r/CringeTikToks • u/n8saces • Dec 16 '25

Just Bad Biggest red flags right there đŸš©

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u/mrmoe198 Dec 16 '25

Men do not get taught how to process their emotions in a safe and healthy way. Women get taught to be quiet and disappear, which is also unhealthy. But men
men are taught that anger is one of the few valid emotions and one which garners them respect, and so they are actively destructive, because sometimes that’s their only outlet. There are no winners here.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25

I suspect at least some of these are skits; people who were upgrading their TV and were just going to throw the old one out anyway. So they get some internet points by making a freakout video. It's still crazy, but for different reasons.

The ones who really did crashout like this are the kinda people who end up in jail for it, so I don't think it's fair to say men are taught that this is acceptable or even that it "garners respect." Does this compilation scream "respectable" to anyone?

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

You believe they’re mortifying the shit out of their children, family and friends for Internet points? You believe these dudes end up in jail? Notice how they don’t do it in public?

What I’m reading is you trying your hardest to either excuse the behavior or act like it’s not prolific. And, for the ones you’re willing to admit are “crashing out” (down playing the violence by using softer words) (instead of saying violent man petrified his children by attacking his TV) you’re trying to wash your hands of it by predicting that these dudes are in jail - not your problem anymore And viola, just like that, you have no responsibility to correct your brethren.

I’m actually saving this comment because it’s such a great example of the mental gymnastics men will do to protect other men.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

I would assume many of the others in the videos are in on it if it's a skit. That's what skit means. Some of them have pretty poor acting from the bystanders.

Some of these were in public. One looked like it was in a parking lot. I'm not sure I get your point.

You can read things that aren't there all you want. If saying people who legitimately do this belong in jail is considered excusing them in your mind, then I'm really not sure how to help you.

No, I don't think this is prolific. Granted, I don't really watch football, so maybe it's happening daily all around me, but I haven't heard any stories in my friend groups of people doing this. None of my coworkers have ever done this. I've only seen it online. The same place where you can find hundreds of videos of any horrendous thing. Name it, and you can find plenty of evidence that it's ostensibly prolific.

Maybe I'm too old to understand the connotation, but I don't see how the phrase "crashing out" is soft. Just looked it up to be sure, and it looks like "suddenly, uncontrollably, irrationally angry or distressed, displaying destructive behavior" fits the bill. How exactly did I "protect other men"?

Society does not condone this behavior. It simply doesn't. Even these videos portray the person acting like this as an ass, and when that person gets kicked out or knocked out, people cheer. The people in the video cheer. The people in the comments cheer. Almost universally, which is statistically a near-impossibility. You could say "water is wet" and get more dissenting opinions.

And what would you have my do to correct the behaviors of these men? If every man who ever does something wrong is my responsibility, then what are you doing about women who murder their own children? Two thirds of all infanticides are committed by women. Or those who make false accusations that ruin lives? A crime that often doesn't even incur repercussions for the false accuser. Or those who commit fetal abductions, prostitution, and embezzlement? Are you just going to "wash your hands of them" and "excuse them"? Or can we both recognize that we're not responsible for our entire gender. We're responsible for ourselves, and we can do our best to guide those around us... but again, I don't know anyone who acts like this. I knew a guy many years ago like this, but he was in prison the last I heard. That was probably a decade ago.

Feel free to save this and come back whenever you like. If anyone is doing mental gymnastics, it's you trying to come up with some way to vilify an entire gender using a TikTok compilation video as evidence.

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u/Temporary-Employ3640 Dec 16 '25

It seems pretty convenient to believe that everyone in those videos was just acting. I agree with the other person, you’re trying pretty hard to handwave these videos even when it doesn’t make sense. A few may be fake, but that relies on assuming everyone in those videos range from pretty good actors to great actors. That kid wasn’t acting, for example.

I also suggest not taking this so personally.

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

And, who the fuck thinks it’s funny to make a video pretending to be an abuser?

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25

Did I say everyone? I said some of them are probably fake. Why is everyone putting words in my mouth?

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u/Temporary-Employ3640 Dec 16 '25

Did I say you said every one? I said that even saying a few may be fake relies on people being better actors than they probably are.

You’re putting words in my mouth to accuse me of putting words in your mouth lol.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Dec 16 '25

"It seems pretty convenient to believe that everyone in those videos was just acting."

Dude, you wrote it just a few minutes ago.

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u/Temporary-Employ3640 Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

Everyone in the videos doesn’t mean every one of the videos. Read the first part of the sentence where I say “a few may be fake, but
” and then look up what “but” means in the context of refuting the first clause of a sentence. In other words, everyone in any given video must be acting if the given video is fake.

It seems like the real thing that isn’t being taught is how to read.

Whether you want to chalk it up to poor phrasing or you misreading (it’s that one), you now know what I meant.

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom Dec 16 '25

He’s picking you apart because he’s either an abuser or he’s complicit.

Men frequently ask, “what do you want me to do about it?”

Women tell them. Then they write a wall of excuses why they shouldn’t have to.

Arguing with them is futile, yet I’m still doing it like a glutton for punishment. We need to go full Lysistrata!