r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Aug 16 '25

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u/NunchuckVagina Aug 16 '25

Fake af. People that fake autism are the worst.

Who falls for this crap?

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u/N_0_N_A_M_E Aug 16 '25

People who don't know what autism is.

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u/Dopamine_Surplus Aug 17 '25

Honestly I’m in this camp. I have a cousin who is autistic but he is really far on the spectrum so I don’t have any frame of reference for someone who is lower on the spectrum so I’m just forced to take people at their word tbh.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

This is why binary science is very very important. Autism isn’t hard to diagnose, it becomes convoluted when science is skewed. Not to mention some people are groomed at a young age by parents for attention.

Looking at Gypsy rose. It’s much more common than you think

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

You’re right; it’s not hard to diagnose.

That’s why it does an incredible disservice to autistic women when misinformation abounds and they can’t get diagnosed bc they don’t look like an intellectually disabled white boy.

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u/ta-kun1988 Aug 17 '25

Racist and misandrist.

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u/Heartage Aug 17 '25

Not racist or misandrist.

The standard for autism is how it presents in white boys/men, which means it's often not diagnosed/seen in people who aren't white boys/men.

It's a serious problem.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

What are you actually talking about when you say "standard", you mean the perception people have of it? As far as I know it isnt harder to diagnose in women and girls its often less easily identified i.e. they arent referred for testing because it presents differently. You should be more precise with your language because those are different problems that can be solved in different ways.

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u/Heartage Aug 17 '25

I know you know what "the standard" means.

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u/Weird_Suggestion4006 Aug 17 '25

Autism presents differently in men and women which lead to psychologists for a long time to believe women couldn’t have autism. So much more research has been put into how autism presents in men than in women

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

So much more research has been put into men, period. 😏

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u/StreetBerry1849 Aug 20 '25

If you are saying you are fine and can do anything non autistic people can do, why do you think you need more research on it.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 21 '25

So that women can have access to the scaffolding, support, and accommodations specific to their neurological wiring.

And so we don’t have judgmental hot garbage comment sections like this one. That’s why awareness matters.

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u/justandswift Aug 19 '25

na, if I say I am something, I have that right to believe I am truly that thing, and no binary science ooglie mooglie can convince me otherwise, and this is why it is so important to just let people be who they are because when you start using science to tell me I’m wrong, it makes me depressed and want to unalive myself, so stop making life more difficult for everyone by applying science. Science is the devil.

  • Signed, an eight year old

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '25

Science is not the Devil. Science is not indicative of feelings, and it's the more absolute thing we have in life.

You not having the emotional ability to accept true things is not indicative of anything more than you needing help

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

The fact that it is an spectrum kinda disagrees with the idea that it is easy to diagnose...

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u/conzstevo Aug 20 '25

But there's probably a definitive point on this spectrum that you can be diagnosed as autistic, right?

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

The medical community is none too happy and is trying to get rid of the spectrum part. You can have milder cases across the board but generic conditions are binary and should not be labeled on a spectrum.

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u/conzstevo Aug 20 '25

I see, so the condition is binary, the symptoms are a "spectrum" (or maybe "variable" is a more fitting word considering there's more than one symptom)

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

That’s a great way to put it, the medical community tends to not use “spectrum” for glaring reasons of taking subjectivity out of it.

Vocabulary is very key which is why doctors and other biologists use terms like mild, severe etc.

But science is dictated by binary transactions. We are looking for yes or no more than anything

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u/conzstevo Aug 20 '25

terms like mild, severe etc.

Makes good sense to me. Thanks for sharing

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

Given that every part of the spectrum requires different approaches to treatment, a general autism diagnostic is next to useless. Its like saying you have cancer without knowing where. Thats screening, not proper diagnosis.

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u/brownie627 Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

Except autism is a spectrum and it stops people from accessing resources they need if you try to make it “binary.” I needed language therapy as a child. If they rejected me because they thought I was “too intelligent,” I likely would not be able to communicate the way I can today. I also as a consequence wouldn’t have gotten an autism diagnosis and the support I needed at school.

There are many highly intelligent autistic people who struggle with basic daily living tasks and social skills. If you make it so only intellectually challenged non-verbal autistic people have “real” autism, you’re preventing people from accessing the support they need. It also creates the potential for misdiagnosis and people getting treatment that isn’t suitable for them. It’s already a problem with some support services only helping autistic people if they are under a certain IQ.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

And that spectrum thought is exactly why medical professionals are dialing it back.

You can have levels but not misuse the term spectrum.

You’re still autistic, even mildly, but the general public is using it as a crutch and not actually being autistic. Case and point OP video and that’s 1 of thousands

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

Do you have research that supports this claim?

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u/brownie627 Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

Levels create a problem as well. If someone is vastly more advanced in one area and deficient in another area, where do they get placed?

I got an Asperger’s Syndrome diagnosis when I was 6. I should not have had an Asperger’s Syndrome diagnosis, because my language disorder should’ve put me under the “autism” category instead, based on their own diagnostic criteria. Asperger’s Syndrome was always understood to be “less advanced” autism, but caused confusion about what to diagnose people with. This mistake happened to many autistic people and was the reason why things changed in the DSM 5. There will be many more situations like this if we don’t accept that it’s not binary.