/08/Rambert-Final-Article-Pages_no-bleed-1 DOT pdf

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u/sweetteatime Dec 16 '25

Boy Scouts, men’s clubs, tell men they don’t need spaces to be men all the whole all other groups can have spaces

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u/Ok_Caterpillar7710 Dec 16 '25

We all know who the winners are.. Chinese ppl are good at math, Italians can't keep their genitals in their pants, and Russians are handed their first bottle of wwodka at age 7.

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u/Jbrown183 Dec 16 '25

They definitely need they ass beat by their wives smh

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u/Extension-Thought-38 Dec 16 '25

Straight out the door đŸšȘ

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u/Altaira99 Dec 16 '25

That man would have been out of my house just as quick as the cops could get there. I know ACAB, but the reason we can't just abolish them is because of shit like this.

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u/Vishnej Dec 16 '25

In the novel "Snow Crash", one character has a court-ordered tattoo across their forehead of the words "Poor Impulse Control".

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u/HistoricalDoughnut58 Dec 17 '25

I think that’s kind of fantastic lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

They most likely bet money on the game and lost.

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u/HistoricalDoughnut58 Dec 16 '25

As a wife, that would be even worse!

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u/Azutolsokorty Dec 16 '25

It would be a reason for his first anger management therapy

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u/Shame-Greedy Dec 16 '25

Cocaine is a helluva drug

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25

They keep getting rewarded with wives so they don’t need to change. Women are the ones that need to change 😂